Marrying A Younger Man
I am a 32 year old woman engaged to a 22 year old man and we have a wonderful loving relationship. If you notice, we are basically 10 years apart. Although some people seem to have a problem with this, I'm left wondering why?
Moderator - It's not natural thats why.
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---kate on 7/10/08
Helpful Blog Vote (40)
Take it from somoeone who has been there and done that. It takes a lot of love,patience,wisdom and understanding to make a relationship like this work. It is hard work especially as both begins to pile on quite a few years. Then the real truth comes out. Oh,in the beginning it does not matter so much. You see. The man/woman has all of his/her teeth,love is new and fresh. We put our best efforts out there. But time takes its toll on us and the relationship. Can you stand the heat?Most people cannot.There has to be a lot of love,for sure.And prayer.
---Robyn on 6/10/09|
It's really nobody's business but your own. The only difficulty I could foresee is when a man in the prime of his life marries someone who is past child-bearing age. Later he may regret his decision, as time marches on. But 32 is very young, and you can have a family of your own soon. Then if he goes off with a younger person, you will still have children to support you. Just bear in mind that your children may not be perfectly healthy. Is he a man who would stick by you in the event that you had a child with say mental problems.
---frances008 on 5/5/09|
I am 42 years old and I am in a relationship w/ a man who is 25. We are in love and convinced that we are soulmates and belong together. He is young as a Christian as well. He is very mature and wise beyond his years. I consider myself blessed. We know that people are not going to agree with it. It is not a sin! We love each other and there is nothing in the Bible that says it is wrong.
---Charlotte on 5/4/09|
I am amazed at the responses from fellow Brethern. Bottom line there is NOTHING wrong with your marrying a younger man and NOTHING in scripture against it. BE BLESSED YOU, YOUR NEW HUSBAND AND YOUR WOMB.. My Lord!!!
Why is this even an issue. Mary was pregnant for Jesus when she was 15.. wow.. I mean that should not and would not go over big today. I can relate to that... but a woman marrying a younger man is no different than a man marrying a younger woman. It is such a shame even the body of Christ makes an issue out of it.. there is no age in the Spirit of God its about relationship and maturity
---Fran on 4/30/09|
I have married a man that is 18 years younger than me and we have a very good marriage and we communicate better than most married couples. I have been married before to a man that was only a few years older. My husband is supportive, caring, loving and acknowledges my independance. I guess the future lies in the lap of God.
---Tracy on 3/23/09|
I think thats great,if thats what works to make you happy go for it,but remember to put God first in everything.and then the man.and he will bless you both.Judy
---judy on 3/1/09|
You have all encouraged me - I can't tell you how much you've made me feel like, at least, I am not alone.
---kate on 2/27/09|
don't listen to anyone but you heart. I am 33 an im seeing a 21 year old man for 1 1/2 years and he the first younger guy I dated in my life and hes the best thing that every happened to me. Plus we work together all our friends are the sme and im a sucessful woman. his parents love me and his family. you only as old as you feel. its a known fact women live longer so enjoy your life!!!!!!!
---stacy on 2/26/09|
Congratulations Natasha and may God richly bless you both :)
---Mary on 2/20/09|
I am a 34 yr old woman married to a 25 yr old man whom i love very much. He was the greatest blessing in my life. i know that God himself put him in my life. i always told him that he was to young and i loved him for being my best friend. he has done so much for me. he gave me hope that love still exsist and that no matter the age its the maturity of the mans heart. dont worry about what someone else is saying they could be jealoous. i am his blessing and he is my head. i thank the Lord above for loving me enough to send me my husband when sometimes we have love in front of us and dont see it. follow your heart and not other people words. if he loves u age is once again matter of the heart and go for it. natasha
---natasha on 2/19/09|
A 60 year old man with a 20 year old woman accepted? since when does any father desire for a situation like that to his daughter? unless he is perverted himself. there are limits to acceptance on both sides, and with woman it is more difficult because there is something as the meno-pause which indicates that any women becomes infertile at a given age. Marriage is supposed to bring forth children (generally accepted idea upon marriage) that is why a parrent will cry when a son comes home with a 45 year old lady. the parrent sees the potential loss of grandchildren. and not the age at itself. this is by no means selfish this is our inherited desire for survival.
