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From my reading of the scripture, a man can remarry if the wife commits adultery and he divorces her first. However, no where in the Bible does it say a woman can get remarried if the husband commites adultery even if a man's divorce happens. Can anyone quote scripture to the contrary?

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Lee, Matthew 5:32 & 19:9 say nothing of marriage's "commitment" being dissolved. They say the opposite. A husband who divorces, except for fornication, is responsible for making his wife an adulteress. Also, whomever marries her commits adultery. (Legal) divorce is man's attempt at disregarding this, but Yahushua's words prove it's foolish to believe that, because it's "legal", there is no sin.

Also, 1 Cor 7:2 doesn't apply to divorced people (where there was no adultery). If it did, Yahushua would have no reason to label them "adulterers". If they were free to remarry, Messiah would have said so. Instead He said they do so to their own peril UNLESS adultery caused their divorce.
---AlwaysOn on 9/6/09


Carla - does your pastor marry those who have been divorced?

If he (or she) does, then upon what basis or justification is that done?

Could it just be that your pastor considers those that are divorced as being single people who have sinned and repented of their sins?

Await your answer if you really have one.
---lee on 9/6/09


Oh but he addressed the divorced you just fail to recognise it, Again, and Again and AGAIN, Wise Up!
---Carla3939 on 9/6/09


Carla - then you conclude that 1 Cor 7:2 does not apply to those who are single? I can only disagree.

Those who are divorced are clearly single people, not married as a divorce clearly dissolves any marriage committment.

Apparently you do not recognize that fact that divorce dissolves a marriage. Christ did however in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9.
---lee on 9/6/09


Paul is giving advice concerning his opening statement '' it is good for a man Not to touch a woman.

However a husband as stated in vs 7:3, and a wife & :4 is dealing with The married in marriage.

He then deals with the unmarried and widows 7:10 married.Unbelieving and married 18:25 understanding of their circumstances how he is reaching his rulings/why.
25:33 Virgins 33:40 both and married.

Nope remarriage here!
---Carla3939 on 9/6/09




Carla -**Find where the bible says a woman/man can remarry for any reason!

While there are many good reasons for one to marry in the first place, those reasons as well as others may be present.

Several scriptures may be applicable, but for now I give you just one.

1Co 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

And since someone divorced is no longer married but single, they may marry but only in the Lord. 1 Cor. 7:29b

You may not realize it but human beings have physical and emotional needs for intimate companionship that do not disappear upon divorce or death of a spouse.

And the younger one is, the greater the temptation to sin.
---lee on 9/5/09


I understand from your responses that you feel you can change the whole constitution of marriage with carnal minded suggestions non however written in scripture to validate your years of reading and studying.

Find where the bible says a woman/man can remarry for any reason!
---Carla3939 on 9/5/09


I don't believe God sees man and woman as different, in terms of who commits the adultery. God sees us all as people. I believe remarriage is a matter of the Spirit. One must seek God for their individual situation. I am a minister who is divorced. My husband divorced me. I have not dated since that time, which was 15yrs ago. God has begun to speak to my Spirit about a mate. I have not desired that but I believe He is preparing me for that. By now my former mate is remarried. I feel completely free to remarry as the Spirit guides. I am free of that covenant because my former mate broke the covenant he made with me and God through remarriage.
---Alena on 9/5/09


//The fact is no one can quote scripture to contradict what is written on divorce and re-marriage( not biblically least ways)

And we can also state as fact that a divorce does dissolve a marriage. Even Christ admited to that much in Matthew 5:32, 19:9.

So if one is divorced, that person is single and cannot commit adultery unless there is an affair with someone that is married.

And we have yet to find anything in the Bible that forbids re-marriage.

Don't you just pity those ministers of fundamentamental churches who disagree with you?

