Abstinence is a FOOLPROOF way to avoid pregnancy. But getting teens to practice it is the problem. Youngsters of that age are not usually good long range planners.
Besides, what is their disincentive to avoid pregnancy? There is no longer a stigma, teen-age pregnancy is common and even "popular" in some circles. Girls think having a baby will mean having someone to "love" them.
The most hopeful thing I've seen are the life-like dolls given to teens to care for. These "babies" cry night and day, require inconvenient clean-ups etc. If teens could realize that the "fun" (to them) part of their life ends when a baby comes, it might help.
---Donna66 on 1/6/11|
Yes, because God's way is always the best. I believe if we teach abstinence during the preteen stage, and give teens a positive outlet, we will help them to make better choices.
---prospermuch on 1/3/11|
Steveng ... You point out that the chastity rings do not necessarily anythin about the wearer.
It reminds me of Britney Spears, the self proclaimed chaste virgin, and it all turned out to be a sham
---alan8566_of_UK on 5/17/09|
Darlene_1: "Alan there are a lot of American Teens who agree with you,they are wearing rings to show they will remain chaste until marriage."
This was a good idea until another survey by the people who were wearing the rings that only a small percentage were still abstaining.
Worldly objects to do something rarely work. Like tying a string around your finger that you won't forget something only to forget what you were wearing the string for. It's what's in the heart that matters - that keeps a person from doing something they shouldn't.
---Steveng on 5/16/09|
What the writer of the question seems to be getting at is that in the past abstinence was put forward but rejected and led to unwanted pregnancies. This is true. After WW2 there was a generation of spoilt children. Parents who had been deprived of everything while they were growing up, decided to let their kids go wild. It was helped by groups like the Beatles, Rolling Stones etc. Parents started to have children outside marriage. Gradually discipline and the family broke down. Television also plays a big part in offering us examples of how to behave, and instead of being uplifting examples, they tend to be the worst situations. Hollywood and modern novel writers also play their parts. Basically we have departed from God's Word.
---frances008 on 5/16/09|
Alan there are a lot of American Teens who agree with you,they are wearing rings to show they will remain chaste until marriage. Frankly abstinence is the only sure way to keep from having unexpected babies and it is like a breath of fresh air ro see young people promoting it now. Abstinence is also the only surefire method to prevent STD"s. Thats two very good reasons to abstain.
---Darlene_1 on 5/15/09|
If you receive Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, and decide to do things Gods way, your work would be of more value to him. A man must ask for permission to marry a woman from both fathers. They should enter marriage ready to complete their respective responsibilities. By treating each other with respect, waiting for the Honeymoon, and remaining faithful, the marriage will be better. Yet, God does forgive, will teach truth, and clean up the past, if you let him. God very much appreciates a man and woman who would guard their hearts and give their virginity to each other after the wedding. It would be best not to date anyone, and give it all to only one other person.
Genesis 2:18, Matthew 19:6, 1Corinthians 7:2, 28, Hebrews 13:4.
---Glenn on 5/13/09|
Darlene ... Maybe it is I who is a sandwich short of a picnic for thinking that abstinence prevents you coming pregnant.
But nevertheless, I have never heard of anyone who practices abstinence becoming pregnant (except Mary)
Surely abstinence is a certain way of avoiding pregnancy.
It is the way that this is promoted, and the witholding of information about other methods, whic is the problem, 'cos kids will experiment, especially if you tell them not to.
They need to be told how to avoid pregnancy if they do not abstain.
---alan8566_of_UK on 5/13/09|
Alan You are right they shouldn't be called fools,and thats what I was trying to show Steveng. I really don't think anyone on here thinks that but you are right about the "sandwich",if anyone does think that. I will say this,there are young people out there who have been kept ignorant by their family's lack of teaching the facts of life, they may not have enough information to form an opinion,let alone know what to do to prevent having a baby.
---Darlene_1 on 5/13/09|
Darlene ... Maybe we should not call them fools, but surely anyone who thinks that abstinence does not prevent pregnancy is a little ignorant of reality, or "a sandwich short of a picnic"
---alan8566_of_UK on 5/13/09|
Steveng,you said "absinance DOES work and anyone who says otherwise is a fool". I am sure some don't think it works,therefore you called them fool. I call no one fools,I accuse no one and condemn no one to hell,I have known better than to do that since childhood,and I judge no one but I give Bible verses which judge us all and when someone does something I know from the Bible is dangerous I try to warn them out of Christian consideration. I understand the Bible verses,they say what they mean and mean what they say. I take what is written in the Bible as my guide in life. Thats all I have to say on the subject. Think what you will and do what you please,but A wise person lines their life up with the Word of God.