---Andy on 2/19/09|
Because in this world most people have a double standard for women. A 60 year old man can date a 20 year old and people accept that but not the other way around. Who cares what people think My boyfriend is 25 and im 34.
---Linda on 1/13/09|
I think you have to focus on God and your lover as far as faith concered if we are discriminating each other by age or race how we are Christian ? if u love him and loves you that is what is it matters..
---gabriel on 12/5/08|
Please do not be condemned by the judgement of others. Bless them and let God vindicate you and deal with them. It may be a challenging union (but whose isn't? Perhaps like 2 individuals of different backgrounds or race??) but if God brings 2 individuals together, that's it. Fullstop. Let His small still voice guide you. Submit it prayerfully to your leaders and Godly friends (who often see through us, see us through...) God will give you peace. His peace surround you and give you clarity and hearing ears.
Have you ever read "Appointment in Jerusalem" by Derek Prince's wife? It may prove very valuable for you.
---Lindi on 10/27/08|
Honestly speaking I don't believe that anywhere in the Bible God says that age is a criteria for marriage . Personally I know of many older men with a mentality of a teenager & many younger men who are mature in their thinking & walk with God. So I believe that more than the physical age , what matters is the mental maturity of the persons involved . If the man (or woman) you're marrying is comaptible with you in maturity (and he/she fits all the other scriptural criteria eg a believer ) then I would say don't let age be a hindrance ....If after a lot of prayer & seeking Godly counsel , you see that in every way both of you will be glorifying God in your marriage than go for it. God bless you.
---talitha on 10/4/08|
Dear Sweet Kate,
Follow your own heart, and don't look to people all too ready to judge you. There are way too many here ready to condemn without a shred of knowledge.
---Deb on 8/12/08|
Donna...One of the worst things a Christian can do is apologize for the gospel of Jesus Christ. Jesus taught repentance and that is what we all need to stay right with the Lord. When we repent, we do not remain in our sin over and over again. A true Christian will want to be right with the Lord immediately after they realize what they have done. A person who continues living a sinful life is showing fruit of the Devil. The Lord told us we would know them by their fruit. As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.
---SusieB on 7/25/08|
Well said Tom2 and well written.
---catherine on 7/25/08|
kate-my response wasn't directed towards you. It was directed to someone else who responded to this post - he will know who he is when he reads my response. And it wasn't meant to judge him, just to ask a simple question and get some enlightment from him.
We love you kate - SusieB, I think you're being a little too harsh with kate.
Please forgive us kate if we have hurt you in any way. What happens on these blogs is we get sidetracked from the question and respond to other people's response and that's what I did and I SINCERELY apologize for doing that. I will try really hard never to do that again. I love you in the Lord Jesus. You do what's in your heart to do with this man. Let the Lord God lead you and you will be blessed.
---donna8365 on 7/25/08|
You'll never know Donna, at least not while you breathe and live in the body you own that's already made it's mind up based on the traditions of man.
I'm accountable to God for what I do.
"living in sin" is a stupid saying because every Christian "lives in sin" to a different degree, and it creates the illusion that one sin is greater than another or one otherwise unholy bastard child is holier than another.
If your really a Christian no sin is greater than your own
---Pharisee on 7/25/08|
hey Gods alot older than me and thjats not a thought to him.age means nothing.to the world and worldly thinking yes,but there are issues with great differences in age.but again its your choice.
---tom2 on 7/24/08|
Kate...I get it now. You really didn't want our opinions. You just wanted to let us all know that you are going to marry a younger man. There is a 75 post limit on any question, so the heat will be off you pretty quick. I will be praying that you will obey the Lord and give your life to HIM.
