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Is it okay to go through life without friends? I have decided that people who say they're your friend, really don't mean it and I'm tired of being hurt by so called friends!

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 ---Chrissy on 5/24/07
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You are setting your friendship bar way too high. No one is perfect or else we'd all be living in the Garden of Eden. Don't expect too much with people especially during these end days where the whole world is evil.

If you are looking for perfect friends you'll be wasting your time, good friends maybe, but not perfect friends.

If you have a KJV searchable bible search for the following words: "one another", "each other", "comfort", and "friend" to learm more about friendship.

Don't come looking for true friends on the internet. You'll find all the "good" friends in your own neighborhood - have patience.
---Steveng on 1/5/14

Hello,Sis.Sharon,all respect,I find in this illness,shock that,people who for years I help them in need knew me for years,wouldn't lift a finger..not even if I paid them.I let go,the hurt,people did to me.I was one, they could come,call24/7 if I'm able go, be right there!!.

if it not for Jesus' I do not know what I would've done.So,alone,sick,hurt emotionally! physically.very carefull now .People DO not always good intentions,many have turned
away to " other gods!"

have a neighbor we help each other. She is not saved. Keep your mind on the Lord, find praying for others! Helps me alot. pray daily at home. I talk to the Lord through out my day. He really cares!
---Lidia4796 on 1/4/14

No It is not!! You are right in your observation, though. 95% of people who say they care, really do not or not enough to help you or be there for you when you need them. It hurts, esp. if they are Christians. A true friend to me, is one you can call in the middle of the night if you need someone to talk to you. They will talk and pray with you and never yell at you for calling. If they are close to you in distance, they will come over to give you a hug or take you out to an all night restaurant for coffee. They might even come get you and take you to their home. THAT is a true friend. Not too many people measure up to this. All Christians should. Life is hard enough but impossible without friends, esp. the older one gets.
---sharon on 1/3/14

Hi Elena, God bless you! So glad your pain is better, praying for it to be gone soon, pain can be exhausting, huh? I'm thankful for the medicine I will temporarily take after my surgery, it will provide a lot of relief when I most need it and then I'll stop it. Anyway, God bless you and so glad you're a part of Christianet's family! Hugs, Mary
---Mary on 4/1/12

Hello! My dear sister Mary,much love goes out to you! I wrote something one time,but crazy :) smiles,computer cud not get it thru! bare with me,this not let much room,it get's way fr me! Some days pain(not bad like before) prayers work everytime! I trust in the father & jesus,gratefull be able text on here.You have no idea how you help me Mary! I wrote that time how I feel a special bond as you are so strong 'n intelligent caring sister to open up,breast cancer not easy to talk about,have night sweats,feel happy today! Thankyou & everyone else who take the time ask bout me. Love,
---ELENA on 3/31/12

Hi Elena, how are you doing hon? Can you update us on your health--if you don't mind? You're in my thoughts and prayers, hugs, Mary
---Mary on 3/31/12

Mary.kind of rush'this computer gives me hard time.anyway,will keep pray'n for you,Trish,many others onhere.Alot of slippery folks out try'n to deceive our pastor thank God,he had me!ha ha thank God we had Jesus!oh yes! Love
---ELENA on 3/29/12

Elena you rock! :) I respect you sooo much! God bless you dear, love and hugs, Mary :)
---Mary on 3/16/12

Hello,update here,I am sort dependent sometimes,eye problem,believe or not,truly feel
the lord will see me thru,friends sure get weary!becuz it's not happen to them.Regardless,after much prayer
I stand on my faith!
---ELENA on 3/15/12