They just got to be wrong in their interpretations of Scripture even after dedicating their lives to the study of Scripture.
---lee on 9/4/09


nana,

''Tight as a life jacket'' lol

The fact is no one can quote scripture to contradict what is written on divorce and re-marriage( not biblically least ways)

Those where their affections are set in the things of this world are not moved to the Spiritual rhelms of God,where one is able to Spiritually desern Gods promisies daily people need to understand that there is another Spirit that must superceed the natural man whereby the inner man is clothed spiritually.

In other words we need to mature to a point where we Spiritually desire things of God and put under subjection things of the flesh and serve is a newness of spirit, count it as loss that's when the flesh no longer at war with your soul .
---Carla3939 on 9/4/09




Carla3939,
No need to tank me. I just do not fail to recognize your labor of love (do not for a moment entertain the idea that I do not mean LOVE, for I believe your whole heart and your best faith is in all you say), even if it seems to me as tight as a strait jacket.
May the Lord keep shining his grace and his word on you, be blessed.
---Nana on 9/2/09


Nana,

God bless you,

The devil accuses the brethren but he also knows his reward!

God is above the devil and the devils works.
---Carla3939 on 9/2/09


//Who is man to tell God to change his arrangement to fit himself, especially a sacred union such as Marriage that is personified a union between us and God.

To say that someone that is divorced is committing adultery in re-marrying ignores the fact that a divorce dissolves a marriage (i.e. the parties are no longer considered married) and that adultery, by definition, has to be an illicit relationship between one or more married people.

Adultery is defined to be "extramarital sex: voluntary sexual relations between a married person and somebody other than his or her spouse".

A divorce person being single cannot commit adultery until he or she has a relationship with someone that is married.
---lee on 9/2/09


No Lee:

I do feel it should be the way you stated BUT

Christ said NOT my Will when faced with the cross

So it's wasn't his will but Gods will.

That is where my obedience comes in. I do not try to contort the word of God to fit my circumstances, Moses never got away with it neither will you!

Who is man to tell God to change his arrangement to fit himself, especially a sacred union such as Marriage that is personified a union between us and God.

Dare you to be a Daniel he did not bow to any rulings the kings made in fact it is written many of the Old Testament followed the God Of ages and turned from their wicked ways, Is God not able?
---Carla3939 on 9/2/09


carla, have you considered that sending another partner IS how God keeps and takes care of a divorcee?
Have you considered that IS how God restores them?

We must remember that God's ways are not ours and that he works them mysteriously for our good.
That is why we pray his will be done and not our own. If it is God's will to get remarried, he will make it so.
If it is not, God removes the deire for a mate from the divorcee.
I myself have been happily single for almost 2 years and divorced for 14 years! Unless God changes anything, I will stay that way too.
---miche3754 on 9/2/09


Very good Carla,but I am convinced that only a male or female partner can fulfill some of the needs one may have. And in that God may provide.

If I AM was totally sufficient then why did He have to make a partner for old Adam in the first place.
---lee on 9/2/09


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LEE:

I did as you asked and He said


Psalms 27:10:14, Psalms 41:1:2, mat 6:28 Luke 12:27


In times of trouble he is a present help, he said when father and mother forsakes me he would take me up, he said he dresses the lillies, he even feeds the sparrows and that I am more than them.

He said more importantly, he will never leave me or forsake me even to the end of the world.

So when my enemies say he was speaking to the Twelve disciples and not me he said go back and look again he said even unto the end of the world.

That includes EVEN me, even those who have been forsake by their husbands!



I AM is who I consulted NOT MAN!
---Carla3939 on 9/2/09


Luke 16:8: "And the lord commended the unjust steward, because he had done wisely: for the children of this world are in their generation wiser than the children of light."

Carla3939 is one those children of light.
---Nana on 9/2/09


Carla - I think that you made your point quite clear, but where we differ is whether someone that is divorced can be forgiven and restored to the point where that person can re-marry. The needs in which a person originally married are still there, probably with a few more as well.

For instance, there are some that have walked away from their families and the need that children have for a father figure and economic security is often still there.