---SusieB on 7/24/08|
Stop wandering. It is no one's business. Have a good week-end. Come on back. You are as welcome as any. As far as natural goes, not much is.
---catherine on 7/24/08|
Dear Moderator: My post is not only making me fall even farther into sinning by hating people in my heart, but causing others to sin in the same way. I have been wrong in my responses and in posting and replying. I am sorry to you and to all others on this site I have offended in either what I've said or what I've done. You can leave my post up for a little while, but then I hope you delete the entire blog. I pray that God will bless all of you and this site.
---kate on 7/24/08|
How does a TRUE Christian live in sin as a Christian? Were you not convicted by the Holy Spirit to get out of the sin that you were in? to BEG God to help you turn away from it? This is not meant to judge you or anything. Just trying to understand the statement.
I do understand that when a person first becomes a Christian, all of their sin is not done away with at first. But Repent does mean to turn away from. It's a choice, not a feeling, and a decision we make immediately upon saying the sinners prayer. That's the message of the gospel, right? Repent, be baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. Okay I'm done preaching. Just wanted to clarify that for the new babes in Christ who come here.
---donna8365 on 7/24/08|
Rhonda...This is SusieB. Notice that it says I am Rhonda at the end of my post. This is how it happens. Anyone can put your name there. There are many people with the name Kate. Some people even think it is funny to post using our names so we look stupid.
---Rhonda on 7/24/08|
Kate, this is my first responce to any remarks on the ChristNet since I started a number of years ago, but just couldn't let your remarks go unanswered.
Either you're lying about this post being your first ....or you are a "new" WIVV ...when I click on your name I see dozens of posts dating back several months
---Rhonda on 7/23/08|
I mostly agree with SusieB, but speaking as someone who "lived in sin" as a Christian, I can tell you that why to get married is important and much missed by those who maybe don't quite relate.
The importance is in finalizing the relationship into a real partnership that no one can deny.
It does bring with it a sense of permanence that the relationship otherwise doesn't possess, and with this comes a greater sense of obligation to one another.
I would also like to say it's not as ugly a sin as we like to make it out to be, it's minor and so as not to offend other brethren with poor observance to social custom, if there were no weddings every man would still "have his own wife" or none of us would exist!
---Pharisee on 7/22/08|
REPENTANCE=Acknowledging that you are living in sin and turning from it. Not "getting" married sometime soon, but getting married right now or stop living together.
---SusieB on 7/22/08|
I am not sure that a 10 yr age difference is so unnatural among adults. Is five yrs better? Or do they need to be the same age? If she was a man,would it be ok? Personally,I couldn't get involved in a marriage with a man so much younger than me(I think), but I do not know how this relationship developed and was not a witness who can make any judgement. With the divorce rate being over 50% I think they have about the same chance for success as anyone who are closer in AGE. We should be praying for this woman and her/the couple's relationship to God.
I pray the very best for you in your marriage:).
---jody on 7/22/08|
Carla...I figure the ones talking about menopause are very, very, very young and will eat their words several years down the road.
---SusieB on 7/22/08|
First of all,all of you that are putting her down,you are not being christianlike either.Did you not see where she says she is saved and knows the Lord.We all sin,make mistakes,backslide,and get out of God's will at times.The key is asking forgivness and repent from those sins.Yes she is right kate as for as living together before marriage is a sin.It was a mistake and you are getting married. stop judging and crictizing her,you are not acting christian like either.You take one comment and act don't really read into the rest of what she is saying.
---angea on 7/22/08|
She's only 32 for goodness sake I'm 43 and have a baby 5 months old, stop slaying the woman with your own individual curses of menopause. If her womb is blessed why would ya'll speak things negative concerning her health.
As christlike individuals you should be giving your concerns if you have any based on experience of her situation she didn't ask you to curse the liberty of her God given fertility rate.
Stick to the subject of her husband to be being young...if you have to.
