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Pastor's Wife Wants Affair

My pastor's wife wants to have an affair. She is aggressive and insistent that her husband will never find out. Should I tell her husband?

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Pastor/pastor's wife. Leading others while practicing secrets sins, they have no business leading others to the church dance, and certainly not from the pulpit.
Secret sins cost churches, congregants - spiritually and financially.

The desire to lead never replaces God's Word.
Time to get the hook and yank them off of center stage.
---Cindy on 2/14/08


There's a time and a season for everything.
A little folding of the hands, much rest and a time to move. It would be probable that this woman has had a lifetime of prayers and covering of sin in her life - and why that Jezebel spirit is demanding your silence. Time for you to act before souls are destroyed and given cause to stumble, including yours.
---Cindy on 2/14/08


If the situation is not addressed and others are aware of it, they will leave your church in droves. Secret sins stay secret for a season, God gives one an opportunity to repent. If they become cyclic, His ways are higher, they are exposed in the light for everyone to see. Better to resolve it now before the dawn comes to light, finances dry up and the doors are shut.
---Cindy on 2/14/08


If you are a Christian, then, your duty is to pray and fast for her, to break this bondage in her heart. There are people that can pray together about this,with you, and you should not reveal who she is, just ask for prayer for a person in this condition. Many things could be avoided if Christians would only pray. God commands us to do this, one for another. If we do not, then, we are as guilty as they are. There is great power in prayer.
---Gayla on 2/13/08


Jezebel and Ahab.

What other churches in the news are doing, bringing the sin in the camp before their church government or boards. It seems to be effective. Some are stepping down and others are in the process.
---Cindy on 2/13/08




If your not the person whom she wants to have the affair with, then it isn't your business to tell the husband. If she is cheating on her husband, her sins will find her out, shedding light on the truth.
---Rebecca_D on 2/9/08


Yes, catherine, it's true, happening right under our very noses.
But you see, while shrouding themselves in secrets, vanity and pride can't help itself.
Vanity and pride constantly whisper about their own secrets. Like pulling one loose thread on a sweater floating by, the undoing, coming undone, the unraveling. Lo and behold, the covering is gone and the mantle is passed on to someone else.
---Lynda on 2/6/08


Just goes to prove what's in the churches today. I wonder how many are sitting in church for fifty years and have had fifty affairs. Praising Jesus all along.
---catherine on 2/6/08


Mark ::why is a circle called a circle?Just walk the circumference,BVC Geometry axiom which is a self evident Truth.
---Emcee on 2/4/08


I kinda agree with the Moderator. We should not be gossiping. Besides, God tells us in the Bible not to. You just try and do good.
---catherine on 2/4/08




The Bible believing use the bible, not zen, ying-yang to interpret Scripture.

You cannot worship two masters. You will hate the one and love the other.
---Mark on 2/4/08


The saying, "What goes around comes around", is used by Bible preaching people to mean we reap what we sow and what we do to others will also come upon us.

"Do not be deceived, God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap." (Galatians 6:7)) It says we r-e-a-p what we sow > reaping gets you so much more than those little seeds you sowed...so much more trouble, or so much more of God's good than we have sowed and deserve.
---Bill_bila5659 on 2/4/08


Would you please provide the B.C.V. that says what goes around comes around. That's very zen and yoga like.

Don't listen to Jezebel, gather a gaggle of witnesses, reinforce yourself. Don't listen to a word Jezebel says, you must remember the spirit behind Jezebel. Wily as coyote. Don't let Little Red Riding in the Hood deceive you, there's a wolf at the door.
---Mark on 2/3/08


No! It's none of your business. You might talk with her and point out to her how this is against God's desire and back this up with Scripture. Also pray for her! You might also remind her, "That what goes around also come around."
---WIVV on 2/3/08


Get your witnesses together and do not let Jezebel isolate you, any where at any time.
If Jezebel's husband is not around, you might want to confront Jezebel with your witnesses first. Then take it to the next level if Jezebel tries to lie her way out of it. Your safety is in a multitude of counselors.
---Mark on 2/3/08


Well, first of all, I'd say no, keep it simple. And how is she managing to get you where she can proposition you, like this? If by phone and you have a wife, you have a witness to hear her next call. She has to isolate you, to do this without witnesses, so how are you making yourself so available, if you are? Let the one without sin cast the first stone (o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 2/2/08


