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Disobedient Children Blues

My children are disobedient monsters. Any help to straighten them out. We have tried all the Christian books, but nothing seems to work. Help!

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 ---fred on 2/21/07
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One word: CONSISTENCY- That's all it takes. The rules are the same for everyone in the house, including yourself. If you swear or scream then don't expect your kids to act any different. Be an example. Deliver descipline swiftly every time a rule is broken, no exception. And here's the one most parents leave out: Deliver praise/reward every time they obey, no exception.
---Jed on 11/10/11


It just boggles my mind the contempt and arguing in the name of Christ and HIS word in the Bible and raising of Christian children. Do any of you NOT hear what you are saying?? Throwing Bible versus around in contempt of one another just to make your point. You all need to get good pastoral counseling
---C on 11/10/11


Well, you could try the suggestion in Deut. 21:18-21. It is a bit harsh but it will get their attention. But then again, you problem might be that they are all ready stoned. If thing are really that bad get; the juvenile court system involved.
---notlaw99 on 9/22/07


Chris, a rod is used to "guide" sheep with, not beat them. Animals use physical pain, like biting, to teach their children because that's all they have. If people stoop so low as to hit their kids then they're no better than animals. We're supposed to be the higher intelligence after all.

And it is written:

Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness sake: for thiers is the kindom of heaven. Matthew 5:10
---Chris on 3/25/07


Chris, a rod is used to "guide" sheep with, not beat them. Animals use physical pain, like biting, to teach their children because that's all they have. If people stoop so low as to hit their kids then they're no better than animals. We're supposed to be the higher intelligence after all.

It is written:

Blessed are ye, when men shall revise you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely (animal???), for my name sake. Matthew 5:11
---chris on 3/25/07




Chris, a rod is used to "guide" sheep with, not beat them. Animals use physical pain, like biting, to teach their children because that's all they have. If people stoop so low as to hit their kids then they're no better than animals. We're supposed to be the higher intelligence after all.

It is written:

Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Proverbs 23:13
---Chris on 3/25/07


Chris, a rod is used to "guide" sheep with, not beat them. Animals use physical pain, like biting, to teach their children because that's all they have. If people stoop so low as to hit their kids then they're no better than animals. We're supposed to be the higher intelligence after all.

It is written:

Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. Proverbs 23:14
---chris on 3/25/07


Foolisnness is bound in the heart of a child: but the rod of correction shall drive if far from him. Proverbs 22:15
---chris on 3/25/07


Chris, a rod is used to "guide" sheep with, not beat them. Animals use physical pain, like biting, to teach their children because that's all they have. If people stoop so low as to hit their kids then they're no better than animals. We're supposed to be the higher intelligence after all

It is written:

Judge ye not that ye be judged. Matthew 7:1
---Chris on 3/25/07


Both of my parents were church goers, as was I, and our town was 100% Christian. I moved out of that town because of all the child abuse (spanking) that I saw and was sick of it. I will just never understand how people can deliberatly hurt their kids.
---Jamie on 3/16/07




Jamie,you grew up in a society that doesn't believe in the Bible so you grew up thinking they were terrible for spanking. If you had grown up in an earlier generation you would have understood because the generation understood. You would have realized that your parents corrected you because they loved you. Ecclesiastes says there is nothing new under the sun. Even if you still think your parents were wrong, you need to forgive them and love them so you can be forgiven.
---faye4464 on 3/16/07


Spanking is hitting. Hitting is bad. Doesnt take a rocket scientist to figure that out.
---Erik on 3/14/07


I remember I was spanked as a child and I always hated my parents for it. When I was alone I would break something of theirs and then glue it back together to say "Haha!" and as a way of silently getting back at them. I left home as soon as I could and to this day I hardly ever speak to my parents.
---Jamie on 3/14/07


If you have children that never need spanked you have been blessed. When you say no child should be spanked you are judging. If you haven't lived with other's children you have no idea what they need.
Don't criticize people who have children that need to be spanked. And you certainly shouldn't try to FORCE your opinion on others. Jesus will judge you.
---faye4464 on 3/14/07


Chris, a rod is used to "guide" sheep with, not beat them. Animals use physical pain, like biting, to teach their children because that's all they have. If people stoop so low as to hit their kids then they're no better than animals. We're supposed to be the higher intelligence after all.
---shadoe on 3/13/07


Yes, I can't believe in this day and age people still hit their kids. It's not NEAR as effective as some people think. My husband and I don't hit our kids-ever, and I get compliments all the time on their good behavior. All it takes is a bit of common sense and sticking by what you say.
---Kyoko on 3/13/07


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"Spare the rod, spoil the child." That's in the Bible. Thank God for HIS word.
---Chris on 3/13/07


Good for you Erik. I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who thinks spanking is wrong. Its odd how if you hit an adult you can go to jail for assault, but if you hit a child, someone smaller and weaker then you, oh sure, that's okay. I think we need to follow Denmark and other countries in banning it.
---Shadoe on 3/12/07


Yes, I think watching SuperNanny is a good idea and also Nanny 911. If you miss them the shows probably have websites you can find on any search engine. Just please dont hit your children!!! Thanks. : )
---Erik on 3/9/07


I agree with Carla5754 give them a choce so they feel like they are being involved. How old are they. Read active Parenting for teens by Michael H popkin good book I'm sure you can use what he says for any age.
---judit4846 on 2/23/07


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Fred, Psalm 1:1 says "Blessed is the man who walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly" So be careful who you ask. Every child IS different and you will only find what works with each through prayer and Bible study.Some children don't care what the consequences are no matter what or how old they get. As a single parent I needed others to support me. I pray you find your answer soon.
---faye4464 on 2/23/07


The problem that most parents have is that they start teaching their children when they think they are old enough to understand. The time to start teaching a child and raising a child is the minute they are born. That's when children start learning.
---Susie on 2/23/07


Take some parenting classes before the situation is really out of control.
---Trista on 2/22/07


Children will do what they can get away with. If there are consequences for inappropriate behavior EVERY time they do the behavior, they will learn not to do that.

I suggest praying for you child. Stormie O'Martian wrote a great book called "The Power of a Praying Parent."
---Madison1101 on 2/22/07


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the bible states train up a child in the way they should go and it will not depart from them.have you trained your children up in the admonition of the lord.did you start teaching them as soon as they were old enough to understand. you cant wait until your children are 5 and six and decide its time to discipline them.
---carol on 2/22/07


fred, if you're calling your children "monsters" then they will become one. If you speak to them with loving words, then maybe they will listen to you. Carla and Rebecca give great advice. Dr. James Dobson wrote some excellent books on "Dare to Discipline." Have you tried prayer? That works too!
---donna6598 on 2/22/07


Hopefully, you are not calling them disobedient monsters out loud. It would help to know how old these children are. Different ages require different methods. And, as far as books are concerned, I don't think there is one written that can deal with a child one-on-one. Each child is different.
---Susie on 2/22/07


* If you actually (do)* everything with them....
---CARLA5754 on 2/22/07


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Are you ready for this? Well Children actually like routine/praise/ stability in most activities and get on much better with things if you actually everything thing with them. Instead of just Telling Them what to do work with them explaining why your doing it and eventually they will do things automatically without being told, it won't work over night it is a continual daily/yearly process, add recreation time and and a special time for reflection and eventually they will be better behaved.
---Carla5754 on 2/22/07


I have been watching "SuperNanny" on ABC, on Monday nights at 9:00 p.m. I have used some of her tips and stragites, and they seem to work. Watch her show or get on her site, and get tips.
---Rebecca_D on 2/21/07


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