---Carla5754 on 7/21/08|
Kate..There comes a time when all of us (myself included) must stop being Sunday Christians and give our entire life to the Lord. Instead of playing games with the Lord, like I did until I was 45 years old, it seems that you are reaching out for help with your life. Believe me when I tell you that serving the Lord is a whole lot more fullfilling than serving myself. I say that as a result of personal experience where I lived for myself and not for the Lord for too many years. No matter who you marry, if you aren't right with the Lord yourself, you will not be happy. Be there, done that!
---SusieB on 7/21/08|
Kate - I can see why you got defensive on this blog, many of these people were not even hearing what you had to say. We don't know anything about this woman's situation, we should never assume the worst, but rather pray for the best.
And, Kate, if you really didn't know God, you wouldn't even bother pondering whether or not you will be saved or if He cares for you. I see that you have a good desire. I will pray for you.
---cathy on 7/21/08|
Kate, exactly what kind of help were you looking for? Suzie B tried to lead you to Christ but you chewed her out. You claim that you know Christ. So what more is there to say?
I have very little patience with people who are determined to do as they please and expect everybody else to be gentle and supportive and above all non-critical. I have even less patience when kids are involved. Does your son have a father? Were you married before? Perhaps biblically you are not eligible to be married to your 22 year old because of a prior marriage. Who knows?
You're the one who posted here, why I don't know. Think of this blog as a buffet. Take all the sweets and goodies and leave the nutritional substance if that makes you happy.
---ralph7477 on 7/21/08|
Ok - I'll be getting married next month. Now pray for me and ask God to direct our paths. You will be able to say nothing more, he is my husband, and I love him. And believe it or not, I love God. And how do you know that I am not in this for a time such as this? Sound familiar? That's what Modecai said to Esther when she asked Xerxes for mercy on the Jews. God's bigger than my mistakes, and he's bigger than Christian scrutiny. I know the bible, Susieb. I know who my God is, and I know He will save me. Post closed.
---kate on 7/21/08|
Do you see? Ralph, your post was a direct jab. Based on what you wrote:
"But then again setting a good example for him doesn't seem to be a big priority. In the meantime, just keep playing house and continue to become irritated and complain when you feel scolded by people not applauding your decisions."
Can I ask you HOW that was supposed to be helpful? Doesn't the bible say to edify and to help lead to Christ? All you are doing is saying sarcastic things and also, you're unkind.
---kate on 7/21/08|
Kate I want you to know that you are accepted and an integral part of God's body here.
I can also see that susie B means well and is caring for you. It's important to the flow of grace that we not allow ourselves to become offended with one another, but instead try to communicate as plainly and honestly as possible.
In meekness we should try and find the part of us that takes instruction and call it to attention when a Brother or Sisiter takes time for us. If that one is a busy body it's on them, but if you haven't taken full account of yourself according to their words you could be dodging the vioce of your God, he has in times past spoken through a donkey after all. Some body parts aren't beautiful, but still needed.
---Pharisee on 7/19/08|
It's becoming clear that the 10 year age difference most likely is not the main problem people have with your situation.
Why even bother getting married? Isn't it just a matter of paperwork at this point? In fact, I suggest that you don't entangle yourself legally because when the breakup happens, it will be less expensive and so much easier for everybody, especially your son. But then again setting a good example for him doesn't seem to be a big priority.
In the meantime, just keep playing house and continue to become irritated and complain when you feel scolded by people not applauding your decisions.
---ralph7477 on 7/19/08|
Kate....It means that you need to read the Third Chapter of John and become a Christian. When that happens, the Holy Spirit will lead your life and you will know which way to go when you make decisions. As long as you are not a Christian, you will not understand this. I will be praying for you.
