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Do you have to get married by a priest to be married in God's eyes? What if you just are true in your heart and you promise each other? Does it have to be "leagal"?

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Amand6348: "would not feel like a man had committed himself to me, all because he promised himself to be my husband. There is no legal document to back up his claims, and he can lie to any woman and say he is not married when in his heart he said he was. We are all human. And guess what? Humans break promises"

Reminds me of Messiah saying "let your communication be Yea, yea, Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil" Matt 5:37

When a legal doc is needed 2 back up a man's word, his word isn't much good 2 begin with. If ppl want legal docs for benefits, great, but it doesn't "make" a marriage. And legally married ppl often lie abt being married. Yes, humans break promises-even legal ones
---AlwaysOn on 5/14/09


The marriage between the Lamb and the church is based upon a convenant. Likewise, a man and a woman is married by a covenant written by the law of the land.

And just as baptism is an outward sign of a bond between God and a Christian so is a marriage ceremony be an outward sign of a husband and wife being bonded together.
---Steveng on 5/10/09


Yes. Make it legal. That's the godly way.
---Betty on 5/10/09


Good question.

Adam and Eve were married without a piece of paper or a priest.

However, I would not feel like a man had committed himself to me, all because he promised himself to be my husband. There is no legal document to back up his claims, and he can lie to any woman and say he is not married when in his heart he said he was.

We are all human. And guess what? Humans break promises.
---amand6348 on 5/10/09


Messiah attended a marriage celebration akin to receptions held after weddings today. This is evident in the recorded events during his attendance (changing water to wine during the celebration). Throughout scripture we learn that people gathering for a celebration of marriage was a common tradition. However, scripture doesn't say Messiah attended a marriage "ceremony". As with Isaac and Rebekah, scripture supports that the actual union took place in private. There's no record to support a public ceremony in scripture, nor is there any record of a person "pronouncing" two people husband and wife. The only record in scripture is the joining of Adam and Eve, and the joining of Isaac and Rebekah. No public ceremony for either.
---AlwaysOn on 3/25/09




So does ---katavasia on 3/24/09 wanna explain why his responce is so heavily fixated on Old Testament marriage when we are Post New Testament?

Jhn 2:1
And the third day there was a marriage in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there:
---Carla3939 on 3/24/09


**"And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife, and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death."**

Notice it doesn't say that Rebekah loved Isaac.

It's clear later that she had her own agenda.

Note also that this was an arranged marriage.
---katavasia on 3/24/09


In Genesis 24:67 we are given a direct explanation of how two people got married: "And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife, and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death." We can continue to debate whether or not a "ceremony" exists in scripture, meanwhile the actual method is already right there for all to receive.
---AlwaysOn on 3/23/09


**it's not saying there was no ceremony I'm sure there was, even if they jumped a broom, where on earth would you have the space to write absolutely every detail down for every marriage in the scriptures Duh?**

Not saying there was a ceremony at all.

Your "being sure there was" is not scriptural proof, but simply reading in your own presuppositions into the Biblical account.

Furthermore, some cultures have had proxy marriages when one or the other would NOT be present, but represented by another.
---katavasia on 3/22/09


For a Christian > Paul refers to celibacy or holy matrimony as being one's "own gift from God" (1 Corinthians 7:7). So, holy matrimony in Christ is a *gift* of the Holy Spirit.
***I understand the Holy Spirit chooses who gets each "gift".***
Holy matrimony is a LOVE calling, to learn how to love in an intimate relationship with another person. Then you can help others to learn how to relate better in love. So, holy matrimony may be the "helpmate" of our Second Love Commandment (o: while celibacy specializes one in relating personally with God, and helping us keep the First Love Commandment. So, marriage in Jesus is a *church* matter, with leaders making sure about who is really called to this.
---Bill_bila5659 on 3/20/09




-katavasia on 3/19/09

You always get one smart cookie !
For your contention/convenience PLEASE..... provide advice on how one should go about getting married approved by God if we are not to go by scripture based on marriage where clearly 2 provided indicate a ceremony.

Are you thick or something when God never mind the bridegroom was present who needed a ceremony when he is The I Am and it's not saying there was no ceremony I'm sure there was, even if they jumped a broom, where on earth would you have the space to write absolutely every detail down for every marriage in the scriptures Duh?
---Carla3939 on 3/20/09


** Lev 20, Mat 5:43, Mat 22:3:12, Mat 19:5, Mat 19:6,Mat 19:8:12, Luke. Mark 10,
Rom 1:27 Romans 5, 7, Rom 13:9Eph 5:25 Col 3:19.

Scripture based on marriage indicate a ceremony,**

There's nothing in any of these verses indicating a marriage ceremony, much less what should be included in it.