Friends can be a hindrance or help in our walk with the Lord, as we can be a help or hindrance in anothers walk. Each ought to rely on the Lord, not another, He is truly our best/perfect friend. Even so, God in His wisdom puts us in the Body of Christ, we are part of one another, each with gifts, strengths as well as weaknesses. We are to strengthen and encourage one another in the faith, and thereby love one another. If we love God, we are to feed His sheep,Jn 21:17. God designed us to have relationship first and foremost with Him, and second, with one another,the second flows out of the first, knowing/being in relationship with and loving God, we are empowered to know, be in relationship with and love others He puts in our lives.
---chria9396 on 11/26/11

People need people.But to put your hope on people...this will only disappoints you.Because they can fail you in some ways.There are only a few people who will be with you till the end.So the only true friend whom you can really count,who will never leave you nor forsake you is Jesus.
---mj on 11/25/11

//Is it okay to go through life without friends?

Wait until you are an elderly person and most if not all of your friends have died off.

//I have decided that people who say they're your friend, really don't mean it and I'm tired of being hurt by so called friends!

One should never rely on a weak arm of flesh as you can expect your "friends" to seek that of you that they need or want.

While we are called upon to bear one another burdens (Gal. 6:2), it is best to make oneself as strong as possible so that you will never need others to bear your burden. This was the aim that the Apostle Paul had, not to be a burden to anyone. 2 Cor. 12:13,14
---lee1538 on 11/24/11

IF you have the Lord Jesus Christ as your No:1 friend, HE will arrange other earthly friends you need at specific periods. Try also not to put your trust in men/women but in God, that is the Biblical instruction.
---Adetunji on 11/24/11

No it is impossible to live without friends may be you can met such untrustable friends . But if you meet trustable friends in your life really you started to like your life like me...
---satheesh on 11/24/11

hello,This ELENA... My heart goes out to any one who feels this way! Truly,I used feel that way... be here,God has taught me alot "listening ... thru that quiet gentle spirit"... The Lord has bless many of you on here,encourage people like myself! Forgiveness,a great virtue!Hey,the Father sent us Jesus! He didn't give up on us! (prayerfully) Family! We hold each other up!
---ELENA on 11/23/11

no life without friends is impossible
---amitojas_dandige on 11/23/11

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Chrissy...This is a lesson I learned very early in life. Pick your friends VERY carefully. You will be blessed if you have one or two truly good friends in your lifetime. As you mature, you will learn to recognize true friends quicker. Experience is the best teacher.
---Susie on 5/21/08

The enemy works in the gap between what we think of Father God, ourselves, and others and what God thinks of Himself, us, and others. We need God's vision and His thoughts toward us. When we see what He sees, our vocabulary and conversation changes. Now, for the healing aspect of it all...despite how you have been treated, continue to love. Invite Jesus into that hurt and rejection and let Him show you that you are complete and whole in Him.
---Linda on 7/24/07

Consider that those who have treated you unkindly are also feeling like you or have other defense mechanisms employed in their lives. Father God never meant for us to build defenses around our hearts and not ever let anyone in them. His sacrificial love manifested was an open heart to every man, woman, boy, and girl, even those He knew would reject Him or betray Him (look how Jesus treated Judas, left him in charge of the money bag even though He knew he was a thief).
---Linda on 7/24/07

Another word of wisdom: Dwell among your own people. This simply means to dwell among believers who will encourage, edify, and comfort you in the Holy Ghost. If you yourself are encouraged, you can then turn to those who are hurting and touch their infirmities unto healing.
---Linda on 7/24/07

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I agree with Julie. I also want to add the possibility that you are inviting a lot of things into your life by what you say. If you have been rejected by someone important in your life and, out of that hurt and possible unforgiveness, continue to speak out of that unrenewed spirit of the mind, you will invite all the more. Misery loves company, until that misery gets tired of the misery laden company it invited.
---Linda on 7/24/07

If you're always ending up on the short end of the stick, something is the matter. It takes courage to take a good hard look at yourself, and admit your behavior is attracting this to you.
If you make it to age 50 with your dance card filled with crummy life's experiences with other people, it really is time to STOP.
It's you, and you need someone you trust to tell you the truth in love, what is it about you that makes others want to dump on or take constant advantage of you.
---Julie on 7/24/07

