To bro.Adetunji, with all respect, you give very good honest answers,once again. difficult,even a reality many face or been through,also, there is a horrible thing yes,not forget but,sad & yet, realistic..a std( disease) It's NOT worth it! God loves us all but, there really are bad consequences for sin. Love of Jesus!
---lidia4796 on 7/22/13|
Amanda: I remember 1 more thing to say, STOP walking into temptation. It is usually when we start going into temptation(consciously) that the Holy Spirit leaves us (quietly), and we shall fall. If we are not aware of an impending temptation, the Holy Spirit by HIS power will always move us out of it.
---Adetunji on 7/9/13|
Amanda, your prayers are needed, but it is also necessary for you to consider the question of WHY.
Consider what led you to do that
And then consider what you can do, BEFORE you are tempted, to reduce the danger that you will be tempted again
You have failed, yes, but now you must go back and see why you failed, and fight to that failure does not happen again
Consider who you can be with when you are lonely that will not be a temptation.
But do that thinking NOW, not when your husband leaves
---Peter9556 on 7/8/13|
Amanda if you are saved you cannot continue in your sin without punishment. God forgives over and over but in His forgiveness there is punishment. You may get a std, loose your family or some other tradegy in your life. Don't take ur sin for granted you won't get caught. There are signs to look for. My son whose wife left him two months ago met someone and her family is destroyed. My sweet 12 yr old grandson is the target of her rage. She Is out of control. Please pray day and night beg God to help you. I also have a friend in the same position as you. My prayers are for you.
---shira4368 on 7/8/13|
That is what I would like to know does God hear your prayers and do you get your blessings back that you lost???
---Anthony on 7/8/13|
God forgave David, but there is still punishment. Further, under the idea, "Do to others as you will have others do to you," may be your husband will fill entitled to do the same. Seals and Croft sang "Darling if you want me to love love only you, then love only me." Seems an inclination for you. You need more resolve or to have your husband more often or may be more children to pre-occupy you.
---born on 2/22/13|
Amanda: I have been helped by God to overcome fornication since 1991. You have been asking for forgiveness but you have to go a step more. You have to start asking God genuinely to help you overcome the adultery problem. God's power is AWESOME, HE will teach, help, equip & aid you to overcome it. On your own, you wont overcome it Rom.10:13, John 15:5.
---Adetunji on 2/21/13|
Of course God forgives you. God is compassionate and loving. He also has endured every temptation that we will ever face during his time in the desert. God knows that it's hard.
---Steve_Mcclellan on 2/21/13|
confess your sins one to another and be free of the guilt! trust god..if your spouse leaves , remain single and try to restore your marriage but more importantly your relationship with god...he will forgive repented sin!! confessed....if your spouse is a godly man he will work things out with you..period...seek help from your pastor...but the lie is eatting you up...the truth will set you free
---pat_miaoulis on 10/21/09|
It is not only you that is doing this again, there is an evil spirit that is pushing/helping you to do what you do not like & weakening you to sincerely pray to God & will be deceiving you not to worry about it Rom.7:14-25. You should from now on be praying sincerely to the Lord Jesus Christ to cleanse you, deliver you from everything that is pushing you into it, occupy you and glorify Himself in you John.14:13-14. God saved me from fornication in 1991 & has kept me away from carnal relationship with my neighbours wives(unmarried or married) since then.
---Adetunji on 10/18/09|
I really understand that you want to be helped, that is why you saying this. God sees your heart and also sees your sincerity. You have taken the right step by being sincere and honest. As the bible says- "he that confesses his sins and forsakes it shall obtain mercy". Please when you repent by the blood of Jesus, believe you are forgiven. And you are in a place of the righteousness of God through christ. Don`t feel condemned, God still loves you. Remember, u became righteous thru christ and not by ur own doing. And please ask for grace from God to be faithful to ur husband, and also maintain good xtian association by relating with believers and staying in spiritual environments.
