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How To Love The Unlovable

How do you LOVE the UNLOVABLE? Loud, rude, boisterous, arrogant, obnoxious, selfish, noncaring, un-feeling, and verbaly abusive people? That continue to take advantage of your kindness? SCRIPTURES?

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Back to the subject of sanctification, that is God workig in and through us.

Paul murdered, He murdered someone Father, Mother, son or dauthter, nephew or neice, Grandmother Grandfather. Paul murdered Christians. God saved Paul, and the church forgave Paul.

David murdered too and stole someone elses wife in doing so. God forgave David....and David was saved. He certainly suffered the consequences for his actions, but was forgiven by God.

So who are we to sit in judgement of anyone?

Man categorized sin on a 1-10 basis and judges man according to man's judgement.

In God's eyes sin is sin.
---kathr4453 on 7/21/11


markv, Are you God that you have the power to pass truth to me? LOL!!!

MarkV I asked you to prove through scripture God showed the wicked mercy by destroying them.

You can't so that is why you are making hateful remarks to me..same ol same ol smoke screen. It's really getting old and worn out mark...try a different approach.

However Israel did exercise free will by not destroying the Gibeonites as they were instructed. And the Gibeonites willfully deceived THE Israelites. Or was God ordering the deception?

But back to MERCY.

Have you read Romans 11 where God will have MERCY on Israel through the MERCY He is now showing us today? Isn't God wondeful MarkV!







---kathr4453 on 7/21/11


Kathr, you don't deserve any more Truth, for you reject it. Every time you speak there is a motive behind it and it is not for the glory of God, but for your own wicked purpose. I will answer one more time with Scripture.

"But of the cities of these people, which the Lord thy God doth give thee for an inheritance, thou shalt save alive nothing that breatheth: but thou shalt utterly destroy them, namely, the Hittites, and the Amorites, the Canaanites, and the Perizzites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites, as the Lord thy God hath commanded" Deut. 20:16,17).
And as you say all have, they all had free will for nothing. God didn't force Himself on them, He ordered them destroyed.
---Mark_V. on 7/21/11


James 2:12-14
12So speak ye, and so do, as they that shall be judged by the law of liberty.

13For he shall have judgment without mercy, that hath shewed no mercy, and mercy rejoiceth against judgment.
(James talking to the christian here...are unsaved people judged by the law of LIBERTY??)

14What doth it profit, my brethren, though a man say he hath faith, and have not works? can faith save him?

Remember the law of Liberty is the Law of the Life of Christ in you.

Many people only have a relationship with doctrine. as twisted as some may be, and never experience the Christian life at all. James is saying doctrine without the LIFE IN CHRIST revealed in you is dead. Can doctrine alone save you? NO!
---kathr4453 on 7/21/11


Markv, just a quick question. What Canaanite children are you talking about? The ones that only occupied the land God promised Abraham, or all Canaanites in general? So only those on that promised piece of real estate were killed and that brought mercy and blessings to the whole world? God told Abraham 400 years before that that their time would be up. 400 years later Israel posesses the Land, not the whole world.

Some canaanites even got saved! And not all were killed. The Gibeonites became servants to Israel. Esau married a Canaanite..were they all killed too?
---kathr4453 on 7/21/11




Kathr, you say,

"You just talk and talk and talk in circles, ever learning and NEVER able to come to the truth."

That is what you just did yourself, two post all talk. You speak love and forgiveness, while your heart if fill with hate, because you disagree that God is Omnipotent. Your god does not line up to the God of Scripture. So you blame me for your lack of the Truth. Did you not read
"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you" And Jesus said,
"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brothers eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye"
---Mark_V. on 7/21/11


The extermination of the Canaanite children was not only an act of mercy and love to the world at large, but it was also an act of love and mercy to the children themselves. What awaited these children, if they had been allowed to live, was something vastly worse than death.
---Mark_V. on 7/20/11


You say alot markv based on nothing but opinion. Where is your scripture to back that up.

