Will God Punish Me
I cheated on my husband 7 years ago, which lead to a divorce. I didn't know the Lord then, but that's no excuse. I can't forgive myself and this is still heavy on my heart. Is it possible that God will punish me by never sending me another husband?
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---Lora on 5/18/09
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If you know the Lord now, then you can read the Scriptures for your answer. You need to repent to both God and your husband for your sin against both. If you wish to be reconciled to God, wouldn't you also wish to be reconciled to your husband? There are multiple examples in Scripture where God takes us back, never leaves us, in spite of our complete unworthiness. What a price he paid for us, but not for us to trample on his sacrifice with more sin.
---D. on 12/30/13|
Attention: To JMarc, politely wish to mention to.you it's very rude of you Sir to "vent" with the word..
" abomination!" ??
Sir, I assume do not celebrate christmas,etc.. that' ok. That' your own personal thing.
I just had to comment but, did not want to leave it on our ...
.put on our happy holiday blogg...
Sir, I.used to work at an office yes, we had Jehovah Witnesses they never offended us, they just kept to them selves ( one always told me ..". you can give me my gift two days after so, nobody says nothing!" It was ok with me. Just had to say this! We are just people who like to share our holiday cheer! Lidia4796
---Lidia4796 on 12/20/13|
To absolutelythetruth, about your post here, 9/11/13
You know I have seen such a similar post, while back, Sometimes, it's GOOD 1.take paper,pen - write down the atributes you like in a wife.. example - " couteous, attentive,educated, or raised in a christian home, etc.. "
Ch.31 The wife of Noble Character
vs.10-31 demonstrates a wonderfull Christian wife! I admire that part of proverbs! Smiles..
So, you know what? Don't give up!
Keep pray for that woman and she might just be wait & pray,too .
God has NO short memory,
love of Jesus!
---Lidia4796 on 9/27/13|
The Bible states that He who the son(Jesus) set free is free indeed. Jesus paid the price for your sins. Jesus took the punishment you deserved and has declared you innocent--as though you had never sinned. You are not an adulteress. You have been made free and are a new person.
The things in the past are now like a bad dream. let it go. How can u forgive yourself of something that never happened to you? You are a different creature, with the Spirit of God living in you. If it is your divine destiny to remarry it will happen, but if u do not marry it will not be because of past sin. Be happy.
---judy on 9/22/13|
Lora: it is still heavy in your heart because you have not allowed God to take it away. God forgave Saul turned Paul, he suffered but was able to testify about his past because God has already removed his guilt from his heart. Pray that God should forgive you 1st, then you can ask Him whatever you will.
---Adetunji on 9/19/13|
Hi Absolutely The Truth, I was just curious: what are you doing to find a good woman? Are you going to places where they can be found and reaching out to them, or just being alone and waiting for one to knock on your door? Not being sarcastic, just hoping to help, God bless, Mary
---Mary on 9/19/13|
First of all, it's important that you know God for yourself. I can not say much about whether God will send you another husband or not. If you are forgiven by Him, He has forgotten your sins. However, His reasoning can be of somewhat mysterious. If you love Him except Him, and all of Hs whys. And ways!
---catherine on 9/16/13|
Hello,post rather old ,but, could be someone , the things we did BEFORE??
As a christian once you truly a child of God
the Lord as you get( relationship) close like a best friend,close family member these are examples, you daily ,,pray ask for strength,forgiveness..
He promises to throw it all away!
No more to bring up! How about that??
Smiles..stay in the word!
You will never be sorry, He truly is wonderfull!
---Lidia4796 on 9/16/13|
when Jesus came to earth, He came in humility and love. when Jesus comes back the second time, He will come in power and judgement..
---shira4368 on 9/15/13|
Look at Gods' WORD. It is as a 2 edged sword, it is the seed you sow, It is the harvest in your field. "Mark chapter 4" If you believe God is a punishing God then don't except any thing else but punishment. But if you believe God is your father and he gives you grace and mercy. Learn the truth and let sin in your passed life be sin in your passed life. not the sin in your future life.
---Bryan on 9/14/13|
he has already, by not giving me a good woman to share my life with which is not too much to ask for. Is It?
---Absolutely_The_Truth on 9/11/13|
Yes, it is not punisment but discipline. So, you are forgiven but you will discipline, not punish becuase you are a son of God. we are to practice love becausse our sin sometimes does not let us feel real love. The key word here is PRACTICE to boay God and not because He makes us love them. The guide are the ten commammnets that were given not to save us but to shows that we need Jesus and to let us know how horrible is sin. I belive that since you pray for antoher husband God will give you one becuase He answer our prays. However, He is making sure you learn to not to do it again so most peole would not be hurt.I hope this help. I study theology and had learn to kmow God better,
---Kikelop on 4/2/11|
Habbakuk 2:4 Behold, his soul [which] is lifted up is not upright in him: but the just shall live by his faith.