---Tunde on 10/17/09|
WOW! thank you for your honesty! Adultery is a very forgiveable sin. You are totally free to confess and forsake it. I commend you and rejoice with you. HOWEVER look how Jesus defined adultery.. He said 4 times that if you are marrying a second person you are committing adultery if you lst partner is living. If this is not forsaken but continued in there is NO forgiveness. adulters do not make it.
---Del on 3/1/09|
Interestingly, He is faithful even when we are not. God is near to you but you do not sense or believe it because your conscience is cluttered with guilt. If you confess your sin "He is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness". The repetitive nature of your sin is the problem. But if your heart is truly remorseful you can repent. God has endless grace to the repentant heart while you live on earth. Your conviction needs to be strong enough to believe that you will indeed be capable of repentance. Seek Him with all of your heart and seriously repent. Ask Him to help you repent. You can get back to God:) With God "all things are possible".
---jody on 2/26/09|
John 5:13-14 And he that was healed knew not who it was: for Jesus had taken himself away, a multitude being in that place. Afterward Jesus found him in the temple, and said unto him, Behold, you are made whole:
--sin no more, lest a worse thing come unto you--.
Hebrews 10:26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,
God gives people over to their lusts by removing his Grace. Grace is power over sin by the Spirit of Grace the Holy Ghost. Acts 1:8 But you shall receive power, after the Holy Spirit has come upon you:
---exzucuh on 2/26/09|
Amanda, I have not heard any other volunteers to pray yet but my wife volunteers. We are still praying for you. I also want to confirm what wivv said for you stop by focusing on Him and not your desires. Something like that delivered me. I had a problem I kept struggling with for more than a year. I kept asking Jesus to come and give me strength and for victory. But then for some reason I started asking to be delivered from it and for a new way out of it and the strangest thing happened. cont...
---DavidA on 2/25/09|
Romans 1:28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient,
Jeremiah 2:19 Thine own wickedness shall correct thee, and thy backslidings shall reprove thee:
Ezekiel 3:20 Again, When a righteous man doth turn from his righteousness, and commit iniquity, and I lay a stumblingblock before him, he shall die: because thou hast not given him warning, he shall die in his sin, and his righteousness which he hath done shall not be remembered, but his blood will I require at thine hand.
---exzucuh on 2/25/09|
Over about a year I found myself more and more concerned about other people, the welfare, etc. All sorts of things started slowly coming into my mind. I had not concerned myself with before. I found myself just praying that Jesus would come to different people and bless their hearts. I started getting all worried about homeless people and old ladies in my town and kids with no father. Many of my prayers were answered even though I had no interaction with most of them except that I did start helping out with things that I could. At one point I looked back and realized I had not thought about my weakness in over a year. God had delivered me and he did it his way.
---DavdA on 2/25/09|
cont... He filled my heart with other stuff. That other stuff might sound like no fun but I can't explain how it made me feel like I had purpose and in that sense of purpose somehow my previous desires got totally lost. I'm not saying this is *how* it will happen for you or that you can buy your way out of trouble with good works or anything like that. I'm just saying I asked for a way out and he gave it to me. Tell him your trouble and ask for a way out he will make a way out for you. It may not be a way out that you have ever expected but you will be free.
---DavidA on 2/25/09|
I'm sorry you keep having trouble with this. I find it hard to believe God won't continue to forgive you since he told us to forgive each other 490 times (Mat 18:22). There are issues beyond that. This is making you miserable and hurting your marriage and destroying your faith that God cares for you any longer and this is going to continue to open up doors of more trouble for you. I'm praying right now that he shows you something new that will heal you both and deliver you from this prison. Is there anyone else that will join me in this prayer? Let us hear from you. I'm asking for agreement right now that we pray Amanda be healed and delivered from this trouble.
---DavidA on 2/25/09|
We don't know if God forgave you or not. If you knew it was wrong, then why did you give into temptation? My husband was away for 16 weeks in the Police Academy. I seen him on the weekends though. I was faithful to him, because I was "in love" with him. Did your forgiveness come from the heart or was it just empty words? The bible says If you know to do good and don't do it, then that is a sin unto God. If a person does something wrong unto God over and over again, they won't be forgiven every time. That saying, "if you can't be with the one you love, then love the one your with", is a total lie and it sounds like you fell for that lie.
