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Do I Remarry My Spouse

I married an unsaved man who was the father of my children before I became a christian. We divorced and he has had other relationships but we are close again but not saved still. What is the opinion on remarriage in this instance. There was no unfatihfulness during our marriage.

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 ---Joanne on 6/23/09
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Read (Rom 7:2-3) (John 4:15-18) Your first husband is your ONLY husband so long as he lives. whether you had gotten divorce legally, God never acknowledged that divorce because it had no grounds.So in god's eye you are still married, but you should get married again so that the government can acknowledge you for tax purposes.
---metuschelah on 7/31/09


There is no reason why you should not go through with marriage, but I would advise counseling. Though you get along, alot has changed over the course of this time and you both are two very different people than when you were married the first time. A counselor could prepare you for whats ahead. I am assuming there are also alot of unresolved isssued, being that you divorced. But with God it is possible to get through these issues. My prayers are with you.
---Kella8334 on 7/2/09


You have an interesting question, because in the Bible it says that if he had remarried, and then tried to go back to you, it would've been "unclean," but instead he has "been with" other people instead of marrying them.

According to the Bible you are still married and he has been committing adultery by being with other people.
---amand6348 on 7/1/09


if there was no unfaithfulness then there was no reason for divorce. I God's eyes you are still married.
---joanie on 6/28/09


I do not reccommend to remarry this man. First of all remember what you broke up for in the first place. Nothing has changed. His view of the universal things and your's do mix. You will but heads in everyway and yes your burden and his, which YOU will carry all by yourself will be heavy. Please talk with me before you make this mistake again. I am currently going through this. I'm going through now what you should be remembering from your first time being married to him. I can help you to remember, and help you from dodging making the same mistake TWICE!
---Soni on 6/26/09




As a Christian, reconciliation is always the first choice if possible in divorce.
---zach8765 on 6/26/09


If you married him and still love him and he is willing to live with you, okay he's not saved but he is your husband, you need someone to love, communicate with and at least try through the right Godly conduct show him how a christian woman can love her husband, and support him through his unbelief and be a wonderful wife towards him regardless of how he will or is going to treat you.

IF you can PULL it off
Girl cos it ain't easy....you'll have gained a husband if not there's always separation! no harm in trying. Your responsibility is going to be the hardest thing eva but if you dedicate your life to the Lord TOTALLY you JUST may do it
---Carla3939 on 6/25/09


What about the children?
---zach8765 on 6/25/09


It's not a sin to love your husband
---groucho on 6/24/09


Thanks for replys, I have not had any relationships since our divorce and he has not married again but has had other girlfriends. He wants to spend time again with me but that includes staying the night as he doesnt see anything wrong with that but is not at all interested in having a relationship with the Lord.
---Joanne on 6/24/09




Just based on what you state, I'm of the opinion you SHOULD NOT marry this man. The primary reason for this opinion is found in the Bible, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?"
2 Cor 6:14 (KJV)

You don't mention rather either of you have since then been married again. You only mention the word, "relationships".
---wivv on 6/24/09


Depends whether or not your ex-spouse was your first spouse, if yes then yes you can marry because you had NO grounds for separation in the first place except death or else you were living in adultery. Death is the only time one can remarry,Period.
---metuschelah on 6/24/09


Joanne,in Gods eyes you really had no reason to divorce him,or he you.You say you had other relationships,did you remarry?If not,then there is no problem other that the fact that if you are seeking counsel thru Gods word from Gods people then I would suggest you both accept jesus in your hearts and minds,then remarry.
---tom2 on 6/24/09


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