I think the issue should be discussed with the person who hurt you. It may have been unintentional. They may be willing to apologize and to correct the wrong. If not give it to God,forgive the person and move on.This is a difficult thing to do but we must forgive in order for our Father to forgive us. I have been wounded in the church. I refused to leave the church. I gave it to the Lord. I did not discuss the issue with the person. Prayer is very powerful, also. God will make the crooked places straight.And right every wrong. You can count on it. |
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---Robyn on 7/5/08 |
forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us. Should we not follow this |
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---wayne on 7/1/08 |
If they Hurt you Physically,turn them in to the Police.
If they Hurt you Mentally,Pray for them and keep your Distance.
Anger & Resentments?? Get these Boulders out of your Path which leads to Christ.
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---Gabby on 7/1/08 |
Emcee and Caring, you two are the same in too many ways. You can't fool God. John P is correct. |
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---Linda on 6/5/08 |
JP::Confronting is what the bible suggests as a first step,it depends on the attitude with which you confront. Meekness and mildness will produce the same result Caring is a gentleman and knows the difference of confrontational issues.a civil tongue gets a civil answer. |
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---Emcee on 6/3/08 |
Caring, with all due respect, if a person were to take your advice, it would lead to a fight. Your operating purely in the flesh. Go and read the Gospels and learn what Jesus said to do. I don't condem you Caring, but you need to be transformed by God's Holy Spirit. You need to get saved. When and if you do, you will never be the same. You will have a peace that surpasses all understanding, and you will know it. |
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---John_P on 6/3/08 |
Why make a distinction between being hurt by someone at work, in the check-out line, or in the church?
If you are hurt, of course it is right to forgive. It is also right to let the person know, in a kind way, that they have offended you. How else would they know? If you don't tell them, they may hurt someone else unintentionally.
BTW, this question really helped me, because I have been deeply hurt recently, and struggled with weather or not to tell the person. Thank you! |
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---deb on 5/27/08 |
I understand your feeling betrayed and needing encouragement. You also may feel anger and a sense of loss as how to pray at this point. I would recommend a fast to put down the flesh and seek how God would have you approach this situation. |
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---Emily on 5/26/08 |
First, if you feel someone has hurt you through words or deeds, go to that person directly, in a spirit of love and tell them how you feel and why. People say and do things that come across in a manner they never intended. If the hurt was intentional, just tell them you forgive them, and that you will pray for them. It is said that if you continually pray for one who has hurt you, eventually, you will forgive and actually pray in sincerity for God to forgive them and direct them in his ways. |
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---Dan on 5/24/08 |
Plan A: Turn the other cheek and forgive them.(Biblical) Plan B: Get your pastor/priest to mediate and meet together. Discuss what's bothering you and work it out. Then read Matthew 6:14-15 again and again and again. |
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---Danosaur on 5/24/08 |
I've been in Church Hurt a umber of times. Really wanted to get back at them or talk about them to others. But the Lord touched the cords of my heart and told me "Forgive them and PRAY for them." Hard to do when u are hurt by them. |
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---._Elaine on 5/24/08 |
Caring, the answer is in the Bible. Read the Gospels. |
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---Jim on 5/23/08 |
By confronting the person, you'd know what his or her beef is all about. If he's wrong you correct him and if you are wrong you have a chance to correct yourself.
What's so unchristian about it? |
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---Caring on 5/23/08 |
Caring, that is exactly what Jesus taught against. The world thinks that way. Apparently you don't live up to your name. You need a spiritual awakening through God's son, Jesus. |
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---Carl on 5/23/08 |
I'd cry out to God and let him know how I feel, then I'd move on after I had my crying spell. Life is too short for a person to wear their heart on their sleeves. |
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---Rebecca_D on 5/22/08 |
If someone hurt you, then confront them and demand the reason why they did what they did. Posted by caring on: 5/16/08
Obviously you don't live up to your name. That's not using wisdom at all, and I seriously doubt that you are a born again believer. What you wrote is what a person of the world would say.