And that is the position most pastors will take on this issue. You might do well to consult your own spiritual adviser and see what he (or she) has to say on this issue. You most likely have a few in your church that are divorced and re-married, maybe even serving as elders or deacons.
---lee on 9/1/09


I am now left wondering if women today were forced to drink the water of bitterness as described in Numbers 5:18f, how many would end up with swollen bellies and thigh that will fall away?

Frankly, this was a ruling that probably never was experienced by any one.
---lee on 9/1/09


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''In the beginning it was not so''.... could you elaborate tell me and others what was not so?
---Carla3939 on 9/1/09
It means before sin entered the world carla.

Christians stumble and fall all the time. BUT, is holding them to the letter of the law that kills going to help them stand?
Nope.
Sister, it is not our time to judge matters like this.
There is no sin that God won't forgive through Jesus Christ. We must take that into consideration. Christ knows the condition of a person's heart, we don't.
---miche3754 on 9/1/09


Yes He was divorced and I'm glad you pointed that out people who have distorted the word to suit themselves always teach the same thing is alright for others did God deal with it yeas he did and sent his son to correct it.

''In the beginning it was not so''.... could you elaborate tell me and others what was not so?
---Carla3939 on 9/1/09


//And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

In ancient Jewish society, only the man had the legal right for divorce, a woman accused of misconduct in regard to her husband could be made drink a portion made by the priest and if found guilty could be stoned.

And the priest shall set the woman before the LORD and unbind the hair of the womans head and place in her hands the grain offering of remembrance, which is the grain offering of jealousy. And in his hand the priest shall have the water of bitterness that brings the curse. Num. 5:18f
---lee on 8/31/09


Carla - in the 1st verse you quoted, Moses gave the Israelites permission to divorce their wives as he himself was probably divorced and realized that he still had the need for a woman. And they even had polygamists and concubines in their camp in those days.

The 2d verse is probably too brief to interpret in a totally strict sense, since it penalizes and faults the victim of someone elses' inability to honor the marriage vows.

I do not see that in the character of our Lord.

In short, scripture must be interpreted with scripture, tempered with mercy and reasoning, and not in a legalistic sense.
---lee on 8/31/09


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And good pastors will re-marry the repentant and the victims of bad marriages.



Glad to see that you are starting to come around to a more reasonable and scriptural viewpoint.
---lee on 8/30/09


Deu 24:1:3

Mat 19:8
He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
[b]NOTE: MOSES[/b]
Mat 19:9


And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
---Carla3939 on 8/31/09


//But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law, for they are unprofitable and vain.

Glad that you agree! However, we are commanded to study in order to rightfully divide the word of truth.

2Ti 2:15 Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.

And good pastors will re-marry the repentant and the victims of bad marriages.

Glad to see that you are starting to come around to a more reasonable and scriptural viewpoint.
---lee on 8/30/09


LEE:



Tts 3:9
But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law, for they are unprofitable and vain.

Jhn 21:16
He saith to him again the second time, Simon, [son] of Jonas, lovest thou me? He saith unto him, Yea, Lord, thou knowest that I love thee. He saith unto him, Feed my sheep.
---Carla3939 on 8/30/09


Carla - Having been an active student of the Bible for over 50 years, I have seen many Christians divorce and latter re-marry.

All arrive at the altar convinced in their minds that it would never happen to them. But, sister, it does.

Take care and invest in your marriage and do not make the mistake that such a tragedy cannot happen to you.

I can only wish you well, that some sweet little thing out there does not decide your husband deserves someone better.
---lee on 8/29/09


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LEE:

Now concerning the things you wrote about


Some sweet thing running off with my hubby!


1.
Why would I be afraid!!!
Pro 9:17
Stolen waters are sweet, and bread [eaten] in secret is pleasant.

Pro 9:18
But he knoweth not that the dead [are] there, [and that] her guests [are] in the depths of hell.

SORTED

2.

