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Agnostic Loves A Christian

I am agnostic. The girl I am in love with is Christian. I know that in II Corinthians 6:14-18 it says that this is unexceptable but what I want to know is why? Why is it so bad that two people who are in love date?

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Robyn ... I made the point, in case you had not noticed that the other Robyn had not recently sent in the post, and may have left the site a year ago. In that case your rebuke to her for using your name would have been unecessary.

But you say "it will and does cause problems" so perhaps there are other current posts from the other Robyn!

Since neither of you has the exclusive right to the name, it is probably be best if you each adopt an amendment to the name you use, as for example the two Donnas do.
---alan8566_of_UK on 11/22/10


Alan8566 of UK: What does the date have to do with anything? I have been blogging here for over 6 years. I started back in 2004. And our names are spelled the same! It will and does cause problems.
---Robyn on 11/22/10


Robyn ... You will see the other Robyn's post was dated September 2009
---alan8566_of_UK on 11/17/10


Someone on this blog has the same name as I do. I have not commented on this post but someone made a comment in my name. Whoever you are please let's use a different name so our comments will not get mixed up. I am not in agreement with the comment that has already been made here.
---Robyn on 11/16/10


I'm not too sure why it says it isn't ok but I am in the same situation you are in. My boyfriend and I are going through a rough spot because he wants to place his faith entirely in God and he doesn't think that it is possible to be in a relationship while I am agnostic. He says it is because God wants you to serve him and to serve your spouse and together you must both serve God. It is really hard but I have been reading a lot of self help books and trying to understand the Christian faith. In order to be in an "interfaith" relationship it will take a lot of work and devotion and you may have to even change your way of believing things. Good luck on your journey.
---Tarra on 11/1/10




i am a christian woman who is in love with an agnostic. and i can guarantee that every nuance of her hope & faith in your relationship hinges on the idea that she can bring you to Jesus. she prays very hard every day for you in hopes that she can keep pulling your side of the yoke with hers until you finally decide to take Christ into your heart. & i have faith that you will. love conquers all & god is love. you'll come around sooner or later. & she will have the happy, faithful christian marriage shes dreaming of. gods blessings on you both.
---Robyn on 9/13/09


I have dated several men that claim to be Christians and believe, but when it comes to moral issues we do not think alike. That is where the mistakes come in and it would causes her to go astray. Have you ever asked yourself why you choose to be an agnostic and not try seeing things her way?
---Norma on 5/5/09


In my case, feeling so in love with someone has turned out to be a trick, more than once. And we have the fifty-percent or so divorce rate in America, as evidence that not all "love" is honest. Feelings of "love" can be so-o-o convincing, but wanting to just *use* someone for what I want is not love. If you are so interested in her, have you been getting to know her pastor and family and the ones who are really good for her, helping her to find out how to love in marriage and also with enemies? Isn't real love a family sharing, and not just isolating someone for what you want to *use* the person for?
---Bill_bila5659 on 5/5/09


I'm a Christian & I know of a nonChristian, & we are attracted to each other.I choose not to fuel the fire, but to let it die down.She knows the Gospel, & if she becomes a Christian,cool,maybe something will happen, but I'm not letting that control me.I have feelings for her, but that's all they are, feelings.I love Jesus more,so I will obey Him, not my fallen desires.How we feel is not the focus, sincere obedience to God is essential.Read the passage again.Will an American soldier marry a woman of the Taliban?That's the point Paul is trying to get across.In the Old Testament, God forbade marriage with unbelieving nations.When Israel disobeyed,Israel looked,acted & became just like other nations.I hope this helps.from micha5966
---Michael on 5/5/09


Here's the thing. The God in the Bible does not want His people mixing with people who are "not" His people, because He doesn't want his people to lose their faith or start worshipping idols.

