Bonnie this is Lami9364 finnish here not to over do the thread.well thankyou very much in short,God never gave up on me,I know myself God works on people like me,I sure do love my husband and I believe whole heartedly this too,will change.He started coming home now early and calls me from work,,it's working in jesus name.amen.we goin to go to counseling.lol.
---Lami6394 on 2/11/16|
Terry, before thinking of marriage at all please read Ephesians 5:22 -32.
If you will not be the type of husband prepared to love his wife enough to give up his life for her then don't expect to find a submissive wife.
God requires something from both the MALE and the FEMALE so don't expect to have a perfect (one sided) marriage.
The submission will soon sour if the love from you is not there.
A truly loving man will not expect things from his wife which would be difficult for her to fulfil.
---Rita_H on 1/8/16|
\\I am 61 white man lookinnng for marrige with woman that's ready to submit to her husband now
---Terry on 1/8/16
And are you willing to love your wife as Christ loved the Church UNTO DEATH and gave Himself for her?
Only when YOU do this can you expect your wife to submit to you?
Christ is baptized! In the Jordan!
---Cluny on 1/8/16|
I am 61 white man lookinnng for marrige with woman that's ready to submit to her husband now
---Terry on 1/8/16|
Hi Cj, it is very rare to see women like you. I am a strong adherer to the word of GOD, and I know that submission to a husband is a must. I don't think you are required to call you husband lord, but it is definitely not a bad thing. I highly doubt that if you did it he would dislike it. I've come to realize that men absolutely love to be called lord. '5For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6as Sarah obeyed Abraham,(G) calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and(H) do not fear anything that is frightening.''
---Olga on 4/9/11|
WOW!YOU,sound like the perfect woman.
I'm a kind hearted guy,and I love to listen and make my my partner smile.The thing is,I can't find a Woman like you And believe me,I've tried.If I found the right Woman.She would be Worshipped for the slightest kind deed.If you have a sister,Please send her this way...Thanks!
---Dave8357 on 2/22/11|
CJ YOU BLOGGED
"Women Submissive To All Men
Are women required to be a submissive spirit to all men? I'm just curious how men feel about this. I try to speak to all men as I do my husband, but I wonder if I give the wrong message by doing so".
whilst talking here about submitting to YOUR HUSBAND you asked in YOUR blog about submitting to ALL MEN.
here you say you ghot hurt when men said that it is not good to submit or adress every man in the same manner as your own husband.
please (idon't want to offend you) whilst submitting to your own husband as to Christ is required, to submit to every man is a heretic mideival practise who gives obedient wives (to God's word) a bad name.
---andy3996 on 1/10/11|
CJ ... No-one who posts here knows that the psot will be helpful to the person to whom it is addressed. But that is no reason to avoid posting something that may be useful.
There is clearly a problem, in that you don't feel you can be respectful to your husband, and that either he does not provide the leadership that he ought to provide, or which you feel he ought to provide (and they are not necessarily the same).
---alan8566_of_uk on 1/6/11|
Alan, I guess you didn't read the last line..
---CJ on 1/6/11|
CJ ... I can understand it if "bashers" say you are in "need of mental help for wanting to submit to a man"
Because, the way you put it, it seems that you are wanting your husband to be a domineering bully. I hope that is not the case.
I also hope that it does not mean that you want him to take decisions which are rightfully yours to take. But if this is the case, you need to take control of such matters, and stop burdening him.
I hope it does not mean that he takes no decisions, and leaves it all to you. But if this is the case, you should make a list of the things you want him to conrol, and ask for his leadership/decisions on specific issues
---alan8566_of_uk on 1/2/11|
CJ: count yourself blessed if you have a man that doesn't demand your submission. My husband is like that too and I couldn't be more grateful!
---Mary on 1/1/11|
I want to submit to my husband too. I've tried to discuss it with my husband too, but he doesn't require it so it's hard to find the motivation without support..sigh.. I'm in my 40's, my husband isn't controlling nor abusive, but when I post a comment or blog, I get bashers saying I'm in need of mental help for wanting to submit to a man. I would love to find someone male or female to council me through those times I don't feel like being respectful to my husband. My mother wasn't submissive to my father, so I don't have an example to follow. What do husbands in these relationships expect? If you're not going to post anything that helps, please don't post anything to try and change me.
---CJ on 1/1/11|
Bless you Roberta, if only more women would have this Christ mind you have, half the divorces in church wouldn't occur, if only more men would have the Christ mind of being prepared to die for their wife, the other half of the divorces wouldn't occur. you are right. of course if your lord doesn't like to be called Lord then you need to respect him, so this discussion should not take place here, but with your husband. Succes and again God bless your marriage with a blindening light.
---andy3996 on 12/24/10|
I agree with Walter Porter's post below. Forget all these other bloggers that are saying you are being abused because you honor and submit to your husband. God said to do this, so obey God rather than men. My wife honors and obeys me because she is in love with me and I respect and love her because I am in love with her, but I listen to her too because her needs are important to me. This is how a marriage should be. Those telling you not to submit to your husband are new-age christians and that is not of God.