Mat 19:10

But he said unto them,All [men] cannot receive this saying, save [they] to whom it is given.
---Carla3939 on 8/29/09


Yes, Carla all too often your arguments are really without much foundation in truth.

2 Cor. 10:4 For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds. We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,being ready to punish every disobedience, when your obedience is complete.
---Lee on 8/24/09


Karen -**Remember, a brother (or sister) offended is harder to win than a walled city

Worst yet, Carla has yet to find a single verse of Scripture that forbids re-marriage after a divorce.
---Lee on 8/23/09


Carla, love, perhaps you should learn to temper your answers with compassion. Even the most hardened of us will balk at being constantly told we are in the wrong. Remember, a brother (or sister) offended is harder to win than a walled city

Karen
---Karen on 8/23/09


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You will not find any such scripture because what we call adultery today is not what the Bible called adultery. In the Bible adultery occurred only when a married woman was involved. Also, in the Bible, adultery was not grounds for divorce as we mistakenly say, fornication or lying about ones virginity was. In those days, adultery was not purnished by divorce but death by stoning. Today, we have made our own laws because we don't live under a theocracy.
---Dell on 8/23/09


First remember!
Moses! For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.

But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife,
And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God.

Now, let turn to the law! That you can not do, anyway!
Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Defraud not, Honour thy father and mother.

Isa 40:21
---TheSeg on 8/23/09


Carla, not being able to find a single verse in the entire Word of God that one may not re-marry can hardly be viewed as a compromise.

Again, your problem is probably a deep fear some sweet young thing will show up some day and run off with your hubby.

I would suggest you be less of a contentious woman but a loving wife to your husband.

Proverbs 27:15 A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike, to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in ones right hand.

from the NT, you would do well "to aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, ...so that you may live properly before outsiders and be dependent on no one". 1 Thess.4:11f
---Lee on 8/23/09


Christ does not compromise the word he told satan it is written. Lee says it is written but I lee can change the word of God to suit what ever situation I like since I am the church and I speak for the unjust.

Christ said Accept for [fornication] one cannot marry again(yes I have Paraphrased for the time being because of time but I will not be back home for several weeks when all the work should be completed,

Alan I will be back in the next following week and answer you!
---Carla3939 on 8/23/09


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Mt 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Possibly what Christ had in view here is that since women had very low status in the Jewish society, they would have to support themselves by prostitution.
---Lee on 8/22/09


Donna66: You hit the nail on the head. A person is responsible for their behavior, and can't blame their spouse if they end up in bed with someone else.

Reminds me of the old TV show "Laugh-In" where the guy used to say, "the devil made me do it."
---Trish9863 on 8/19/09


As for "causing the other to commit adultery" .... I don't believe this is possible. Someone may cause you to be greatly tempted. But you can't blame anyone else for your decision to commit adultery. Nobody MAKES you do it.
---Donna66 on 8/18/09


Hi, I'm not sure I understand what that means about "causing the other to commit adultery" but my own experience has taught me that a husband's rejection can make a woman go crazy and desire other men--even married men--that show her the slightest kindness! That was years ago for me, but kind of my perspective on what that verse might imply. Yes I was wrong to want (never happened the way I desired thank God!) the married man but rejection can really make a person lose their mind!
---Mary on 8/18/09


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seems to me we have messed up look at things. just something to think about.there was a man who got the wrong daughter and worked another seven years for second wife, God was not mad at him for adultery. sarah gave her hand maiden to abraham but God was not mad about that he was mad about them not believing him. if you want to be a elder then you can only have one wife. so whats up with all that? and its very clear that God gave room for divorce because of the hardness of mans heart. (non forgiveness)it was never intended to be divorce.i dont think it is just for men . seems adultery clause is for both. but it says one who divorces causes the other to commit adultery.
---kevin on 8/17/09


Carla, you say of me ... "You are from the same school of thought you are both accusers of the brethren doing the works of a very cunning prince of darkness. You write to twist the word of God because you are a product of the said situation ...."

