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Still In Love With My Husband

I am still in love with my husband. I have no illusions of us getting back together. He had an affair and left me after 11 years. I didn't expect it and can't get over it or move on and I need to for myself and my girls. What do I do?

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 ---Theresa on 2/14/07
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I'm sure God cries over your broken heart...pray to Him for it in His word. Maybe try to find a Christian woman to lean on and talk to. I'll pray for you.
---Todd1 on 5/21/08

If they believe not they shall be damned, by the sentence of a despised gospel, it is GOOD NEWS, that nothing else but unbelief shall damn men, which is a sin against the remedy. >>Now, I have a problem here. Just believing without the Blood of Christ will not cut it. I say, "will not cut it". You must be born-again by the Blood of Jesus Christ, Lord and Saviour>>>God.
---catherine on 5/20/08

You didn't say how long you have been separated from him.

However, an 11 year relationship just doesn't automatically dissolve into nothing overnight. Of course you still have feelings for him.

Be easier on yourself.
---Jack on 5/20/08

Ryan, who are you? I read your posts and it is as though I am reading my own words. As a matter of fact much of what you say so closely parallels my own statements of the past it is as though you are just copying some of my old posts. This is uncanny.
---Ryan_Z on 8/10/07

Theresa, my heart goes out to you & your girls. I do not know the particulars of the situation, I do find it unfortunate that your children have a daddy who left and a mother who is finding life difficult. My suggestion is to stop focusing on yourself. Everytime you have a thought about your ex turn around and immediately do something loving for your girls. I am sorry you are in so much pain, hopefuly your children can become a greater source of joy.
---Ryan on 8/10/07

God Bless you sir. An inspiring post. Wish you every peace and happiness for the future.
---Ed on 3/18/07

I pastored a church and my wife left me and our 2 girls after 11 years. I forgave her, not sure if I could, it was hard but it is working. It can be done, God gives the grace. It isn't easy at first. We have been remarried now almost a year.
---Ryan on 3/17/07

as the bible say you have to forgive him or you will never be able to move on for your sake and for the sake of your children... god forgives us all for our sins so we should forgive those who sins against us... it wasn't your fault .
---irene7395 on 3/15/07

thersa,TIME,by your own question it seems you know the answer.25 years ago my wife had an affair,she kept it up without me knowing for 3 years.we separated got back together a number of times.she kept having affairs.divorced in 1990, after 22 years of marriage.we have 3 grown daughters 8 grandchildren,I still love her.but it took me years to move on years.we got back together 3 years ago,6 months ago she started her affair cycle again.I left.this time.thank God we were not remarried.
---tom2 on 3/4/07

Sounds like God has put it on your heart to wait. Then in obedience to God, wait and pray for guidance, strength, encouragement and discernment. Until He reveals His plan for you.
---jamin on 2/21/07

Theresa, a broken and contrite heart thou Oh Lord will not despise. If I were you, I'd start praying and asking God, "What should I do Lord?" "I'm so broken over this Father God, that I don't know what to do and I am hurting so badly." Please show me Lord what to do. Please heal my broken heart and please bring my husband back to me. In Jesus name I pray and I thank you for hearing my prayers Lord. (I too will be praying for you). (((huggs))))
---donna6598 on 2/15/07

This is a difficult time for you. Ask the Lord to lead you to a group of people who can encourage you in this time. People who can pray with you and uplift your spirit. I am sure He will do it.
---Eric on 2/15/07

There's nothing that says you can't wait and hope for him to come to his senses.

I speak from experience, that man will come back for his children and find that deep in his heart he still loves you too.

If you give up on anything make it pride and anger. All things are possible with God, make sure your desire for your husband is known to him, but also that things would have to be different if he were to return.
---blogger on 2/15/07

Try your best to get some friends that you can talk to and hang out with sometimes. And of course, talk to God and tell him exactly how hou feel and ask for his help for you to do this.
---john on 2/15/07

Theresa, I know this is very difficult and painful. Getting over it does not happen overnight. Grieving is a common, even necessary process one goes through with the "death" of a relationship. Cry to God. He hears. He cares.
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God 2 cor 1 3-4
---Christina on 2/15/07

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