---Jed on 12/22/10|
God bless you for loving to submit to your husband. However, it would be better to refer to him as Sir and not lord. The reason is because the word lord has come to refer to God only. During Bible times the word lord was used the way we use the word Sir, but the word lord is not used that way any longer.
A word of warning. Let not disciples of the devil turn you away from submittig to your husbands. I have a PH.D. in psychology, and I can tell you that most modern psychologists will turn you away from God and his will. Trust the word of God.
---Walter_Porter on 12/21/10|
I am so sorry for your pain. I never expect a woman to stay in an abusive situation. That is another issue, I don't believe God requires us to stay where we are in danger.
However, in today's world we are so influenced by the media and such that it is difficult to find teaching on true marriage as laid out by God...to be an example of Christ and His bride.
There are many who have committed their marriage to God, but have no peace or joy...or even love, very sad, but true. It is a sad commentary on our world when we barely see a beautiful, godly, loving marriage anymore. I pray we will see it happening more. How truly wonderful would that be.
When it is all said and done, the only truly perfect Bridegroom is Jesus. What a marvel He is!
---Kim on 6/19/09|
Looking at christianity in the USA, it is not surprising that divorces among christians are almost at the same rate of non-belivers. What does that say about those who currently claim christhood.
---Janze on 6/19/09|
I admire your dedication to Gods word. But for I could not live life without the love of God in my husband. I could not live life in anger and bitterness. For I knew it is God who could change him but I fell out of love. Had I prayed for my husband instead of resenting him that would have been better. But since I was too far spiritually gone to find the love within myself anymore I could not endure the daily mental abuse and my self esteem grew worse. God does not want us to live in abusive situations. If this is what you can endure..God bless you!
---Reverend_Shahzad on 6/18/09|
Submission is in response to an obedient heart to God. In 1 Peter 3, we are told that the wife is to submit to her own husband, as unto the Lord, even if they are in disobedience to the word.
This is not instruction to sin with them, but rather to obey the Lord to win their husband.
We do not submit because our husbands are "worthy" but because Christ is.
They are in turn told to love us, not because we are lovable, but because Christ loves them.
Having trouble with your husband? Love Christ enough to obey His word and love your husband enough to pray that God's love will overwhelm Him.
We are to obey God in His instruction to us, not determined by whether others obey Him or not.
Easy? NO! Worth it? YES!
---Kim on 6/18/09|
Do you have a sister available for marriage with the same idea? LOL
---Ed on 6/18/09|
If your husband loved you like Christ loves the church, if he would lay down his life for you (John 15:13) as Christ did for the world, then you would gladly submit to him "notice him, regard him, honor him, prefer him, venerate and esteem him, and that you defer to him, praise him and love and admire him exceedingly."
Ephesians 5: 25-33
I Peter 3:7-12
1 Corinthians 13:13
---Steveng on 6/16/09|
if your husband is called the lord, where does the power of submission come from? From him? or from another one?
we submit for a reason, but this reason is different from the complete one.
what is your reason of submitting?
---dsda on 6/16/09|
NO,do not call your husband Lord,Lord is to be kept for the LOrd God only.
---robin_durfey on 6/16/09|
No,you shouldn't call him lord.The only we should call Lord is God and Jesus.I disagree with excellent.I don't think he is controlling or brainwashing you.As my pastor says the wife is to submit and love her husband and want to submit for that reason.And that the husband do the same by submitting,loving and want to submit to his wife cause he loves her,for that reason.If he was controlling you and brianwashing you,you wouldn't be enjoying it.And we are to enjoy submiting as long as it is for the right reasons and Godly,not going against God.
---angea on 6/16/09|
It is totally out of custom to do such a thing here. We have no such customs and calling your husband Lord would be way out of line. Call him by his name or anythiing else that suits. My wife is totally submissive to me and if she called me Lord I would feel silly and ask her not to do it again. Ask your husband if he would like to be called Lord, that should end this.
---john on 6/16/09|
Why would you want to inflate his ego?
---amand6348 on 6/16/09|
The word "kyrios" in this verse also means "Mr." and "sir."
Of course, Christ said to call no man master, and "Mr" and "Mrs" are just variant spellings of "master."
---Cluny on 6/16/09|
"I love to submit to my husband like Sarah to Abraham. Should I call my husband lord?" Sure.
As long as "lord" is recognized, by you both, in the lower case.
Biblically, referenced to the husband, it simply means "superintendent of household affairs."
However I must say if I were married and my wife called me lord, that would make me very uncomfortable, and I would probably quickly remind her that we, as one body, have but one "Lord", The LORD Jesus, The Christ.
---josef on 6/16/09|
As Christians, we have only ONE Lord...
"one Lord, one faith, one baptism".
There is only one hero in Christianity. As to your enjoyment of "submitting", get professional help. Your husband has brainwashed you, he is a control freak (narcissist) and wants to ENSLAVE YOU (not much love there!!).
Your husband will make your life one of MISERY if you allow it.
Visit a NARCISSISM forum online and learn what he is doing to you.
---more_excellent_way on 6/15/09|