What could possibly be worse than death and your soul damned forever with an eternity in hell. You think that is more merciful than life?

You say that ONLY because you can't understand God showing mercy to those who show mercy.

God JUDGED those in Canaan. Judgement without mercy. Please don't confuse mercy with Judgement.
---kathr4453 on 7/20/11


Markv, you totally twist scripture and blow in the wind.

God's Mercy is in Jesus Christ and He alone. Not bringing death to someone to show mercy towards you. God can have mercy on you without showing judgement on someone to prove it.


You just talk and talk and talk in circles, ever learning and NEVER able to come to the truth.

WE LOVE even the most unlovable because it is God's will and life in us PERIOD...end of sentence.

You've just never been tried in the fire to KNOW what others here are talking about. We're talking about the power of Christ in you...not anything else.
---kathr4453 on 7/20/11


Mark, "don't worry, I'm not taking anything wrong from you." Good, I'm glad. Unlike you, I do believe we are called to love our enemies. Yes, God's love is different from ours. I couldn't love such an offender on my own. As for the Canaanite children, I think you know what I believe from your own post about God loving the wicked etc. I still think that was a really good post. Too bad the best ones close so quickly
---chria9396 on 7/20/11


Chria, don't worry, I'm not taking anything wrong from you. You said,
"!. I don't believe it's possible to TRULY forgive without the love of God." I also believe that. In order to forgive you do have to have the love of Christ. But that does not mean I have a love for the criminal. How could I? Am not call to love everyone who kills my family time and again. I don't mean forgive them, but love them. Eloy is right, God love is different then ours.
The extermination of the Canaanite children was not only an act of mercy and love to the world at large, but it was also an act of love and mercy to the children themselves. What awaited these children, if they had been allowed to live, was something vastly worse than death.
---Mark_V. on 7/20/11




I have been a Christian for many decades and I am well seasoned with the hurtful wrongs that sinners inflict upon Christians. When we are abused and persecuted, we need to pray to our his help and instructions. For the word "love" has various definitions. Sometimes lending a ear to your enemy or giving them a glass of water when they're thirsty is love, other times not replying back to them but instead just quietly turning and walking away from them is love. For if all they desire to do is to fault you and to trash you, then avoid waisting time with them.
---Eloy on 7/20/11


Kathr, you said a lot and most of is because of failure to believe in the Word of God, God is in control and I didn't say this but God did and if you believed His Word and not reject it, you too would know the will of God, "A man's heart deviseth his way: but the Lord directeth his steps" (Prov. 16:9). In your answers to me, you plainly, before everyone on line, proof what I have been saying, you call God a liar. The reason you argue is because what He says and what you believe do not line up. You know why? Because what you believe is wrong. Because God is never wrong. What He says and what He feels, has nothing to do with what I will feel if someone raped and killed my daughter. He is perfect and I am not.
---Mark_V. on 7/20/11


Mark, I in no way wish to be critical of you. PLEASE don't take anything I say that way.
"forgiving them and praying for them does not mean you love them in your heart. Not the love explained in 1 Cor. 13. Now that is true love." !. I don't believe it's possible to TRULY forgive without the love of God. 2> That love is not of myself, but of God, a supernatural love imparted for a particular circumstance. 3. I still wrestle with flesh, need to lay it down 4. 1 Cor 13 love includes "keeps no record of wrongs." Don't we need to forgive to wipe the slate clean? WE may never forget, you're right, but in time, remembrance is less keen as well as frequent, unless of course we feed bitterness, desire for revenge, etc.
---chria9396 on 7/20/11


--I hate no one. But I'm not going to stand here and say I would love someone who did those things to my daughter. Just not possible. I could forgive and hold no bitterness for them but I know I could never forget. God made me that way.
---Mark_V. on 7/20/11

No - Adam made us that way. Youll never forget, but its very possible to forgive and love that person in spite of their evil.
You have to look at them thru Gods eyes instead of your own. In spite of all the evil we've done against him, God loved us enough to lay his life down for us. At times it is very hard, but it most certainly is possible. He puts that love in the believer.
---CraigA on 7/20/11


markv: I agree. A lot talk but don't walk. Talk is cheap and action proves who is who.