Romans 1:17 For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written, The just shall live by faith.
When we have asked God for his forgiveness, we must live in faith that he has forgiven us
---francis on 11/4/10|
If you weren't a chrisitian back then, you weren't held accountable like Christians are. you were a heathen, part of the world. however once you came to Christ his father wiped your sins clean, & his son paid your debt with his life. Do not feel guilty anymore. If God has another husband for you it will happen in his time, until then ( & after)countinue serving God.
---candice on 11/4/10|
"There is no punishment left for those in Christ. Sin is not imputed.
---duane on 11/4/10"
Just to understand the above statement and the truthfulness of it is to gain peace of mind and freedom from torment.
---mima on 11/4/10|
There is no punishment left for those in Christ. Sin is not imputed.
---duane on 11/4/10|
If you are saved, God puts your sin under the blood. They are cast into the deepest part of the sea. When we sin after we are saved, God forgives. He forgives over and over.
---shira3877 on 11/1/10|
If a person sins and repents (meaning turn from their thatb ungodly state they are forgiven. Please stop beating yourself up. If any man sin God is faithful and just to forgive and cleanse. Repent, learn how to forgive yourself and move on to the next chapter and wonderous episode in your life. You probably by-passed your second husband feeling guilty. Move on with your life God has.
---joyce on 11/1/10|
if you can't forgive yourself after asking for Gods forgiveness how can you forgive others of their trespasses?
if one is unforgiving with themselves they cannot logically expect to practice forgiveness with others
God does not send a husband ...he is not in the husband stork delivery business ...one will not show up on your doorstep ...you most likely repel any man due to your unforgiveness of yourself
Christ said go and sin no more ...we are not perfect we are in process of learning to overcome and grow in Gods grace
---Rhonda on 10/31/10|
kk928 is in the wrong, my dear. If you have asked God to forgive you, and move on, He has forgiven you sweetie. :) That's the good news of the Gospel! :)
---Mary on 10/30/10|
Although, God takes sin seriously....It is highly doubtful that God will hold that great sin against you. Have you asked Him to forgive you of that specific sin, has He lead you into that? Otherwise, you are saved, you are forgiven, still God has His own plans for you. Don't just assume that if no one comes along it's a punishment from God. DON'T JUDGE HIM. Wait and see. And have a great day, my friend. Hallelujah. I love You Jesus.
---catherine on 10/26/10|
Do not doubt Gods'Word-He swore by it.
The adversary will try and keep you in bondage of unforgiveness.If you repented-believe God has forgiven you.
Christ was not sacrificed for nothing-let Holy Spirit Teach you.1Cor 2
Not Only DOES HE FORGIVE -it is NOT REMEBERED.
Ps 103:12 As far as the east is from the west, So far hath He removed our transprssions from us.
Luke 24:45-47 repentence and remission of sins should be preached in His Name...
"We walk under the Sun" Read all Ecclesiastes.
Enemy comes to kill,steal-destroy.Jn 10,10
LACK of knowledge can destroy.Hsa 4:6
Don't let your joy be stolen.Jn16:24
Adversary will continuue to judge-condem you.
GODS-LOVE-So much GREATER-PRAISE HIM!.
---char on 10/26/10|
NO, NO, NO! My goodness, i do serve an awsome God.
---catherine on 8/9/10|
Yes, god will punish you forever. Twenty years ago I swear I only love my girl friend. After we separated on her own will and I am still single. No matter every time I interest to have a relationship, god will use all the methods to interrupt the relationship.Other evidence is I made a promise with god if I could not change my personal attitude, I will lost my job and everything. He is real and I lost my job and no way to find a new one. Other than job, I lost almost all my saving and the important one status. Even I confessed my sins and he is still punishing me until I die. Even I ask for forgiveness and he shows his word on the bible, I like the children of Israel, because of my sins he is punishing me forever.
---kk928 on 8/9/10|
If you are going to live by one of Moses laws you need to live by them all because you have forsaken your Lord and not counted his blood worthy to forgive sin. You are walking on his blood as if it cannot give someone a new life and a better way.
