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Relationships After Divorce

Can I have relationships after divorce? Is it possible to build godly relationships after divorce?

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A man being the head next to Christ would ONLY be permitted to Remarry after his wife commits fornication otherwise Both will commit Adultery, one being an Adulterer the other an Adulteress if Both remarry after Divorce.

It pays to work it out with fear/trembling because it may well cost you your salvation.

Remain Single!
---Carla3939 on 2/21/09

I am currently going through a divorce right now with my wife. I do not want to go through with it but i feel i have to cause of her unfaithfulness, since we have seperated she has become very unfamiliar to me and continues to run wild and lead a sexually immoral life. i have tried time and time again to work things out with her but it seems to not be working. and i am at a piont to where i feel god is telling me to move on. what should i do?
---larry7478 on 1/31/09

If you were not Christian at the time that you were married, God did not honor the marriage anyway. If Christian, the Bible teaches that a man and wife remain bound as long as they are alive and to remarry is adultry. The exception to that is if one of the partners is unfaithful(sexually)and then the partners are not bound. The actual Biblical answer to your question is no if you are talking about marriage or sex.
---Jody on 11/11/08

It seriously depends on the cause for divorce, you can have all the relationships you want but the word of God will decide if it's Godly.
---Pharisee on 9/6/07

Marriage was initiated by God He wants it to succeed, anything contrary means the enemy is behind it(Matt 13:28) divorce exists because married couple are sleeping, when you sleep the enemy plants tares i.e hatred, conflict, abuse etc. despite of our negligence(Matt 13:30)gives you the antidote (2 Cor 10:3-6) two people in love marry and one morning they wake up and can't stand each other? the enemy has done it wage war its not too late to save your mariage even if you have divorced
---flore5374 on 3/26/07

We already have the wisdom of God, and it's in the Bible.
You can't date while you're waiting for your divorce to be final.
You're leading someone into a sin that God hates.
"For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, 'for it covers one's garment with violence,' says the Lord of hosts. 'Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously'" (Malachi 2:16).
---JuneBug on 3/26/07

Junebug, I see what you are saying, I am not against it. and I hope I do not lead any one in the wrong direction, I am really sorry, I beleive this is a matter that really needs the wisdom of God.
---Cynthia_1 on 3/26/07

Junebug, I see what you are saying, I am not against it. and I hope I do not lead any one in the wrong direction, I am really sorry, I beleive this is a matter that really needs the wisdom of God.
---Cynthia_1 on 3/26/07


As Jesus said about the fact that Moses allowed divorce for "the hardness of their hearts" so it is today that people are more interested in their own concept of right and wrong, what is convenient or "fair" then what God has to say about something.
---BRUCE5656 on 3/26/07

While it is not a popoular position, you should know that not everyone agrees that the bible allows for remarriage after diviorce. There are lots of good arguments that can be made against it. If they are correct, then remarriage, what ever the reason for the divorce, is adultery. Think about it.
---BRUCE5656 on 3/26/07

The man who wanted to date was the one who committed the adultery that destroyed his marriage.
Then he wanted to date, poor thing, while he was waiting for the divorce to be final.

It's Christianity 101.
If that's unrealistic, then all of your theological theories have crumbled.
---JuneBug on 3/25/07

Junebug- There are some places in the world that make you wait for five whole years until your divorce is final, do you realy believe a person should not date another during that time, I think that is totaly unrealistic, especialy in the case of abuse or adultery.
---Cynthia_1 on 3/25/07

Achor, Mosaic Law in the OT did allow for divorce, but this practice did not carry over into the New Covenant, as seen in Matthew 5:32; Matthew 19:9; repeated in Mark 10:11-12; and Luke 16:18.

As for the blog question, it would depend on the relationship. And it would depend on the nature of the marriage. It would be best to discuss it with your local pastor, as different faith traditions have different views on the permanence of marriage. They do not trump scripture, but it is what you have.
---lorra8574 on 3/24/07

I am divorced for 8 years now. I believe that a divorced person can have relationships within the parameters of the Bible. I also believe that a divorced person needs to take his/her time and heal from the divorce before getting into any kind of a relationship.
---Mary4873 on 3/24/07

I was married to a non believer.He cheated.Bible states that if you're married to an unbeliever and he wants to stay married to you then you should stay with him. To say that God didn't honor the marriage is wrong. I shouldn't have married him. Now if I remarry, I should marry a believer. It says "how do you know wife if you will save your husband"?I can't believe some of the answers I'm seeing on here. Be careful and read the word ,don't take someone elses word without reading it first.
---Emilie on 3/24/07

There are some here who would tell you that you can have 'godly' relationships with others while you're waiting on the divorce.
After all, they couldn't wait either. So take the leap and jump on it.

If your spouse left you for another while you were married (adultery); you have divorced; then yes, it is possible.

If it's the other way around, the Bible says you should remain single.
---JuneBug on 3/24/07

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Cynthia 1, backing up to 'dating' while you're waiting on the divorce.

That's where your house of cookies crumbled for me. When you gave that man the go-ahead to date while he waits; (his adultery broke his marriage vows). That was unscriptural.
From that point, all your other answers folded in upon themselves.
---JuneBug on 3/24/07

Philipians4:13 I can do all things. I went through something similar and was so torn I thought I was going to die until I read scripture and surrendered my emotions to God and told Him how hurt I was but willing to love again if He could teach me How to be a good wife.He helped me see the things I had done wrong and opened up my heart to realise that I am a helper not a critic of a man.I can't change Him only God can.Today I can enjoy healthy relationships. If He did it for me, He can do it for you.
---achie7757 on 3/24/07

O yes, you can have a relationship after divorce. The only thing is; to be cautious and to learn to know the other person really well before even talking about long term commitments. It is better to start off with friendship and also to give yourself at least 2 years before getting involved with anyone again. Godly relationships are possible, providing you both apply Scripture in your relationship from day one.
---Junia on 3/24/07

Jody, where does the Bible state that God does not honor marriages of non-christians?
---ralph7477 on 3/24/07

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Jesus Christ our Lord kicks so much against divorce.A man is only allowed to divorce his wife on the grounds of unchastity which I beleive means infidelity.On this basis,I think a woman too is free to have a decent relationship after she is divorced instead of living in burning passion.I will get you th erelevant bible passages and more info.
---Achor4849 on 3/24/07

Well usually if Anyone has genuinely surrendered their life to Jesus, Divorce will never be in their vocabulary. But if for some reason it happens then there are possibilities to have Godly relationships only In Christ, as the Bible says Nothing is Impossible with God ( Mk 10:27 )Brian 6933
---BRIAN._STAFFORD on 3/24/07

There are ways to have a relationship after divorce and keep it Godly, but I find it more difficult to do that since I have been married! If you invite the Holy Spirit into your friendship as an active part, it makes it much easier
---Leigh7375 on 3/23/07

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