---Rebecca_D on 2/24/09|
First of all, God is always looking at you! He will never turn away from you! He loves you and has been waiting for you to come back to him. Maybe confession will work? And if you are truely sorry for your sins then let God help you. Let him guide you. Put him first in your life and in everything you do.
---Lisa5554 on 2/18/09|
Because you have continued in your sin, now the devil has a stronghold and you need to get prayer at church and have that spirit broken. Ask God to forgive you and when you repent, that means do not return to your sin. You need to tell your husband your weakness, you may not want to, but if that is causing you to stumble, then maybe you can call him or someone at church or maybe he doesn't have to travel and be away from home so much,whenever you get tempted, you need to get connected to a support group to keep you accountable when you get lonley and if you get involved in church activities, you won't be so lonley.
---janine on 2/12/09|
Fall in Love with God instead,repentance gives remission.
The HOLY SPIRIT will teach you about the POWER IN the NAME of JESUS CHRIST.
ONLY God can change you.
Acknowledging You CAN'T change YOURSELF is the first step...RENEWING your mind with HIS WORD FOREVER IS THE NEXT...
He gives you HIS STRENGTH...
you need to believe this and ask for it.
It's not by might,it's not by power,it's by HIS SPIRIT.
YOUR THOUGHTS need to be renewed by HIS WORDS.
If the SPIRIT OF HIM that raised up JESUS from the dead DWELL IN YOU,HE that RAISED UP CHRIST FROM THE DEAD shall also QUICKEN your mortal bodies by HIS SPIRIT that dwells IN YOU.Rom8:11
---char on 2/10/09|
I want you to get the NT bible on Mp3. For this Saturday coming, I want you to make no plans. From the moment you wake up, I want you to play the bible in the back round. Spend the day alone thinking about how you feel in the present of the lord. Drinking only water, permit only what you must to live! Untill you fall sleep. You will be able to say no, I have his word to yourself next time, do it and see!
You are in a fight. Tell me before Friday night and I will stand with you! Maybe other will too! Doing the same believe me! I do not fall in to this kind of sin, I am just guilty.
---TheSeg on 2/8/09|
I am in the same situation and I do not know how to get back to God. I still love God and feel like such a hypocrite
---sheila on 2/8/09|
Amanda, This may sound hard at first but, it comes from GOD's word, and I'll put it to you strait forward.
Luk 6:46 And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say? He's not our Lord unless we obey Him. Jhn 15:14 Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you. The key words are "if ye do".
You should feel the way you do, Psa 143:7 Hear me speedily, O LORD: my spirit faileth: hide not thy face from me, lest I be like unto them that go down into the pit. If you truly are one of HIS children and you dont stop, HE will give you a good spanking. Hbr 12:6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
This is Love
---joe on 2/8/09|
If you truely repent, then yes Jesus forgives you. God is engaged to the backslidder. We all stumble. Some of us fall harder and further than others, but our God loves us still. He will not stop perfecting you as long as you don't stop surrendering. Each time you backslide, it makes it a little bit harder to get back up. The more you continue in sin, the harder your heart becomes to the conviction of the Holy Spirit. It's like russian rullet with you spirit man. Where sin abounds, grace abounds more, but not to be taken advantage of to fulfill the lusts of the flesh. We will all be held accountable for our works, so you better put on the full armor and learn to keep it on!
---BryanG on 2/8/09|
Yes, I agree
This woman at least acknowledges her sin, in this, this sin is forgiven.
Because she also fears, she has lost the love of God.
I keep asking for forgiveness but I dont feel God can hear or look at me anymore!
This way of thinking can not do her any good. It is wrong of her to think this way.
She I see is so very weak in faith, someone must hold the door open for her.
Who should do this, how do you hold the door open for someone who can not see you?
In other words, why did you doubt?