2 Corinthians 3:13-16 And not as Moses, which put a vail over his face, that the children of Israel could not stedfastly look to the end of that which is abolished: But their minds were blinded: for until this day remaineth the same vail untaken away in the reading of the old testament, which vail is done away in Christ.
---exzucuh on 5/26/09|
It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
So then if, while [her] husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
---Carla3939 on 5/26/09|
IMHO-and I think scripture backs it up.Is anything you did before being born again is forgiven.So now forgive yourself and go on.If God doesn't send you a new mate He has other plans for you.Serve God irregardless and forgive yourself too.
---shirley on 5/24/09|
I'd say it depends. If you have really repented and changed, then you are a new person. Nothing can be held against you. It depends on your motivations too. For instance, did you plan everything so that you could be guilt free and get a new husband? I doubt it. Therefore you are off the hook. However, some people become Christians and instead of marrying the person they are living with, they break up with them and marry someone else (often a Christian). I find this very puzzling, since in God's eyes (I would expect) that person is already married (committed) to the previous partner. This is like using God as an excuse to get your own way.
---frances008 on 5/24/09|
I will say again God does not punish. He judges rightly by his word.If you have disobeyed his word then expect to reap what you have sown.
---tom2 on 5/24/09|
Carla, you seem to be completely missing the scripture. It says that the old is passed and BEHOLD ALL things become new. That means that as a Christians your desires are now to follow the commandments of God not break them. Paul said that just because we are under grace it does not give us a free pass to sin. When we come to Christ we are a new person, ALL the sins of our past are put under the blood, do you not believe that?? When you quote the law the way you do, you void grace because you seem to imply that obedience to the law saves, it does not, the blood saves us. The law was given to us for the reason of showing us that we need a Savior, look a Galatians 3. Faith and grace DOES NOT give us a free pass to sin, it gives us a NEW beginning.
---evangelistjerry on 5/24/09|
Actually Carla, They still do apply. WHY? Because they are written on our hearts instead of stone tablets.
You are upholding one part of what God says but completely ignoring the other.
You are telling people they can save themslves by divorcing again(committing another sin) to be forgiven by God. Do you realize that?
Ignoring part of what the Bible says is not rightly dividing the word of God.
YE without sin cast the first stone. There is only one unforgivable sin. You are putting yourself in the position of and accuser.
ANYTHING done before one comes to Christ is forgiven and forgotten by God. One is not held accountable for someone elses sin either.
---miche3754 on 5/24/09|
God is not in the mail bride business.He sent his son to die for sin, and save the world.thats the business hes in, FORGIVENESS
---tom2 on 5/24/09|
stealing is a sin, if you are forgiven you should not steal again you should seek God and obey the Gospel and get the Holy Spirit in your life to empower you to live for God.
Getting a divorce is a sin, if you are forgiven
of that sin do not get another divorce. But marriage is not a sin and a divorced person forgiven of divorce cannot commit adultery with someone they are married to as long as that person is also a christian and forgiven of their sin. They are under the blood, they are white as snow, cleansed virgins in Gods sight.A thief forgiven and Born again is not a thief but a saint of God, A divorced person is no longer divorced but a saint of God.
---exzucuh on 5/24/09|
I would like to challenge you on that point since the scripture you use has no baring whatsoever on Marriage Law.
So being a Thief having asked for forgiveness anyone can then Go and steal because now one is born again?
Christianity means one can legally steal?
Christianity equates everyone can legally Re-marry? Is that regardless of their spouse being alive or them committing Adultery?
Mmmm Where is this in scripture?
Jesus said [except] for fornication....
---Carla3939 on 5/24/09|
---Carla3939 on 5/23/09
Do you go to church on Saturday or Sunday?
According to the law we should keep the sabbath
But I do not know any people that keep it according to Gods word not even sabatarians, they keep a few of the rules, According to the law to break the sabbath is death. How is it that Christians can break the sabbath? Because the rules have changed and the Nomos law is not required only the Entolay law the moral law. A person who has committed any sin that is forgiven by God is free from that sin, the sin of divorce after it is under the blood is not upon that person any longer. And it is not a sin to marry It would be a sin to force someone to believe a lie and live in bondage.
---exzucuh on 5/23/09|
Deuteronomy 17:14 When thou art come unto the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee, and shalt possess it, and shalt dwell therein, and shalt say, I will set a king over me, like as all the nations that are about me,Deuteronomy 17:17 Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not away: neither shall he greatly multiply to himself silver and gold.
This was what God said David must do, but did he? no he took two wives and then committed adultery
did God tell him he could not marry Bathsheba ? Did he live his life in Adultery? No he was forgiven.
