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Should Be Single Or Marry

How do you know if you are to be single or married. Paul says that not every person should marry that some should stay single to serve GOD better. So how do you know? I ask this for myself and I also have a couple of freiends who ask me and I tell them to trust GOD.

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God already told mankind to mutiply and fill the earth and that marriage was a gift and blessing from God. In 1 Cor. 7 Paul also said that if God calls you when you're single then it is better(not necessary) not to marry and if you are called when married then to stay married. He goes on saying that no matter which way, it is not a sin to marry or to be single. So God leaves it up to us. But I'm sure that if you asked him he would reveal it to you if you would be better off married or single.
---john on 3/27/08

Melan, I did not go on a date until I was a junior in college, if I remember right. I was not a Christian, I did not have a clue how to relate with a a Catholic like I was. That was why, in MY case.

Now, I am saved and STILL I'm not very social. But now I concentrate on being submissive to God and seeing how He has me sharing with people. Most of all is He wants me to care about ALL people, not just try to pick some one favorite to marry.
---Bill_bila5659 on 6/15/07

Once I got with a woman who showed me EVERY thing I was hoping for in my wife. And we ended up in immorality, instead. I did NOT make sure with God, but let her steer me.

Make sure God is really satisfying you. If you're struggling and desperate, this can have you not evaluating. "Don't shop while you're hungry." There are guys who can put on the act you're looking for. Church culture is prompting people about what to look for and how to put on this act.
---Bill_bila5659 on 6/15/07

It is not necessary to know. Just know the Lord loves you and when he reveals this to you, you will know. God will give you a friend and when that friend is forever you know it was a gift from God. For what God has planned for you, you will keep forever. Pray and God will listen. Peace be with you.
---brian on 6/14/07

I will be honest and say I have wondered this myself. I think that if God calls someone to be single He will give them the grace to accept it. I think if someone strongly desires to be married it may be something the Lord has for them.
---MJ on 6/14/07

Marriage is an ideal relationship for most people but being single is not a sin. Sometimes its better to remain single and celibate. No kids. Most singles could be happier with their state if it were not for the marrieds pretending to be so happy in their unions. Marriage is not what everyone says it is. Most marriages are dead end streets with no possiblity of finding the detour. Now what's so happy about that. Just something to think about.....
---Robyn on 6/2/07

Donn9759, you're married now?
---Raine on 6/1/07

The still small voice in the back of your head, is usually your mind/emotions speaking.

It is different from hearing God's Voice speak into your spirit. If it's your mind, you'll hear this immediate answer. God's Voice, answers, come when you're not forcing them. You can't trust those emotional answers. They vary, change from day to day.
God places the answer in your heart, and you know that you know, it's God speaking.
---Jenny on 6/1/07

How do you feel about married or single life? Which do you think you might enjoy? You could ask yourself these type questions. Do you want to serve God without distractions from a spouse, then stay single. Marriage is a big responsibility and sometimes interferes in serving God. We are to satisfy our mates,also. How do you feel about splitting time with Jesus and your spouse? Only you can answer these type questions. Pray about it and ask the Lord to lead you.
---Robyn on 6/1/07

More: What will you bring to the marriage? Are you an independent woman? Do you really need marriage in your life? You need to answer these questions. The bible says it is better to marry than to burn with passion. How do you feel about sex? Can you live without it? Then you can probably don't need marriage and can serve Christ, just fine, as a single woman, devoted to God. A very worthwhile goal and life.
---Robyn on 6/1/07

Before I got married I asked God that if my marriage wasn't going to last and it ends up in a divorce. Then don't let it happen. We will be married 8years June 16. the only thing I can tell you do do is seek God for an answer and wait for the answer.
---Rebecca_D on 6/1/07

melan, I prayed and asked God, "Is it your will that I be married?" For years I got no answer and was at peace with it. Then I walked into a bible study and was deeply attracted to a man there. We ended up getting married. I believe "The steps of the righteous are ordered by the Lord." I believe "No purpose of God can be thwarted." If it's God's will for you to marry, GOD WILL BRING YOU A HUSBAND JUST LIKE HE BROUGHT EVE TO ADAM, amen? TRUST HIM.
---donna on 6/1/07

Thank you all. My friend who is 26 and never had a date is really struggling with this. Do you have any advice for her?
---melan7697 on 6/1/07

That still small voice in the back of your head is accompanied by confirmation. That is usually God speaking. I know that we should not hurry Him--especially women--by looking. The Bible says "when a man finds a wife.." not the other way around.
---kathy3336 on 6/1/07

"How do you know if you are to be single or married[?]"

1 Corinthians 7:9

Melan: "Trust" (faith) in God comes by reading & believing the word of God (the Bible). (Ro. 10:17)
---Leon on 6/1/07

I am a Christian and a single parent. I have been Christian since 3/4/73. God created us with marriage in mind, however, It does distract us from single minded service to the Lord. If one has not felt the call to marry, he or she should not feel that it is failure, but rather a blessing. As a single person, it is easier to focus on Christ and service without being distracted by the responsibilities of marriage and parenthood.
---Rick6832 on 6/1/07

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You've given a good answer, melan.
---Jack on 6/1/07

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