Questioning Her Salvation
I am saved and my fiance also says she is saved. She is a cautious person and does not like the more straitforward in your face approach I am used to at the Baptist church. She does not want to attend, and I feel im questioning her salvation because of it. I love her very much. What should I do?
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---Adam on 4/17/07
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Being straight forward is an indication of temperament not salvation. Many people are intimidated by straight forward, in-your-face type people who usually see everything as white or black. If you two get married this is only one of many issues the two of you will have to adjust to, in order please each other. Welcome to the world of marriage!
---DoryLory on 4/12/08|
It would be interesting to know what kind of denomination she belongs to that she would consider a Baptist Church to be too much of an in your face approach. Every Baptist Church I have ever been to preaches Jesus and salvation.
---Susie on 4/20/07|
I like it when a Preacher is straight forward with me on the word of God. I don't want anyone sugar coating the bible. Maybe she just doesn't like that chruch. Seek God and he will put the two of you in a church where he can use both of you the most.
---Rebecca_D on 4/20/07|
Donna, that advice is a temporary bandaid.
People are always trying to find a workaround God's Word for romance.
---Robin on 4/19/07|
Adam, sounds like you two are unequally yoked together. Go see a Pastor. Ask him some questions. Take your fiance with you. Let him ask her some questions regarding her salvation and where she is with the Lord. I would think if she's in love with you, she'd want to be where her fiance is leading her? no?
---SeekerofHim on 4/19/07|
Part as friends, if you can. You're already unequally yoked and fiance evangelism does not work.
---Brad on 4/19/07|
If you are not absolutely certain that she is saved you really should not be preparing for marriage yet. As to the issue of which church, could you suggest trying each others and, if you both still prefer your own, alternate where you worship on Sundays OR each go to your own. Worshipping together is better when possible but it is not unknown for couples to attend different churches.
---m.p.a. on 4/19/07|
Maybe you should want to attend her church?
---alan_of_UK on 4/18/07|
I would also question her salvation if she is unwilling to attend a Baptist Church. What kind of denomination does she belong to? It may be that she has never really heard the gospel of Jesus Christ.
---Susie on 4/18/07|
Wow, John! Do you ever consider there might be more to a good relationship/marriage than a woman's non-stop submission?! Things like Christ-like love and understanding--on both parts?
---Mary on 4/18/07|
The way your question is, it sounds like she just does not want to attend your Baptist church. If that is the case, try to find one where both of you can grow. You should not question her salvation unless you see fruit of a different kind, and not going to your church is not the wrong fruit.
---betty8468 on 4/18/07|
If you KNOW that you are Saved, share the same with her, and ask her also to share her
experience of being saved with you too. You did not mention the church she goes to. Anyone saved is sure, and will want to share it with others. Brian. 6933
---BRIAN._STAFFORD on 4/18/07|
Adam, your question now will become an issue if you marry her. You need to be sure of her Salvation before you marry her.
lorra8574, No, the point of the Reformation was not to allow everyone to interpret the scriptures for themselves.
The Scripture is of NO private interpretation.
---Elder on 4/17/07|
She does not want to attend but is she attending? Either one of these doesn't prove or disprove her salvation. If you're going to church by yourself I would question her submission to you though. If she won't let you lead now do you think that will change when you're married?
---john on 4/17/07|
Why are you questioning her salvation? Wasn't the point of the Reformation to allow for everyone to interpret the scriptures for themselves. And if it was correct, then God clearly wants everyone to have their own personal church experience and it is wrong for you to put restrictions on her choice. She might be more comfortable as a Bible Christian at her own domestic church, or a more laid back setting in a Lutheran church, or the more formal structure of the Anglican church or Presbyterian church.
---lorra8574 on 4/17/07|
ask her why she do not want to attend. Ask her to pray with you about it. And always keep her in your prays. But do not give up god will give you the answers your looking for
---sandra on 4/17/07|