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To Close To Divorce

I am teetering on divorce. We are seperated and things seem to just be getting worse. We recently had the best conversations we've ever had, in my opinion, about how we feel and what we want. But my wife says she doesn't feel like she used to about me and doesn't want to try anymore. Please help!

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 ---Jason on 11/14/07
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If you have been faithful and a gentleman with her and she's pushing divorce...that would mean taking your marriage to law before unbelievers. As a Christian, she does not have authority to do this, I consider > 1 Corinthians 6:1-11. Your marriage is the business of you and your Jesus Family people to handle. Oh...you're separated. That means you already have gone to unbelievers, perhaps. No wonder things are going down if you can disobey like this (???) Only God's way can work.
---Bill_bila5659 on 11/16/07


Jason, it looks like you have the right idea...that if you both get more with God...in His love...you will then naturally come together. At first, there could have been more "passion of lust" (in 1 Thessalonians 4:5) cleverly disguised as love, plus maybe eagerness for one another was merely concealed anxiety > "Be anxious for nothing," we have in Philippians 4:6. Get with God, and He will share **His*** feelings of love with You, no matter what she does (o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 11/15/07


An unstable person will change. She is in trouble, not just your marriage > Paul's example of how love is > "And I will very gladly spend and be spent for your souls, though the more abundantly I love you, the less I am loved." (2 Corinthians 12:15) Is this how you are loving various people, Jason? We need to be strong in all-loving love if we are to make our marriages thrive, I'd say...something for ME to evaluate.
---Bill_bila5659 on 11/15/07


You talked about how you feel and what you desire. One switch people pull in marriages is we marry for what we want, not for what God desires. This is "why" in the U.S. a marriage license is sort of a lottery ticket that gives you a fifty percent chance of winning (o:

Actually, there is no chance to it > we are reaping what God very well knows we have been sowing > Galatians 5:6-7. Change what you have been sowing. Pray and find out what needs to change.
---Bill_bila5659 on 11/15/07


"Do all things without complaining and disputing," (Philippians 2:14) > arguing is known to come before depression and marriage breakdown. Arguing is forbidden, because of the spirit of it which degrades us and hurts people and is a bad example for children so they don't know how to make their marriages work.

"submitting to one another in the fear of God. " (Ephesians 5:21) This is basic, along with other rules in the Bible showing how God's love has us relating.
---Bill_bila5659 on 11/15/07




I don't know if this is acceptable on here, but please anyone who reads this please pray for our marriage and pray that we will both grow closer to God so we can grow closer as a couple also. Thank you in advance for any advice given. I truly thank you
Jason
---Jason on 11/15/07


Jason, I am so sorry for your situation. My heart goes out to you. I will pray. Take care.
---Kella3336 on 11/15/07


We all have a freewill.
Any person convinced against their own will, will be of the same opinion still.

Marriages that have their foundations built on feelings are like the shifting sands.
Marriages that are built upon the Rock, know that love is not a feeling. Love is a commitment, choosing to love your mate through the good times and the not so good.
What foundation was your marriage built upon?
---Bob on 11/14/07


I know how it feels to have someone you love so much tell you they are not in love with you anymore. There are no words to describe the pain. All I can say is God still loves you and prayer can ease the pain. God bless you with his peace and love.
---arlee on 11/14/07


I do not know if your wife has an "ember" of love left in the ashes where the marriage flame is suppose to be continuously burning. If she still has some love then there is hope but if there is not love. It really is over. You can be married for 25 years but without love there is not a marriage left. How do you make love? When you cant give something you don't have.
---Whisper on 11/14/07




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