Stay In Love Less Marriage
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If you are being beaten, you should leave right away before he kills you. Go to a safe place and take your children with you. Tell him you will not return unless he agrees to Christian counciling. If he refuses, don't return. You owe it to yourself and your children to keep yourselves safe. I'm not saying you should remarry. That I don't know but I will never believe our God would want us to be abused this way. |
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---bara7776 on 11/24/07 |
alan
What is the Golden rule? what kind of root get such bad fruit? |
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---dsda on 11/20/07 |
dsda ... Do you suggest that God gives a woman a husband who beats her? If so, He also gives her the husband who cheats on her, or the husband who eventually kills her, or the husband who rapes their daughters.
Those are not God's gifts.
God's gift to the woman is the strength and courage to exit from such abusive partnerships (and it is very difficult for them to do so, both legally and psychologically, and often it is against the stupid guidance from their pastor) |
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---a on 11/19/07 |
alan
God is righteous, he give us all we could bear. bible is for the person who read it. for the pure, all is pure. we could not change others but we could change ourselves. after we changed, God will do what we cannot do. |
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---dsda on 11/17/07 |
Deda .... If the husband continues to be abusive, it is clear that he has not repented.
An although the questioner should forgive him, it is very difficult to do this if there is no repentance, and if the abuse continues.
Trev ... Yiu say the victim is bound unless the other cheats ... but is not abuse (especially if it is wife battering) a form of cheating? Adultery is not the only form of betrayal |
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---alan_of_UK on 11/15/07 |
how to repent or forgive in this marriage?
where is repentance or forgiveness in this marriage? |
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---dsda on 11/13/07 |
Truth,
Christ would never treat his bride that way. And the bride wouldn't treat Christ that way.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it,
If you are being abused you should leave for your safety. You are bound to your spouse before God unless he/she cheats on you, or marries another, but you don't have to live with that person.
Lord bless you. |
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---trey on 11/13/07 |
Abuse is a sin.
By leaving an abusive spouse, the other spouse is reducing the chance for the abuser to sin.
That's another reason to leave, though one's physical/psychological welfare is sufficient by itself.
(But be careful--some abusers go psycho when their spouses leave them. Try and have someplace safe to go, or at least hide.)
As for loveless marriages--are they love-less or hate-filled? The first are sad, but the second are soul-damaging. |
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---Nancy on 11/12/07 |
I'm not sure what you mean by abusive. Some people consider not having enough attention abusive. If the marriage is loveless then that is a sin. We are commanded to love eachother. Spouses incuded, whether you feel like it or not. If you don't, you are in sin.
If your life is in danger, get into a place of protection and try to work things out from a distance. God wants us to reconcile with all those who have wronged us. |
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---john on 11/12/07 |
God doesn't expect anyone to be in a abusive marriage. To say other-wise is hogwash. If a woman is getting beat up by her husband, she is not bound to him by no means. And vice versa, and the same goes for an unfaithful spouse. God gets no pleasure out of anyone being unhappy. |
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---Rebecca_D on 11/12/07 |
Yes. Your promise made to God is still binding.
Love is classically the FRUIT of marriage, not its reason or root. |
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---Jack on 11/12/07 |
I don't think God would want anyone to stay in an abusive marriage.
But if it's just "loveless" that could well be because one or the other partner (and perhaps the complainer) is not putting enough love into the marriage. It needs to be worked at! |
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---alan_of_UK on 11/11/07 |
Abusive? No. Loveless? probably yes.
If you are being abused, get out now. Seek therapy and if necessary file assault charges. Protect yourself and any children you may have. |
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---Trish9863 on 11/11/07 |
You're not giving us much, so all we can do is speculate.
My guess is that this isn't your first rodeo, marriage. People are quicker to move towards divorce if they've been through it before.
You don't need our permission to divorce.
Think back to the circumstances you met this person, are you reaping a miserable marriage because of them? |
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---Linda on 11/11/07 |
Has there been a recent affair? That would move someone to search for greeener grass.
But there really isn't any.
You will be taking the same person, you, attracting the same kinds of people all over again, wherever you go, whoever you find. |
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---Linda on 11/11/07 |
Every week or so, this question comes up.
In the end, you really shouldn't be seeking man's opinion, it is your eternal soul that will reap from your decisions. Ask God about your marriage. What if you remarry the same kind of person all over again. |
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---Linda on 11/11/07 |
There are alot of variables that are unknown to us. How many times have you been married?
Did you pick this husband, or did God?
Were you unequally yoked before you married?
Is there unfaithfulness between you?
If either one/both of you have been unfaithful, resentment, bitterness and unforgiveness can cause division. |
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---Linda on 11/11/07 |
We would have no idea if both of you made a poor decision in choosing a mate.
If you're talking verbal abuse or someone telling you how to do everything, that's not really a justification to divorce.
It's possible that in your decision making process, you both chose the wrong person.
But if you have kids, you should be making every effort to work it out.
If there is unfaithfulness on both sides - evening the score, then you would still be equally yoked. |
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---Linda on 11/11/07 |
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