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Spouse Has No Passion

If your spouse does not share your passion for Spiritual things, how do you deal with the frustration and sadness? Scriptures would be appreciated.

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 ---Cynthia on 10/17/07
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Yes..there is sadness and pain when one of the spouses are saved and the other is not. It puts a damper on the relationship when you cannot share the most sacred part of yourself with your significant Other. I have been there. You want someone who will pray with you, you want to read and study the bible together and you don't have that.Sometimes you want the unsaved spouse to go to church with you and be involved in church activities but he/she could care less. This hurts,my sister. I know.
---Robyn on 10/23/07


**how do you deal with the frustration and sadness?**

You see sister, this where you get it wrong. You don't deal with the frustration and sadness. God does. In fact you must not be sad and frustrated because your spouse is not what you want him/her to be. It is God's responsibility. Your spouse was created by God and only He has ultimate responsibility over him. Yours is only to pray for him and trust God to do what He wants to do in him and any time He chooses to do it.
---Jackie on 10/23/07


When my husband and I first got married, neither one of us were saved. After we heard the message of Jesus Christ, I recieved Him as my Lord and Savior. I do not think that my husband did, because there has never been evidence of a changed life . You are a new creature in Christ, old things have passed away and all things are new. I understand what Christ has done for all who have recieved Him. You have a changed heart. Now I am not perfect, but I am born again. This is what I mean.
---Cynthia on 10/21/07


Very easy. Be patient. Read 1 Corinthians 13 - Love is patient... love doesn't demand its way ... Be sad and frustrated only with yourself, not with with others simply because they are not what you want them to be!
---Jackie on 10/19/07


1 Peter 3:1-6 tells women who have husbands that need to be "won over" exactly what to do. For clarity, I recommend studying it in the Amplified translation which is available on the Internet at the Bible Gateway website, if you don't have a copy of the Amplified Bible available.
---DoryLory on 10/18/07




Amen, Robyn!! Sad but true--it is far worse to be married to a fake, thankful I am single again and happy :) I remember once telling my ex (calmly) that I thought it strange that he preached Jesus on local tv--but I couldn't find Him at home.
---Mary on 10/18/07


First of all it is a tough place to be in. I totally relate to what you are saying. This is why God admonishes us not marry someone who is not saved, if we are. We will live to regret it. Even though marrying someone saved is no guarantee of happiness,either. There are so many fake Christians around these days. You may marry one and then find out they are not what you thought they were. You will be more frustrated and sadden. Marrying a hypocrite is worse than marrying an unsaved man/woman.
---Robyn on 10/17/07


Cynthia, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. Enjoy the scriptures and live God's will. That includes loving your spouse and being a good Christian wife. Perhaps joining a local prayer group or Bible study group might be more your thing and pray quietly for your husband. God will speak to him in His own way.
---lorra8574 on 10/17/07


In addition to what Bill said, Father God, in His goodness, will let us miss Him a little when we aren't on track, creating a void that cries out for fulfillment. Father hears that cry, believe me.
---Linda on 10/17/07


"Do all things without complaining and disputing," (Philippians 2:14) It says to do everything "without" disputing...without arguing. Even secular counselors have seen a connection of how wives have suffered depression after increased arguing in their marriages. We can't become mature and sound in Your love while still we can readily give in to arguing.
---Bill_bila5659 on 10/17/07




Sadness in the Holy Spirit is in the blessed goodness of the Holy Spirit > "but the sorrow of the world produces death" (in 2 Corinthians 7:10) > so if my frustration and sadness is not in the goodness and beauty of God, then I also am missing out on the REAL spiritual things, maybe looking for SHOW of being spiritual, and the spouse may be down because of these false things having failed. So examine YOURSELF.
---Bill_bila5659 on 10/17/07


Example wins > "nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3) Your cup will run over with whatsoever is really in your cup, to make others the same way > an example is a sample of how God's love makes us "as He is, so are we in this world." (in 1 John 4:17) So, do your homework to learn real loving, this will not go to waste (1 Corinthians 15:58).
---Bill_bila5659 on 10/17/07


"And I will very gladly spend and be spent for your souls, though the more abundantly I love you, the less I am loved." (2 Corinthians 12:15) This is the way to love, no matter how my spouse turns on me, goes flacid, etc. This is our Apostle Paul's example of how we need to love all people. Seek this first (Matthew 6:33), and fulfilling relationships will develop with others who are into this. God knows how you are, down deep, and He has things going according to what **He*** knows (o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 10/17/07


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