Will God Restore My Marriage
My husband and I divorced 4 years ago, after 6 years of marriage and 2 beautiful children. We both remarried, I had a baby, his wife is expecting a baby. I am separated and waiting for divorce, this 2nd marriage was never meant to be. Can I ask God to restore my first marriage?
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---Susan on 9/28/09
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What you are saying is sick! Your only concern is YOU. Pride is the highest form of Evil. You don't even care that there is a child in your husband new family. You dare ask God to destroy a family for YOUR PRIDE! I suspect that you used/destroid the second man and married him as a reaction to your 1st husband. You say:"this 2nd marriage wasn't meant to be". I beleive we can see how the 1st husband left you (all about me attitude/the heck with everyone else). He is happy with his new wife and family. This hurts your pride and you want God to destory their family SICK! YOU NEED TO GO ON YOUR KNEES AND PRAY FOR FORGIVENESS. As posted earlier this is an abomination! You have already destroyed people's lives for your own pride. REPENT! |
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---PastorJim on 11/11/09 |
You can ask God anything you want to ask him, but God's answer is, "Get saved, and stop mocking holy matrimony." |
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---Eloy on 11/12/09 |
Are you wanting God to destroy the first husband's current marriage just so you have what you want. Something is wrong with this big picture.
Have you even stopped and prayed and sought God in all of this. |
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---jodollie on 11/11/09 |
Yes you can ask God to restore your first marriage. Ask God to speak toyou in someway of this assurance. I believe God will do it if your willing to wait for him. God is all powerful and wants marriages together...You are meant to be with your first husband. |
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---Karen on 11/10/09 |
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No, you can't return to your first marriage, it is an abomination (Deut 24:4) |
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---metuschelah on 10/23/09 |
Well this is a tricky one
i guess you wish your first marriage was not over....but the truth is, he has moved on with his life... if he is married now, then leave him alone
now are you saying this second "husband" has a wife already? if not, don't you think that you should allow God to make things work out if possible?
You will not want to leave this marriage also and start wishing you hadn't and looking for its restoration?
I'm just thinking aloud really.... it does not mean you should do what i have said
You could go to God in all sincerity and ask Him to fix you and all the confusion you are in...He can, yes He can. If only you'll wait for Him? |
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---patie3447 on 10/3/09 |
No! Don't turn your mistakes into a mess that involves heartbreak for the other adults and undeserved confusion for the innocent children. Pray for reconciliation in your second marriage or help to be a single parent. |
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---Donna66 on 10/2/09 |
Susan I hate to say this but you are a world class nut case. You do not need to be married to anyone. Please do not mess up anyone elses's life with your idea of reality. |
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---Robyn on 10/2/09 |
your marriage to your first husband may be over according to the world but in the site of God it isnt. both of you are alive! there is no biblical way to end a marriage except death.read mark and luke.jesus said it was not that way in the beginning . many use sexual unfaithfulness as stated in matthew.read it.its not an exception to end a marriage.it ended an engagement! which took a year.if a mans wife was unfaithful she was stoned to death. civil courts cant dissolve what God has joined together.so God can restore what the locust have eaten.consequences to your actions have interuppted Gods will.you may have to remain single, wait till death or decide to live in a relationship God calls adultry.who do we serve? there lies your answer |
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---pat on 9/30/09 |
First of all, you should have never left your husband in the first place (whatever the reason)
Secondly, You had No grounds to get remarried with the second man (*note that i'm not saying husband)
Thirdly, if you did get divorce, God's word says that you should have remained alone (like a virgin)
Lastly, NO you CAN NOT get back to your first husband (Deut 24:4)"Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled, for that [is] ABOMINATION before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee [for] an inheritance". |
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---metuschelah on 9/29/09 |
You need to chill on the marriage thing and seek the Lord. Before your next date first get your 40 days in the desert to seek his face and get your act together.
Don't do anyting relationship wise without prayer AND an answer from either his small still voice or scripture.
Its you not the Lord that keeps telling you to jump from relationship to relationship looking for something no spouse can provide without God's undergirding.
You're spazzing out. |
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---larry on 9/28/09 |
Yeesh, what a mess. Forget about getting married, it obviously isn't your thing.
Your time should be spent figuring out how to best create a stable environment for the children that have come out of this mish mosh. |
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---ralph7477 on 9/28/09 |
As well as all that the others have said, ....
If she asks God to restore her first marriage, she will be asking God to destroy her ex-husband's new marriage.
can that be right? |
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---alan8566_of_uk on 9/28/09 |
Cluny: Boy, you are argumentative? I was not saying she could not remarry her ex. I was saying that the only scriptures I know of that address the issue are in the Old Testament.
There is advice based on what I think, and then there is advice based on what scriptures say. In that the only scriptures addressing this question are OT, I referred to them.
As for the question, it sounds like she needs to work on herself before she worries about remarrying anyone, especially since her ex is currently married to begin with. |
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---Trish9863 on 9/28/09 |
"This 2nd marriage was never meant to be." Ouch, I am sorry to hear of your trials. I am also sorry if I don't come across sympathetic in the following, I feel a bit like a doctor, he operates, others are sympathetic, although, hopefully I am working on it. However,do you want help/advice or sympathy?
Some thoughts I have are, "Two wrongs don't make a right." "What is Christ up to today in your life?" "What should you be learning from Christ through this now?"
Your ex is remarried, how does wanting him and her to divorce help/love her?
Sounds like there is a lot of forgiveness that needs to happen. Rather than trying to "fix the past," I'd work with Christ on fixing the present. |
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---Rod4Him on 9/28/09 |
|| Not if you follow what it says in the Old Testament about remarrying after divorce. ||
Do you follow what God says in the OT about dietary restrictions, choices of fabric, or keeping separated from others during your period?
Or do you just pick and choose what OT demands you follow? |
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---Cluny on 9/28/09 |
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Yes, you can ask, but. Your own ways have brought you to where you are. These need to go, before you go any further. You need to get with God, instead. And after bye-bye ways, also bye-bye what you have been wanting, as a person who could do all this to yourself, fooling your own self into marrying one or one*s* you did not belong with, and not knowing how to love so you could choose the right one and know together what you are doing. So, you need to get with God and how He has you being and doing things, then see what He has you doing.
Technically . . . no . . . Deuteronomy 24:1-4. But. Find out with God (o: |
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---Bill_bila5659 on 9/28/09 |
Not if you follow what it says in the Old Testament about remarrying after divorce.
It sounds like you might need to seek counseling or therapy to find out what part of your failed marriages you are responsible for.
I am divorced, and my ex remarried. I have not had a serious relationship since my divorce in 2001, because I believe God has to do some work on me, and I decided I was not going to jump into anything till God was finished with me. |
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---Trish9863 on 9/28/09 |
You certainly can.
Now, unlike some people who post here, I don't pretend to know what God's will for you and your first husband are. You're just as capable of hearing from Him for yourself as anyone else is of telling you.
All you can do is pray and ask Him.
Just one question--what will you do if His answer is not what you wanted to hear? |
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---Cluny on 9/28/09 |
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