As for forgiveness? We are supposed to forgive because God has forgiven us. But there are things that are incredibly hard to forgive. I have trouble forgiving certain things and don't really know if I could forgive some heinous crime like rape and murder since I have not been through that, thank God.

It's easy to spout off the mouth until you have experienced it for yourself.

Let people think what they want of you. There are people here who misunderstand and misjudge me all the time and that is their problem.

You don't know someone until you really know someone and the internet is not conducive to real intimacy in my opinion.
---poopsey on 7/20/11


MarkV, You say God is in control. Every man's steps are ordered by God. You also suggest even evil man's steps are ordered by God too. SO if He ordered an evil man to rape and murder your family, then isn't it God who allowed it to begin with, not only allowing but ordering it.

What you are suggesting then is you refuse to forgive God for allowing it.

No one has free will MarkV not even the evil. They do exactly as God orders. That's called His Sovereignty. He can do anything He wants to who He wants, how He wants.......isn't that what you preach?

Did God allow this then to bring out hatred in you, then making you a murderer in your own heart?

Think about it, based on your own beliefs.
---kathr4453 on 7/20/11


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Chria, I'm glad for you. Glad that you could forgive them. But forgiving them and praying for them does not mean you love them in your heart. Not the love explained in 1 Cor. 13. Now that is true love.
I'm sorry you went through what you did and had hate for them but now don't, it make's your future better to get rid of that hate.
I hate no one. But I'm not going to stand here and say I would love someone who did those things to my daughter. Just not possible. I could forgive and hold no bitterness for them but I know I could never forget. God made me that way.
---Mark_V. on 7/20/11


VERY REAL for ME! It was so hard My Mother got killed! Yes! I mention my prev.Blogg it so hard I cud NOT even pray! I shut down & it was A Process ....Didn't happen over night! Took ME 6 years To Forgive the person who killed my mother. It cost me alot,that's the truth. Bitterness affects your health,your mind,etc. My mother was not saved but,I knew she loved the person who killed her.Over time it just made sense to me Let Go & Let God. Upon his incarceration begged me to forgive... Eventually I did.It was not going to bring Mom back,Did give me back my peace of mind & back to God. God bless all...
---ELENA on 7/20/11


---What I do know is that Craig has been trying to find something to make me look bad and I suppose this is one he thought would help his cause---

My cause is only to extend the love of Christ to all men. And He is working in me mightily to do so. Noone is trying to make anyone look bad here. For the first time in a long time we're not even discussing doctrine and yet you are still defensive. You gotta let it go, brother.
---CraigA on 7/19/11


Mark, It's not about who's a better christian, I pray you let that go. You're right, talk is cheap. When I say it's possible, it's because I have experienced it, not the exact scenario you described, but something close enough. My flesh HATED these people, more then 1 were involved, but 1 in particular committed the most horrific acts. I was devastated, grieved and in emotional turmoil for a long time, BUT God dealt with me in that place, and put His love in me for these people, and even more so for the worst offender. I've been in serious prayer for this person. It is not of me, I can in no way take credit for it. With lesser offenses/offenders I haven't had that dramatic experience of God and those situations seem more difficult.
---chria9396 on 7/19/11


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Markv, in our flesh, natural man/mind it would be impossible to love and forgive. BUT in His Love and power it is not. What you are saying is you've never experienced/given a love that transends our own.

How can we not forgive knowing our sin has been forgiven. There's a parable on that very subject, with a warning. Do you know which one it is???


