Wisdom speaks for the benefit of all who will hear.
Linda, Bill, bless you both. Michelle, did you hear?
This is profound: "Sometimes simply intending to forgive, regardless of your feeling, is a starter" and a good one, that will always serve the greater end. |
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---josef on 11/9/09 |
Adultery is never a "big mistake" as you told us your husband said. It is ALWAYS a sin. However, if you want the Lord to forgive you you must forgive everyone who has offended you, including your lying, cheating, adultering, mean husband. Sorry! I just couldn't leave out those adjectives. |
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---KarenD on 11/6/09 |
If he volunteered this to you and is a Christian . . . I'd say see if and how much he's ready to talk with you about this. He might have come to you, knowing how you would be hurt and upset but interested in talking with you about this.
But there are men who "confess" because they want out. And others don't tell their wives, but are exposed and then are so sorry . . . sorry they got caught.
I'd say never mind about if you're going to "trust" him > if you're living in the same locked house, you *are* trusting him. Pray and give him the chances of trust that give him opportunity to do better, I would say. You can't control him, anyway. You *can* help him . . . as his helpmate. God bless you to |
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---Bill_bila5659 on 11/6/09 |
Ask all of the questions that you need to ask before you can put this behind you. Cheating doesn't just "happen." Both of you need to see a counselor and work on ways to prevent this from happening again. You can't just "gloss" over your feelings. Feel what you need to feel, and forgive when you are ready to. And let him KNOW your feelings. Don't let him off the hook so easily. |
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---amand6348 on 11/6/09 |
It is not so much about getting the info out of your head. It is about your reactions to the info. It is one thing to forgive, it is another to trust. Think about it like this: does Jesus have to die again for him to be forgiven? Are you going to react to the information or respond to the Spirit of God within you? The plucking of Jesus' beard and the smiting of His face was for redemption from every social injustice done to (and by) you. You can rest in His cheeks (which are a bed of spices) and release the forgiveness you yourself have received of the Lord or you can hold on and become bitter. Only one of these is the fellowship of His sufferings. |
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---Linda on 11/5/09 |
forgive if Jesus forgave us. |
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---dsda on 11/5/09 |
As with any forgiveness, do the best you can.
Sometimes simply intending to forgive, regardless of your feeling, is a starter. |
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---Cluny on 11/5/09 |
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