What Should I Do
What should I do? I am thinking of divorcing my husband due to constant lies, verbal abuse, threatening physical abuse, lack of intimacy in almost a year and his committing adultry. He may have already slept with someone from what I read on his email. Can I remarry down the road if I do?
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---Laurie on 12/6/07
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In matters of divorce and remarriage, it is Paul's pattern of writing in 1 Corinthians 7 to apply something to both the wife and the husband if it indeed applies to both. Both a wife and a husband are admonished not to divorce (1 Corinthians 7:10-11). Both the husband and the wife are commanded not to divorce in the case that they are married to an unbeliever (vs. 12-16). But only the wife is told that she cannot be joined to another as long as her husband lives (vs. 11 and 39).
---righteouswarriors on 12/10/07|
Question did you have your marriage blessed or did you get married via a judge? If you got married before God and had your marriage blessed then you can not get re-married unless you get your marraige unuled. But, if you can not work out your issues via counsoling then you can divorce him reguardless.
---Francis on 12/10/07|
My Pastor said the Bible is clear about divorce/remarriage. You are able to divorce/remarry if the spouse committed fornication. In your case, no intimacy in a year leads me to believe he has his needs met elsewhere. Do you know for sure? Hire a PI and find out the truth. Stop being a victim Laurie. Even is you stay in this Godless union, pray for wisdom and TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST because your husband does not love you like Christ loves the church. Seek help with or without him and protect yourself.
---Jane on 12/8/07|
**God will not hold you accountable.**
I am amazed that you know what God will do in regard to His judgement of other people's lives and actions.
How do you bear this knowledge?
---Jack on 12/8/07|
Laurie, don't listen to all this hype about you not being able to divorce this bum. It is clear that he has departed the marriage and defiled it. Beating you is spiritual fornication also. You have the right to divore this guy and to remarry if the occasion arises. God Bless.
Read the verses in part 2
---Elder on 12/7/07|
1Cr 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
1Cr 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean, but now are they holy.
1Cr 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such [cases]: but God hath called us to peace.
---Elder on 12/7/07|
Why think of another marriage when your not divorced yet? Get through this marriage, either by trying to work things out or divorce the sorry sucker. But don't think about another marriage right now. But to answer your question, yes if you divorced your husband, then later on you can get married again.
---Rebecca_D on 12/7/07|
Technically, a wife is not Scripturally permitted to "divorce" her husband under any circumstances, although if he is being abusive, you certainly can remove yourself from his influence. Regardless, so long as he lives, you are not permitted to marry another man without becoming an adulteress. You can either reconcile or remain apart. I will provide Scripture references if you need them.
---righteouswarriors on 12/7/07|
All that you have mentioned, Laurie, could be decoy stuff to get your attention away from what you really need to deal with. First, give your attention to God and see what in His peace He brings to your attention. Romans 5:5 > He Himself will give you warmly loving attention. And, how did you manage to get with this guy? Whatever made you choose him could still effect how you make choices later. Get a check-up with our Great Physician (o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 12/7/07|
My husband used to threaten to abuse me now he does it. Most verbal abusers will eventually turn into physical abusers. That alone is breaking wedding vows, and if he has slept with someone also. Yes God frowns upon divorce, but he does not want his children to live in abusive/adulterous environments either. As for remarrying I wouldn't worry about that right now, but I think you can if he committed adultery.
---mary on 12/7/07|
READ these chapters:Matthew 19:3-9 Matthew 5:32 ,I corinthians 7:8-11
Mark 10:2-12 .
---judy on 12/7/07|
If it were me, I would seek an immediate divorce, as BIBLICLY you have valid rights, and yes you can marry again, in this case you are free of him ENTIRELY. God will not hold you accountable.
---Whisper on 12/7/07|
Well basically you are stuck. God hates divorce (see Malachi 2:16 and Mark 10:11-12). I know that Matthew 19:9 seems to make allowances for adultery on the part of the spouse, so do you want to go by a direct quote from God (as in Malachi) or hope Matthew is right?
You have to remember that the basic tenet of Christianity is forgiveness. Because we believe, God is forgiving us for all kinds of horrible sins.
If God can do this, the least you can do is forgive your husband for his.
---Kelvin on 12/6/07|
You need Christian counseling with or without the husband.
I find it odd that even before the ink is dry you're already thinking about the next husband. Do you also have someone already in mind?
---lovable_linda on 12/6/07|
**his committing adultry. He may have already slept with someone from what I read on his email.**
Did he commit adultery or not? You seem to not be sure.
---Jack on 12/6/07|