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Dating A Non-Believer

I am a protestant non-denominational believer. I was saved 5 years ago and am currently dating a catholic girl who is not saved. Is it unbiblical to marry her if she is unsaved?

Moderator - Yes, as well as unbiblical be dating her.

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I'm sure you've heard this but, yes it is wrong. 2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? To yoke yourself to someone who is bound to an idolatrous denomination, is definitely wrong. If you truly love this person then you have a journey before you. While remaining in abstinence you must witness to and pray for this woman. However, you need to seek His wisdom in ALL things, ask Him if she is the one He has chosen for you. He will let you know! Trust me, the consequences of marrying an unbeliever anyway, are long term and agonizing spiritually.
---Sharon on 6/20/10



I don't know the whole story, but HOW can you say that she is not saved? She has been baptized and confirmed, confimation is the way we accept Christ as our savior at the age of 14(could be 16-18 too.)
If you are truly a Christian, in both body and spirit, how can you discriminate against the FIRST CHRISTIAN faith? How can you?
I have been constantly singled out in my locale because a certain protestant group believes I am not saved. It is not nice and is indeed painful to be rejected so callously. It is a terrible feeling to lose quote on quote 'friends' just because I won't convert.
Please consider this.
Thank you, from a teenage Catholic that has been judged and found wanting too many times.
---anna on 12/4/09


You better know it is. But to go around and tell everyone about your beliefs you don't do it, unless, and pay attention, unless God has instruct you to do it. Which on occasions He may. Another thing is this, people may not pay any attention, anyways. There is a scripture that says and I quote>>"do not try and pin your religion on someone elses sleeve because they may not wear it. It's in there I have read it. Again, always do the will of the Father.
---catherine on 6/18/08


Lee "be careful on saying something is out of God's will, because who are we to ever make that bold statement? God is sovereign and all knowing, nothing we do is 'out' of His will...He would not be all knowing if that was the case." I totally disagree with you here. If we study the bible we know very often when we are 'in' or 'out' of God's will. The rules are there, plain to see.
---RitaH on 6/16/08


2. We do things that we choose to do because we want to do them and, if they are contrary to God's word they are also contrary to God's will. Just because He is all knowing (and knows when we sin) does not make that sin His will for us.
---RitaH on 6/16/08




3. If I could totally convince myself that everytime I sin it was in God's will then I would never have a guilty conscience about my sin and would never have the desire to repent and ask for His forgiveness. I dread to think where I would be now if that were the case.
---RitaH on 6/16/08


I will not specifically comment on the dating part, but i will say to the replies i have read...be careful on saying something is out of God's will, because who are we to ever make that bold statement? God is sovereign and all knowing, nothing we do is 'out' of His will...He would not be all knowing if that was the case.
---Lee on 6/15/08


Although I have seen a few saved Catholics, I refer to the following:
2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
---denna7667 on 5/31/08


Ian, why would you want to marry anyone who is NOT saved? Jesus said, "If you love me, you'll obey me." and the word of God tells us clearly: DO NOT BE UNEQUALLY YOKED TOGETHER WITH UNBELIEVERS. Even Christians on different levels of their faith can have problems in their marriage. How would you pray together if she isn't saved? How would you worship together? If you love the Lord, you should not even be dating an unbeliever...I know it's hard, but it's obedience to the word that pleases God.
---Donna on 9/24/07


Although we should not marry anyone that we are unequally yoked with, 1 Corinthians 7 tackles all of that. Specifically these statements 1 Corinthians 7:9, 12-16 addresses the unique issues of people falling in love with people outside of the faith we each have. It is not a sin to be married to an unbeliever, but a sin to continue in lust (unmarried) with an unbeliever. Hebrews 13:4 clears that up as well!!! Church of Christ
---Church_of_Christ on 9/21/07




1st John 5:13 states, "These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God, that ye may KNOW that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God."

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---Andrea on 9/21/07


Ian,
Labels and denominations aside, could you witness to the Love
between the two of you? You mention marriage so I will assume
you have been dating for awhile and are mutually "pleased" to
be together. If you love her, you would disprove that she is
"unrighteous" and "darkness". Right now she is a "girl", but after
marriage she will become a woman, so tell us what kind of woman
you see her as in the future. Stand by your girl always.
---Nana on 9/21/07


I totally agree with Denna, 2 Corinthians 6:14 tells us to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. God's word is very clear on this.
---Cynthia on 9/20/07


Hi, lan . . . denna has pointed out how it is un-Biblical. Even if you know someone in a Bible obeying church, you need to SENSE if she really is saved. Saying so because I copy-catted a salvation prayer and got baptized does not prove I'm saved. You can tell...in God's love, we can have reliable sense > "And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment." (Philippians 1:9)
---Bill_bila5659 on 9/20/07


I have a lady lovefriend who is brilliant, beautiful, fiery about her beliefs and humanitarian caring, sweet, sensitive, charming. But she is not deeply stable and personally sharing with God, but into intellectual...how an unsaved person can refine herself to become after living in American religious CULTURE for sixty or so years. And a pedophile can use religious CULTURING to camouflage himself, even as a priest, fooling the superficial.
---Bill_bila5659 on 9/20/07


Unequally yoked only applies to Christian and Pagans who do not worship YHWH. Your friend is Catholic and is just as much a Christian as much as you are. But there are definitive doctrinal differences if you marry in a Catholic Church regarding raising your Children Roman Catholic that is simply a personal choice for you. If you she does not want to be married in the Roman Catholic Church you don't have any major problems. There are many similar marriages that have good track records.
---notlaw99 on 9/20/07


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How do you know she is unsaved? Because she wears the name "catholic" like you wear the name "protestant non-denominational believer"? If you haven't asked her if she is born again, you should. No man can call Jesus "Lord" but by the Spirit of God.
---Linda on 9/20/07


If she is not born again then, yes, God desires for you to marry within the family so as to prevent the tremendous heartache of having the devil as a father-in-law. At some point in time, there will be opposition, either with her father, with her, or with yourself. Ask, don't assume and then receive the instruction of the Lord accordingly.
---Linda on 9/20/07


Denna just gave you one of the best scriptures. There is no way that you should even be considering marrying this woman. And as the moderator suggests, it should never have gotten to this stage since you should not as a Christian man have ever dated her in the first place. You wil do what you will do but do pray to God and know that if you choose marriage, it is not in line with God's will.
---jody_martin on 9/20/07


Yes Ian it is. Being unequally yoked with an unbeleiver may not seem like much now, but when you are actualy in the marriage with the person, it can be a living nightmare. Its all downhill from the wedding day.
---Whisper on 9/20/07


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