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She Doesn't Like Me

What am I to do about my new daughter-in-law? I learned after their first week of marriage that neither she or her mother like me. They treated me very rudely at the dinner and wedding. I am deeply wounded.

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 ---Claudia on 7/23/07
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Claudia, trust in Christ with a contrite heart, surrender your failures to Lord. He will resolve the problems within no time. Don't share your problems with any other person, but only open yourselves to Lord, becasue it goes from mouth to mouth and finally may reach your son and doaughter in law and backfire on you. Cheers n be happy, Sing praises to God, because He is always there for us.
---aivlis on 4/28/08

This could be your sign, that your son is married now. It's time to let him go.
Catch and release (flyfishing). Getting all wounded and emotional will drive the wedge further apart and make your son absolutely miserable. Better start off on another foot and it's called forgiveness.
Examine your behavior with Dinlaw/mother, make changes. Stay sweet and act pretty, they'll probably forgive you.
If you don't, grandchildren can be used as a tool against meddling Minlaws.
---Brad on 4/28/08

"How could I? I was only the mother of the bride."

Who's mother are you, I think you meant motherinlaw. There are always two sides to every story. I would like to hear the other side.
---Brad on 7/29/07

Thank you for all your suggestions, most of which I have done already. No, I did not make demands. How could I? I was only the mother of the bride. My son and I have had a wondeful relationship in which I respected his privacy, especially with his dating. My husband was also treated the same and neither of us understand.
---Claudia on 7/29/07

1)The Bible teaches that we are to live at peace with every one 'IN SO FAR AS POSSIBLE'.I am sorry for your feelings as I know how it is to want to be loved by new family members.However,you do not have the power to cause someone to love you. And you are not able to stop rude behavior. The Bible teaches us to pray for those who persecute you and your enemies.Something spiritually is wrong with them for them to act in that manner. Pray for their salvation.
---jody on 7/25/07

2)Otherwise, I would not seek out conversation with them only to have my feelings trampled. If they do call on you for some reason, treat them kindly and tenderheartedly. Forgive them. Pray to God that you can have love for them. Let them seek you out. I am sorry and my prayers are with you.
---jody on 7/25/07

try and keep peace as best you can for your sons sake....
pray for them they most feel real resentment for some reason you do not know, maybe your son took there only daughter away from them...
---irene7395 on 7/25/07

Elder's answer was short and simple, but oh so true. It's not easy being disliked, but that doesn't exempt us from loving them. Keep the peace for your son's sake, and just keep loving them as best you can. And be yourself! Don't try to win their affection. Try to go on as always, and pray they will have a change of heart towards you as they get to know you better.
---Kady on 7/23/07

You have been called to a test, that you cannot escape and how you respond to your new daughter-in-law and her mother will determine how long you will have to endure their hatefull treatment. I would advise you to pray to your father about them and pray for them. This will keep resentment from growing in your heart until God deals with their hearts. God has choosed to use you in order to deal with their hearts. The Holy Spirit is upon you.
---Marcia on 7/23/07

You are to simply LOVE your enemies..........
---Elder on 7/23/07

Pray for them, and for God to reveal in you what needs to be changed to allow for a relationship with them.
---Madison1101 on 7/23/07

What have you done to them, were you demanding about the wedding plans?
Did you try and tell everyone what to do?
There are two sides to every story.
Are you still trying to tell your son what to do?
Mothers and their sons have a difficult time making the break from sonnyhood to manhood.
---Brad on 7/23/07

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