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Should I File For Divorce

Husband walked out on me 2 years ago. He has not instigated divorce. He has said he doesn't love me and it was a mistake to marry. We have 1 child together that he does not support. Is it wrong for me to file for divorce?

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Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer was not free to marry, and anyone marrying one is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Please read Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18. Both Matthew 19:9 and 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/16/09

If your husband has walked out on you, unless it was for Fornication you will be committing Adultery if you re-marry.
Matthew 19:8:9:10:11.

2. 1Corinthians 7.
If your husband is unbelieving and has departed, you are to remain single and allow time for reconciliation how do you know that he has someone else?.
---Carla5754 on 4/6/07

God hates divorce BUT he still spoke of giving her a "bill of divorcement."

The woman whose husband has cheated, and the husband whose wife has strayed are understood by God to have broken the trust of their spouse, and that trust might NEVER return.

FOR THAT - divorce is allowed.

"Come, let us reason together..."
---Robert on 4/6/07

God hates divorce.
I would ask him why he hasn't filed for divorce if he says that he no longer loves you. I would also ask if he is with anyone else. If he is, then there is no problem in getting the divorce because it is because fornication that we would be free to divorce and be able to remarry. If he is a Christian, he knows this and is waiting for you to make the first move. Pray, if you would rather keep it together. But God says if he decides to leave, let him go.
---lenora on 4/5/07

Your husband has already divorced you - emotionally speaking. Now, you have to decide whether or not you want to make it official. I would not divorce him without making absolutely certain he is fulfilling his parental obligations. That may be the very reason he is not filing himself. The old adage is...

"Cheaper to keep 'er."

I hate it, and I think it's very sad, but you have to do what is best for yourself and for your child. Who is going to care for her if you do not?
---Crystal on 4/4/07

You need to seek some counseling of your Pastor on the issue and take decisions that you feel right having listened the inner witnesses of the spirit.

Some may try to abuse the pure and perfect law of God and in a way put you in a position which God has not planned for you.
---Ephre3798 on 4/3/07

Only you can answer that question. You have stated the reasons to justify a divorce. Do you want reassurance or peace? I would encourage you to speak with your pastor, go to God's Word and pray till you are at peace with your decision - before GOD. No one else can give you that.
---Disciple on 4/3/07

I would divorce him. I would make him support his daughter like a father should. He has made it clear to you that he doesn't love you and it was a mistake that he married you. You deserve better. Your daughter deserves better. Even though he is the father of your daughter. Any man can father a child, but it takes someone special to be a daddy. God doesn't want us to be unhappy and be in bondage.
---Rebecca_D on 4/2/07

Your estranged husband is not doing his conjugal duties, nor other spousal obligations and responsibilities. Try first to reconcile back together with him, and if he refuses to be with you, then you have the right to divorce him on the grounds of abandonment, if you so choose.
---Eloy on 4/2/07

Again are you a true Christian? If you are you are allowed to either stay single or go back to Him, which seems to be out of the questian. A divorce is out of the question unless some great sexual sin. If a nonchristian you do not have to please God. Do as you please and bare the consequences on judgment day.
---catherine on 4/2/07

I would recommend your taking steps to make him help support the daughter first.
---Jack on 4/2/07

It may be wrong to file for divorce, but it is just plain stupid not to go to a lawyer and get child support. He has a legal obligation to support his child, whether he wants to be married to you or not. Call a lawyer today and make an appointment to get support.
---Madison1101 on 4/2/07

Your husband left you breaking your marrige up, I think the act itself shows a lack of a Christian nature,if you didn't do anything to cause it. If an unbeliever departs,let him go,a divorce would let him go. You must now think of you and the child,if a Community Property State you will be libel for his debts as long as you are married to him. Do what you feel led to do to protect you and your child. Pray and seek God to help you do what is best.
---Darlene_1 on 4/2/07

It sooooooooo is not wrong for you to file for divorce. Start filing. God does not want you under bondage. He has called us to peace.
---Cynthia_1 on 4/2/07

Hi; I'm very sorry about what your husband did, and the fact that he doesn't even support your child! NAIL HIM!! Divorce him and get a good lawyer, who will help your child get, if not a good father, at least income--the child and you both deserve it.
---Mary on 4/2/07

Part 2: Also, I just wanted to say, God be with you and I wish you and your child all the best--you both deserve better.
---Mary on 4/2/07

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I would think that this would be considered abandonment and that you have a very good case for divorce.
---m.p.a. on 4/2/07

I would suspect that in this case he has already commited adultery and if that is the case you have the right to divorce. If not why divorce him? God is always interested in reconcilliation. He would rather see that then divorce.
---john on 4/2/07

This is the hard part, we've been told to avoid divorce.

Then the rest of the world is still there and seemingly passing us by. It's not the Holy Spirit that instigates the idea of breaking what God has joined, that's almost always the flesh. While we dispair, the Spirit believes and hopes all things. (1 Corinthians 13)

The Father waits upon you to turn your desperation to him, and desires you to call and wait upon him until his understanding of your situation has taken root in you.
---Pharisee on 4/2/07

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