Move To My Local Ghetto
My husband wants to move to the city, in the ghetto. He says we can't beat that price and he's tired of renting. I know that the bible says that we should submit to our husbands, but does that mean I don't have a say? What should I do? I don't feel comfortable living in that kind of environment.
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---Virtous_Woman on 8/11/09
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There are actually Christians that intentionally move to the worst inner city neighborhoods so that they can be "on mission" and minister to people in the "ghettos"!
There have even been articles written in Christianity Today about them. They go to an inner city church too. If we just abandon the inner city it can only get worse.
And, I live in a nice suburb in a brand new condo. They put a "low income" housing unit right next to our condo and now we have drug addicts, members of the Crips gang, and graffitti to contend with!
---obewan on 1/2/10|
The ghetto can be anywhere ,not necessarily in a bad part of town. But I do understand what you are saying. Crime,drugs,adultery, fornication and every evil flourishes in the ghetto. But it is everywhere. Just more of it, is in the ghetto. And submitting does not mean to shut up and let your husband do as he pleases,right or wrong. Speak up and let him know your feelings. That you are afraid to live in the ghetto and want to choose a better place to stay. Try to compromise as much as possible. If he does not want to meet you halfway, you may have to give in, but do let him know you will only be there for a while. Continue to look for a safer place to live. Pray a lot and ask God to work it out for you,too. God bless you.
---Robyn on 1/1/10|
explain the reasons why you feel bad in moving. if your husband loves you, he will understand you point and find a solution agreeable for both of you. I did when we moved, and now we are both extremely happy in peace (peace only rules a house when every heart is settled)
---andy3996 on 8/15/09|
SusieB: Boy, I had not thought of that song till I read your post. What a powerful song that was. Now, I will hear it for the rest of the weekend.
---Trish9863 on 8/14/09|
Why is it that everytime I look at this question I hear Elvis singing "In The Ghetto"? Anyone else have that problem? I guess Virtous Woman is not going to get back into this discussion. One person's opinion of what is a ghetto may vary deeply from another's opinion.
---SusieB on 8/14/09|
anon ... In many marriages that I see, the wife is the stonger person spiritually.
She is the one with most common sense, the one who holds the family together, the one who makes the home,
Difficult one, eh??
---alan8566_of_uk on 8/13/09|
Anon: Leslie's encouragement does not violate scripture. She did not advise the OP to defy her husband, or leave him. She advised him to share her heart with him on this matter. That is not a violation of scriptures.
---Trish9863 on 8/13/09|
Leslie, once again I see you're giving your opinion and not quoting scripture.
In Ephesians it says: 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
What is it that you don't get? When Adam & Eve sinned, God called out to Adam, "where art thou?" Yet it was Eve who bit the fruit FIRST. Because God always holds the husband responsbile. Obviously you need to go back and study your bible a little more.
Women are the weaker vessel -
Peter 3:7 - Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel
---anon on 8/13/09|
The same crimes and sin are happening in the area where you rent now as are in the ghetto. By the way, what is it that you are considering to be the ghetto?
---SusieB on 8/12/09|
ask you husband if you can consider alternatives, maybe buy a tax foreclosed house, or a tax foreclose property and a lil travel trailer and add on to the trailer as you can,if you really dont desire move, and or Just give thanks to God for being your protector,provider and move to the ghetto,trustung God will handle the details.... some of the best memories of my life occured living in a ghetto, great outreach opportunities and other things..
Fear Not the Lord loves and cares for You.
---kevin on 8/12/09|
Just because we as women must submit to our husbands, does not mean we do not have a say. Women are NOT beneath men, but equal to men in a marriage (according to how God set things up) - we are one = equality. Let your voice be heard on the issue, the worst he can say is no. Also, pray about it - see where God wants you to live. When you do, you will see His anointing and blessing for the situation.
---Leslie on 8/12/09|
Tell God exactly what you told us, "Lord I don't feel comfortable living in that environment" and God will either change your husband's heart or block him from going. Our job is to pray, God's job is to figure out the answer and how to work it into our lives.
I lived in the city in the 1960's and 1970's and I went back in 1999 and it wasn't a safe place to be. Ask your husband about how safe he thinks it is. Go to the police department to where he wants to move and ask them how many murders, robberies, etc., has been committed in the city your husband is planning on moving to.
---anon on 8/12/09|
PRAY!!!!! Ask the Lord to either change your situation, or change your heart. He can do both.
I have a friend who went to graduate school at a local Bible college, and was offered a position in the administration of the college after she graduated. It was the perfect job for her. Her husband decided to retire from his position with the county, and move the family from Pennsylvania to Florida to start a new career. She prayed and went to Florida. She now runs a Christian preschool, and during the summers, she operates a summer extension program in Asia or Europe every summer for the college she was originally offered the job with.
---Trish9863 on 8/11/09|