What brethern have I accused?
What work of the prince of darkness have I done?
How have I twisted the word of God?
What "said situation" am I a product of?
What situation have I sought to justify?
What "own gain" have I sought?
---alan8566_of_uk on 8/17/09


Thank you Lee.
First, for your kind and loving tone which makes it easier to receive advice.
Second, for what you said.
I have sought their advice and they gave the same as you did. Even, if you had said something I didn't agree with, I would still respect you. Simple because you speak with the heart of Christ. It seems very apparent in you. Very good fruit, brother..
God bless you!!!!!
---miche3754 on 8/16/09


miche - //This is a subject I have struggled with as to if God will allow me to remarry. ... I would like to have a husband BUT I don't want to be out of God's will. Advice ...appreciated.

Most of the advice on this forum will merely be the bias opinions of others, many of whom are not knowledgeable of scripture.

It is my suggestion you sit down with a good pastor and talk this subject out, or obtain the book pastors commonly use in counseling on this Subject, "Marriage,Divorce, & Re-Marriage in the Bible" by Jay E. Adams.

In brief, one may repent (if at fault) of past failed marriage,be restored and marry again.

Do not let others trouble your mind but focus on the Word of God, He has called us to peace.
---Lee on 8/15/09


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Ralph,
I didn't say God will be a bigamist.
You obviously don't undersand that God will "remarry" Israel THROUGH them accepting Christ just like us.
God divorced Israel and IS getting "remarried" to the Church, HIS BRIDE.
I am sorry you just don't understand this but then, you won't accept anything from a woman unless she agrees with you and comes under your submission.
Like I said, God himself is a divorcee because of Adultery. It if fine for us to remarry as long as the divorce is was along biblical lines.
So, no I haven't gone off the deep end, just understanding what God has shown me. You don't have to accept if you don't want to. Like Jesus said, some won't.
---miche3754 on 8/15/09


Miche my dear, I say the following with all Christian love: You've gone off the deep end with this stuff.

You want so much to justify your ideas that you're now going on about God being divorced, God marrying us but no wait, he's going to marry Israel again (bigamy?), Israel got remarried in the meantime (to who or what I don't know), and it goes on and on. Frankly, it's all starting to sound quite silly and you could potentially get yourself in trouble if impressionable people start buying into it.

Do yourself a favor and give all this stuff a rest because you are doing nothing but demonstrating the desperate lengths people can go to in order to justify their desires and behavior.
---ralph7477 on 8/15/09


Stephan in answer to you question no-one can because like you said there are no scriptural evidence that a woman can in fact allow her husband to depart except for disbelief. then it staes quite clearly and scripturally that a woman is to remain unweded, single, unmarried.

All people do is use opinion but scriptural evidence silences the false witnesses.
---Carla3939 on 8/14/09


---ralph7477 on 8/13/09
In reference to this post.
Read Duet. chapter 24.
And in other Gospels it says none can divorce except for adultery. That is the only thing Jesus changed. I am not the one refusing scripture. You are.
And you certainly forget that God has allowed Israel to remarry also.
But that is a whole other topic.
I can see why you are either divorced or single still.
Your heart is very hardened to women.
Sad, brother very sad.
Paul is right, some men can't handle being married according to what God says a husband should be. You are perhaps one of them. I pray God keeps you happy in your singleness. And one day he softens your heart.
---miche3754 on 8/14/09


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The bible teaches us that one can only remarry under certain circumstances. I say this out of love. Not to create a stumbling block for you. If a christian couple seperates, they must be reconciled back to one another. Christians cannot put away a spouse under any circumstance (Divorce). In gods eyes that person remains your spouse, and if that spouse is not deceased, god will regard a new marriage as an adultress relationship. An exception is for a man who has married someone that is not christian, and that person left him. God has called him to peace. Read This can be found in Romans, Ephesians, Titus, I Peter. You are not able to use Israles relationship and apply it to you today.
---Henny on 8/13/09


