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Vow Of Celibacy

Why do christian men (who suppose to be saved already) not appreciate a woman who has taken a vow of celibacy unto the Lord?

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 ---leandra on 7/5/07
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I made the choice of being celibate before marriage because it is moral values and u value yourself.I think a man who u decide to date or be with.If he can't respect your decision then he's not worth your time and it's time for him to move on
---crystal on 8/1/10


Robyn::You are a married womanwith all the answers,so what is there to know? This is for those who are untouched.A mutual agreement would be the first step.
---Emcee on 8/8/07


The question you need ask yourself is, is he a christian? I took that vow with my newly married husband and when I did, God put it on his heart as well- so I am saying a christian man wouldn't have nothing but appreciation for a woman that wants to save herself just for him, Be carefeul because the thief comes to kill steal and destroy, and remember you don't serve a God of confusion- the man that doesn't appreciate you is confused with God's word and mans law
---jennifer on 8/8/07


This is not the most spiritual answer but it is real. I would like to know what I am getting myself into before I marry this man. Sexual intercourse is forbidden before marriage, for a Christian. I find that to be a hard pill to swallow.
What if his hardware is not right and mine for that matter? Is he a great kisser? I would want to know this beforehand. Among other things.
I would choose to wait as a Christian because God said to do so. I am a married Christian female. Just a thought.
---Robyn on 8/4/07


You will know you found the right man when he respects your vow to the Lord. The Lord has someone picked out for you, so keep faith and he'll find you.
---Amanda on 8/3/07




Leandra . . . how are you managing to get into these conversations in which guys are disrespecting your desire to stay celibate?

These are not Christian guys, I'd say, who the Holy Spirit would lead you to go out with, where you could get isolated enough so one could ambush you with that Satanic nonsense. So...how, ever, are you getting into these conversations, if I may ask?
---Bill_bila5659 on 7/8/07


Because they are led by their flesh

That statement is a good way to blasphemy the Holy Ghost if the person posting contrary to your beliefs is indeed posting with the counsel of God.
Calling good evil can bring a curse on you.
Frank3443
---Frank on 7/7/07


I think the vow of celibacy is being missed here, it is not a question of men respecting women & viceversa,or of being celibate in Marriage. But a desire of an individual to conquer the desire of the flesh brought on by concupicence.By conquering an unnessary desire gains us Grace,this is hard to do.Its like overcoming a vice- why fornicate if you do not desire to procreate,according to God's word,in his way.
---Emcee on 7/7/07


Unless they are true Christians themselves. Younger men want an older and more experienced woman. It is better not to make a vow to anyone (especailly the Lord) if you have any doubts. LeAndra if you choose to keep to yourself, then do just that. If any man doesn't respect your decision, then they aren't worth your time. If you can find a man whom will wait until after marriage, you found a good man with good morals. You will know when this man comes along, God will show you if your eyes are open.
---Rebecca_D on 7/7/07


Sexual intercourse is a gift from God and must be kept in the bounds of marriage. When you have sexual intercourse with your spouse you should do so to the glory of God.

Those who think intercourse is sinful need to read the Song of Solomon. God wouldn't have had all these things written if God didn't look at sexual intercourse as a wonderful and beautiful thing.
---Matthew on 7/7/07




Song of Solomon 4:5
Your two breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle that browse among the lilies.

Song of Solomon 7:7
Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit.

Song of Solomon 7:7
Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit.
---Matthew on 7/7/07


1 Timothy 4
1Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils;

2Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;

3Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats.....


Celibacy till marriage is great, but claiming forbidding to marry is rightesousness is foolishness, because it isn't.
---Matthew on 7/7/07


If you don't want to marry that's ok. Paul said that is fine to not marry. Just don't abstain from marriage for foolish reasons. If you are burning and lonely then marry! If you can live without a spouse then don't marry. It's that simple. It's not righteousness though to abstain from marriage. Sexual intersourse is a wonderful gift from the Lord and should be treated as such and honored. It must be done in the confines of marriage. Misuse of this gift is sin in the eyes of the Lord.
---Matthew on 7/7/07


Alan of UK; 1 Corinthians 7:29.
This chapter speaks of the married being as though they were not as to set all of their focus on the Lord even though they are married.
Frank3443
---Frank on 7/7/07


Prior to my husband and I getting married, we made a vow to wait until our wedding night. During the years that I was single, I found that most Christian men did not have that kind of committment to the Lord. My husband was more interested in what his standing with the Lord was than with satisfying his own desires. That's one of the reasons I married him.
---Susie on 7/7/07


My dear friend waited until her wedding night. She was 48-years old and her husband was in his early 50's and had only been married once before his wife died. He also waited for marriage. This is rare today, but it is the way God wants it. The problem is that if you are planning to marry someone and have relations with them and the wedding doesn't happen, you are forever connected to them.
---Susie on 7/7/07


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Alan of UK:: there is a lot to be said of Celibacy.Because it is the other side of the coin.Celibate means chaste & Pure defying the call of Concupicence.Christ as an example choose that path as a man.To show its possibility.There are many others who took the same life style & are glorified.Some widowers & widows follow the line of their choice.It is not uncommon,but is a perfect answer to recieve grace& closer union with God.
---Emcee on 7/7/07


Because they are led by their flesh. The Bible states that natural man cannot understand the things of God. Also your vow to God is not appreciated by people who cannot live the same kind of committment.
---Tsuanne on 7/7/07


LeAndra; that's fine. Just do it. You don't have to vow. The Lord said not to make vows. His words, not mine.
Frank3443
---Frank on 7/7/07