---SusieB on 7/18/08|
Is salvation dependent upon works? Is a relationship with Jesus only valid when you are living with a high score in the "no sin lately" department? Come on. I love it, when I am not in blatant sin, I am a Christian, walking with God, loved by other Christians. When I fall, well, there go my "friends" and also my salvation. If falling, backsliding, and sin were any indication of salvation, then we're all going to hell, people. Jesus died because we're sinners. He disciplines, and those that know Him respond. "Those who are my sheep, know my voice" So, stop telling me to get to know the Lord. Get behind me, Satan. I know him. I need to obey Him. And only HE will perfect that in me.
---kate on 7/18/08|
Susieb, I have no idea what that means. Seriously.
---kate on 7/18/08|
Kate...Thanks! The gift of discernment is something that I enjoy because I know it is fully from the Holy Ghost. It helps understand why people are posting their comments. Before you enter into a marriage, you need to make Jesus the Lord of your life. Why go into a marriage when things are not right with God?
---SusieB on 7/17/08|
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I have found no where in the Bible where it states that you cannot marry someone older or younger than you are. If you are treated well, I wouldn't be concerned about what anyone else thinks in that area. It is not like you are sinning.
---denia3789 on 7/17/08|
it's so, susieb. does that change things in any way? other than make it more an entangled mess, really? like I said, we've made our decision a long time ago.
---kate on 7/17/08|
Kate....I have one more question for you. How is it that your fiance is "taking care" of you since you are not yet married? You talk as if you are already living together. Please say it's not so.
---SusieB on 7/17/08|
Emcee, my friend, I hope you don't work for hallmark hehehe! :D Just kidding, you crack me up sometimes :)
---Mary on 7/16/08|
Straight through hail and brimstone. hmmm. it sounds like there is no hope and one could get potentially quite down on themselves and life about that. however, with all of the trials, God has remained good. The Psalmist declared that when the Israelites were bound and chained by their sin, they finally cried out "Lord, help!" And the beautiful part is that He did. He came. He helped. I believe He will help me too.
---kate on 7/16/08|
Kate :: Marry whom so ever your little heart desires BUT make sure BOTH are in accord by 'GODS WAY' till death do U part.There are No U turns in this road of life.Its straight ahead through Hail Fire and brimstone,hoping for the silver lining.God Bless
---Emcee on 7/16/08|
Hi everyone, it's me Kate again. Your repsonses are becoming cooler, thank you. Not scolding me is helpful. Anyway, to quell all fears of my poor ovaries and eggs being too old to have children, we plan to have a few kids starting next year. So, now please subtract children from the equation. Anyway, I already have a son whom WE love very much. I'm not ALL that interested in having 3 more children. One is fine and is certainly feasible sonner than later.
---Kate on 7/16/08|
I wouldn't worry about the age difference--there isn't much cultural difference between a person raised in the late 80's and one raised in the late 70's. You may be older but you're both of the same 'generation'.
But I would consider premarital counseling, so that you can determine whether you're on the same page with regards to finances, family planning, and so forth.
(Just FYI, if you do decide to have children, for health reasons it's best not to have children after age 40--ova, unlike women, always show their age.)
---Nancy on 7/15/08|
I think its exicting for you. I wish you the best in your life. Write me back.
---Mike on 7/15/08|
My wife is 62 and I am 52.
---Nana on 7/14/08|
Kate, I believe as Christians,what's in the Bible should be our final authority. If you have search the scriptures and don't find anything contrary to marrying the 22yr old, than be blessed, everything works together for those that love the Lord.If it's not an issue to those that matter to you, it doesn't matter as long as Christ is the centre of the relationship. Judith
---Judith on 7/15/08|
It's too bad that you have already committed yourself to marry this gentleman. The poor guy is in for a rough time and I really feel bad for the hurt that he will most likely experience.
As you say, you don't even know whether or not the relationship is a mistake so you come onto a blog to get opinions from strangers. You say that you both love each other but you want to be accepted. Accepted by whom?
Then you admit that you are "one step away" from calling it quits.
Regretfully, I don't see a happy ending.