---exzucuh on 5/23/09|
Think of the woman caught in the very act. She was one of God's little children, but committed a terrible act. Remember what Christ told her:
Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?
Joh8:11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.
When we ask for forgiveness the Lord is quick and just to forgive. Christ paid the price for your sins. 1John 1:9
It is the Devil that accuses you of sin. Rev 12:10. Don't listen to him. Your God is greater!
---trey on 5/23/09|
As a christian your life is new, and if new you will have the holy spirit. That spirit will bring you into obedience and the joy you have from that obedience is where there is true peace and joy. God forgave you and you repented.
It is not punishment not to find a man... rather it is punishment to never find the lord in this life or the next. Stay strong, and keep your eyes on christ and HIS will for your life.
Mark 8:34- If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me and for the gospel will save it. What good is it for a man to gain the whole world, yet forfeit his soul?
---wal_rev on 5/23/09|
Lara bottom line here is you say you were not saved when you cheated on your husband, right. If you are born again now then the key thing to remember is that the person you were before you were born again is gone, you are a new creature. Read 2nd Corinthians 5 the key verse being 17, Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away, behold, all things are become new.
You are a new creature, the old is gone and you are made new by the sacrifice of Christ.
---evangelistjerry on 5/23/09|
His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with [his] wife, it is not good to marry.
But he said unto them, All [men] cannot receive this saying, save [they] to whom it is given.
---Carla3939 on 5/23/09|
Miche, I studied the word and after much debate accepted the word for what it is and understand the order of Divorce to be for those who cannot find peace with the spouse they have married.
However to remarry there Is One reason for remarriage the Man of God who found his wife to be unfaithful and that's where Christ gave the [except clause]
You will not get the answer in Deut because it is OLD LAW >Moses< not God permitted divorce for any reason but in the beginning it was not so with God. Christ gave [one) [except]ion which can only be understood to those that it has been given
spreading malicious gossip is a sin and you need to apologise!
---Carla3939 on 5/23/09|
That is why the bible is clear on it's teaching when it says one should study, because then you will read that marriage is not in heaven it is an earthly fulfilment in the sense of making marriage to a spouse something to die spiritually for.
You are twisting scripture to validate fornication and Adultery that is not scripture.
Understand this if you steal you steal no more. If you commit Adultery you get out of the relationship turn around and sin no more with that person. You cannot steal continuously repenting,fornication continuously, and commit Adultery continuously.
Repent means a complete Turn around!
---Carla3939 on 5/23/09|
Go to Deuteronomy and look up the law of marriage.
Then you will see that you are looking at this wrong.
Jesus only changed one thing- He said can divorce for adultry.
AND if one repents of their sin of adultry after being divorced, they can get married again.
God will forgive them and remember their sin no more.
God forgives those who divorced before coming to Christ. They can get married again.
God also says if the unbelieving spouse leaves, the Christian is not held accountable and the Christian can get married again.
God does not hold the sins of another against someone else. That is part of why he sent Jesus to die for them.
---miche3754 on 5/23/09|
You are definitely the marriage cop of CN! You would not happen to be one those 'overcomers' who did not divorce even having grounds (endured and tortured) until eventually had no need to divorce on account that your husband is too old and feeble to cause you any further harm?
---Nana on 5/23/09|
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If that is the case with you then how are you forgiven if you sin now. If you commit Spiritual Fornication by watching a television
or movie that is not pleasing to God. Or read
books or smoke, or commit gluttony or lust in your heart. How will you be forgiven? You want her to forever pay for her mistake, so you should pay for yours also, You want her to be in bondage to the law so you should also be in bondage. But The Grace of God is power and his power can give someone a new life a second chance but the law can only give you death and hell.
---exzucuh on 5/22/09|
How do you use scripture to misinterpret the Law of marriage which one saved is not subjected to if that law is not transgressed.
Apostle Paul said he did not know that he had indeed sinned but had it not been for the Law concluded sin was within him, knowing that the carnal self is subjected to the Law he himself then serving Spiritually is not subjected to the law because he then will not offend in that area demonstrating the Law is now not applicable.
If you are a new creation you are still accountable to the Law of Marriage if you sin in that area, do you not understand scripture?
---Carla3939 on 5/22/09|
---Carla3939 on 5/21/09
Do you believe that the Blood of Jesus cleanses Sin? Do you believe that a born again christian is a new creature that the old man is dead?