LeAndra ... Did you pose that question accusing all Christian men just so that you could make that personal testimony?
You make yourself sound rather self-righteous, although I am sure you are not, and that you do understand that MOST Christian men do respect women.
---alan_of_UK on 7/7/07


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Frank You say "Paul said even the married women should be as not married"
Can you give the quote please.
Are you saying that married men should remain celibate? If so, we would be extinct by now!
---alan_of_UK on 7/7/07


We are called to be holy,and pure before the Lord and to present our bodies as a living sacrifice to the Lord. I love the Lord with all my heart and soul and I have dedicated my life to waiting on Him,for His direction and leading. Which is why I have decided to wait for my husband. People might think it's hard but not when you know that your Father has great plans for you. It is worth everything to live for the Lord and to be led by the Holy Spirit.
---Charisa on 7/7/07


It is my heartfelt prayer to see every man walk in the light and become who he really is, why Would I contradict who is in me for a few moments of pleasure? What I wanna know is why do men tell women they love GOD, Quote the scriptures, and even do missionary work, etc, but have an issue with a woman who truly loves GOD and is living the way God has commanded her to?
---leandra on 7/7/07


I really thank God for women like you. In this internet age of pervasive filth, there are still individuals desiring purity in the biblical sense. May our Lord keep and bless you. Take heart. There ARE men who appreciate women like you. Men with strong self-discipline.
---Jacob on 7/7/07


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I have taken a VOW (something I intend to never break)unto GOD that I will not lay with a man until marriage. God desire us to be christ-like, which means presenting our bodies as a living sacrifice, holy, consecrated, set apart, for the upbuilding of the Kingdom Of GOD. I am filled with the holy spirit and my body is his dwelling place! I lead a life that is well pleasing to GOD, and if that means letting my flesh rot and not get no pleasure before my husband comes, then SO BE IT!
---LeAndra on 7/7/07


why would I want to ruin the life of a king by leading him into the chambers of death / hades, because I chose to take him to bed instead of church? Why would I want to be the loose woman who is describe in the book of proverbs instead of the virteous woman instead?
---leandra on 7/7/07


Susie Marcia & others::A vow is a commitment made after careful consideration of what it entails & is a PERSONAL CHOICE.Just as it is your choice to be married & have children.Jesus came & made the same choice why must people THRUST their views & impose their beliefs on others.The graces obtained by the choice of that life style enables one to reach perfection more readily.This applies to both sexes,& is commendable in the eyes of the lord WHY because HE CHOSE THE SAME WAY.
---Emcee on 7/6/07


You know exactly what I mean by no vows. Quit twisting words. Vows other than marital during a wedding. Foolish vows unto God. Those who say we don't have any understanding better watch what Spirit they are railing out against. It's no wonder Christianity is an abomination before God with only a remnant left.
Frank3443
---Frank on 7/6/07


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Furthermore, it's not us that speak from our mind and not our spirit. Those who insist in living what they speak from the spirit of man or spirit of err are the ones that are blaspheming and too blind to see it. Paul said even the married women should be as not married. But that must be taught by the Spirit and not the spirit that these here heed to.
Frank3443
---Frank on 7/6/07


If the vow is for the remainder of your life, it is unusual, & men are likely tempted to test your resolve, or try to have you as a wife, knowing no other man has had you.

If the vow is until marriage, they are likely seeking you as a wife, or testing you to see if you are like many women who break vows.

All people need a "gift" from God to remain celebate, including Paul.
---a_servant on 7/6/07


This is another example that men are not guided by their minds or their spirits. It is sad, but most men would rather you not keep that vow of celibacy once you get into a relationship with them.
---Susie on 7/6/07


Christians who do not appreciate a women or man who takes a vow of celibacy unto the Lord lack understanding. God has called all single Christians to purity until the time appointed to marry. In the last days Paul said it is better for a man or a women who is not bound to another to stay single. If the man or the women cannot keep themselves it is better for them to marry then to burn with passion. Nevertheless, you will have problems just as all marriaged couples do. The single life is better.
---Marcia on 7/6/07


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I am not sure about what you mean by appreciate but maybe you are speaking of ignorant and rude people. However, the Bible teaches that we are not to concern ourselves with what man thinks of us but rather to fear God who controls the destiny of our souls. It is He that you serve. God will bless you for your service to Him. Blessings.
---jody on 7/6/07


Men shouldn't have any problem if it is done Scripturally. If she married and does this without her husbands blessings then the vow is void. Read Num. 30. It deals with vows that a lady makes. Either her parents (if she is still in their house), or her husband need to be in agreement with these vows or else they are void. If there is agreement then the vow stands.
---john on 7/6/07


Frank."we are to make no vows"?? So would you say people should no longer get married but just live together without vows because they are just going to break them anyways?
---john on 7/6/07


Hi, Leandra . . . are we talking about you? Whoever she is is welcome to write me here in Christianet. I'd be interested in letting her speak for herself about how her celibacy is for her.

Jesus did say, "swear not".

But I would want to get the know the individual person. Not all commitments to celibacy are right, not all are wrong, I'd say.
---Bill_bila5659 on 7/6/07


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I have heard Mary referred to as the Queen of Heaven. Jeremiah 44 says those who vow, worship, make sacrifice, or burn incense to the queen of heaven are an abomination unto the Lord. Psalm 141:2 Let my prayer be set before thee as incense and the lifting up of my hands as the evening sacrifice. That which appears admirable may be an abomination in the eyes of God. We are to make no vows. They condemn themselves with their own words.
Frank3443
---Frank on 7/6/07


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