Did you not hear about a Black woman/Christian who love/forgave a man KKK who murdered her son? TRUE story. THROUGH her love and forgivness he received Jesus Christ, as he saw Christ in her. Amazing story. We are to be conformed to HIS IMAGE. Forgiving in His Power is being conformed to His Image.
---kathr4453 on 7/19/11


Donna66, the experience has never happened to me. I know many here talk the talk but never do the walk. They say what they would do if someone raped and killed their daughter, but it has not happened to them. Talk is cheap. As Craig quoted Jesus, "forgive them for they know not what they do" but did God forgive them, who was behind that act of Juda's? Satan. and was he forgiven? I don't think so. Hell is prepared for him and his angels. No one is forgiven without faith in the works of Christ. All those Jesus spoke to, who didn't love Him in John 8:42-47, were of the devil. "Therefore you do not hear, because you are not of God" Those who do the deeds of their father the devil, will continue the path to hell.
---Mark_V. on 7/19/11


Chria, as I said, Craig is more Christian then I am. I gave him the credit he so much wanted. I have no quarrel with anyone. If they can forgive someone who raped their daughter and then killed them, more power to them. But I don't believe God would disagree since He left us in the flesh knowing full well how we would act and what we would do even what the thoughts in our mind are way before we even think them. What I do know is that Craig has been trying to find something to make me look bad and I suppose this is one he thought would help his cause. I agree with you and bless him for been a better Christian.
---Mark_V. on 7/19/11


Craig and Christina-- I agree. As humans, it's usually not possible to forgive while still reeling with shock and pain. Even for the Christian, it may take quite a while and may involve a period of struggle.

But Jesus suffered and died for all sins, not just the "little" ones. He can put His spirit of forgiveness in us...and will, in time, if we allow Him to. It's an amazing experience, this freedom to forgive... not at all of our own doing.

After all, it just doesn't make sense for any of us to keep from others, the forgiveness Jesus has freely given to us.
---Donna66 on 7/19/11


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why waste your time with those kind of people? did christ waste his time trying to change the pharisees?
and I have NOT NOT seen that with christians. they are experts in quoting verses but putting it in practice? NADA.
---mike on 7/19/11


Mark ... What you have just said takes you very close to a works based salvation
---alan8566_of_uk on 7/19/11


Mark, I KNOW it's possible for God to put love into our hearts for one who's done horrific things like those you mentioned. They don't need to be repentant either, the love of God, "while we were yet sinners..." He sheds abroad in our hearts.(Rom 5:5,6) This IS the love of Christ! I could share some things with you, but will not post them here at this time. His Love, shed abroad in our hearts by the HS IS UNCONDITIONAL.
---chria9396 on 7/19/11


--I'm happy for you to have that love. I cannot while I live love someone who does that to my family. God doesn't love the wicked--MarkV

Would you call those who crucified Christ, wicked? I certainly would! Yet the Son cried out for their forgiveness:

"Father forgive them, for they know not what they do"

Everyone with the Spirit of Christ has this love in them. Its just a matter of tapping into that love. It took me almost 2 decades as a Christian to grow from a judgemental legalistic carnal baby in Christ to one who loves regardless of a person's sins. In all honestly there are still certain sins that I have trouble looking past, but the Holy Spirit is working in my heart daily to make me more like Christ.
---CraigA on 7/19/11


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Craig, I don't know what you meant by all you said and why you said it, but if you can love someone who raped your daughter and slaughtered you wife then you are more of a Christian then I will ever be. I'm happy for you to have that love. I cannot while I live love someone who does that to my family. God doesn't love the wicked, if He did, they would not be burning in hell. His love is powerful enough to save them, but He doesn't. So, blessed are you who can forgive rapist, killers of children.
---Mark_V. on 7/19/11


yes MarkV, we still have the flesh, but we lay it down, and in that place God meets us, empowers us, and what we cannot do on our own is possible.
"He couldn't have meant, someone who raped your daughter or murdered your family, but to love others in general." Yes He could and DOES mean that. What is impossible with man IS possible with God. That's unconditional love. That love, and forgiveness is amazingly powerful, and besides us and our loved ones being saved (our desires) what is the cross all about? Forgive your ENEMIES, love your ENEMIES. It is the Love that surpasses knowledge. Eph 3:16-21. Notice, you can be rooted and established in love, and still go deeper. Bless you.
---chria9396 on 7/19/11