If you do then why do you apply the Law to someone who has been cleansed and is a new creature. Jesus came to set the captives free
Those who sinned under the Law and cleansed are free and not bound to their old life. She is dead in Christ therefore she is not bound to the husband of her old life she is dead to him. All who are not in Christ are dead in sin, her ex is dead if he is not a christian.
---Exzucuh on 5/21/09|
1 Corinthians 7:14-15 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean, but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart,
let him depart.
A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
1 Corinthians 7:27-28 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned,
---Exzucuh on 5/21/09|
.......if you want one you will have to get him the same way all husbands are found. Seek and you shall find. Make sure they are really a christian.
---Exzucuh on 5/20/09
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to [her] husband so long as he liveth, but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of [her] husband.
---Carla3939 on 5/21/09|
Some say you should not feel guilty for past sins but I say they are wrong, If you have repented, God has forgiven you and he is not even thinking about what you did before. Use your guilt for Good let it be a place in your mind to always remember what you were and let it influence you to never go there again. Jesus told the woman who committed adultery go and sin no more. He told the man by the pool sin no more lest something worst comes upon you. Paul killed Christians and
he always was guilty for that but he used that and it drove him to overcome his flesh. God is not going to get you a husband, if you want one you will have to get him the same way all husbands are found. Seek and you shall find. Make sure they are really a christian.
---Exzucuh on 5/20/09|
we punish ourselves thru disobidience.
---tom2 on 5/20/09|
Why would the Lord punish you when he has already punished Jesus for your sin. When you asked him for forgiveness you availed yourself of that forgiveness. You have been forgiven!!!! It is your unforgiveness of yourself that is troubling you(this of course is a tool of the devil) be bold in your dealings with your feelings, be praising and worshiping the Lord Jesus for his mercy, stir up his spirit that is within you through praise for what he has done!!
---mima on 5/20/09|
I believe what you need to focus on is developing your relationship with the Lord to the point that you can honestly say that He is all you need or want. Let Him have full control of your life, and accept what He brings your way as His best for you, even if it does mean not having a mate to spend your years with. Think of all the time you can devote to working the Lord's work.
---tommy3007 on 5/20/09|
Jesus forgave from the cross all those who participated in his crucifixion, WITHOUT their asking for forgiveness. It was a preview of what God will do eventually for the whole human race.
---JohnnyB on 5/19/09|
there is no sin that God will not pardon except the unpardonable sin which you have to really get into the word and study what sin that is.
You cannot transgress the Holy Spirit without being in a state of unforgiveness and that is sinning and presuming it will be ok because you acknowledge it but remain in the same condition, Adultery being one of them, stealing being another.
As long as you read the scriptures and understand that you are now to remain single not by punishment but by understanding that you caused your husband to divorce you because of your affair, you are now in the loving care and protection of Christ.
where no man can cause you to sin again so think it A Privilege rather than punishment.
---Carla3939 on 5/19/09|
God forgives ALL sins if you repent for them,and we must forgive ourselves.Think of it this way.....if God Himself can forgive you,then why can't you forgive yourself
---Gabby on 5/18/09|
If God has forgiven your sin there's no cause for punishment. God not sending you a husband has nothing to do with you being punished, it has to do with you not completing the process to be re-married.
Forgiven sin however doesn't negate the facts of what's transpired in your life, that you were once legally married and now are not. The Awful truth is that spiritual divorce happens more often then we understand, it's only when we have a legal divorce we can see that we validate the fact that we are estranged from our partner. This is foolishness, for in your heart you left your husband long before you slept with another man.
---Pharisee on 5/18/09|
God punishes those who have not been adopted by Him. If you are a born again believer, then you are an adopted child. His mercy, love and grace are overflowing and abundant for you. He disciplines His children when they sin.
As for your future, nobody knows what His plans are for you. I suggest you ask Him what His plan is for you, and to show you how you can serve Him and live in His will. He will give you the grace to accept all of His plans for you.
---Trish9863 on 5/18/09|
God does not punish anyone.God judges rightly,by his word.For whatever a man sows that shall he also reap.The big lie that God punishes anyone is not scriptural.
---tom2 on 5/18/09|
There is no way to answer your question specifically however God is a God of forgiveness and second chances. If you are truly repentent of your sin then God will hear your prayers. Whether or not that translates into a new husband is entirely up to God.
---TIMOTHY on 5/18/09|
Everyone makes mistakes. I think that either you have been reading the Old Testament too much or listening to the wrong speakers.
Just lean on the Lord for everything you need or want, and he will provide. Choose to follow Him and you will be okay. If you asked for forgiveness and meant it, you are forgiven.
---amand6348 on 5/18/09|