A handful of true friends should not be hard to find. If you're a prima donna, always letting everyone know how great you think you might be, others will run from you. No one can hang with a perpetual prom queen forever. Show yourself friendly with Christ-like responses, you'll find friends. Pray for the right friends.
---Julie on 7/24/07

No, it's not OK. You can't give up on people because they've hurt you in the past.
You need to make better choices for those you're going to hold close to you. Use it as a learning curve, don't give up on humanity because of a few bad ones.
There are people who suffer from anxiety or social isolation problems, that's different from the garden variety, "all my friends have been creeps". You need to figure out why you are drawing those type of people in all of the time.
---Julie on 7/24/07

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I agree with you.....its so easy to put that barrier up....i too am tired of being hurt
---TAMI on 7/24/07

I sometimes feel the same way about friends. But we must have them we are not ment to live along. We just have to learn how to deal with them. I am not very good at this either. You are not along.
---Betty on 7/20/07

this days i had the biggest deception of all my life with a friend who i considered my brother, my gift from God...he was a special person for me, he is born again (he say)..until now i cannot understand what happened, how one person can be your friend your brother and after only one day change. this pain will remain in my heart for is very dificult to trust in new people...he was my my mind and in my heart is my brother......and God can heal my heart
---Ricar3695 on 7/18/07

Steveng: I agree, also let me add that Jesus is the friend that sticketh closer then a brother.

Do you know what the difference between a friend and a brother is?

We choose our freinds but we don't get to choose our family.

Jesus choosed us before we choosed him.

This is why I say I concider myself family rather then a friend. I know its deep.
---Marcia on 7/13/07

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A godly friend can be of great help Prov27:9-10, Prov28:23, 1Corinth18-27, 1Peter3:8-9, Matthew18:20-22, Psalms122:8, Prov18:24, Prov17:17, John15:13, Luke11:5-10, 1Sam20:17, 1Sam23:16, Amos3:3, 2 Corinthians6:14-15.

True friendship is one of the great gifts of life especially with Jesus.

"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he shall give you the desires of your heart" - Friends.
---Steveng on 7/12/07

I find that those who have not yet matured in Christ and have been hurt in past relationships have a hard time making friend or keeping a relationship. It's hard for them to trust others. When you totally let go and let God then having a friend is not a big deal. Every person alive is mared due to sin nature. We just have to accept people for who they are and get on with it. Your only true friend is Jesus, I would like to be your friend but I could never measure up. However I do concider you family.
---Marcia on 7/12/07

It's not the number of friends you have, but the quality of that friend. A true friend is someone who knows you, who won't let you down, who will be there for you in times of need. We need friends. And friends come in all shapes and sizes, some are just people we have fun with. Others are other believers. And of course, the true friend. And I believe that everyone has that one true friend out there, I know I have one.
---Katie on 7/12/07

One of my pastor's favorite saying is "Life was not meant to be done alone". Joy9988
---Joy9988 on 6/24/07

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Be friendly,enjoy the fellowship of those of like faith,realize that they are not perfect, and can fail, guard your heart with all diligence, establish boundaries, protect yourself from being hurt.Love God with all your heart, mind & soul and your neighbor as yourself.I believe it is possible to love from a distance.Keep a protective shield over your heart.This can be developed, as a protection, esp. after you have been hurt several times, it gets easier.Fellowship with God, keeps you from being needy.
---Gayla on 6/23/07

We were not made to go through life on our own. God made us social creatures and we need relationships of all kinds in our life. It can be hard to trust once we are hurt but we need to know that not everyone will hurt us.
---maryj9396 on 6/17/07

You HAVE friends, but you may not know who they are.

I have met people and talked with them for maybe just a few minutes, and I could tell they were real friends in Jesus love. But I never saw them, again; but how they related with me and drew me out was inviting, and convicting me to become the same way in how I relate with ALL people.