Then you have the one with all the wisdom of the truth. That is so very blind.
God Blessed You!
---TheSeg on 2/6/09|
The point is This woman at least acknowledges her sin and is just like David in a place where her sins have made her alien to a good conscience before God.
David knew he did wrong and just like a mother who is cross sometimes we don't want to here our children outcry because we told them so.
So this woman is feeling exactly the same well in Psalms we read of David's anguish. It isn't easy when you continually sin it's like starting all over again, maybe it's about thinking we serve by works entirely and not understanding the unmerited favour of Grace we are forgiven when we TURN around and sin no more.
---Carla3939 on 2/6/09|
Joh 8:11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.
All of you, who do not commit sin any more, at all ever, please talk to this person.
Tell her you do not commit sin any more ever, tell her how you did it.
For you are sinless!
May God Bless You!
Because I know, I am a sinner. In this, I am guilty of more than this woman is.
Because, I know I am! The one who will send her to hell are the sons of the devil.
I want to thank The Truth for his insight, but
Have all the gifts of healing? do all speak with tongues? do all interpret?
---TheSeg on 2/5/09|
Romans 8 and 9
if you have not recieved the Literl spirit of the Holy Ghost which causes you to spek in tongues, then you are not under grace or anything, your sin reamins,
he who sins if of the devil!
---The_truth on 2/4/09|
You commit adultery because you want to. "But each person is tempted when he is drawn away and enticed by his own evil desires...."
James 1:14-15 (HCSB) God has, will, and will continue to forgive you, but you are limiting how God can you use you by committing adultery. "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's."
1 Cor 6:18-20 (KJV) You stop by focusing on Him, not your desires.
---wivv on 2/4/09|
Romans 8:38,39 For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 7:20 But if I am doing the very thing I do not wish, I am no longer the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me. Matthew 18:21,22 Jesus told Peter to forgive his brother seventy times seven. 1 John 5:14 And this is the confidence which we have before Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. I'll pray for you.
---Bob on 2/1/09|
Most of the advise here is great. God absolutely forgives, He forgets, and He covers all our sins.
However, there will be earthly consequences to our actions. If you come to God, leave and go ask forgiveness and make things right with anyone you need to on earth.
There are consequences to our actions, God forgives, but we need to do our part to make things right.
God can restore situations that we mess up, and that restoration can become a message to help others.
Shall we sin that grace may abound? No, but His grace will abound and show us that we need Him. That's the wonderful Grace of God.
---Rod on 2/1/09|
You can't be so perfect that you haven't said something stupid to someone when you knew you should't. Isn't that a wilfull sin? Surely we are all guilty of this
If you read the verse I quoted rather than leap to your assumption then you wouldn't be saying/writing anything "stupid" about my post ...either you don't comprehend willfully sinning or the verse I used
I did not write Gods Holy Word ...God has forgiven us of PAST sins at baptism ...if she were not sinning anymore then the verse most certainly would have applied ...her guilt lies in continue sin and she does this expecting each time she does she has a "get out of sin free card" or the guilt because she has not told her husband
---Rhonda on 1/31/09|
Good for you PAUL"That's the road to marital bliss."The families of today are limited to,1-2-3 resulting in some of the discrepancies mentioned.Larger Families The woman has an easier time at confinement. "I understand" and I have heard it described "Mommy had a baby and the head popped out" Please do not fault me and its not meant to raise rancour.
---MIC on 1/29/09|
Paul thanks I needed a good laugh........... sum of us women have to shaved too lol I guess it's from having to the mens jobs eh!
my hubby went for his vasectomy because it would be life threatening for both myself and the unborn child if I conceived again.
However talk about drama king......... lol
---Carla5754 on 1/29/09|
Carla, yes, women have to go through a lot but we men are condemned to shave every single day and it's no fun at all :))
On a serious note, yes, women go through a lot in life and in my opinion, the husband should help his wife with cooking, cleaning, etc. I do, and I feel it's her right to be helped.