---Darlene_1 on 5/12/09|
Darlene_1: "Steveng I accused no one to hell. I gave the Bible verse..."
I stand by what I wrote. I didn't call anyone a fool. When you do the bible search for the word "fool," will you accuse those people of saying "fools," too - even the NT apostles? But you need to understand HOW it is written.
---Steveng on 5/12/09|
Steveng I accused no one to hell. I gave the Bible verse which says that,not me saying it. I'll never sugar coat the Word of God by trying to make whats wrong right or what's right wrong. 1 Cor.4:10 is Apostle speaking of the fact the Apostles do things which to some others seem to make them fools,but whatever it takes they will do it for God,and that is a whole different situation from a person calling another a fool. I shared according to Bible,Galatians 6:1 Brethren if a man be overtaken in a fault,ye which are spiritual restore such a one in the spirit of meekness,considering thyself lest thou also be tempted. I was trying to help,if you want to believe me wrong fine but the Word is never wrong, do as you please,it's between you and God.
---Darlene_1 on 5/12/09|
For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
Paul greatest example I know, right on Timothy!
---Carla3939 on 5/12/09|
Darlene_1: "Steveng just a little word of warning from the Bible about calling people fools, Matthew 5:22..."
Did I personally call you a fool? If you believe what I said is false then you called yourself a fool, not me.
O ye simple, understand wisdom: and, ye fools, be ye of an understanding heart for the fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
"We are fools for Christ's sake" (1 Corinthians 4:10). Do an online KJV bible search for "fool." You have accused all who have said "fool" to hell?
---Steveng on 5/11/09|
I think that you answered Augie's question the best of all possible ways!
If young people don't have "respect" towards themselves, they will not show "respect" towards others. Little wonder then that teenagers will commit the sin of fornication with little, or no, concern about each other or other people who might be affected. I feel sorry for the children who are conceived as a result of this "respect" deficit in our young people today. Not much we can do about it though.
---Sag on 5/11/09|
You can only have an "abstinince solution" if teens are willing to "abstain". That requires a commitment to faith values. Since most sex-ed venues in public schools do not include religous instruction, other methods need to be taught because many teens do not follow Christ and DO NOT "abstain". They need to be taught the truth about the "risks" of all birth control methods - especially with the AIDS crisis and condomns that are breakable.
---obewan on 5/11/09|
If we want to obey God and receive the blessing of eternal life then we cannot commit fornication, for fornicators do not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven. Make God your greatest passion, and make sure anyone you may date loves God as his/her greatest passion as well.
---Anne on 5/10/09|
The solution to all SIN problems is faith in Jesus. Anything else is a man-made solution that is bound for failure.
---Mark_Eaton on 5/10/09|
Tell me this: Can a girl get pregnant if she does not have sexual contact with a male? No. What is so hard to understand about that?
---Betty on 5/10/09|
Steveng just a little word of warning from the Bible about calling people fools, Matthew 5:22 -but whosoever shall say,Thou fool,is in danger of Hell fire. I would suggest you first go to God and ask for forgiveness and then on here to ask your brothers and sisters in Christ for forgiveness too. God Bless
---Darlene_1 on 5/10/09|
Absinance DOES work and anyone who says otherwise is a fool.
People today, including christians, have lost their love, their self respect, their self control, and their self discipline. I hang around teens two or three times a week and I can say for sure that teens today lack confidence in themselves, especially the girls. And I wholeheartedly blame it on the parents. When parents properly train up their children, the children would say "No" to any temptation. Parents have done a terrible job of raising children since World War II - and look what the world has turned into. People have certainly change to the worse since the 1960s especailly concerning the lack of love and self control.
---Steveng on 5/10/09|
It's probably not the solution, but like anyone in a religion/religious group of people, we sometimes stubbornly hold on to our ways of thinking, some how thinking that maybe people will one day meet our high standards that we have put on ourselves.
It's not just abstinence. People need to avoid situations where they will be tempted. Some people want to "face" the temptation to prove how strong they are. This is dangerous.
