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Can I Remarry Again

I married my husband (he had been divorced twice at that time) I subsequently filed for divorce but came to regret it and tried to reconcile with him. I was not born again at that time. I was recently born again and baptised and am trying to live the way Christ wants me to. Can I remarry?

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My guess is to stay single you think marriage is going to solve your problems but it will only create an even greater ball of confusion as you move from one man to the next after you have been in such a messy marriage, dont pass on your sins to someone else.

I would end this mess here if you wish to remain with God.
---Carla on 4/13/11


didi -- You were not born again at the time you married and divorced. Your marriage, divorce, (you were legally divorced weren't you?) and all your previous sins have been canceled by Jesus' blood shed at the cross.

Continue to live as Christ wants you to. If your new life in Christ includes a marriage, be sure it is with another Christian who wants to serve the Lord as you do. Avoid the mistakes of the past, with the Lord's help.
---Donna66 on 4/10/11


Of course you can. Every sin is forgivable. Why would God punish you eternally for your mistakes, it doesn't seem to line up with his character, he is a loving God. The whole point of him sending his son, was so that we would have forgiveness and be free in his grace. Yes, divorce is bad, adultery is bad, but all can be forgiven. Look at your heart, not the law. Let the spirit lead you. At least you married in the first place, many just go from one relationship to the next, why is this looked upon any more lightly???
---JT on 4/10/11


Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer was not free to marry, and anyone marrying one is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Both Matthew 19:9 and 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/16/09


Rebecca,

MARRIAGE is not annulled Unless your husband divorced through unfaithful then you would not be permitted to be another mans wife. If you divorced husband because he was unfaithful then the (except) clause would apply. However if your husbands wife was not unfaithful He is not permitted to divorce her. However if both ya'll was cheated on whilst married unsaved that would be a matter for the word/ church/elders to rule over!
---Carla5754 on 12/9/07




You are free to divorce and remarry if they lied to you and told you they never slept with anyone and you find out after marriage that they did.
---veronica on 12/8/07


Well, I know this is a different topic but, I only read one translation. It's fine with me how others believe, if they are willing to take that chance. I also believe that Jesus words were not only to the saved as the Pharisees were not believers. Also, John the Baptist condemned Herod, who was not a believer either. People tend to follow the Bible when it is comfortable for them. It is not always comfortable.
---veronica on 12/7/07


"God only allows for one spouse except in death."

Fornication in a marriage is adultery. You are not free to divorce someone because they are not a virgin(had sexual relations with people beofre they knew you). Also look at other translations.
---matthew_from_LA on 12/6/07


2)
KJV
Matthew 5:32


32But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

NIV
Matthew 5:32

32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
---matthew_from_LA on 12/6/07


3)
I urge to read numerous translations and they will all say the same thing. Jesus was refering to fornication in the marriage. And yes I know the definition of fornication. Fornication in that passage is ,unfortunately, a poor translation. It should be unfsithfulness.


It is not the only time fornication is used in place of adultery.
---matthew_from_LA on 12/6/07




4)
1 Corinthians 5:1
It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife.

Fornication? It's really adultery. In the OT we see God calling Israel worshipping idols both fornication and adultery. God used both words to mean the same thing.
---matthew_from_LA on 12/6/07


The only unforgivable sin is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, not remarriage. If you were an unbeliever when you married, became a believer in your marriage, Paul writes that we are to remain where we are called. Also in 1 Cor 7 writes that believers MUST NOT divorce, remain single if they do or reconcile. G-d can do more than we can ask or imagine. Stand firm in faith and pray for your husband. Is he saved?
---Ramon on 12/6/07


It does say fornication, it does not say adultery. Let me ask you this, If you were married before you were saved, do you feel since old things are passed and everything is new that you need to remarry your spouse again? Well, if God acknowledges your marriage, then why would He not acknowledge a divorce? See, a vow is a vow. God only allows for one spouse except in death.
---veronica on 12/5/07


Since you were not born again when you divorced you can most definately remarry. Make you sure you obey God and marry another believer, not a fake Christian, but a true believer, one who obeys the Lord.

