Husband Texting Other Women
As Christians, what do you consider being unfaithful to one's spouse? I ask because my husband has been calling, texting and emailing other women, he says they are just friends from school. I asked him to stop, that it made me uncomfortable. Advice would be great, this is really testing my trust in him.
Moderator - Of course he needs to stop, especially since you have told him you are uncomfortable with it.
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---Ashlyn on 11/3/09
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Your husband needs to take this to the Lord in prayer. It is not honoring either you as his wife nor his marriage vows. val |
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---Valerie on 11/10/09 |
if he doesn't stop eventually MORE time will be devoted to his new practice ...his new life which is away from you his wife ...if left unchecked if he hasn't already physically strayed he eventually will
physically he is married to you on paper by ACTIONS he behaves as if married to others because he is telling you by ACTIONS these women are valuable to him
marriage requires WORK and communication and TIME ...he is living as if he were still single - it is selfish and void of the life he VOWED to create with you
many women suffer a life of apart from their spouse - living in a prison - becoming nothing more than a trinket their husbands occasionally call on when they have time left over from their other women they entertain |
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---Rhonda on 11/7/09 |
Jesus showed us the ultimate act of love - sacrifice of his life on the cross for you and I. If your husband loves you, he would not do anything that hurts you or make you feel uncomfortable. Texting and talking to other women in itself is not sin, but since it makes you uncomfortable and you have asked him to stop, he has to. A christian is free to eat and drink anything according to Paul, but if eating or drinking or whatever causes your brother to stumble,you make yourself guilty before God. On a personal note, I think it is unwise and unprudent for a married man to this. It is conciously walking into temptation and praying "Lord deliver me from temptation" |
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---peter6695 on 11/4/09 |
Thank you for your responses. I was concerned that I was overreacting by being upset with this. I am okay with him having female friends, but not if he is investing time with them to the detriment of our marriage. I believe when men and women who are married (to other people) start spending time together, in any form, venture onto dangerous ground and open themselves up to all kinds of problems. This type of behavior places doubt, and now I am not sure how to let go of that feeling. |
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---Ashlyn on 11/4/09 |
\\ He was hiding the extent to which he was texting, calling and emailing these women.\\
Et reliqua.
OK, Ashlyn. You've given us more to go on, and yes, this is a bad sign.
Still remember--he married YOU, not them. |
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---Cluny on 11/3/09 |
This is a dangerous sign!
When a spouse confides in other people over their spouse. It is a breakdown in the marriage. Your need to think logically and not make up excuses for his behavior or blame yourself for it. Women tend to do this. But its really looks like you are handling it straight forward. Don't fall for the lullabies either. You want the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. It could be you, it could be him, or both of your faults. I do not know your situation. I would speak to a trusted and comfortable friend who would give you the straight story without PC on your relationship. You should not be in denial or defensive but listen with an open mind if it is good advice.
God Bless! |
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---Pastor_Jim on 11/3/09 |
He was hiding the extent to which he was texting, calling and emailing these women. They were not old friends, but new people he met. If it would have been occasional, fine, but it was not. I was confronted by a mutual friend warning me about his behavior. After I spoke with him about it, and asked him to stop, I found a call to a particular woman who used to live in our complex and called and at all hours of the day. |
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---Ashlyn on 11/3/09 |
1. Who did he marry--the other women or you?
2. Did he try to hide the fact that he was contacting his friends, or did he tell you flat out?
3. Why don't you trust your husband? What if the situation was reversed and you were contacting old friends who happened to be male, and your husband objected? Would you stop, or would you complain that your husband was trying to control you?
4. Read question #1 again. |
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---Cluny on 11/3/09 |
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