Trust me, there are many many people who will promise anything to get the spouse they want. After they are married, things will change.
You don't just want endorsement of your faith, since we are all called to serve, you want a ministry partner.
I have always been told by my Christian elders to ask if my ministry will be stronger or weaker by getting married. If the answer is weaker, it is a no go even if the other person is a Christian.
Of course, maybe you are not serving yet anyway. If not, someday as you mature in the faith you will be. |
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---obewan on 9/25/09 |
The bible says "be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers, what do the two have in common?" 1 Cor. 16-15. The bible clearly states that it is against the will of God to marry a person who has not accepted Jesus Christ as their Savior. If you do, you will be out of God's will and plan for your life. You will experience misery, it never fails. And be aware of your boyfriend pretending to become a Christian, this is another trick of satan. This happened to me and now I am divorced, lonely and cannot remarry because there was no adultery committed we were just unequally yoked. Please do not allow innocent kids to suffer. God has something way better in store! |
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---Marie on 9/22/09 |
Don't do it. Yo should be marrying someone of your same faith. I got married 5 years ago to a catholic woman and been married since. She's got 2 kids of her own and she wants them to grow catholic. Me on the other side have given myslef complete to Gods will and now my marriage is a mess. It will get very sticky even so you love this person. But in the end, it heads towards alot of conflict. |
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---Eric_Zuniga on 9/21/09 |
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"I don't know what your going to do especially if your emotionally involved," Carla sympathizes. I think of how ones can have a spouse die, say never again, but then they do fall in love. So . . . emotionally . . . it can "happen" more than once (o: I have fallen for one, two, three, four . . . . And I'm getting the drift I need to be deeper, in God's love, see what happens in God's peace ruling me. And enjoy loving all the different ladies who are dear to Jesus as His bride. Not to put all my emotional eggs into one basket? Unsaved women around my age (I'm 62, now) have charmed me crazy enough . . . but it's not Jesus' beautifully wonderful love. Emotions do not need you to really get to know someone. |
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---Bill_bila5659 on 9/20/09 |
I'm married to a guy right now who believes in God, but isn't sure if he should be worshipping Jesus.
This makes it difficult for us to be spiritually together sometimes. I know that supposedly we worship the same God, but it just doesn't feel that way sometimes.
He asked Jesus in his heart years ago, but now he is so unsure and he keeps flip-flopping. |
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---amand6348 on 9/19/09 |
I am a Christian married to a non-christian.I was in a backslidden state when I married my husband. I came back to Christ and repented of my sins and he did not.This happened about 18 after we were married. So to speak. He did eventually say the Sinners Prayer but that was it. He does not attend church or even try to grow in Christ. He is not a bad husband but he certainly gets ticked off if I try to bring up anything spiritual to him. He says he prays in the morning. He prays over meals and that's about it.
I hate to say this but he calls me names and speaks against Christians,preachers and anyone connected to Christ.Are you willing to live with this? Please consider what is being said to you now before it is too late,beloved. God bless you. |
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---Robyn on 9/19/09 |
It's one of the worse things you could do, you are not compatible and it's a mugs game to marry just to find out, he can leave you but you will have to remain unmarried, 1Corinthians 7 It's just not worth the heart ache and pain.
You should have known this incompatibility before you dated him, if you both were unsaved and you got saved when you were engaged to be married then you have work it out scripturally you never imagine whats to come and if you could you wouldn't marry.
The union is no go. I don't know what your going to do especially if your emotionally involved.You either believe or you don't but make sure you know for sure more often than not it's going to bring instability and heartache and apostacy! |
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---Carla3939 on 9/19/09 |
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I just talked to a young lady today at the fair who has just gotten a divorce over this very thing. In the beginning all was fine they were to raise any children as Christians. With the birth of the first child things began to change and she had no choice but to terminate the marriage. Avoid heartache do not be(unequally YOKED together) |
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---mima on 9/18/09 |
Caryn...Are you just asking this question to stir up strife? Would you seriously consider marrying a man who does not believe that Jesus died for him? How can you say that he is wholly supportive of your faith when he does not believe it? What do you think will happen after the children are born when he wants to teach them what he believes (or doesn't believe)? Any little flaw that you see in him now will become HUGE after the wedding. If you think he will not complain about your going to church after the wedding, you are wrong. |
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---SusieB on 9/18/09 |
Beloved,
God has given everyone a free will. We do not have to believe in or receive salvation or any parts of Christianity. That is your choice. You can proceed to do whatever you would like to do with your life. But do be prepared to deal with the consequences of disobeying God and depending on your own understanding and will. This unchristian man wil prove to be a bone in your side and definitely a stumbling block to you and your faith in God. This man does not even love your Savior,Jesus Christ nor the Father! How can you claim to be a Christian and tolerate that!
I question your motives--highly! He is clear on where he stands. He hates Jesus and you are going along with it. |
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---Robyn on 9/18/09 |
Caryn, No one here should condemn you, but, we certainly should warn you of the implications, since Scripture is so specific about believers not being unequally yoked (2 Corithians6:14-17). This passage says we shouldn't even have "fellowship" with unbelievers, since we have no common ground. As has already been said, "to marry an unbeliever is to spit in the face of God." Don't think that you will be able to "convert" this person through marriage as this will "likely" not be the case. You are only asking for trouble if you go through with this. |
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---tommy3007 on 9/18/09 |
Caryn, you can be sure that on this venue most people will condemn you for even thinking about marrying a nonchristian. |
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---mugwump on 9/18/09 |
No, I haven't married a non-Christian. And to marry a person who is not interested in first being pleasing to God . . . would be to spit in God's face. Why would I marry her who is so intelligent and sweet and nice, but not interested in first being pleasing to God? I guess I would be interested in how I can use her for pleasure. And the feelings can be so convincing. But the fifty-percent plus divorce rate in America shows me how "love" feelings can be a pathological lie > "even" Christians are fooled into marring ones they don't belong with. But Jesus' *sheep* hear His voice > John 10:1-30 > so why marry someone if Jesus' voice is not guiding you to? Jesus can be trusted. |
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---Bill_bila5659 on 9/18/09 |
Why are you marrying a non-Christian despite the clear precepts of the Bible against marrying one? |
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---Cluny on 9/18/09 |
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