Horrible Work Ethics
One of the girls I work with has horrible work ethics and I "vented" about it to the wrong person and now I feel that I'm seen as the gossiper. I sincerely apologized & learned my lesson, but now I'm constantly feeling embarrased and like the bad guy. How do I move on?
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---Kim on 5/3/07
Helpful Blog Vote (6)
You missed an opportunity to be part of the solution instead of part of the problem.
She knows her stuff, you don't. You're neat and she was not. You could have helped her straighten/neaten up the place; and she could have helped you learn the ropes.
Gossip destroys others and reputations. Learn from this and evict gossip from your future endeavors. I can't stand gossip in the workplace. The bible warns against it. It takes more courage to talk to someone's face and integrity.
---Perry on 2/2/08|
God did not give you a spirit of guilt and shame. Once you are forgiven by God, you are forgiven. You may need to forgive yourself. You were hired to do a JOB. DO IT as if unto the Lord Himself. Being humbled is a hard lesson.If you cannot get over your feelings in this situation, you may need to Seek another job. Remember that God uses all things to work together for His glory, even our mistakes. You will be blessed. You are a child of the King. And he loves the unethical one too.
---Amy9384 on 5/8/07|
Hi Cynthia; yes I personally agree most with you; the poor girl is sorry she goofed; I've certainly goofed enough times and everyone has. Stone-throwing does nothing to relieve pain, either of the gossiper or the one gossipped about.
---Mary on 5/4/07|
Stop worrying about how much work other people are doing and do your work. It is not your place to police your coworkers. Another lesson I learned early in my career.
---Susie on 5/4/07|
Mistakes happen, you are not perfect, just forgiven, let him who is without sin, cast the first stone.
I can not tell you all the mistakes I have made in life, but if we learn from them thats the ticket, next time you'll weigh the odds.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/4/07|
**I feel that I'm seen as the gossiper.**
Like the sun it finally dawned on you.
Yes, you SHOULD feel like an office gossip because that's PRECISELY what you were.
Change your attitude, lady. You clearly had LOT to learn.
---Jack on 5/4/07|
#1 **One of the girls I work with has horrible work ethics and I "vented" about it to the wrong person and now I feel that I'm seen as the gossiper.**
Your are. Vented, is a common colloquialism for gossip.
---Ryan_Z on 5/3/07|
#2 **I sincerely apologized & learned my lesson...**
This is not about you. She may have not accepted your apology and is inwardly still bitter towards you. Or, she may have forgiven you she may not be ready to reconcile with you. Remember love bears all things, even our guilt. Love is also patient, show her love and kindness.
---Ryan_Z on 5/3/07|
Learn from this experience. Think before you talk! That's one of the most important lessons I learned as a young woman in the work place many years ago.
---Susie on 5/3/07|
You may have to really move on, to a new job.
You did gossip to the wrong person. Clashes in personalities and work styles; colliding with your type A, neat and orderly style, did not mean she was incompetent.
You've learned a lesson. But if things deteriorate, you may be the one that has to go. Next job - be willing to understand other personality types and don't gossip with coworkers. Bad practice.
---McCutcheon on 5/3/07|