---ralph7477 on 7/14/08|
There is a difference between Christ and criticizing (o: If people criticizing you can get you criticizing them, I'd say you have a problem.
I have been discovering this for myself, anyway > when people questioning me or criticizing me can get me hurt and upset and downcast and stubborn, there is a problem, whatever it is in me. Even if the others are wrong in how they deal with me.
Along with this, Kate > you are not a statistic. So, "odds" have nothing to do with this. Remember how Peter boasted he would never deny Jesus. Are you boasting or *testing* > "Test all things, hold fast what is good." (1 Thessalonians 5:21) Open up and enjoy discovering how peolple are all different (o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 7/14/08|
Kate...The age difference should not matter. However, I have yet to see you mention Jesus Christ in any of your posts. Your spiritual condition is much more important than any love affair you might have. Please read the Third Chapter of John.
---SusieB on 7/14/08|
Don't let other people's opinions, scientific observations, etc. be a stumbling block for serving our Father. He wants want is "best" for you. Jeremiah 29:11.
The important thing is that YOU and your HUSBAND serve GOD. Your marriage will be blessed as time passes. Age doesn't matter as long as you are serving GOD. :<)
---Augie on 7/14/08|
An identity issue? What I do have for sure is a mistake on my hands for posting this blog. I'm not vain, in fact I feel very bad sometimes that our ages are not closer and I worry about ALL of the things you've all stated here. The truth is though that I love him and that he loves me, and I want to be accepted for that. I want to know for sure that my relationship is not a mistake even though some people look down on it.
He's a perfect gentleman, he takes care of me, and he is not American, so culturally is used to taking care of the females in his house. I am one step away from just saying "forget it" because I DO get hurt when people discuss how "bad" it is. Anyway, thanks for all of your opinions.
---Kate on 7/14/08|
and p.s. my mom did not go through menopause until she was 50. and my boyfriend is finishing up a degree in mechanical engineering. he has a very good salary and would literally take a bullet for me if he had to. I also have a son and my son and he love each other very much.
---kate on 7/14/08|
Kate, this is my first responce to any remarks on the ChristNet since I started a number of years ago, but just couldn't let your remarks go unanswered. Having worked in the OB area for 33 years before retiring, I know what I'm dealing with when I state you are closer to menopause than you think. If you expect your looks to carry you through marriage, you are making one big mistake unless you are prepared to spend a lot of money on cosmetic surgery in your later years. Off the cuff and not knowing you except your responce, you seem to have an identity issue.
---wivv on 7/13/08|
A MAN is someone that can hold down a job responsibly, progress independantly provide Spiritually and Physically for his family and with the Gods grace his whole household is saved.
A mommies boy and Child Cannot Do That!!!!!!
THANK YOU AND God BlessXXXXX
---Carla5754 on 7/12/08|
"Have you SEEN me? I'm beautiful and MANY men have asked me out - young and old." Kate 7/11/08
Ah! Now I get it! The marrying a younger man is a vanity thing. People will think you are younger because he is younger. You have yet to mention if either of you are Christians or if this marriage is God's will.
---SusieB on 7/12/08|
So what's wrong with a female paying her own way on a date? Sounds like guys are starting to wise up out there.
---ralph7477 on 7/12/08|
Rhonda...You are so right. A mother who talks about her 22-year old (MAN) as if he were a child, needs to let go NOW. Speaking as the mother of three grown sons, they are all different and some men are more mature at 22 than some at 52. My husband is 10 months younger than me, but looks much older than I am. People keep asking him how he managed to marry a younger woman. I love it. But, it does bother him. For those who are talking about 32 being old and close to menopause, you are obviously very, very, very young yourselves. I know many women who had babies when they were over 45. When you are in your 50's you will look back and laugh at some of your statements on this blog.
---SusieB on 7/11/08|
I wouldn't want you marrying my 22yr old for the fact that he's at a tender age
That is beyond comprehension when parents cannot let go of ADULT children.
