Sisters A Drug Addict
My sister is a drug addict and homeless. I was letting her live with me on certain conditions - but she broke those. If I kick her out she will have no home, no transportation - nothing. She has no resources for rehab. I don't know what Jesus wants me to do?
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---Grace on 3/17/08
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To answer the blog question, you are not helping but enabling her to continue using drugs. It's the same with AA, they have to reach their bottom on their own. By not letting her stay with you is doing more harm than good.
To Brad the same thing applies to you. After several times of putting her in Rehab and nothing happens, nothing will happen. Go to Narc's Anonymous and learn what othrs are doing.
Good luck to both of you.
---Norma on 5/18/09|
I agree you need to fast and pray for your sister, and that all the help in the world won't do if she does not want it. If you boot her out she may not have anything but as long as people let her get by with it, without suffering the consequences, she will continue to do it. If she knows the conditions and does not abide by them, and you continue to let her stay, she will continue to do it. I said all that to say this, the story of Neduchadrezzar in the book of Daniel, God stripped him of his entire kingdom, made him go out of his mind and eat grass as wild animals for 7 years until he humbled himself before God. Sometimes we have to hit rock bottom before we will cry out for help. God also restored Nebuchadrezzar to his former glory.
---evangelistjerry on 5/16/09|
My younger 18 year old sister is an addict as well to oxycontin and ecstasy. After my Dad spending almost all of his money on her in rehab programs she continues to relapse throwing all concerns for others away, including her own brother. She continues to come back home sorry and willing to change and turn to the Lord, but the cycle continues. Using, hurting her family, pain, and regret. We don't know what else to do. We can't afford to send her off again. I pray for her throughout the day, every day.
---Brad on 5/16/09|
iam an addict, & lots of times, i lose the battle. its not easy, everyday its a struggle, & i too am a homeless person, if family is close by,the shame & guilt hurt,anger, you feel judged & condemned by everyone, and the hopelessness & it makes you want to do the drugs & ease up on your sister.its a hard road, and she is alone on it. pray her innerbeing can be changed, ask God to change her .
---Jacqueline on 4/27/08|
Jesus talks about the Dogs who return to their own vomit, the Sow that was washed returned to her mud pit to wallor in!
There is HOPE,I was an addict, been clean for over 22 yrs.
I've probably done more than all of you put together.
When i found out my wife was Preg. W/our son(1985),
God took ALL that stuff away!(needles,alcohol,whatever
Praise be to God My Father whos nets reach the deepest parts to find men like me!
Thank You Father!
---Duane_Dudley_Martin on 4/26/08|
I do agree that Jesus can deliver you from anything. But even after someone is saved, you can fall into addiction. We're still growing christians. I'm reading about a man who got saved and then became an alcoholic. He has been delivered after the fact by God's Grace tho.
Poster, Prayers work. Get "Ragamuffin Gospel". It's good. Dont stop loving her stop believing that God will help you both. I'm still working on it too. You got my support and prayers.
---Nicola on 4/26/08|
A friend of mind has been smoking
crack for years. A new treatment in the
paper offered free transportation,doctors,
medication,and payment for your time.
I cut the article out,presented it to my
friend and begged her to call. I realize
now she doesn't want to quit.
---michael on 4/25/08|
I know nothing about drug abuse but I know plenty about alcohol abuse. I agree with those who say that there is little you can do until your sister admits that SHE needs help. Addicts will let you pay their debts, clean up their vomit, house them for free etc. without doing anything for themselves except wallow in their addiction. However, it might be wise to get help for YOURSELF. You are affected too, just differently, so pray that God will lead you to an organization that can help YOU.
---RitaH on 3/23/08|
As a former addict I can tell you that until your sister acknowledges she has a drug problem and wants help. There is really nothing you can do other than pray for her. If she wants help, there are several organizations that will help her get in rehab. My prayers are with you and your sister. God is able to completely deliver your sister. God bless you
---Marie_Morphew on 3/23/08|
Well, how in this world are we suppose to know? You need to be prayibg constantly. I can talk a little. Although your problem is bigger than some of mine have been. I do know without a doubt, God will most definitely step in and make a way for you. but you must get and stay close to Him. Also, God does tend to move slowly. So try and be long-suffering. [patient].
---catherine on 3/23/08|
**I don't know what Jesus wants me to do?**
Have you tried asking Him?
You're just as capable of hearing from Jesus as anybody else is.
---Jack on 3/23/08|
Most family members don't want to acknowledge that their addict relative won't get any better by the family helping them. Until the addict wants help, nothing will come of treatment or help they get. My experience working in inpatient rehab program is the clients were self-centered, uncaring people. Nobody but them mattered. Those who found Jesus and deliverance were changed totally and are still alive. Many of those who went to meetings constantly and did not turn to the Lord are now dead.
---Susie on 3/19/08|
Take her to a rehab hospital and have her evaluated. If she qualifies, they will help her find the financial resources. My son had no insurance and was given 28 days in a rehab for his heroin addiction. Many counties have the funding for such cases. Social services are available for her, you just have to be resourceful. A visit to a local rehab will start the ball rolling.
---Trish9863 on 3/18/08|
Grace, There are detox centers in all parts of the country.Sometimes they work sometimes not. My eldest son has been on "crack" for more than 20 years.(they don't work for him).We make our choices every day,That's "their" choice,not yours! The alternative is to end our freedom of choice! I don't drink or smoke,not because I'm not allowed but because I "choose" not to!
---1st_cliff on 3/17/08|
Susie has good advice, but don't listen to anyone here without going to God with weary eyes and an aching belly, this is WAY TOO IMPORTANT to run with just any suggestion because it makes sense.
Fast and pray and seek the leading of God.
---pharisee on 3/17/08|
Take your sister to the nearest Salvation Army rehab program. It will cost her nothing. There are other agencies that do not cost such as Teen Challenge which has one of the higher rates of success. As long as you continue to "enable" your sister, she will never get better. Of course, if she were to get born again she wouldn't need rehab. Jesus can deliver her from everything.
---Susie on 3/17/08|