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The pastor's wife is in deep trouble physically and spiritually. She needs spiritual help before she is able to be an example or help others in her congregation. It is a high calling to be a pastor's wife and involves a lot of responsibility. Why does she want to do such a terrible and embarassing thing to herself,husband and family, as well.God is against adultery also.
I would not touch this situation. If she goes ahead with this, she will be found out without your help.
---Robyn on 2/2/08


Enabling Jezebel. Jezebel was thrown to the dogs eventually. The dogs had her for brunch. Jezebel is alive and well in the church and how like the enemy to use the pastor's wife. Most kingdoms have been destroyed from within and if this man leaves, it won't be long before Jezebel has her eyes on another. Eventually, the church will take a good hard look and decide if the church is worth saving, and not only must the man move on, but the entire congregation must move on, also.
---Mark on 2/2/08


About 10 yrs ago, Jezebel was in our church community. Jezebel destroyed the pastor, the church, and then Jezebel moved to another state. Jezebel had the gall to ask for references from the church to make a new life. After all, church was the only life that Jezebel had and without references, she couldn't set up camp elsewhere.
Needless to say, Jezebel didn't get those references. She probably forged some though, that is the way Jezebel works.
---Mark on 2/2/08


Jezebel would like you to leave quietly with your head down. That is the way Jezebel works. If Jezebel is out to destroy your life and career, I do believe I'd take it before your church board and then the entire congregation. This would be one of those times that a man should take a stand. Good is good and evil is evil. I watched it destroy lives in my community and I can tell you that silence will not silence Jezebel.
---Mark on 2/2/08


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A church destroyed from within and Jezebel telling you if you know what's good for you, you'll keep your mouth shut.

Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.
Seek a multitude of counselors within the church.
Recent examples of safety with a multitude of counselors, taking place in the WoFaith circles as we speak.
---Mark on 2/2/08


I would suggest that IF you are the man she wants an affair with that you should leave the church and make as big a distance between the two of you as possible. If asked for a reason tell the pastor that a lady in the church is causing you embarrassment and you must leave. If this is not about you it might be best to mind your own business. Whatever goes wrong in the future you'll possibly be blamed for if you interfere.
---RitaH on 2/2/08


This is very reminiscent of the story of Joseph and Potiphar's wife. It could be a lose/lose situation:

Say yes, and you get yourself into deep trouble. Say no, and she could accuse you of trying to seduce HER. Either way, you lose.

At least, if you do the honest thing (as Joseph did), you have your own dignity and self-respect intact.
---StrongAxe on 2/2/08


As in the heart of man ..... so the pasators wife is already cheating
---jim on 2/1/08


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Add insult to injury, if Jezebel claims she's not in her right mind, it's a great way for Jezebel to have multiple affairs and tell her husband that the mental illness made her do it. She can string that husband along for a lifetime claiming that she can't be held responsible for what she's doing.
After all, Jezebel probably see's her husband's friend floating by in a sweater, and the next thing you know, she sees him floating by in a boat without a paddle.
That Jezebel, wily as a coyote.
---Mark on 2/1/08


Tell her husband all you want. She'll just deny it and cause problems between you and the pastor when she says it was you who wanted the affair. In fact, there's probably a good chance she has already told her husband that you are interested in her. That's the way Jezebel works.
---Susie on 2/1/08


If you are the person she wants to have the affair with, and she won't let up after you've given her a firm no, then yes, I personally would tell the Pastor "I'm leaving the church, and thought you should know why...". But that's just my opinion. You have to do what the Holy Spirit instructs you to. Whether you tell him or not, I WOULD make sure I steered clear of her as best I could.
---kady on 2/1/08


YES. Expose the sin since she isn't dealing with it herself. We are in the end times and you could be saving her from going to hell when she dies. Tell her husband who is your Pastor, right?
---Donna on 2/1/08


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This person wants you to betray your pastor? And betray your own wife if you are married. Betrayal is an act of hatred. Your pastor doesn't know she has this hatred in her heart? A pastor should be able to sense, in God's love, what is going on in another person. "And this I pray, that your love may aboud still more and more in knowledge and all discernment." (Philippians 1:9) If he can't tell something is so deeply wrong with her, his problem is much deeper than her activity.
---Bill_bila5659 on 2/1/08


If it is you she wants the affair with, why not just say "No"
That way her husband will not find out.
---alan_of_UK on 2/1/08


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