Furthermore, there is no mention of a ceremony for Isaac and Rebecca.
---katavasia on 3/19/09


Presumably you mean for a church wedding to be legal ... ?
No Alan,

I was married on the beach not in church in the Carribeans the Misister was Licensed.
---Carla3939 on 3/18/09


Lev 20, Mat 5:43, Mat 22:3:12, Mat 19:5, Mat 19:6,Mat 19:8:12, Luke. Mark 10,
Rom 1:27 Romans 5, 7, Rom 13:9Eph 5:25 Col 3:19.

Scripture based on marriage indicate a ceremony, but obviously it depends on what people can aford or request, You can marry by a blacksmith and anvil, but the point is it has to be to be legal or else it is illegal, fornication and your children are not blessed and the union is not sanctified by God. 1 Corinthian7.


---Carla3939 on 3/18/09


Carla. Where in the Bible do you see a teaching or an example of the advice you gave?
---john on 3/17/09


Carla .... "For your marriage to be legal and binding your marriage needs to be conducted by a Minister that is licensed to carry out legal and binding marriages according to the Law of the Land or sea"

Presumably you mean for a church wedding to be legal ... ?

Secular weddings in our country, for you are in the UK too, do not require a minister, and they are still legal & binding.
---alan8566_of_uk on 3/17/09


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For your marriage to be legal and binding your marriage needs to be conducted by a Minister that is licensed to carry out legal and binding marriages according to the Law of the Land or sea.

However, the marriage must be guided by the Holy Bible( man/Woman) and that set out in the Guidelines outlined for marriages .
---Carla3939 on 3/17/09


**A Preacher or Judge can marry a couple. (Man & woman).... There is no such thing as a Common Law relationship after 10 years in God's eyes.**

Can you give book, chapter, and verse for these propositions?

And while you're at it, where does the Bible mention the preacher or judge who married Isaac and Rebecca? There's no mention of any ceremony that I can find.
---katavasia on 3/17/09


**According to the Bible, marriage needs to be a legal and spiritual covenant, or you are committing adultery. This is how God set marriage up.
---Leslie on 3/16/09**

Leslie, can you give book, chapter, and verse about God setting up marriage so that it is needing to be a legal and spiritual covenant, please?

After all, YOU are the one who began your posting "According to the Bible...."
---katavasia on 3/16/09


"legal" by mans laws is not same as Gods Laws

it is important to be married legally by laws of land as we are subject to laws of land per Word of God if they do not contradict Gods Laws

spiritual head of a women is her husband ...if you are with a man in "promise" then you are without a husband living in sin ...you cannot "promise" to be husband and wife

you can "promise" to be boyfriend and girlfriend

or "promise" engagement

marriage is not a "promise" it is a commitment to God and family

a marriage is a physical symbol of the spiritual bride of Christ
---Rhonda on 3/16/09


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I know plenty of Christian couples who have married in the judge's chambers. So what? They are just as married as the people who get married in any church, synagogue, temple, or a ship, by a judge, minister, rabbi, or the captain of a ship.
---Trish9863 on 3/16/09


The answer is no, but it doesn't hurt to have the blessings of those around you to make marriage very special. like the others said there is no law in the Bible, it just states that a man and woman shall leave their mother and father and cleave to each other until death. The one you go into the first time is the one that God sees you married to. Think about that! The legal marriage is for the benifits of SSS and insurance and stuff like that. The world system says you need a licence, God says you need Him. Go to your priest and let him bless your future.
---Brenda on 3/16/09


According to the Bible, marriage needs to be a legal and spiritual covenant, or you are committing adultery. This is how God set marriage up.
---Leslie on 3/16/09


I've frequently asked this question: what does a couple have to do to be really, truly, and validly married in God's eyes, giving book, chapter, and verse for the answer.

This should be easy for the married people here to tell us how their true marriages differ from concubinage.

So far, nobody has answered. I wish you better luck with your inquiry than I've had.
---katavasia on 3/16/09


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In God's eyes you have to be married. By man's law it doesn't matter, but to God it does matter. No you do not have to get married by a Priest. A Preacher or Judge can marry a couple. (Man & woman). By marrying someone you are telling him/her that you are committed in this relationship. Some people believe that a marriage license is just a piece of paper but it is much more than that. There is no such thing as a Common Law relationship after 10 years in God's eyes.
---Rebecca_D on 3/16/09


you have to be married legally for court reasons, otherwise it won't hold up if someone is severally ill. As for spiritually, no you donot need a "court order" God knows your hearts, but Jesus said to abide by the law so it's a catch 20/20 so i'd do it legally.
---candice on 3/16/09


There is no instruction in the Bible as to where or by whom. And there are no civil laws either so I would say it is totally up to the people. However, why would people not want the blessings and prayers of the church and it's leaders?
---john on 3/16/09




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