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Helping A Neighbor

My neighbor has been out of work for months. What is the best way to help them without embarrassing them, assuming they even want help?

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 ---TIMOTHY on 4/28/09
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Invite them over to your house for dinner would be great for starters. I would proceed slowly,though. Let them lead into the conversation about their work situation etc..focus on their needs and do not show pity toward them. They still have their dignity even if he/she is not working right now.I would also give them a small gift of homemade cookies,cake or some friendly token to take home with them.
---Robyn on 5/10/09

cutting grass,breaking bread,offering help,all good. And always remember,being poor in spirit is more critical than anything.
---tom2 on 5/3/09

Strike up a conversation.

Start with simple pleasantries like the weather, the neighborhood, and the families and then take the lead and guide the conversation into whatever direction you want to go. If you don't know the person, but has been in the neighborhood for a while, say something like, "We've been neighbors for two years but never got to know each other. I would like to invite you and your family over for dinner. Would Friday or Saturday be convenient?"

Do an online KJV bible search for "one another," "each other," and "encourag" because living a christian life is a 24/7 lifestyle - not a once a week pep talk dished out by denominational "churches."
---Steveng on 4/30/09

When I go shopping, I buy some things that I know my in-laws need. No they didn't tell me. But like a nosey little person I look and see what they need. I just go and buy it for them without them knowing. Good friends is like the circle of life. You do something good for a good friend and it always comes back around that they will do something nice for you. It is nothing to be ashamed about when one hits hard times. Especially now. I am sure whatever you and your family does for them, they will accept the help. It is very graceful that you want to help. I can count how many true friends I have on one hand. God Bless.
---Rebecca_D on 4/30/09

When you are out cutting your grass, you might as well go on over and cut theirs for them.
---catherine on 4/29/09

Sue ... that's a very good idea.

The husband of a lady where i do my voluntary hospital "job" has lost his employment & he is coming te see me tomorrow to talk about doing some gardening work for me
---alan8566_of_UK on 4/29/09

I just want to say that you are doing something wonderful just by helping out.
I have never gotten help from anyone. I was raised in a culture, where we treat neighbors as our own family, always dong something nice, and not wanting money or anything in return.
I think not only is this the Christian way, but it is the only way.
So many people do not do this in America, it is a very selfish society.
I would just do something nice for him without asking him first.
If he has a yard, go mow his lawn and trim it up.
Was his car if he has one, ask if he needs a ride, offer to run an errand.
Stop buy with homemade food or cookies, people love to eat!
---Elvira on 4/29/09

Be his friend.
---john on 4/29/09

Thanks everyone, I will simply ask them how they are doing. I have asked them several times how the job search is progressing however I have not brought it to a deeper level then that yet. They are good Christians and very nice people, I simply did not want to emberrass them however letting them starve would definitely be worse.
---TIMOTHY on 4/29/09

God Bless your heart for seeing a need and wanting to meet it. I buy "thinking of you" cards and put gift cards in them. Then I leave them in their mailbox.

For one neighbor, I cooked about 4 entrees (baked a ham, made lasagne, she wanted to taste my jumbo lump crab cakes so I made her six and I made a quiche) and brought all of it over and said, "I was just thinking about you and thought you could use a blessing" She and her brother were very grateful."

I recently left a card with a hundred dollars in it anonyously on my neighbot's door. She guessed it was me, but I told her it was one of God's angels. I wasn't lying, right?
---donna8365 on 4/29/09

I would go shopping and get them some items of useful clothing like socks, teeshirts, etc and some healthy food like vegetables, especially greens, and some carbohydrates, like potatoes and rice. Nothing expensive, just necessities. Leave them outside their front door anonymously when nobody is about to see you do it. A few items for the kitchen and bathroom might help a lot too. I expect everything will be very gratefully received. There would be no embarrassment involved.
---frances008 on 4/28/09

It's really cool and nice of you to think of your neighbors and want to help them.
Maybe there are some jobs they can do and then you could pay them? My husband has been out of work for several months and our neighbors always call on him when they need something done like car repair or little jobs, then they pay him. He's not embarrassed or too proud, it isn't his fault. God bless you.
---sue on 4/28/09

It's an embarrassing situation to begin with. Just ask them if they want help.
---amand6348 on 4/28/09

How well do you know them? Do you have opportunity to get to know them by inviting them to dinner, and seeing if you can learn of their needs, and their level of willingness to talk about things. They may love to get to know you over an informal family meal. Pray and seek God's leading in this.
---Trish9863 on 4/28/09

Inviting them in for a meal, the conversation may turn to what help yuo can give.

Why not have a day out somewhere, taking them in yuor car, saying yuo don't like to travel that distance alone?

Ask them to help you in some way. (baby or pet sitting, gardening help,?) People in that situation may have lost confidence in themselves. It's a great booster to be asked to help in some way.
---alan8566_of_UK on 4/28/09

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