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Should We Be Surface Christians

Are we to be frank in our relationships, or are we to smile and go on as if all is well when it is not?

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 ---Pooks on 1/1/09
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more_excellent_way,
That was very good that you said!
---Nana on 1/13/09


The common teachings about Godliness (what is commonly taught) teach that 'self' is bad and should be forsaken. This is a VERY demonic, dehumanizing, and harmful teaching because it encourages a person to negate/ignore their humanity and simply be a non-thinking 'ROBOT'.

In the beginning, the human being was spiritually made in THE IMAGE OF GOD. NEVER forsake or belittle "self" in any way. If there are any negative results of this, THE LORD (no one else has the authority to decide what is negative in your life) will point that out and you will work on it with HIM in your personal relationship.
---more_excellent_way on 1/13/09


Colossians 2:18
"self abasement".

In order to relate to and identify with "I am who I am" (Exodus 3:14, His FOREVER name), we each must be who we are (no PERSONALITIES, they are not genuine).

The Lord is no respecter of personalities, He only has regard for a person's true NATURE/character and who they really are, not who they pretend to be. This is correctly expressed in the KJV...
Acts 10:34
"God is no respecter of persons".

So, be frank in your relationships and do not deny your true "self" (you will also develop a true TWO WAY relationship with God).

He "yearns jealously" (James 4:5).

All verses unless otherwise noted are from the RSV.
---more_excellent_way on 1/13/09


well honestly is paramount.telling anyone how you feel about something is fine,as long as its correct.meqning that many times you aren,t.understanding that people make mistakes,that we all at times take each other for granted.but more important knowing that when we make committments we must keep them,vows, but alas,with a divorce rate over 50 percent,and people today with a total me me me what about me attitude and lifestyle,iam not sure theres an answer too your question that wont offend.
---tom2 on 1/11/09


Seek and you shall find. Do an online bible search for "one another" and "each other" and you will find your answer.
---Steveng on 1/7/09




We are to be honest. So if there is a problem, sit down and calmy discuss it with the person. Then pray about it. Let God deal with it.
---cindy on 1/7/09


Pooks, first, everyone reaps what they sow, so if someone is causing trouble, they will reap the consequences of that - stay out of it.

God said, Vengence is mine. Vengence and Justice are two different things - maybe you just want Justice?

Pray for the person causing trouble, pray for your enemies, turn the other cheek, and let God deal with these kind of people.

Jesus never got involved in gossip or troublemakers lives. Amen?
---donna8365 on 1/5/09


Pooks: Christians are to go thru life relationships with an attitude of gentleness & humility. This can only be accomplished by the leading of the Holy Spirit, i.e., love, joy, peace, gentleness, goodness, long-suffering, faith, meekness & temperance. Pray God will provide the right opportunity & word your mouth with exactly what & how you should say what is necessary. Don't go disasterously ahead of the leading of the Holy Spirit. If God doesn't use you in given situations, rest assure He has other resources at His disposal. You should be obedient to God & let Him be God. :)
---Leon on 1/5/09


Sometimes issues are swept under the carpet and ignored in the interest of "peace" I find taht these eventually erupt and are brought to the fore and a big fight ensues. What to do when friends sweep under the carpet to each other what they have confided in you. Ignore it and wait for the big bang? Sit them down and adress it, even though it appears as if you are wearing your 'halo'? If you ignore, the big bang comes with a "you knew this and didnt tell me?" directed at you.

And for self as well, Is it 'halo-ing' if you say. 'I do not like this and refuse to put up with it?'
---Pooks on 1/4/09


we are told in the Bible to walk by faith and not be sight.
circumstances should not dictate but allow God's word to supercede them.
Jesus said "speak to the mountain to be removed".. and God taught Abraham to "speak of things that are not as though they already were".
Paul said "i know the secret of facing every situation, i can do all things through Christ which strengthens me."

every example of faith in the Bible is for our instruction and our benefit.
are we going to agree with circumstances, or agree with God for the seed of faith to bring a change.
---opalgal on 1/4/09




Concerning relationships, It is important to be honest with yourself and the person/people to whom you chose to associate. The way to develop the best that is in a person is thru a sincere, encouraging appreciation. The rare individual who unselfishly makes an attempt to serve the need of another, truly blesses themselves. One can gain the time and cooperation of anyone thru a genuine interest in them. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". "Agree with your adversary quickly" It is not worth the time or trouble to disagree. Use a quiet, kind, peaceful approach, this will always produce the positive. "Do not complain about the snow on your neighbors roof, when your own doorstep is unclean":o)
---joseph on 1/4/09


Pooks

No one cares what you know, until they themselves know that you care!

We're to be 'Frank' in our relationships by caringly sharing & serving one another as the Lord has served & shared with us.

When others are able to see & know our fruits of the spirit, is when their hearts will realize our caring compassion(that is of the Lord which produced them) and will desire to seekout what we know that brought us into these fruits.

This is when others will truly have 'ears to hear the Word of the Lord'.

God Bles
---Shawn_M.T. on 1/2/09


I don't see what not being frank in our relationship has to do with being surface Christians.

However, there are times when charity and even common courtesy demands we forbear telling people what we think.
---katavasia on 1/2/09


Depends on the circumstances. Do you know the person well? If it is a serious thing then we should be truthful no matter what. There will be conciquences if you do or don't speak your feelings about something good or bad. I suggest you pray carefully first and listen to your heart, it will never lie to you. Make sure it is coming from the Holy Spirit not another person.
---BRENDA on 1/1/09


Either way could be wrong. Some people are snobby about everything they don't agree on. And some people don't even think murder is wrong. It think it has a lot to do with our attidude. If it's agressive and hurtful without caring for people' feelings it's no better than the person who smiles at evil without giving an opinion.
---john on 1/1/09


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