To me, to love someone means to be a real friend and brother to that person; and Jesus says to love ALL people.
---Bill_bila5659 on 6/2/07

Jesus is all the world to me. He is my life. He's everything that I hoped for. He's everything that I need. When I am lonely He is there. Jesus is my friend and the only friend that sticks closer than a brother. The only friend that will never leave you nor forsake you. Even if you turn your back on Him. I don't need anything else but Jesus as my friend all my needs are already taken care of. Bless the Lord! My friend!
---chara7388 on 5/25/07

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We as Christians need to be social. Jesus said that we should be servants. You don't have to have friends to be a servant to all but you need to be selfless and social. If you chose a life of solitude, then it would need to be one with exceeding intercessory prayer and study so as to serve God. That second part is just my opinion. I think that you feel good about yourself if you served others.People can't hurt you when your goal is to help them. Blessings
---jody on 5/25/07

Friends will get you into trouble. They steal from you, backstab and do some pretty horrible things at times. It is sad to say that I can only remember having one friend in my life well maybe two. A true friend is hard to find.
---anonymous on 5/25/07

I used to feeel some what like you and then I moved and left all of my friends and only had GOD. Trusting HIM and moving to new surroundings was life changing. I have fellowship with CHRIST followers. Sometimes you will get hurt because no person is perfect, except CHRIST and HE is the best friend you can ever have. I am not suggesting that you move several hundred miles away but maybe go to a different church or find a small group. Mostly I am saying trust your best friend JESUS CHRIST.
---melan7697 on 5/25/07

God is a jealous God, sometimes it is best to be without people, sometimes God removes situations or people, that we had placed our trust in, to get us to a place of full dependency on Him, the ONE who will never leave you or forsake you Chrissy, Beleive me God Himself is feeling the same way you do, as so many have forsaken Him, People pay HIM lip service, and pray for all of their wants, but He ''GOD'' created US for this very purpose, for communication and felowship with HIM.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/25/07

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It's really hard to find a friend that will go the extra mile or stand up for you when things go wrong. When you depend on man - you set yourself up for disappointment, because we are all human. Consider what you think it means to be a friend and be that person and you will find friends. Remember you can like people without being friends.

Ultimately you can go without friends in your life, but it might make you sad and lonely.
---grace3869 on 5/24/07

If you have an abundance of friends while a Christian you might want to examine yourself to see if you are still in the faith. Same if you have a lot of Christian friends. Everything about the Lord and those who took his word seriously was met with opposition. That includes the religious people. Sometimes Christians are the worst when you speak against their foolishness.
---Frank on 5/24/07

No it isn't okay to go through life without friends. What kind of life would that be? I can count on one hand how many true friends I have. There are friends and there are backbitters. It is so hard to find a really true good friend now-a-days. Before a simple handshake sealed a deal. Now it all has to be in writting, sealed by a notery public. If you confide in your friend, and he/she gossips about it, that is not a friend.
---Rebecca_D on 5/24/07

we all need a friend or two,when we focus on man at any point and time we will always be disappointed about something,if you have a problem with something someone has said or done to make you think they are not your friend go to them tell them how you feel in love,you be the better friend and then let god fix it for you.
---terea9454 on 5/24/07

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Sure it's okay to go through life without any friends. I haven't had any 'friends' for over 20 years now and I'm doing just fine. I like it like this. But I do think it takes a differant kind of person to be happy without any friends.
---sue on 5/24/07

Chrissy, Jesus had 12 disciples, but he stayed close to only 3 of them. Peter, James and John. Pray and ask God to give you one or two special friends. He will do that for you. Also, the Gospel of John says that at night, everyone went to their homes, but Jesus went to the Mount to pray...alone. It's not good to always be alone. Try to join a church where the love of God is evident there and God will send a true friend your way.
---donna on 5/24/07

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