This is a subject I have struggled with as to if God will allow me to remarry. Especially since I am a single mom. I have been single for a long time, and I would like to have a husband BUT I don't want to be out of God's will. Advice would be appreciated.
---miche3754 on 8/10/09

It certainly doesn't sound like you are struggling or that you are seeking advice. You appear to have your mind made up as you have done nothing but argue against evidence you don't like and put forth your own line of reasoning. And if you're sticking with your "God is a divorcee" line, just remember that God is the husband, not the bride. The husband may re-marry without being adulterous. The wife may not without being adulterous, as Jesus said.
---ralph7477 on 8/13/09


carla - neither I nor Alan of Uk, has any desire to demonize those who would disagree with us.

What we are discussing here is whether someone that had the misfortunate of being divorced or for whatever reason divorced the spouse, has the scriptural right to re-marry.

Or poor little me! I have yet to find anything in scripture that forbids re-marriage of those who were the victims of someone elses unfaithfulness or became a repentant soul.

In your theology, you do not forgive nor will you tolerate anyone to be restored. I guess the church of our Lord Jesus Christ is in error.

SHAME!
---Lee1538 on 8/13/09


Thank you Larry.
What they fail to realize is God is a divorcee himself. And he will be remarried too, to the Church.
God gave Israel a bill of divorcement and sent her on her way to "marry" whom she will.
But even though Israel has committed fornication and adultry on God, he will forgive them and even take them back through Christ.
It is about forgiveness NOT whether someone has been divorced and remarried. They just don't want to see that. THey don't want to see that some marriages are not made by God. God gave man freewill, and some times we choose wrong, od is steadfast to forgive and give another chance Just like God is doing with Israel.
---miche3754 on 8/13/09


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LEE: both you and Alan of uk,

are from the same school of thought you are both accusers of the brethren doing the works of a very cunning prince of darkness. You write to twist the word of God because you are a product of the said situation, I don't aspire to justify situations because it suits me encouraging all else through my own gain disregarding scripture.

I recognise that regardless of my situation I have a responsibility to offer the truth. Not white wash it to suit all situations whether it it suites me or not.

That's hypocrisy!
---Carla3939 on 8/13/09


//I have no fear of divorce because the God I served before marriage was my light and life during before and after not marriage Life.

All too many think the way you do and their marriages have failed.

I had a missionary friend who went to Nigeria ended up divorced after they got back.

And there are many ministers in foundamental churches today who are on their second marriage.

Christians marry non-Christians or just one of the partners becomes a Christian and the other does not. While some of those marriage survives, I have seen many that do not.

I have been married for over 31 years to a wife I lead to Christ, however, there has been problems.

WATCH OUT! there are no guarantees.




---Lee1538 on 8/12/09


Miche you are in my prayers- I have heard some suggest that if a spouse commits adultery its okay to divorce but not remarry because then you would also be committing adultery as God considers marriage permanent and only allows for divorce because our hearts are desperately wicked. Others see the never remarry interpreation as harsh and outside the compassion of Christ. I am not sure and have great compassion for you.
What I can testify for sure is that Satan always attacks at the point of relationships, and I can guarantee couples that are having problems are not praying together daily. If you remarry pledge you will pray together daily.
---larry on 8/12/09


LEE:

Your fighting the converted I have no fear of divorce because the God I served before marriage was my light and life during before and after not marriage Life.

I love my husband yes but if one sad day for him he decided to commit fornication my decision would be the same advice I give to others the difference is I already regardless of marriage believe and trust God for my finances my hope my joy my Soul my husband is just a bonus to that likewise I him.

Why would I wish to look back on a man lost out on heaven because I did not commit fornication(on the contrary) I trust God he cannot. will not lie, my life and liberty is in him.

Sorry!
---Carla3939 on 8/12/09


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carla - yes it is hard to kick against the pricks. But you left us wondering if your foot is getting sore.

Some women greatly fear divorce as such would be very devastating to them if it happened to them.