---amand6348 on 5/10/09|
Of couse abstinence is the solution, duh? Abstinence doesn't pass the giggle test because its so unacheiveable without devine intervention, and remains out of reach from almost all American teens. To most its no more achieveable than living a holy lifestyle, grabbing a rod and parting the sea.
That doesn't mean the most obvious of riddles "don't touch a snake and you won't get bitten" is not true.
Secularists in particular dismiss abstinence because its part of the human appetite generally out of control. The epicurean lifestyle says obey your urges. The believer accepts the solution but struggles along side the non-believer giving poor witness to the power of the Holy Spirit to transform.
---larry on 5/10/09|
Abstain yes but what young people must learn first is to respect their parents,and the biggie,respect themselves. We live in a country that makes life very hard on people who don't conform to the "norm" whatever that is,as a result they grow up with a poor self image. People who can't love themselves just as they are will never have respect for themselves,therefore,they will not seek a high moral road. We can give them all kinds of reasons and try all kinds of methods but without self respect they may not have the strength to stand. The best thing to stop people from premarital relations is an active relationship with God. Being sold out to Jesus they don't want to fail their Lord for they respect as well as reverence him.
---Darlene_1 on 5/9/09|
Abstinence could be a solution,if practiced. But teens will continue to experiment and this is where a lot of the problems come in. Experiment with something they may not completely understand and a baby is produced in the process. Scary but it happens everyday,all day. It is hard for anyone to practice self-control, these days. Including adults. Everyone wants to feel good,right now and does not want to deprive themselves of anything. Most definitely sex!
---Robyn on 5/10/09|
LOL Timothy ...I needed a good laugh today
Abstinence taught in school is hype ...foolish adults in these public school systems advocating a practice for "others" how absurd
...abstinence is hypocrisy at work ...school systems don't want God in classroom but they want to take Biblical idea as cure for teenage pregnancy
too funny in a world today where less than half of all public school children attend any religious "services"
educating children on the reality of being a parent at a young age might work ...except most kids today have parents who ignore them - having a child is hope to have someone love them
---Rhonda on 5/9/09|
MIC: What "pain and shame" are you talking about teaching girls with?!
---Mary on 5/8/09|
Abstinance hasn't worked, in the past? As far as I know, whenever somebody has abstained from having sex, this has worked to keep the person from getting pregnant or getting someone else pregnant (o: But if you mean *telling* people to abstain, when they don't have the *character* to do this . . . this "might" not work very well, possibly because they have been brought up by parents not having character of God's love with self-control to keep them from arguing and complaining, etc., and so they have failed to minister love's self-control to their children. *God's* love has self-control. If they don't have this self-control, their problem is much more than a moral one or their pregnancies which are a superficial symptom of deeper evil.
---Bill_bila5659 on 5/7/09|
Augie:-There are more things than one to prevent Unwanted Pregnancies.1For girls: to overcome the desire, we need Education self denial and consequences.Every girl should experience self induced pain to teach awareness.The act should bring pain and shame.Girls shoud learn to say No.
Boys Must also learn,Respect for the Girls Body, Self Denial He should get some form of sickness to remind him that thisis only permissable at the appointed time.Last but not least pray "Lead us not into temptation"
Both:YOu play with matches you will get burnt.God is watching your every move Thought and desire.So avoid the occassion.Any thing else in avoidance is sin
---MIC on 5/7/09|
Absolutely yes. They should not give in to sin.
---Betty on 5/7/09|
Abstinence has a 100% success ratio against unwanted pregnancy and social diseases when practiced. By sheer definition there can be no pregnancy or disease if abstinence is maintained. Now if one chooses to stop abstinence and starts to become active, then please use the appropriate protection designed for that decision. However as far as I know, there has only been one case of a birth caused by abstinence and we all know his name.
---TIMOTHY on 5/7/09|
Augie, Well, Seeing how you defiantly can't get pregnant through Abstinence without medical help or Divine Intervention, I'd say that if it didn't work in the past, it's only because it was never Truly Walked-In from the beginning!!
If you're asking for the solution of how to keep to Abstinence?
We're told not to withhold correction from a child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die Pro.23:13.......Understand though that the Rod or Staff, are the "Strength of God's Corrective Word".
We're to train our children with it, so they don't depart from it and by humility & Fear of the Lord, they shall not go the way of the froward!! Pro.22
---Shawn_M.T. on 5/7/09|
Abstinence is the solution to all unwanted pregnancies. Not practicing abstinence is what causes pregnancies.
---SusieB on 5/7/09|