---Paul2 on 1/29/09|
We Women have to go through having babies, cesareans, Periods, I know women who get no help with shopping, cooking, washing up, they go through, Fibroids, Womb Cancer, Sterilisation,hot/cold flushes, heart aches with adolecant children, no one to do the decorating, garden or help with everyday tasks then by Rights No woman should have to go to hell, so with all that in mind
For Goodness Sake stop Using your body as a lacterin (toilet) living in what must be guilty as hell which.. is bad enough
''DONT MAKE IT PERMANENT HELL''!
You have a choice........
---Carla3939 on 1/27/09|
Feelings are not facts, they are feelings. Our feelings are usually based on our thinking, which at times can be faulty. So, if you feel lonely, you are believing a lie of the devil. God says He will be with us always. If you feel God cannot hear you, that is also a lie, because scripture says He hears the prayers of His children. 1 John 1:9 says if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive our sins, and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
As for repeatedly falling into sin, try getting involved in an accountability relationship with an older Christian woman. Ask her to teach you scriptures and pray together for your hear to be focused on the Lord, and not on your flesh.
---Trish9863 on 1/26/09|
Rhonda. Based on your advice you're in a lot of trouble yourself. How will you escape yourself when you say that God will not forgive a Christian who has wilfully sinned? have you never sinned when you knew it was a sin? Have you never closed you're eyes to the need of a person knowing that you were supposed to help them but didn't? You can't be so perfect that you haven't said something stupid to someone when you knew you should't. Isn't that a wilfull sin? Surely we are all guilty of this and need his forgiveness.
---john on 1/25/09|
Amanda:-How did you ask for forgiveness Did you say a prayer in your heart?B/c Jesus will not enter a dead and defiled heart,This then is the reason why you feel unforgiven & Jesus will not look at you.There is a place for a genuine contrition and Jesus always said after curing some one "GO, show yourself to the high Priest"He tells us the same in His nominated Church 'Go to His representative' tell him your troubles and desires and you will know the feeling of forgiveness.Jesus gave us this privelege to His annointed"whose sins you forgive they are forgiven"
---MIC on 1/24/09|
God does not forgive a converted Christian if they WILLFULLY continue to disobey his commandments ...if you are not striving to OVERCOME and OBEY then you are not a practicing Christian
Christ told the women to SIN NO MORE (John 8)
many use Christs salvation as a license to continuously sin because they have been deceived that ALL SINS have been forgiven forgetting all that Christ and Apostles taught about OVERCOMING and OBEYING ...you cannot serve your sin and The Father
---Rhonda on 1/24/09|
amanda,let me say that yes you were wrong,believe me God will forgive you,but scripture does tell us that if we have wronged someone we must go to that person and ask forgiveness.it sounds apparent that you may not be ready for marriage.
---tom2 on 1/23/09|
Maybe you need more fromyour marriage. If you were happier,I bet you'd have less trouble straying... Good luck!!!
---Nicole on 1/23/09|
Well, you may be right. If you needed God more than other people, you would have obeyed God no matter how painful it is for you.
---catherine on 1/23/09|
but God will make you feel forgiven
it won't be just a feeling
"Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us." (Romans 5:5)
we feel this love "in our hearts" with forgiveness living in this love, so you need to live in God's love for all people and here is where the forgiveness is, with "rest for your souls" (in Matthew 11:29) > in His forgiveness in this love we have rest in our souls, and strength not to do it again
are you a Christian? do you trust your husband and pastor, if you are? with them, you can find out what to do, if they are real Christians
---Bill_bila5659 on 1/23/09|
Forgiveness isn't a feeling, but a fact...
Jesus bore all of our sins in His own body on that tree( 1Peter 2:24)
The word of God isn't just a book...it is THE TRUTH. Anything that God has said in His word is what you believe, not how you feel.(Proverbs 28:13, Isaiah 43:25-26, 1John 1:9, Romans 8:1, 2Corinthians 5:21)
You also need to talk to one of your church ministers and get counseling & accountability.
God forgave you, now it's just time for you to forgive yourself....
---Rickey on 1/23/09|