Thankyou! Bro.Craig! Been try'n to get thru earlier..Yes! The whole basic why Christ died forthe ungodly! I have been assaulted,Run over by a friend's nephew(he on drugs)(2 x) suspend' license,beat up by those who thought were "friends"..my mother killed by someone very close Yes! I had to Forgive n yes! God MERCY fell on Me becuz after going thru it ALL.. I realize Jesus went through WORSE! He gave HIS LIFE! For people like those n for people like ME! Took ME Time to Forgive....Thankfull Without GOD .. Bitterness hardens the soul & dries up any peace you would find. I am happy to thank God for Forgiving ALL who past wronged to me. I am sure I did make people mad at times too! Love of jesus!
---ELENA on 7/19/11


-- He couldn't have meant, someone who raped your daughter or murdered your family, but to love others in general.--Mark_V

You MUST love those who have wronged you in such ways. Jesus loved those who put him to death! If we dont, it will lead to bitterness and harden your heart. Love and forgiveness dont come easy in situations like this, but in time you have to let go of the anger and hatred or it will poison your soul.

Bitter people begin to justify their own feelings by claiming it is of God and limiting Gods love to a select group of people that we are NOT bitter towards. Some will even twist scripture in order to justify their own hatred.

Bitterness causes division in the church.
---CraigA on 7/19/11


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I will answer the question this way. I believe when Jesus spoke of loving our neighbor, He couldn't have meant, someone who raped your daughter or murdered your family, but to love others in general. We love God because He first love us. Without that love we would not be able to love Him. That is True Love. His love is everlasting, for He is Holy and just, But our love for others is not everlasting, we still have the flesh to deal with. "There is many devices in a man's heart, nevertheless the counsel of the Lord, that shall stand" (Prov. 19:21) That's why the love we have for Him is not possible to give to the wicked. From the beginning God put a sword between the children of satan and the children of God in Gen. 3:15.
---Mark_V. on 7/19/11


praise the Lord! Thanks again Christina!Happy you here too! Pray for me,Saw sm.Store / Computers! Think 'can afford! Want Christian friends & pen pals! I was told (years ago) wouldn't be able! Someone told me ..Of course you can! They know I am in ChristiaNet! Smile! God bless! Nothing Impossible with God! be penpals talk 'bout Things spiritually uplifting! win souls! ELENA
---ELENA on 7/18/11


Elena, you are quite welcome. I am always happy to "see' you here. "Believe it or NOT really been pray'n & last nite ran into ONE of those Gang banger lady..." I DO believe it. He gives the opportunity, and He also empowers us to do or speak in love. How one receives/responds to that love, may not be as we hope, or may take time, but we can then be confident that in this we did His will. As with plants in a garden, some blossom practically overnight, others take a very long time.Bless you.
---Christina on 7/18/11


Gracious of you,Christina! Thankyou! Goin' to write down those verses yougave me...soon I get home. Had post' a blogg similar situation askin' for prayer & verses! Lots of bad gang activity here! Believe it or NOT really been pray'n & last nite ran into ONE of those Gang banger lady...She had been the one mainly startin' trouble & since I kinda handicapped I DID NOT RECOGNIZE.. HA! HA! I SAID "HI" GOD BLESS YOU! SHE SHOOK HER HEAD N WALK' AWAY! THAT'S GOD FOR YOU!I KEEP PRAY'N GET A CHANCE TO "MEND FENCES" tell her bout Jesus Love! etc..
---ELENA on 7/18/11


