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Say No To Church Jobs

Some volunteer positions at church can end up being very stressful and even dangerous. Is it O.K. to say NO to helping with these nerve-racking tasks?

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Dangerous like what?
You cannot be a good servant if you are overwhelmed or tired take a break Jesus did. When he would leave the crowds and pray in the morning.
---Scott1 on 11/21/11

greetings!Family,It's good volunteer help church,etc.,my situation changeseyes blurring,health irreg./ people don't necessarily believe? or too,busy?All I know, ....takin' care of ELENAGod gives wisdom... try NOT get "burn-out!" (Prayerfully) Let me say 'n loveno more church jobs unless,Lead by the Holy Spirit...Thankfull !able do at home! I ask Godforgive me and I believe he has...sometimes,the more,you do...humansthe more,they expect!
---ELENA on 11/17/11

There is a huge difference between the church of Jesus and the man-made denominational churches. Denominational churches (Catholics, Lutherans, Baptists, Methodists, etc.) have their own traditions, ways of living, and Bibleinterpretation. These were created by Satan to confuse Christians to follow man's way. When Jesus said He will "build His church," He didn't mean a building or a denomination. What He said is similar to a member of a network marketing company building his downline, or increasing members.

Christians are to go out into the world to bring people into the Kingdom of God. But if God wants you to do something specific - DO IT. When you disobeyed God and find yourself in the belly of a fish, you know you disobeyed.
---Steveng on 7/14/08 is. God has specifically put you in a certain place...ask Him where and do it with all your heart. It is frustrating to have volunteers that come out of guilt. Yikes!
---melanie on 7/14/08

If the Holy Spirit is leading and prompting you to accept a volunteer position that could become a very stressful job, then your answer should be "YES."
---Nadine on 5/28/08

I was approached by a sister in the church a few weeks ago. Was asked if I wanted to do something in the church. I knew I should be so I said yes. She said I would receive a phone call. Call never came. Told her yesterday I would wait after an incident happened last week in the church by my pastor. I was not allowed to testify. Feeling as if I am no longer a part of the church. I declined to work in the church,for now.
---Robyn on 5/12/08

I don't see anything wrong with saying no. Why would you say yes if you didn't want to do it? GOD never forces us to do anything we don't want to we have free will and it's up to us to choose.
---kuulei on 5/7/08

I don't see anything wrong with saying no. Why would you say yes if you didn't want to do it? GOD never forces us to do anything we don't want to we have free will and it's up to us to choose. kuule3944
---kuulei on 5/7/08

Not only is it okay to say no, but you're not to SHOW partiality to brethren or anybody else (including the unsaved, James 2:1 and 2:9).

Also, in Hebrews chapter 6, we are told that ONLY JESUS is our foundation, and that we should not set a foundation of our own with works/deeds, EVEN though we are doing them to show love TO THE SAINTS/brethren. Only Jesus died on the cross, we're not to glorify THE BODY of Christ, we are to glorify JESUS ONLY. Jesus will not be unjust and overlook this apostasy.
---greg on 5/1/08

Reply to 'true one': The Church is the House of God (1 Corinthians 12:12-27).

Reply to this question: 2 Timothy 4:5, Hebrews 12:1
---Chance on 5/1/08

True One ... The study of Christianity does not make you a Christian.
Do you love God and your neighbour as yurself? That would be a good start
---alan_of_UK on 5/1/08

Thank you>>true one. I have been judge so harshly on here when I first open up my big mouth about how God took me out of the church. I meant yanked me out of the church. I loved church so much and I missed church so much. I dare people to judge me on what God does. I do afterall, have the conviction of the holy ghost. I just don't understand it. Unbelievers, they love to quote scriptures but yet these people don't even know God. I do not understand that. Help me Jesus.+
---catherine on 5/1/08

True Christians dont go to church they pray at home, the church is not the house of God your hart is, I dont go to church but I study Christianity on a weekly bases, stay home and pray home,
---true_one on 4/30/08

Small story for you: Nov. 2006 I was deciding that I wanted to go to school for something. My choices (one since I worked in a hospital) was Nursing. The others were Forensic Psychology (becuase of my love of psych and law enforcement) and My two past loves from kidhood: Art (Photography or Art Therapy) and Teaching. I said I was going to be "indecisive" until the New Year and then whatever choice that stuck out the most was the one that I'd stick with no matter what
---Nicola on 3/27/08

Aanywho, I was jaded by the community of my past church I belonged to so I chose a closer one with evening daily/saturday masses. I just went to mass, I just wanted my time with God. Then I get this call from the DRE (Director of Religious Education) saying that they needed a first grade aide for the wild childs in this lady's class. I went there about 20 minutes early to meet wiht the teacher and there was no one in there that early but the moment I walked in, I felt right at home.
---Nicola on 3/27/08

That "meant to be there" feeling.
I start teaching school in the autumn and I'm glad I volunteer.
Someone already said it. You'll know when the Spirit shows you. This agreed by the same woman who believes that God needs to whack her over the head to get a point too! ,D haha!
---Nicola on 3/27/08

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One should *always* say 'no' to things that make them uncomfortable.

After all, others don't know you as well as you know yourself.
---Nancy on 3/26/08

Yes, it is ok to say no.
Sometimes preferable. No one knows what God has called you to do and where to serve but you.If you do not feel comfortable doing a certain postion or job within the church, I would not do it. I would not put any unnecessary burdens upon myself. You will know when the fit is right. Be led by the Holy Spirit and you will know.
---Robyn on 3/26/08

If more people would learn their gifts and use them we would not have to ask people to do things that they find "nerve racking."

