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Left Spouse For Non-Adultery

If you are a real Christian and have left your spouse other than for adultery, if you really came to the place where you were truly sorry and sought forgiveness, wouldn't that lead you to desire to restore your marriage?

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 ---jeff on 1/31/08
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You can re-marry based on two conditions, based on the Bible. One, you cannot be married to someone else, and two, the spouce cannot be married to someone else. Even if these two conditions are met - this may not create a DISIRE to remarry.
---wivv on 4/19/08


Sympathy addiction seldom moves into forgiveness.

It awaits for all of the perfect circumstances that will never be there, before it forgives, but that day does not come for those addicted to sympathy.

It is a treadmill no different from the one Samson had to tread without his physical eyes. When his spiritual eyes were opened, he moved out of his past and performed his greatest feat for God before he died.

Today is the day of salvation and forgiveness.
---Cindy on 3/20/08


How do I forgive my 'christian' ex-wife that committed adultery, divorced me, moved right down street, openly sleeps with many guys, treats me as a non-person, is a selfish, inattentive, uncommitted mom, and tells our 3 kids its all ok and what God wants? Especially-how do I tell kids to respond-to her-to her 'friends'(and kids know she sleeps with them)-to the claims of it all being godly? I pray for her,would forgive, and take her back if she served God. New pain every day.
---In_lots_of_pain on 3/20/08


"Desire" is nice in some cases, but acting on facts is better. Based on the facts as presented in the Bible, you should reunite with your husband, IF you haven't already married someone else.
---wivv on 2/6/08


That is possible. On the otherhand, God knows everything. We know nothing. Keep seeking His advice.
---catherine on 2/4/08




I left my 1st spouse for other than adultery. I lived alone for awhile cuz I was taught if I remarried I would go to hell. 1st what is an unbeliever- uthe unsaved. That was me! The Lord showed me 1 Corinthians 7:15 it was shown to me was through highlighted in Gold Light! But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart, you are not uneder bandage in such cases. I amrried him a sinner and divorced him a sinner. I got saved after the divorce, then God sent me my hubby now of 11yrs!!!
---Princesstookie on 2/3/08


Definitely, Jeff..."Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife." (1 Corinthians 7:10-11)

To have hope of reconciliation, I think this is good. God knows how you really are > He will work things according to how He knows you really are, Jeff.
---Bill_bila5659 on 2/2/08


I know she has issues..she's confused..goes between eluding to getting back together(whatever that would mean to her at this stage)and saying she can't stand me and I'm the worst and to blame for everything-but she's living in complete immoral sin--reconciling couldn't happen unless she got right with God. Thus, the question..if she's right with God..would God desire our marriage to be restored on her end? I do..its what the Bible seems to say.
---jeff on 2/2/08


The question arises from the fact that my wife of 15 years and mother of our three kids divorced me. We lived as Christians, good marriage, no abuse...not perfect, could have worked on communication and some other things, but she divorced me.
---jeff on 2/2/08


Said she didn't want to be married, I 'stopped' her from 'living for God'??? didn't want responsabilty of being a mom. She started hanging w 20 somethings, ignoring children, promiscuous, drugs, alcohol, foul-mouth, cruel...total 180! I still love her and pray she comes back to God. I can forgive the hurts if she repents and lives for God.
---jeff on 2/2/08




From what I read in the word..it seems if you were/are a Christian and you left your Christian spouse and family--and you weren't getting beaten or something, you were just kinda rebelling--and you got 'right' with God, He'd lead you to try and restore your marriage and family...He's not gonna lead you to some other relationship if your 'innocent' spouse wants to reconcile would He? That's what I read anyway.
---jeff on 2/2/08


Jeff
Forgiveness should lead one to desire to move forward, continuing on in Gods Word, forever doing & be obedient to His Will. (Matthew 6:19-21) Where your desires are, is where your heart will be also?
---Shawn.M.T on 2/1/08


Not necessarily. There could be very deep hurts and wounds deep down inside of that person that still have to be healed, and unless healing takes place, how can the marriage be restored? I left my husband and filed for divorce and never looked back - my reasons were because he began to beat me for the last 8 months of the marriage. Was he truly a Christian like he said he was? Don't think so.
---Donna on 2/1/08


"Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them." (Colossians 3:19) So, nothing excuses me to be bitter against my wife. So, if I get to the point of leaving her, likely I have n-o-t been loving her, and have n-o-t been obeying this **basic** command of how to relate in marriage. So, if I repent of this failure, love will have me seeking to do better with her.
---Bill_bila5659 on 2/1/08


"And I will very gladly spend and be spent for your souls, though the more abundantly I love you, the less I am loved." (2 Corinthians 12:15) This is
**basic** for how to relate in any relationship...whether the other person is this way with you or not. And I'd say do not engaged except with another who loves all people like this. And if I'm already married to someone not loving like this...love "hopes all things" (1 Corinthians 13:7). I do not lose hope.
---Bill_bila5659 on 2/1/08


Why did you leave?
If it's just because you got bored with him ... try again.
But If you left because of his violence or abuse, I don't think yuio have anything to be forgiven for. You should stay away.
---alan_of_UK on 2/1/08


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Yes, I would have thought so, but be prepared for the spouse to not feel the same way because he/she might have 'moved on'.
---RitaH on 2/1/08


Yes it would but you don't see that very often do you? And many just remarry so they can't restore. Maybe that's why it says to remain unmarried if you separate for other reasons. Marriage is almost a laugh these days. In and out like a used car for just about any reason.
---john on 2/1/08


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