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Elena, Absolutely, keep praying for this woman. Bless you.
"How do you LOVE the UNLOVABLE?" By the Grace of God. We are to Luke 6, 27 ...Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. 29 If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. 30 Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. 31 Do to others as you would have them do to you." God puts unlovable people in our lifes for their sake (to be loved) as well as ours, so that we might grow in love. In the natural we do not love the unlovable, but with His help we can,
---christina on 7/16/11


hey! This ELENA again! Update! Coincidense this SAME Lady she call' me recently! Ask Me please PRAY for Her!she almost! For true,got killed! She is n bad shape but,ALIVE! She says somebody did this to her! Yes, been visit'n & praying for her! Get SAVED! Delivered! Keep you's updated! ELENALOVE OF JESUS!
---ELENA on 7/11/11


Have a friend ..she is n my face "smiles"..the next minute,often n my faceor behind my back she "spewsvicious evil words"..she used to teach at some church n they told her step down!she has time n time again had death threats against her life! She refuses to accept the Lord..she stated to me she was glad to stop teach"n n church cuz she don't believe n God no way! she often tells me she believes she is better than others & then later later she states she feels like she is inferior..I pray for her always! I love the verse :If possible live in peace with all men.ANOTHER iS I will keep thee in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on him. Let us all continue n pray for these souls to get delivered! God power veryReal!
---ELENA on 6/23/11


The answer is simple! There is no such thing as an unlovable person, they are only unloved because you base your choice to love them on the way you judge them. Jesus loves everyone, you can always love at a safe distance!
---Tyrone on 12/30/09


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my best friend appears to be jealous of me as i am better educated and have a better lifestyle. We go to the same church and I feel she is always out to bring me down because she sees me as a threat to her leadership. She sort of controls everyone at church including the pastors, and everything at church is always done her way. I love her but of late she has really begun to get under my skin. If anyone tries to talk to her she always justifies herself and says those people do not know God.
---flossie on 12/8/09


Donna66,
That is very good how those verses from Ecclesiastes moved you! You just brought to my remembrance this Scripture, Matthew 13:52: "Then said he unto them, Therefore every scribe which is instructed unto the kingdom of heaven is like unto a man that is an householder, which bringeth forth out of his treasure things new and old."
---Nana on 7/23/09


Nana - what a great scripture in Ecclesiastics! "... thine own heart knoweth that thou thyself likewise hast cursed others." It's as Jesus suggested when He talked about removing a speck from someone's eye tho you have a plank in yours.

Verbally abusive people are angry (maybe with good reason). It might have nothing to do with YOU, even if you are the target. Others who are obnoxious or arrogant may be just trying to be important (because they fear they are not). Messiness and indifference may signal depression/hopelessness. Remember,others have the same needs you do. If the behavior is extreme, do NOT to take it PERSONALLY and do respond with objectivity and calm. "A soft answer turneth away wrath" says Proverbs.
---Donna66 on 7/21/09


unloveable
i will say are people who only seem to think about themselves and comfort only

try not to be too upset
do not talk when you are upset

show kindness, decide in your heart you will be kind no matter what
however take heed to yourself
do not put yourself in a position where you are at his/her mercy

give, give , give but bear in mind that you will hardly receive in return.... that makes it easier to bear.... it doesn't hurt so much if you are not expecting kindness, respect etc. in respect
---pat on 7/21/09


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The bible talks about separating yourself from people like this if you can, if you cannot, do not provoke them to rage by engageing them in arguments and finally pray for them and ask God how he would have you deal with them. Usually they don't know how to handle a quiet meek spirit. I have practiced this for many years and it works.
---Claudia on 6/23/09


These responses sound ideal, and I am in agreement with all scriptures. Practical application of the word to a specific need is what will truly help. Someone who is loud and messy isnt hard to forgive they arent purposely intending to harm you, they just have some issues. But somehow there are a growing number of individuals with a sociopathic spirit that I have been dealing with as well as several other individuals that I know. They are intentionally abusive, they purpose to destroy individuals they cant control,they lie profusely and believe their own lies they are insane but never appear to be. How do you love and forgive without keeping yourself in harms way?
---Nu on 6/22/09