I have said no many times to things I did not feel I could do, and they were not even nerve racking. I just did not have the time to serve in that capacity.
---Trish9863 on 3/25/08

** is a pastor volunteering to preach the gospel of is he getting paid for the services **

I'll bet you want the pastor at a moment's notice if you're in the hospital or suffering a family crisis.

Preaching is NOT all that pastors do, believe it or not. That's like saying they work only on Sunday.
---Jack on 3/25/08

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If you think it is "nerve-racking" to serve the Lord, just wait until you are given the choice of denouncing Jesus or losing your life. If you can't stand the heat now, how will you stand up for Jesus then???
---Susie on 3/25/08

It would really be nice if more people would say, "no" when asked to volunteer for a church job. As a missionary for 33 years, one of the things I did was to give Personality Profiles. On some occassions, I advised that this person was not a good candidate. Why? The stress would be more than they could bear and they would burn out in 2-3 years. Some Christians will voluteer for everything, and most churches will accept them. That is not using a persons God given talent effectively
---wivv on 3/25/08

is a pastor volunteering to preach the gospel of is he getting paid for the services he renders. is it funny, a pastor is getting paid for preaching the gospel, yet he tells you to volunteer on certain 'jobs' in the name of service to god?
---mikehow on 3/25/08

"if it was Jesus himself asking you to fill the position would you still say, No,"
If it were Jesus Himself who asked Christians would not have any qualms about doing His bidding because we are told that He will not ask us to do what we cannot endure. The same cannot be said about pastors and other church leaders.
---RitaH on 3/25/08

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"duty bound" versus "ingrate", if the job is too much for you then there is nothing wrong with declining. There should be others whom are more able to fill the position, but consider this, if it was Jesus himself asking you to fill the position would you still say, No, because it was nerve-racking? If so, then don't fret, for the position is not for you but for another.
---Eloy on 3/25/08


I don't think Cindy meant anything by her comment. I took it to mean that, due to your original question regarding "very stressful" and "nerve-racking" tasks, you should try to avoid similar areas of ministry that could cause additional stress. One obvious area of ministry is taking care of children during church services, and anyone who has ever worked in a nursery can tell you how stressful children can be sometimes. I believe that's all she was trying to say. Peace.
---righteouswarriors on 3/25/08

Thanks to everyone who replied to my blog question.

I was physically injured at church, but I assume full responsibility for that now. I was trying to be "as gentle and helpful as a dove". Well, I also should have been "as wise as a serpent". Matthew 10:16.

Another learning experience that has made me a stronger Christian. That is life on planet Earth. Learning never ends. Several church leaders have seemed surprised when I reply NO to their requests for help.
---sag on 3/25/08

The question itself contains the answer.
A "volunteer" position is just that - it's one where you say "I want to do this", not one where anyone tells you to do it. If you don't have a choice in the matter, you aren't volunteering - you're being conscripted.
---StrongAxe on 3/25/08

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I don't understand what you are trying to say. I really don't.

If I was physically injured at church, what would that have to do with having a "nervous breakdown"?

And how does any of that involve the "nursery"?

This website says that blog replies should be Biblical and Christ-like. Hmmm.

I'm surprised that the Moderator posted your Secular and Satanic reply.
---sag on 3/25/08

"If you're on the verge of a nervous breakdown, I would by all means stay away from the nursery." That wasn't nice. Was it really necessary to be so condescending?
---RitaH on 3/25/08

I have been a volunteer pastor in a small northern Canada Church for over 20 years. I am very familiar with life threatening violence and stress in ministry. I'm not doing this work because of it's ease and protection. Jesus never told us or his disciples that they would not be harmed and free from stress. Unless your willing to take both, keep saying no.
---john on 3/25/08

If you're on the verge of a nervous breakdown, I would by all means stay away from the nursery.
---Cindy on 3/25/08

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A good, sensitive, minister will realise that all people are different. We all have different skills or interests and also have different stress levels or are stressed by totally different issues. If a minister cannot appreciate this he is in the wrong job and should not be allocating any tasks to anyone. We all have our uses and things work best when we all do what we CAN do and leave what we CAN'T to those who CAN. Usually we will discover that what we are doing is something that someone else cannot do.
---RitaH on 3/25/08

Wow! Dangerous and stressful ministry??? Can't say that we have ever been involved in any dangerous ministry other than street witnessing in Vegas. As far as volunteering at church, unless you're driving a vehicle for the church, I can't imagine what kind of ministry would be dangerous. We are jail/prison/homeless service ministers and have never been threatened in any of those functions.
---Susie on 3/24/08

Before getting "too" concerned about if others are honest, make sure *you* are being honest with God and yourself.

While we do God's will, Jesus says, "you will find rest for your souls" (in Matthew 11:29).

People you can trust will not violate this by trying to get you to do what gets you stressed. And using a "black list" thing to coerce you to comply is psychological terrorism > we do not negotiate with terrorists, according to U.S. official policy (o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 3/24/08

Ofcourse. I would pray first.
---catherine on 3/24/08

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Oh yes!! Take it from one who had a nervous breakdown last year--you HAVE to take care of yourself or you won't have anything left to take care of anyone else--trust me on this. May God give you discernment on what to do/not do, God bless ya. :)
---Mary on 3/24/08

I was involved in a ministry accident at my former church. After consulting a lawyer, I said NO to that type of ministry work, and I was pretty much "Black Listed" in the church. Never any communication with the church leadership or resolution of things outside of legal circles. My confidence in the Pastor dropped to absolute ZERO. I no longer attend that church. I guess that that is the way the ball bounces in this fallen world.
---sag on 3/24/08

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