Husband Facing Jail Time
Married 23 years, spouse now facing jail time, he is a non-christian who has been involved in illegal activities. I want to leave, have had enough but know I can never be with another man which is fine - any comments or advice would be helpful.
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---anon on 8/4/09
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I think that you should do what you feel is right for you. Your psychological health comes first. You sound like you have lots of strength. Use it, but if it gets to be too much, even for you, do what you feel is right.
---amand6348 on 8/7/09|
anon, I see another anon is posting here. We are 2 different people.
While I know others are saying pray, and giving you scriptures to stand on, etc., but if your spouse has been involved in illegal activities, then he is committing a crime.
Maybe, and I'm saying maybe a time of separation would be good for you. Being around all that traumma can rob you of your peace and joy which is what satan tries to do to us everyday almost.
So you may not leave because you can't be with another man? God is all you need anon. You will find that worshipping God and Jesus brings much more fulfillment than a worldly man ever can. "There's Joy in the Presence of the Lord and at thy right hand are pleasures forevermore."
---anon on 8/6/09|
Hon, it's ok that you want to leave your marriage---Pray about it and leave it in His hands---but first line yourself up under Christ and keep beleiving for your husbands salvation.. and it will come.. it takes more time for some to give up and come to Jesus..but if you have the faith and not doubt, it will happen!!don't preach at him-let him see Joy and Peace, Jesus gives you...and maybe prision is what it's going to take for him--some prison's have great ministries..i hope i have encouraged you--just to let you know i stumbled on your blog and have never responded to or written on any of these blog sites before--so i know it's a God thing....i will pray for you--that you will have His Peace and Strength to get you through...LOVE IN CHRIST!!!!
---Joann on 8/6/09|
"Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands,
that even if some do not obey the word, they,
. . . . . without a word,
may be be won by the conduct of their wives," (1 Peter 3:1)
^ This ^ commands ^ what ^ is ^ possible ^ with ^ God ^
and for pleasing God >
"rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God."
(1 Peter 3:4)
The "gentle and quiet spirit" of God's love has God's almighty power to spread to effect your husband. So, He gives you the means to do what He says. Example in the sight of God can spread to make others the same way.
---Bill_bila5659 on 8/6/09|
Thank you all for your kind words. I will read the scriptures you quoted and the Power of a Praying Wife - I have that book.
What I want most of all is to do God's will first. I will keep praying for His eyes to see, and for Him to refine me. God Bless you all.
---anon on 8/5/09|
I am sorry you are in a marriage where you feel it necessary to end it. Divorce is definitely an option you have as a person in your situation.
My concern is how sold-out are you to the will of God for your life? Are you willing to ask Him to show you HIS way of dealing with your bad marriage? Are you willing to pray for your husband, regardless of his legal matters or prison time?
I suggest you try reading, "The Power of a Praying Wife." It could help you at least look at your marriage and husband and situation through a different set of lenses.
Then, pray and ask the Lord for His will and be willing to submit to that. (BTW, His will may not sound like any of the advice you get from anyone here.)
---Trish9863 on 8/5/09|
Hi, anon . . . if I remember right, you have made it clear you understand Jesus means that divorce and remarriage is adultery, and that a spouse must die before one may marry someone else. Well . . . it could be so simple > he could die in jail. But if we are faithful to all that Jesus really desires for us, we will not *in our hearts* be desring a way out of whatsoever He requires of us. And I suspect ones have been interpreting the divorce rules in ways to get out of dealing with what God really wants. So, these scriptures are indeed discerning "the thoughts and intents" (Hebrews 4:12) of our hearts. In forgiving we are forgiven, in seeking to be pleasing to God He is so pleasing to us, I am finding. Take care of this, first (o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 8/5/09|
Since your husband is going to prison/jail soon there is no need for you to leave him. He will be leaving you. Perhaps he may find the Lord while incarcerated. We will pray for him and you too.
---SusieB on 8/4/09|
Divorce may very well be an option also. Contact me at elder2291 and I will discuss it with you.
---Elder on 8/4/09|
I'm not sure you can divorce him, but nothing says you have to live with him.
---stephen on 8/4/09|