When I'm in this boat, I try to remember that God loves this person just as much as He loves me or anyone else. Therefore, I have no right to harbor negative feelings. I remind myself that this person cannot possibly have a close personal relationship with Jesus. I pray for his/her heart to soften and accept Him as Savior. When I feel myself slip, I just keep praying.
---Alice on 5/17/09


God is a God of Holy Love. The Bible says, "I love those who loves me". People when they die and end up in hell are going to wonder about this God who loved everyone. Why am I in this place, because God loved everyone.. There is not one scripture that says, God loves the wicked man. In answering your question. Holy love for you fellow man must come from God or it is a shallow type love.
---catherine on 2/4/09


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know that God loves all of us.
---jan on 2/2/09


Do an online bible search for "one another" and "each other" to find your answer. And best of all, be patient. For Jesus endured hardship and abuse all the way to the cross.
---Steveng on 1/7/09


as Christians, other people are no longer the problem factor. but we ourselves. we can't change them, but rather we must submit ourselves to God to be changed.
~ from the Amplified Bible confess outloud 1 Corinth. 13:4-8. scripturally correct to do because of Romans 5:5. there are many other equally usable verses on walking in love toward others.
~ as a sower use God's word to sow it into your own heart. do so on a regular daily confession basis. instead of talking about how your neighbors are hard to love.
~ depending on your perseverance your crop of love for others will begin to come up that you and others benefit from the harvest.
---opalgal on 1/7/09


Best thing is to move on up to a deluxe apartment in the sky. Upscale people maybe are easy to love?
---Nana on 12/22/08


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My new neighbors are unlovable. They are noisy and messy. There are 10 people living in a 2-bedroom condo. The many children are not supervised and run wild. Yesterday, I saw the children trying to help their grandmother who was coming home from an operation. She could not stand straight. I went into my closet and found my like-new 4-wheel walker and ran outside my condo with it. I told the grandmother she could use it until she was better. No one speaks English but I think they understood I was trying to send a message of peace.
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---Eda on 12/19/08


"Whisper ... You are talking about US about YOU.
Does God not love us?"
---alan_of_UK on 11/1/07
Just about what I was going to say-That we'll begin to love them as soon as we convince ourselves that many a time we have been the unlovable ourselves.
Ecclesiastes,
7:21: Also take no heed unto all words that are spoken, lest thou hear thy servant curse thee:
22: For oftentimes also thine own heart knoweth that thou thyself likewise hast cursed others.
---Nana on 12/6/08


How about experience. You can read scriptures forever practice is what you need. It's true. Only God and Him directly can help you with this. God has to work with you, until you get it right. Caution however is needed. God will very often lead you into some confrontations. Too many Christians going around smiling all day long trying to look and act like Jesus and failing miserably. while the devil and his people take over everything. Not pleasing to God at all.
---catherine on 12/1/08


"Put not your pearls in front of swine. But instead go out to those in the highways and byways and compell them to come join you in the marriage feast of the Lamb: redeem the time, and go to those whom will hear the gospel and become blessed, and not to those whom will not hear."
---Eloy on 11/30/08


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If one does not consent to the wholesome words of God, he is proud, knows nothing, but is OBCESSED with foolish disputes and arguments over words, from which come envy, strife, reviling, evil suspicions, useless wranglings of men of corrupt minds and destitute of the truth, who suppose that godliness is a means of gain...from such withdraw yourself. (I Tim 6:3-5)

Normally we strive diligently to follow the teachings of I Cor. 13:4-8 which tells us that love is patient, kind, long suffering, not rude etc. But there comes a point when we realize that certain people 90-100% of the time want to merely argue...then we need to follow the I Tim 6:3-5 teachings above, and more-less withdraw ourselves from such people.
---Anne on 11/30/08


By the power of the Holy Spirit that flows through you, let God love them through you. If their that bad, why not just avoid them? and Pray for them?
---Donna on 11/30/08