And what would you do if you found yourself alone in your misery and there was an opportunity to marry someone and start of truly meaningful life?

Wager that your present theology would be tossed out the door.
---Lee1538 on 8/12/09


Okay so your husband was not saved and you say he committed adultery1 Corin 7. The bible says he can go for peace but it does not indicate you are free to remarry. It says you are to remain single or reconcile.-
Carla

You really should post all of what Paul says instead of just the part you agree with.
I can't reconcile with my ex because he has been married again after me according to the Bible.
Deut. ch 24. gives ALL the rules to divorce. The only one Jesus changed was "divorce for any reason" is NOT acceptable. It must be on the grounds of adultery or an unbeliever leaving of their own free will.
If you don't believe me check Deut. chapter 24.
---miche3754 on 8/12/09


Carla - //''It is hard to kick against the pricks''

I bet that your foot is really getting sore, o' most infallible one....

Fear not, as you grow in Christ and in the knowledge of Him, many of your old bias beliefs will fall by the wayside. At least that has been my experience as well as those that have become my mentors over the years.

Frankly, many are against re-marriage as they have a deep fear that their own marriage will fail and they will be faced with the prospect of either living alone in their misery or with the choice of a more meaningful life with a new partner.
---Lee1538 on 8/12/09


Miche, if you are seeking God's opinion rather than man's then why are you asking anybody's opinion. Read the Word for yourself. I quoted Jesus below. What else are you looking for? "Loopholes" perhaps?

You say quite plainly in your post that you are looking for a man so you don't have to "suffer" raising kids without financial support. Where is the father of the children? That is where your financial support should be coming from. Instead, you want to latch onto some guy so he can support somebody else's kids and help you support your life? Sheesh.

Life is not fair and victim mentality is not the answer. Many of us find ourselves in situations because of somebody else's actions. That's life.
---ralph7477 on 8/12/09


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1Cr 7:2
Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

1Cr 7:10
And unto the married I command, [yet] not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from [her] husband:
1Cr 7:11

But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to [her] husband: and let not the husband put away [his] wife.

1Cr 7:39
The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth, but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will, only in the Lord.

1Cr 7:40
But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.
---Carla3939 on 8/12/09


miche,

My opinion was not given in that post I excluded the Scriptures not to go over the boundaries of over stating but could not avoid providing the Proof of scriptures you call[ my opinion] a statement people make when the answer is not what you want to here. I'm not in the least bit sorry I cannot do that because I am not a man/woman pleaser.

However take self out he way of truth and it leaves the >WORD<

which you asked for!

You can always listen to those that re-write scriptures on remarriage at your own PERIL!
---Carla3939 on 8/12/09


''It is hard to kick against the pricks''

A lot of people on this site are not slayed under the conviction of the word but kick against it, it will not work there is a time where one will have to sacrifice ones life for the truth and serve underground when the man of perdition comes into play.

Who will say I am saved and therefore not accept the mark of the beast those are the real issues, will we say so what we can copromise and accept and still serve or will we have to make a decision.

It is as simple as that we have to demonstrate that we will serve no other God and follow no other way and marriage is one of them it cannot take you to heaven but serving God with no distractions from the word in whole not just in part.
---Carla3939 on 8/12/09


Carla,

It is imposible for us to reconcile. He has already married that woman and divorced her.
I committed NO SIN against this man.
He cheated on me and cut ME loose.
So, you are saying that I am the one that is suppose to suffer being alone raising kids alone with no financial help what so ever because he sinned?
You have got to be kidding me?
I have been told by many that I am allowed to remarry because of the circumstances and they are a far better judge of what the Word says. SO don't tell me I have to pay for his sin. That is false.
I know you are being nice, BUT I asked those with more knowledge of the word to get the truth of the word. That is what God says to do. Not to seek man's opinion but HIS.
---miche3754 on 8/12/09


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Christians claim that they follow Christ and his teachings. Yet so many find his words on adultery and remarriage so hard to accept.