A 22 year old MAN is not at a "tender age" ...he's not a boy of 12 ...he's a man
it's so sad when man are coddled like that by their mothers ...and we wonder why so many men take ZERO responsibility later in life ...they are still waiting on Mommy's permission
---Rhonda on 7/11/08|
Donna maybe you should find men who are more character ...for every story you have about all these younger men who wronged you ..I have many stories of guys in their 40's and beyond who treated women the same way as all these young men treated you
it's never the age ...it's about morals, character, integrity ...AGAIN AGE does not gaurantee any positive loving respectful character traits ...
have many female friends in their late 30's and early 40's dating guys in their late 20's who are just as respectful as all the "older" guys ...afterall wouldn't many of these older guys have taught their sons the right way?
---Rhonda on 7/11/08|
menopause at 32?
I grew up in the 70's in a large city ...many friends were "only children" and they didn't play with their first cousins they played with their nephews and nieces who were the same age as them
....because their siblings were adults ...they were the proverbial "whooops" children ...their mothers were all late 40's early 50's when they had them and both parents were retired when we graduated
---Rhonda on 7/11/08|
In fact,when i met my boyfriend i was 23 and he was 33.We are still together after 4 years and 9 months this month.Talking about getting married and starting a family.And he is a good christian guy too.I am so thankful and blessed,that He blessed me with the most wonderful guy i could ever meet.I know sometimes when their is a big age gap things don't work out with couples,but i think if you both know the lord and pray,let the lord lead and put God first in the relationship it will work out.But both people should be very sure if that person is the one the Lord as for them.I got to where i just ignore people when they something bad about the age difference,and say well i know the Lord sent him to me,and that is all that matters.
---angea on 7/11/08|
Moderator,i don't think it is unnatural either.First of all my grandpa was 4 years older than my grandma when they got married.She was 30 and he was 34.My mom's friends parents were 7 years apart and the wife was the older one.And my boyfriend is 10 years older than me or as he says 9 years 9 months and 9 days apart.I am 28 and he is 38.And God sent him to me,put us together,and i know he is the one for me.Kate,i think as long as you and your fiance have prayed and know the Lord put lyou two together and it is the Lords will then it is ok.I know how you feel.But me and my boyfriend we don't even notice the age difference at all.We get along so well and the Lord did it.I wish you both the best and hope it all works out for you.
---angea on 7/11/08|
If both of you are Christians and you have a mature 22yr old for his age and he's came from a big family then a one in a million chance is It may.... work out.
You may not know the saying but take time to know him first he's not a toy boy, know him spiritually first not intimately he's young and needs his own experience of life which he won't get if your in his face to be responsible which is what you'll do come the babies.
I wouldn't want you marrying my 22yr old for the fact that he's at a tender age and if people are having a problem it's because he is young.
He needs to be youth not a husband or you'll fall into the trap of him wondering what it would have been like if he married someone his own age.
---Carla5754 on 7/11/08|
10 years difference is probably an acceptable gap. Women outlive men in most cases, so in old age it will be a good match. Also, women are at the their peak around age 30 while men are at their peak around age 18. That is how God made it so it can't be entirely wrong in spite of what society may try to force on a couple. I know a couple that is 7 years apart and they have a fantastic marriage and are very happy together.
---obewan on 7/11/08|
32 years old is by no means menopausal. I had a child at 35 years old and wanted to have more. Let's not be so mean spirited to people seeking help. I believe that we need more love and kindness in this world and a whole lot less criticism. It's not natural according to whom????? Some man made stereotyped opinion?
---Annie on 7/11/08|
Thanks for your feedback everyone. I'm laughing at some of them, I have to admit. WVIV: you said that I'm almost ready for menopause in a few years??? LOL! People may think I'm his mother??? Have you SEEN me? I'm beautiful and MANY men have asked me out - young and old. And how do you know I'll be retired when he's still working? Some people retire at 50 today. Thanks Trish9863 for stating the truth.
---kate on 7/11/08|