I am not going to give you scriptures. Only experience. If you realize how bad we all are but Jesus by His wonderful grace saved us, some of us, you will have more compassion for the lost man.. A strong love walk takes alot of time. Be patient with God and with yourself.
---catherine on 11/16/07


Ask God for help to love this person. Also, never return evil for evil but always return good for evil.Rom 12:17.
---john on 11/3/07


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Whisper, I know some children that fit that description and I say to myself, "now I know why some animals eat their young"!
---1st_cliff on 11/3/07


Whisper,

Here are scriptures:
Mt 5:44 But I say unto you, LOVE your enemies, BLESS them that curse you, DO good to them that hate you, and PRAY for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you,

Lu 6:35 But love ye your enemies, and do good, and LEND, hoping for nothing again, and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.

That's our instructions, but they are difficult.

Bless you,
---trey on 11/3/07


jesus said forgive your brother 70 times 7 times a day.God says love they neighbor as yourself,love one another as I have loved you.do you know God loves and forgives and gives salvation to every person whos pesonality is what you have described ,and worse?
---tom2 on 11/3/07


Sue, how I agree with your statement "The one's that are the hardest to love need love the most." but it is sooooo difficult and something that I, personally, need to pray about and ask God to help me with.
---RitaH on 11/3/07


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Whisper: I've always listened to my wise mother. She always said this:
The one's that are the hardest to love need love the most.
I've found it to be true.
---sue on 11/2/07


Humble ourselves. God resists the proud.

We are also told to submit ourselves unto God. God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Submit yourselves, therefore, to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you." (James 4:6-7)
---Michelle on 11/2/07


Jody - good response. I look at them as being in pain. I can get nasty if I'm in pain for awhile. Spiritual and emotional pain can be just as bad.
---Andrea on 11/2/07


Whisper,Oddly, I learned as a therapist, to love unlovable people and the way it happens is that I see them as infants and what they might have been like. Then I see them as a mothers baby and think of the mother holding them and loving them and sometimes I think of them not being loved by their mothers or anyone for that matter.I remember that they are God's creation. But that is basically how it starts. I just start thinking of them as a baby. It happens very naturally for me.Sry,no scripts.:(
---jody on 11/1/07


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Another great question Whisper. You just about described someone that I live with, so as far as avoiding them, well that is kind of hard to do. You never try to change the person, but submit them to the Lord for He is our Creator and allow God to deal with that person. Also I agree that we should let the Lord love that person through us.Sometimes it is hard, and I will admit someone that is hard to love will try you at times. God Bless Whisper!
---Cynthia on 11/1/07


HANG AROUND HERE LONG ENOUGH AND LEARN SOME PATIENCE....but really whisper ...hurting people hurt people. Thats it and when you begin to see them as sorrowful and lost (even christisns) it becomes easier. Notice I didn't say easy. Try but we are not all called to be ministers in every situation so go only if you can maintain your witness.

It seems the Lord is laying this on your heart - let Him train you....
be blessed - you'll be great
---Andrea on 11/1/07


Whisper, Matt.5.43-48, where Jesus tells us to love our enemies. If God gives grace to love them, I suppose we can love anyone, no matter how obnoxious they are.
---John1944 on 11/1/07


It is hard to do. In the verse Lk 6:31 where it says treat others as you would treat them. That doesn't mean if they are mean to you, you can be mean to them. Read all of Luke 6:31-37. In Matthew 5:41-48. It is hard to love your enemies. But the bible doesn't say we had to like them, we just have to love them. There are some people that I love and I wouldn't want anything bad happen to them, but I just don't like them.
---Rebecca_D on 11/1/07


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Whisper
1 John 4:6-8 We are of God: he that knoweth God heareth us, he that is not of God heareth not us. Hereby know we the spirit of truth, and the spirit of error. Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God, and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God, for God is love. So if YOU know God, dont worry His love will flow through you?
---Shawn.M.T on 11/1/07


Whisper ... You are talking about US about YOU.
Does God not love us?
---alan_of_UK on 11/1/07




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