Daughter Lied To CPS
My second to the oldest daughter lied and told CPS that her father was molesting her. He could go to jail for something that he didn't do. Her and my older daughter created this plan, they want to be grown and don't want to listen. What should we do?
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---Tabatha on 6/3/09
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"What should we do?" Have them all submit to a lie detector test, although not 100% accurate or submissible in court, the lier will rebel and the one who speaks the true will willing desire to make that truth known. All of you should carefully consider the Divine principle of seed time and harvest, and the fact that the Father is not mocked. Whatsoever one extends outwardly towards another, that one will gather in, and the harvest is always much greater than the seed. However it turns out, try to find forgiveness in your heart for the perpetrator(s), for Christ sake. Also remind all involved that they will never help themselves by hurting someone else. |
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---Josef on 6/6/09 |
First of all CPS will, upon such an allegation, remove all the children from the home and get order(s) of protection for the children, until the investigation is complete. How do you know she lied? |
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---BB on 6/5/09 |
Did you hear them construct this evil plan, or is this what your husband told you? |
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---amand6348 on 6/4/09 |
Why did they create this plan, why do they want him out of their lives so badly? I think that there is more to this story. |
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---TIMOTHY on 6/4/09 |
I know a girl who lied on her stepfather. Mom sided w/her, but the truth eventually surfaced that the stepfather was innocent. This was 20 years ago, the family has healed and is happy again.
I know another girl who told the truth, but mom kicked her out of the house at 12 years old to protect her husband. He was never prosecuted. The victim is nearly 40 years old now and still struggles with this. Her stepfather has also molested others, but hasn't paid for his crimes...yet.
Don't assume your daughters are lying simply because they have other issues. These things happen either way. Personally, I'd side with my children until proven otherwise. Pray, do what you can to protect your girls and let the truth surface on its own. |
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---AlwaysOn on 6/3/09 |
Tabatha,
You have been "instructed" to believe that...
1) your "daughter lied".
2) He could go to jail (heart tug, injustice) for something "he did not do".
3) these EVIL, EVIL children of yours "created" a "plan" of EVIL.
You have been fed the classic scenario of someone who is guilty. You have been TOLD/instructed to believe (and speak) subjectively (with a bias, jargon/lingo) so that everything you speak/say will serve the purpose of the guilty party.
You are now thinking evil of your children.
Make the right decision (go to the cops) or you'll be haunted by your conscience for the rest of your life.
What is he doing to other children? |
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---more_excellent_way on 6/4/09 |
I was going to assume Tabatha would know, and then be telling Tabatha what to do. Wouldn't you know I'm a guy! - - - so I might tend to assume a *man* would be innocent, if charged by teenage girls. Yeah, right! Good lesson for me. But I still would say to be open. *If* one is lying > what would a daughter have as her reason for lying, like this? This would have nothing to do with being mature and independent, or not wanting to listen. Someone would have a deep and very serious problem, in order to have become capable of this. This would mean a major need to look at how you have brought up your children. Or . . . what ways made you able to marry an abuser? We fool *ourselves* into trusting the wrong people. |
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---Bill_bila5659 on 6/3/09 |
Mother how do you know your daughter lied,is it because your husband said she did? How can you be sure he isn't lying? Keep an open mind,don't be led by your heart,use your head,for as bad as it hurts to think it could even be possible,realize there have been many mothers who turned on their children for the same thing and found out after supporting the husband,the children were telling the truth. Until you know for sure what happened don't judge the children. Could you tell us how old the children are? Cooperate with CPS as they try to find the truth. If you are a Christian Pray,Pray,Pray. If you aren't ask God for forgiveness for your sins and give your heart to the Lord. |
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---Darlene_1 on 6/3/09 |
Betty ... You are so right here.
I know a family where exactly this situation occurred. Eventually the allegations were porved to be true.
In another caee, the mother reported her suspicions to the church, but she and girls were thrown, because the father was an elder. Again it turned out the girls (all three) had told the truth about being abused. |
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---alan8566_of_UK on 6/3/09 |
Are you sure he didn't do it? Something could have been going on behind your back. |
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---Betty on 6/3/09 |
What kind of proof do you have that she lied? Or are you believing what your husband says to be truth? The truth will come out. |
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---SusieB on 6/3/09 |
CPS is not new at this sort of thing, they've heard it all before many times.
They know how to get to the bottom of this, if it's not true they will be the losers,if it is true...better get a good lawyer! |
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---1st_cliff on 6/3/09 |
If they were mine and they did it to my wife I'd beat a confession from them and tape record it knowing I'd spend far less time in the can then the old Lady would for what she's being accused of.
I'm gonna go take the parenting Bible quiz. |
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---Pharisee on 6/3/09 |
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