It could simply be that your wife is one of those women who are not happy in marriage.
Many women find the traditional form of marriage to be a jail sentence. It's not that they don't love their husbands, it's that they cannot revolve their worlds around them.
It's like outer space. Some women are planets, liking a tight orbit. Others are comets, soaring far. But they all circle their sun.
And some marriages just plain need to be more comet-like to succeed. |
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---Nancy on 5/2/08 |
Refuse to give her a divorce unless you two go see councilling. It's not fair for her to keep it all to herself and keep you from becomming a better person. That shows a selfish nature.
Another thing: Did you GIVE her your uninturrupted attention or did you even let her get a word in edgewise when she DID tell you when something wasn't going well??? Pulling the self-righteous act is cause for the punishing silence afterwards. Pray and Ask God to make you a better man. |
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---Nicola on 4/12/08 |
What ever happened in your marriage only you know, no one complains for nothing theres always smoke but underneth theres always fire. Did you choose to ignore the warning signs, what were they, neglect may well be a starting point. The bible says a man should treat his wife with the same respect he treats his own self, in terms the daily preperation and cleansiness( treated well) did you do that for a start, now Be HONEST what made her really Unhappy? |
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---Carla5754 on 4/11/08 |
I am thinking that your wife may not have loved you. |
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---catherine on 4/11/08 |
People are very immature and selfish and everything they do is tied up in these attitudes. Perhaps your wife got what she wanted(wedding,gown,attention etc..) and then wanted out. Love may have never entered the picture.Which is very unfair and wrong of her to treat you this way. But life is a gamble. Sometimes things don't work out the way we want or expect them to.It may be for the best. She was a rotten egg witha lot of baggage when you met her. You gambled and lost. |
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---Robyn on 4/11/08 |
I would agree with pharisee.people actually believe that its your job to make them happy.how imature.happiness is a fliting feeling that is affected by circumstances.peace comes from a relationship with God.trying to keep anyopne happy will flat wear you out.if any person is not happy with who you are when you marry then they should never have married you.most people need to seriously growup. |
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---tom2 on 4/10/08 |
may be syhe was not sexually satisfied with you or se was not getting the warmth she wanted from her partne |
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---wilson on 4/9/08 |
Michael:
I would make every effort to get in contact with your wife. Ask her why she left and if reconciliation is possible. If necessary, get a Pastor or Counselor to help out.
If your wife refuses to talk and get help, pray about the situation and see where GOD leads you.
GOD realizes that in this imperfect world, marriages do fall apart. Your job is to find out what GOD would have you do next.
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---Augie on 4/9/08 |
According to your wife, she had a reason. She said she wasn't happy. If you can't figure out what you've done wrong, and she won't tell you, then chances are you didn't do anything and she was just looking for an excuse to leave. I would ask God to reveal to you exactly what is going on with your wife. If you truly desire to want to know, God will reveal it to you. But remember be careful what you ask God for. You may not like the answer God gives you or the truth he shall reveal. |
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---Rebecca_D on 4/8/08 |
Michael, if you're here to read what we write to you, please tell us more about yourself, and please stay a while (o:
If she's not happy, that is a real reason for *her*, right? whatever the reason for her not being happy.
I'd think she has said things to you, as an indication, even if you feel they are not real reasons.
It sounds like you haven't been talking with her, to see how she is feeling and doing. NOT doing things can be what is wrong. |
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---Bill_bila5659 on 4/8/08 |
What probably made her unhappy is thinking that happiness is a right when it truly comes by faith and a good conscience before God.
She'll be back if you'll still have her, sooner or later she'll come to her senses and realize she believed a lie.
Or maybe it is you? Nothing personal, but how would I know?
The "everyone deserves to be happy" lie is straight from Hell. Torment is our lot apart from Christ.
What you do with that is between you and God. |
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---pharisee on 4/8/08 |
This happened recently to somebody in my life. I am sorry that you are going through this. Would your wife be willing to just separate instead of divorce? You don't have to sign the papers, but I know you could have legal action against you if you don't. Keep praying. Often people make mistakes in their past that forces them into a self destructive lifestyle. Is this the case for her? She sounds like she needs counseling if she is willing... Have you been the husband that God tells men to be in Eph. 5? |
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---momof2 on 4/8/08 |
It would be very foolish of me to try and suggest why your wife left. If she doesn't tell you why she left, there are only two things you can do about it. The first is to pray that she will reveal to you why she left, the second is to see if she is willing to go to joint marriage counseling. (Make sure it's a professional,Christian, marriage counselor.) Even if she isn't willing to go, you should. Maybe the marriage counselor can make suggestions that may help you know why your wife left. |
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---wivv on 4/8/08 |
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