"It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery."

So what is the confusion? And how anybody can claim that "wife" and "her" are gender neutral terms which can also mean "husband" and "him" is beyond me.
---ralph7477 on 8/11/09


Miche,

The bible gives advice for the man of god who's wife commits Fornication that he can divorce but that don't mean he is free to commit any sin against his wife.

Okay so your husband was not saved and you say he committed adultery1 Corin 7. The bible says he can go for peace but it does not indicate you are free to remarry. It says you are to remain single or reconcile.

It reinforces the fact that you are married until death but that is something only a deep relationship with Christ and when I say deep I mean Deep will you understand the benefits in relying on God.

Every other sexual desire and interruptions in your life is dealt with putting self under subjection. It is possible and you can do it.
---Carla3939 on 8/11/09


Nothing prevents ANYONE from getting remarried. Man or Woman. It's just that God has his views about WHY they are doing so.

The world was "perfect" in the beginning. With Adam and Eve's Original Sin, came "imperfect" things. Including remarriages. God understands that in this "fallen", sinful world, we can't always uphold his original plan for marriage. Just like we have trouble keeping other sins out of our lives.

As long as you discuss things with God first, you're free to remarry.
---Augie on 8/10/09


Phil,

Your first answers and explanations were past tense your last sentence was Present tense, say what you really believe not what you assume! to believe, that is what is not represented by scripture.
---Carla3939 on 8/10/09


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So, are ya'll saying since my ex-husband committed adultery on me and he also divorced me to marry that woman, not to mention he was an unbeliever, it is okay for me to remarry?

This is a subject I have struggled with as to if God will allow me to remarry. Especially since I am a single mom. I have been single for a long time, and I would like to have a husband BUT I don't want to be out of God's will. Advice would be appreciated.
---miche3754 on 8/10/09


In some of the Jewish writings we read that they believed it was better to burn in hell than to let a woman speak in the synagogue.

True that women really had their assigned place in Jewish culture.
---Lee1538 on 8/7/09


Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer was not free to marry, and anyone marrying one is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Please read Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18. Both Matthew 19:9 and 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27, 1Timothy 3:2, 12, Titus 1:6.
---Glenn on 8/7/09


I agree with Phil, and I think you are on to something. Keep researching.
---amand6348 on 8/7/09


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Carta3939, my answer only addresses the culture in Palestine at the time of Christ. Jewish women were treated as property and that is why you will never see any scripture relating to rights of women at that time in history and that was my only point of the blog response. You really need to read other things besides the Bible to understand the Bible. You need to learn what is going on at any location and time referred to in the Bible. You need to read the works of contemporary commentators of the period, history, what is going on in the area, what is the culture like of the various people in the local, what is the geography like, as well as, a good understanding of Biblical languages, then you might actually understand what you are reading.
---Phil_the_Elder on 8/7/09


Phil the elder,

You have no scriptural basis for your answer God destined marriage for a purpose not for the use of fornication or Adultery and because the men were arguing that women were coming into the marriage having slept with another man and they were unable to divorce them and also various other nonsense reasons.Jesus said Moses Gave them the bill of divorce but it was not so in the beginning with God.

A man cannot divorce his wife other than she commits fornication other wise both commit Adultery! Mat 19:9

If he is a man of God then he wouldn't have to remarry if his wife does not commit fornicatioon and he will not also. If he does he

So this argument of property etc are heresies.
---Carla3939 on 8/6/09


It has every thing to do with the status of women in the ancient world. Women were property, first of their fathers and then their husbands. If she was a widow and did not remarry she was her own person but still did not have many legal rights, the story of Ruth and Naomi is a good example.

At the time of Christ a husband could divorce a wife for any reason but a woman could never ever divorce a husband because she was just property and that continued for many centuries after Christ was born.

Modern civil law gave women rights and at is civil law that says if she can remarry or not.
---Phil_the_Elder on 8/6/09


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