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Bought Roses For Girlfriend

Married 35 years in Feb and husband has history of being unfaithful but appeared to be on the right road. He has become an active member of my church for the last year. I just found where he has ordered roses for a lady that he was in a relationship with, how should I handle this?

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I am so very sorry for what you are going through. I don't know how I would handle that one but just want to let you know that my husband to be and I will certainly keep you in our prayers. And I do think that it would be a good idea to let him know that you know about it.
---Sherrill on 2/12/08


A person can go to church all their lives, do all they can for all, be active in the church and still die lost without God. Just because your husband was active in church, that doesn't mean he is/was saved. And from what you are saying, he isn't saved at all. Because if he was then he would have respect for God and his word and his spouse. If it were me, I wouldn't put up with it.
---Rebecca_D on 2/11/08


There is an old saying. "History repeats itself." Sounds like your husband has no intention of remaining faithful to God, let alone to you.
---Susie on 2/5/08


I don't give this advice thinking that it's going to be easy, some of the challenges many of the people on here are coping with I've had to face and still on some fronts wait for God to move.

The process I described is my own personal view on what it means to carry your cross, to trust in God, and wait for his provision.

Does God save by the household? Paul told us we couldn't be sure,(Cor. 7) but if you could you'd do it right? I Let my faith fill the gap...John 20:23
---Pharisee on 2/5/08


I agree with Jack on this one.
---kady on 2/5/08




Get a lawyer and file for divorce.
---Trish9863 on 2/5/08


commit yourself to be influenced in all ways by the words of Jesus.

Condemn yourself daily that you might be approved and assured in him. Chase down his light, that's the only way to hold our torches in darkness.

If you really love him and want him to stop, shame him with holiness and stillness of spirit, be true only to the love you feel and let everything else be a lie.

James told us our life is a vapor, the best use of that vapor is to gain Christ in all things.
---Pharisee on 2/5/08


Am I advising that you just let go and let it go?
To a point, let it's importance become small in light of the gift been given you in Jesus, this doctrine didn't originate with me- 1Peter 3:1-7

Promises 3:1"without the word be won" 3:6"not afraid with any amazement" 3:7"heirs together in the grace of life"

Many people struggle to find a calling, I say were given one at every turn of life.
---Pharisee on 2/5/08


I think we have to read between the lines and go straight to the heart of the matter.

I think the cat is away and the spouse mouse wants to play.
---Cindy on 2/5/08


Ask h im about it. Ask him why. There may be a logical explanation.

And if there isn't, as least he knows you're on to him.
---Jack on 2/5/08




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