2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away, behold, all things are become new.
---Matthew_from_LA on 12/5/07


Scritpture states you are committing Adultery if you marry or marry one that is divorced without fornication or Adultery been committed. A dead man is not returned to life after death caused by a born again christian nor can he murder again and claim he is saved and under the blood.
---Carla5754 on 12/5/07


I know that this is a difficult subject because it touches home with so many people, including myself. Yes, all sins are under the blood, however, if a person is still living with someone elses husband, then they haven't turned from that sin. God allows for only one marriage, whether you are saved or not.
---veronica on 12/4/07


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Carla: What is under the blood stays under the blood. And yes that includes her past marriages and her past divorces. When a person is a sinner, they are under the law. But when that person becomes born again, they are no longer under the law but under grace. If you are saying all the sins I committed as a sinner is not under the blood, your crazy and therefore do not know God's word. Because whatever I done, is under the blood.
---Rebecca_D on 12/3/07


I hate to say this because I know that it will hurt your feelings and that I don't want to do. If your "husband" was married twice before then you may not remarry him, he is not your husband, he is the husband of his first wife, however if you were never married to anyone else then you are free to marry a christian who was never married before.
---veronica on 11/30/07


Rebecca, You made the choice to marry whether Adutery was involved thats your path not scripture but don't lead other people the same way with misquoted scriptures. The bible talks about being a new creation all things passed away for(salvation) not the annulment of Marrige since you fail to understand the words Death/Fornication gives way to divorce. I have posted a few scriptures on Hagar being an legal marriage.
---Carla5754 on 11/30/07


when I actually studied the scriptures what I actually understood was clearly not there and I did so by using both Greek and Hebrew bibles and finding out what certain words really mean. It took some searching and I'm not even half way yet!
---Carla5754 on 11/30/07


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A man that has Murdered cannot convince the family that the dead person is all new and well because that person is still dead. So it must mean your forgiven of the sin but the consquence of it is still there. Adultery only frees you if the spouce your married to is dead or comitted Fornication. which free's the innocent party to remarry. You are to reconciliate or remain unmarried if guilty or you commit Adultery matth 19, Mark 10. corinth 7, Romans 7.
---Carla5754 on 11/30/07


You filed for a divorce but then cam to regret it why? Did he commit adultery or not? He did not get saved? Is he abusive? Why do you want to leave him, because he will not allow you to live out your Christian life? Why. I beleive a person is not required to remain in a marriage in the case of adultery and abuse.
---Whisper on 11/28/07


Carla: How did you read that this marriage ended because of adultery? No where did Diti say why her marriage ended. So why assume? Pray about what she did? What she done as a sinner is under the blood and that is where it stays. When she converted over to Christ, her past sins are forgiven. And yes that would be her divorce. In other words she is a new person starting a new life...a better life cause now she has Jesus on her side.
---Rebecca_D on 11/27/07


I have no authority to grant marriage or not marriage, you were married to a man that you were committing Adultery against biblical standards. Divorcing him would be your only option to get out of that situation Pray about what you did and allow God to show you what true repentance brings make certain the person you are marrying is Christian then I would Guess this would be your binding rule for a Godly marriage.
---Carla5754 on 11/27/07


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God forgives sin and that includes the sin of divorce. Once you became a Christian your sins were dealt with by Jesus' death on the cross. Now you are a Christian you should not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever so that means that (unless your husband has also been saved) you should not remarry him or any other non-Christian. If you desire to marry again pray for a believing spouse and be led by God's choice for you.
---RitaH on 11/27/07


Blessings to you Didi, you were not clear in your question as to why you divorced your husband. Was it because of adultery? I do understand though about not being saved at that time in your life. You have been forgiven for your past sins since you have accepted Christ as your personal Lord and Savior. 2 Corinthians 5:17, Therefore if if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away, behold, all things are become new. God Bless!
---Cynthia on 11/26/07


Yes you can. When you were a sinner you were under the law. Since you converted over to Christ and now have been born again, you are no longer under the law but under grace. So when others quote you scriptures from the bible. Disregard them. Because some will tell you it is wrong regardless if you became born again. And if they believe that way, then they are still under the law and not under grace.
---Rebecca_D on 11/26/07


The word tells us when we are born again,
we are made new in Christ, all things old are passed a way.
---Caroline on 11/26/07


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Read -1corinthians chapter7 8-11
---judy on 11/26/07


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