There's a much better way of avoiding a knock out confrontation like that. What would Jesus say about this? |
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---Jay on 5/20/08 |
Pray for them and then forgive them, and while doing so may you should go to that person that hurt your feels and asked them why maybe they didn't realize they hurt you. And then again forgive them and let God deal with them, if it continues you may have to go and talk to then Pastor and let him know whats going on, but go to God in pray first and then to the one that hurt you. |
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---Ann on 5/16/08 |
If someone hurt you, then confront them and demand the reason why they did what they did. |
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---Caring on 5/16/08 |
Isa 54:17
No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper, and every tongue [that] shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This [is] the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness [is] of me, saith the LORD. |
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---Carla5754 on 5/16/08 |
Much is brought on entirely by self. Giving as good as you are getting. Hurting others, blurting out whatever is on your mind, telling them off and going to great lengths to get even. It has a way of landing back on your own doorstep. When we quit offending others we are no longer offended, even the small things no longer bother us. |
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---jpmiller on 5/16/08 |
Before you take any action>>>You wait: "kill the flesh you will do". In a little time God may tell you to confront. If not, then you must get over it. |
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---catherine on 5/16/08 |
You hold the power of choice, you can be hurt, or you can not be hurt, you choose. If a person is intent on trying to hurt you, I think they have an issue that needs to be prayed for. They are really asking for help. I have no concern for myself, as to what others may try to do to me. God says that He will protect me even if my very life is threatened. |
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---dan on 5/15/08 |
Gina, first I want to show you compassion and empathy for being hurt. We are still human beings and haven't arrived yet, so some advice here is harsh. I go to the person, discussed what they did that hurt me, and I told them I forgive them. Some said they were sorry, some didn't. The ones who didn't, I prayed for and worked it out with Father God. Let God heal you. If you can't be around that person, that's fine too, just pray and tell God how you hurt and how you need Him to heal you. |
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---donna8365 on 5/15/08 |
Gina,
Sometimes it's not easy to be able to handle hurt as other christians do, and without experience and the right guidance one can really be hurt to the point of confusion and I don't mean that in a derogotory fashion but to acknowledge that we can measure that person up to the word and not find an example that can help us understand and work out what to do. |
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---Carla5754 on 5/15/08 |
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Yes the word say's all thoses things people have quoted but hurt hits deep and comes without a journal. Let the Holy Spirit speak to your heart about this one and speak back to him. It's hard not to tell someone else incase it prejudices the other person, so keep speaking to God about it and he will show you the way through patience and the word. |
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---Carla5754 on 5/15/08 |
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You may not see a way out now but eventually you will, and funny enough you'll even somehow be able to see the funny side of it as well as the Spiritual side that often we tend to ignore since we're dealing with unresolved hurt. God will help you with any emotions you have just keep talking to him, talk to him until your satisfied you can move on. Then you'll be able to deal with it prophetically. |
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---Carla5754 on 5/15/08 |
"Great peace have they which love the law: and nothing shall offend them." Ps.119:165.
Perhaps this hurtful person has a problem you're not aware of. For YOUR peace, and to exibit love you must forgive them who hurt you. |
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---NVBarbara on 5/15/08 |
Hopefully, When you say the Lords Prayer you mean it, when you say Forgive Me MY trespasses AS I Forgive others theirs! |
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---Duane_Dudley_Martin on 5/14/08 |
If you don't forgive, forgive others their debts, trespasses, God will not forgive us.
If you hang on to every offense that happens in church, eventually you will find yourself sitting home, eating worms. |
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---Chipper on 5/14/08 |
I have been saved since 1982. Been hurt by many people in the church. GET OVER IT!
With that said, forgive them, love them and yes, pray for them. You may become great friends over time, even though it seems impossible now.
Someone please look this up but, there is a scripture that says basically that someone with the Holy Spirit is not easily offended. We live in a society where the toughest people are easily offended. That's not true toughness. |
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---John on 5/14/08 |
Hi, Gina . . . I hope you stay with us a while. We do have people who can hurt others, though. But we have the real Christians, here, too. So, it is worth it to bear the ones who can hurt, in order to be with our brothers and sisters. In your church, I would say it is the same way. Know who the brothers and sisters are, and benefit from how God blesses you through them. With His good, there is always the trial. |
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---Bill_bila5659 on 5/14/08 |
Hi Gina,
Matthew 18:15-17 is in order. Hopefully the situation can be resolved in step 1 and the relationship can be restored without outside assistance. If not steps 2 and 3 may be executed. However, even if the relationship cannot be restored and you distance yourself from the person forgiveness is still in order. Matthew 18:21ff. |
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---pg1 on 5/14/08 |
Approach the person as soon as it happens and let him know exactly how you feel, "in a peaceful manner" After that you forgive and forget. |
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---Thabi on 5/14/08 |
We are to pray for one anothers faults. We are called to love and to forgive. I would take it to God for an understanding of the interaction that hurt you. I would process the problem with the one who hurt me. If it keeps up and is too painful I think it is ok to move on. The distraction henders your worship, prayer and causes you to sin. |
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---jody on 5/14/08 |
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