yes Bill. that's how it was done to me and that's how I pass it on to my kids. after I was married my hubby needed it too, because his parents were a bunch of sissies and were stepped all over. he got that way too. and boy did I straighten him out. he hated the cane to his bare bottom but he learned fast the consequences. Thank G-D for everything |
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---marsha on 9/8/09 |
marsha, was that how it was administered on you . you sound a bit too vicious. do you have children? I wonder how their asses look! |
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---bill on 9/2/09 |
You are very welcome and may God bless you too, Mary.
Always remember that what ever we go through your children, there is a Saint of God's that's been through it. Seek the wise council of them. |
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---miche3754 on 6/6/09 |
Thank you Miche, that helps a lot, God bless you :) |
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---Mary on 6/6/09 |
I have a 15 year old daughter and I haven't spanked her since she was about 9 or 10. I don't think you should spank a teenager younger or older. Taking things away that actually mean something does the trick, believe me. When my daughter does something wrong ( and I don't EVER tell them they were bad) I simply take her t.v., books and anything else she gets enjoyment out of and it does the trick she straightens right up. |
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---Danie on 6/6/09 |
Mary, to beat with rod means to teach your children according to God's word.
It does not mean don't spank your children but it also doesn't mean you can abuse them either.
If you train your child up in the word of God and HIS love, he or she will not depart from it.
As for the blog question, no, you should not spank your teenage child. The word of God works much better. Trust me, I have 15 1/2 year old daughter. We have discussions all the time on the Word and it is what I reach for when disciplining and loving her.
Think on this, God chastises those he loves when they do wrong. |
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---miche3754 on 6/5/09 |
Hi, that scripture about "for if thou beatest him with the rod he will not die" has always bothered me. Surely the Lord is not advocating child abuse is He? Emergency rooms and foster homes are filled with children who were "beaten" so I'm sure perhaps we misunderstand this one to some degree? Let me know what y'all think, I am confused--thanks so much. |
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---Mary on 6/5/09 |
Proverbs 23:13-14
Withhold not correction from the child:
for if thou beatest him with the rod,
he shall not die.
Thou shalt beat him with the rod,
and shalt deliver his soul from hell.
I am thankful my parents taught me the difference between right and wrong. They taught me to do what's right, and to be respectful. They didn't have to spank us often due to consistent teaching of respect and honor. When we tested our limits, they gave us a good spanking. As an adult, I know that my parents were teaching me to fear God and be obedient to our Heavenly Father. If I had not been taught those things, I would not be saved because I would be disobedient to God and His commandments. (1Cor 6:9)
Chastening is good. |
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---SuzieH on 6/4/09 |
Stop whipping those kids. God wants children to be brought up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, and not whippings. Jesus Christ said, "But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea." Matthew 18:6 Don't shame children by pulling their pants down. |
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---Betty on 6/4/09 |
child. & teens need discipline & direction. humans are born with bad charecter and traits as stated in the bible. spare the rod........ do the crime pay the time .time means swoosh!!! pants go down and bottoms come up. I perfer a cane but not to harsh!!!!! and don't forget to pray to god |
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---marsha on 6/3/09 |
No. Jesus Christ taught us not to use violence. He told us not to even hit our enemies, therefore, we definitely should not hit our family and loved ones. |
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---Betty on 6/3/09 |
Regardless of how a parent chooses to "justify" their choice of discipline for either a younger child or a teenager ("the bible says this" or "I am told this"), the parent would do well to keep in mind THE FUTURE.
Many parents want GRANDCHILDREN and would like the child to feel that "marriage/parenthood is a good and desirable thing".
When parents become elderly, they appreciate having children around them that are peaceful and loving because they grew up learning to behave more "gently" than the primitive ancient cultures mentioned in the bible (the children are "Godlovers"). |
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---more_excellent_way on 6/2/09 |
Haven't you ever read the verse Proverbs 13:24 "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him." There is a time and place where a spanking is the best thing you can do for your child. Spanking is NOT abuse! "the rod" is a tool to spank with. Clearly spanking is ok when done correctly. I don't know about you, but I know many teenagers who if they had received a few spankings would not have turned out the way they did.I realize my response is not PC, but it is biblical. There is a difference between abuse and spanking and they are not the same thing. |
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---Vanessa on 6/1/09 |
No. Josef and ABW are correct. Sriking an ad-
lescent is not a way to deserve his or her
respect. >If a parent is strong enough to
force this type of punishment, he or she is
being abusive to do so. >If a teen is big
enough to resist and would obediently submit
to corp. punishment, then it is oviously not
necessary. >One might think "Do unto others
as you would have them do unto you" should
especially apply with one's own children -
at any age. |
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---Robert on 6/1/09 |
"Should young teenagers be spanked?"
"Spanking" would serve no constructive purpose. If a child has not been brought up in the way they should go by that time, it is to late. A "spanking" that late in life, may end up with the "spanker" eventually getting "spanked" by them. Any child to old to receive, obediently, verbal correction from their parents out of a logical, reasoned respect for their parents, is old enough for emancipation and separation from the parents home. |
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---Josef on 6/1/09 |
Children still very strongly resemble the image of God (as His offspring) in many obvious ways that adults don't (because we learn many worldly habits as we grow).
At times, YOUNG children will need discipline because they have learned a bad habit, but they also have begun to realize that the only recognition they get from anyone is when they are rebellious (children want to be recognized/noticed by the parent and receive the parent's attention...even if it hurts).
In the teen years, the child should learn to be constrained by their conscience and character, not fear of discipline. |
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---more_excellent_way on 5/28/09 |
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