Is My Husband Forgiven
My husband left during his affair, we are in the middle of a divorce now. He believes he asked for forgiveness, however he has remained living with the other woman. He justifies his actions by saying he isn't being intimate with this woman. Is he forgiven of this sin even though he has not repented?
Moderator - Repent means to turn away from. Since he is still living in this sin, he has not repented.
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---Theresa on 7/9/09
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... Remember samarian woman, (John4:18) who was married 5 times but only 1 was her true husband and it was not the new husband because she got divorce on her own grounds not God's ground, he will still be your husband.
---metuschelah on 7/11/09
The analogy of this scripture is Israel and her marriages to other husbands. Woman's father Jacob is mentioned.
GOD divorced for fornication. But, dieing cleansed/released former for remarriage.
It was mans perogative....don't have advice....other than prayer.
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
---Trav on 7/16/09|
I really appreciate your encouragement and ask if you and anyone else that reads this blog will pray for my husband to repent, and return to God in such a way that it glorifies him when all that know of our situation learns of his repentance. I would love to see my marriage restored in a better way as you mentioned in your comment.
---Theresa on 7/14/09|
Theresa...You can continue to pray for your husband's and the other woman's salvation. I have seen marriages restored that were in worse shape than yours. When I was single a friend of mine introduced me to a Christian man whose wife had left him for her high school sweetheart. This friend thought I might make him a good mate. I asked this man what he wanted to happen with the situation. When he said that he wanted his wife to come back home, then I began praying for that as well as asking my friends to pray for his marriage to be restored. She did return home and their marriage was restored to better than it was before she left. He recognized what he had done to make her leave and she repented of her sin.
---SusieB on 7/14/09|
Thank you for your comment, however I don't think you should assume I wrote this question in judgment of my husband. I wrote to find out other Christian views, so I would know how to pray for him. He believes since he is a Christian and has asked for forgiveness he will only lose rewards in heaven. I shared with him the need to repent, but he continues to share he will only have rewards taken away and nothing else. I have forgiven and I'm waiting to see what God will do in my life whether he restores my marriage or releases me of it.
I also want to thank all the other comments that have been made. They have been a real blessing and encouragement to me.
---Theresa on 7/14/09|
I believe the wife should forgive her husband and move on i dont think God wants us to judge one another that is his job. I am opinionated and myself have to ask God for forgiveness as i tend to be judgemental and that is not for us mind your own business! Let God do the rest believe me it comes home.
---Sharron on 7/13/09|
without repentance there is no forgiveness. Since he is still with the other woman no he has not been forgiven.
---Jon on 7/13/09|
Your husband is commiting adultery, even after your divorce is final he will still be your husband, even after he decides to marry his concubine/mistress what ever you want to call her, Remember the samarian woman, (John4:18) who was married 5 times but only 1 was her true husband and it was not the new husband because she got divorce on her own grounds not God's ground, he will still be your husband.
---metuschelah on 7/11/09|
No he has not repented and he justifies his actions, but truly they are unjustified.
---amand6348 on 7/10/09|
if he had repented, he will not be pressing for divorce
he will ask for your forgiveness and ask to be accepted back home
i do not believe God forgives unrepentant sin
---PAT on 7/10/09|
I agree with the Moderator.
---Betty on 7/10/09|
if he would have repented, Yes, as moderator said,to repent is to walk awy from the given sin. are you sure he's not playing on your emotions to ghet a better deal on the separation issues. i badvice to be carefull, and to let your lawyer handle these things without you giving in too much.
---andy3996 on 7/10/09|
\\Moderator - Repent means to turn away from. Since he is still living in this sin, he has not repented.\\
Does this apply to divorced and remarried Christians living in relationships that Jesus called adultery?
---Cluny on 7/9/09|
How many on this blog actually believe that this man is not being intimate with this woman? He obviously doesn't care about his Christian witness if he stays with her. The Bible says that he should not be divorcing his wife in the first place. Shame on him.
---SusieB on 7/9/09|