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Boyfriend Is Pressuring Me

I am a 14 year old mature young adult. Im trying to get closer to God but my boyfriend is insisting on sex. Should I stay with him and continue to encourage him to wait or leave him and make God my man?

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It looks like he is not someone you can trust. So, no way should he be your boyfriend. I offer that God wants you to TEST someone before you trust him or her > notice how even ones worthy to be considered to be pastors MUST be "tested" "first" > see 1 Timothy 3:1-10.

So, if someone is trying to boss you into trusting him or her, this is evil > we are not to boss over people > > "nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock. (1 Peter 5:3)
---Bill_bila5659 on 8/18/07


How old is the boyfriend?. You neglected to say. You are a bit young to even have a boyfriend. Is he a Christian? Hard place to be in for a young girl. I would continue to let him know I wanted to wait and save myself for marriage. If he cannot respect that decision, move on. Your whole life is ahead of you. Don't rush things. Go slow. Keep Christ first in your life.
---Robyn on 8/17/07


Ebony: Boys who play the "IF you love me" game need help. Do so by telling Mr. Testosterone head to take a hike, ride a bike, jog a mile or play some b'ball for a little while!

Bottomline - "If" he really loves you he wouldn't disrespect & ask you to do something that's against your will.

By all means, get close to God. (James 4:8)
---Leon on 8/17/07


Theres nothing like a mature young adult. Youre either young or old. At the age of 14, youre still young. I dont know what youre doing with a so-called boy friend. Forget this misguided Western world culture of boy-friends and girl-friends for people who are not yet ready for marriage. As a young Christian, all boys are supposed to be just your brothers and all girls your sisters. Treat and relate with them as such until youre an adult whos is ready for marriage.
---Max on 8/17/07


Theres nothing like a mature young adult. Youre either young or old. At the age of 14, youre still young. I dont know what youre doing with a so-called boy friend. Forget this misguided Western world culture of boy-friends and girl-friends for people who are not yet ready for marriage. As a young Christian, all boys are supposed to be just your brothers and all girls your sisters. Treat and relate with them as such until youre an adult whos is ready for marriage.
---Max on 8/17/07




Theres nothing like a mature young adult. Youre either young or old. At the age of 14, youre still young. I dont know what youre doing with a so-called boy friend. Forget this misguided Western world culture of boy-friends and girl-friends for people who are not yet ready for marriage. As a young Christian, all boys are supposed to be just your brothers and all girls your sisters. Treat and relate with them as such until youre an adult whos is ready for marriage.
---Max on 8/17/07


Ebony, the fact that you are even considering God is rare in our young people today, and to me shows that God is dealing with you. Listen to God, do not jump into something that you will regret later on in your life. I agree with the moderator, move on. You are very young be patient, work on having a personal, close relationship with God.He will bring a Godly man into your life when the time is right. Trust God.
---Cynthia on 8/16/07


You're not an adult and in most states, it would be called rape. Do you have any parents that care about your welfare as a teenager?
---Brad on 8/16/07


A boyfriend that would rob you of your purity and/or make a fornicator out of you doesn't appear to care about your wellbeing but is interested in his own lust at your expense. Talk to him about his desire to dishonor you. If he won't take heed then send him on his way. There are lots of guys that will honour you and care for your wellbeing. I suggest you leave guys alone for a few years but if you insist then at least make it a good one.
---john on 8/16/07


Move forward. JEsus will bless you for obeying him and will give you someone better at the right time. Trust him. Be Blessed:)
---sandiee on 8/16/07




You maybe 14 and sense your only 14 you need to dump the boyfriend. If he truly cares about you which he probably doesn't then he shouldn't be pressuring you to do something you don't. How old is he? If he is 17 or 18 he is an adult and he can go to jail! otherwise tell ur parents and most of listen to God he is the one who is telling you to leave him.
---ANN on 8/16/07


If he's pressuring you after you already said no, then leave him & find a godly man. You're too young to date anyhow, wait 4 yrs or 6, in the meantime grow your relationship with God.
---Candice on 8/16/07


Ebony, if your desire is a closer walk with the Lord and your boyfriend is pulling you in the opposite direction, then he doesn't really love you. If a boy/man in your life isn't concerned first with his own relationship with the Lord, then how can he be concerned about yours? I am with the moderator on this one. Move on.
---Linda on 8/16/07


A 14 year old is not an adult. Is that a typo?

Regardless of the age, dump the boyfriend and move on, as the mod said.
---Trish9863 on 8/16/07


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