I'm married to a guy who believes in Jesus, but doesn't worship Him. I still love my husband. Do you notice how the Bible even provides verses for if the Christian marries an unbeliever? This tells me God knew that some of us would get together with unbelievers anyways.
---amand6348 on 5/4/09




Brennen...What would it take for you to accept Jesus Christ as the Son of God who died on the cross for you? What would it take for you to see that Jesus replaced all the sacrifices and is now the Lamb of God and seated at the right hand of the Father in heaven?
---SusieB on 5/4/09


**it says that this is unexceptable**

You're wrong.

It's perfectly exceptable.

In fact, it's so exceptable it's UNACCEPTABLE.

"Accept" and "except" are not synonyms.
---katavasia on 5/4/09


It is a Hollywood idea that people in love should marry, when in fact they are probably not in the best position to make a rational decision. That is why there are so many divorces in Hollywood and elsewhere. People should marry because they are suited to each other. Love will come eventually. Arranged marriages are usually more successful than love marriages. Parents can pick wisely, if they are good loving parents and not just doing it for financial reasons. With arranged marriages no longer done in the West, it seems wise to say 'Yes' to whoever presents themselves as a decent life partner, and to marry them before living with them. Love is something to work on, and will come with time.
---frances008 on 5/4/09


Because the girl you are in love with who is a Christian - you and she will be unequally yoked and the bible tells us DO NOT BE unequally yoked because it causes severe problems. Different interests in God. She will have a relationship with God and will need to spend time with Him and you won't.
Will you go to church with her? Or will she have to go all by herself? That would be said if you two can't do spiritual things together like pray. Will you pray with her? If she loves the Lord, she will obey His word that says DO NOT BE unequally yoked together with unbelievers. Two different lives will be led and cause trouble between the two of you.
---donna8365 on 5/4/09


It isn't just bad it is wrong for her according to God's Word the Bible. The reason is that the two of you can never be one completely because the Bible says how can two walk together unless they agree. As long as you cling to your belief there will always be that gulf between you. You may even without realizing it lead her away from the God she follows. Would you have her live with the guilt of failing her God. You will want to do things in life she can't as a Christian if she's with you she will be torn in two directions,wanting to please you but needing and desiring to obey God. I think if you really love her you will pray to the God she loves that he will show you how real he is and then repent of your sins and accept him as your Lord too.
---Darlene_1 on 5/4/09


The reason it is unacceptable for you an agnostic to date a Christian girl is because you would be a millstone around her neck. You're doubts are opened denial of God. Therefore at all times you oppose God or Godly things. And for this reason you, if in fact you do love this girl, you can show your love for her by staying away.
---mima on 5/4/09


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If she is a true Christian and you are a true Agnostic then this relationship can never work. Not for religious reasons, let's leave that out of this. Two people with such severely different life belief systems will only be at war the entire relationship. You will have different friends, different interests, and different values. For that matter, I highly advocate that two people of differing political parties don't get together so imagine my advice for differing ideologies. The advice of the Bible is sound no matter what you believe, go find someone from your own team, go get equally yoked.
---TIMOTHY on 5/4/09


"Why is it so bad that two people who are in love date?"

The problem lies in this: The unbeliever may turn the believer away from following their Father to serve other gods (of money, sex, etc,) so that, possibly, the anger of the LORD is kindled against them, and they are destroy suddenly by their own sensual desires.
As it is written, when Solomon (the wises man alive) "was old, his wives turned away his heart after other gods:..."
As stated in chapter you referenced "what agreement hath the temple of God [which she represents] with 'idols'?"
Whatever absorbs ones mind or consumes owns thoughts, is for that one, his/her god. As an agnostic, you acknowledge your unbelief.
Refs. Deu 7:4>1Ki 11:4
---joseph on 5/4/09


To Whosoever Has An Ear To Hear?

There is nothing wrong with two people who are in Love, dating!!

Brennen, Her being a Child of God, believes that God is Love and if you are an agnostic your beliefs speaks directly contrary to what she believes Love is in our Lives.

Brother, Once you woke-up and realized your beliefs are that the mind cannot know whether there is a God(which is how she equate Love) you would realize that you'll always be in 'Doubt' of the Love that she Loves with.
---Shawn_M.T. on 5/4/09


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