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Christians Expect Too Much

I think that sometimes we expect too much from others. Example: Pastors.
It seems like there are always people who expect others to be "miracle workers". What is the best way to explain to these people that their expectations are unrealistic and that only God can meet their needs?

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Pastor or Laypeople who get a reputation,and believe me one does,for praying for the sick and they are healed will always be expected to "produce". Of course it is God who heals but he often moves through people. That is one way spiritully uneducated people begin to expect others to be "miracle workers". What they may not realize that the conditions which are formed by worship,prayer,praise with an atmosphere of reverance brings the Spirit Of Holy Ghost who empowers us for service so God can move through us. Tuned in to God turned off to flesh. Too many seek the gifts before they seek the giver. Some ask for quick results without realizing God doesn't make command performances. Healings take time,miracles are instant.
---Darlene_1 on 6/20/09

Alan ... I'm not even sure what the question is!

We have churches here which variously say

Everything should be referred to the pastor or pastoral team (even where/when to holiday)
Every prayer will be answered as yuo want (no "your will, LOrd")
Only preist can absolve (or he can't)
Have to speak in tongues to be saved (or tongues are evil)
You must (or must not) worship on Saturday
You must not use doctors
No FreeWill
Must (or must not) tithe
Candles are evil

and so on!!!
---ala8566_of_uk on 6/13/09

AlanofUK what do you think? Is this true in England?
---Alan on 6/11/09

Yes, new Christians have a bad habit of placing Pastors in too high of esteem and then when the Pastor sins the new Christian falls from the faith.
---Alan on 6/11/09

View pastors just like anybody else. Doesn't the scripture tell us not to use titles, but to call each other Brothers and Sisters and Christ?
---Ed on 6/11/09

I don't know that there is a good way to explain this to people. It took me nearly 60 years to get to the place where I expect virtually nothing from other people.

I'm grateful when people are helpful and kind and keep their promises. But if they aren't, if they don't, I'm not matter who they are.
Everybody is human. I don't even expect Christians to necessarily behave better than other people because often they don't. That's just a fact, not a reason to get bent out of shape.

One thing I HAVE learned is that GOD is
always faithful, always has the best answer,
and always loves me even when He needs to correct me.
---Donna66 on 6/10/09

Most people in the world (believer or not) simply don't allow themselves to trust GOD ONLY.

God has an "invisible nature" and cannot be seen. We need to learn to trust (depend on) the "invisible" instead of rely on what can be seen, but we choose to make ourselves VERY dependent on what we "see" in the bible (we "imitate the text" instead of BE "Godly spiritual") instead of continue on to a more mature relationship with Jesus (Hebrews 6:1).

"Therefore, let us LEAVE the elementary doctrine... and move on to maturity".

Only the unseen God can meet our spiritual needs, not "the book", not pastors, or anything that can be seen (Romans 1:20).
---more_excellent_way on 6/9/09

Sometimes you just have to be firm with people and tell them that you can't meet every one of their needs. Only God can do that. It might well be that you are the first person that took the time to explain to these folks that nobody but God can meet all their needs.

Many of us have been taught that we should try and help out as much as we can. Most of the time, helping out is the "right" thing to do. However, when some people begin demanding more than you can possibly offer them, I think that it is time to "draw the line" and stop. Turn the situation over to God.
---Sag on 6/9/09

mo greater joy can come in your life when you realize that all your strength,all your joy,everything comes from knowing God,relying on him for everything.Only when this happens can you be what God intends.
---tom2 on 6/9/09

augie,first they must understand that jesus taught we have only one type of need,and it is spiritual.The evil things we experience are of the world,the flesh,and of satan,not God.I expect Gods word to minifest itself in life,maybe not for my flesh but for my spirit definitely,everything else is really of no concern.
---tom2 on 6/9/09

I personally have never gone to a pastor for any counsel. It is in the word of God.
---Melanie on 6/8/09

We must NOT look to people (including Pastors), but ONLY to God. People ONLY have the power to do things, by Holy Spirit moving through them (through Christ) - therefore it is NOT people, but God. Also, people make mistakes and will always let you down (even not meaning to) - God does NOT make mistakes, and will NEVER let us down. We put people on pedistals, and make them out to be gods (which is idolitry), but we must put God on that pedistal, and make Him our ONLY God.
---Leslie on 6/8/09

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