Dominique, So sorry for your loss. I have lost wife sister, mom, and dad in a three year span. The reason I answered was to suggest that everyone grives different. My case: I use to go every day after work to the cementary to visit my wife, I missed her everyday so I went everyday just to be there. One day I went and when I approach the grave, I saw a lady laying face down on the grass. I walked slowly and saw she was crying. She was surprise when she saw me and felt ashame. She ask me if it was wrong for her to lay down with her daughter who had died at the age of 16 in a car accident a few months before, and I told her that everyone grieves different. That only time would heal us. I kept going for almost two years. She one day stopped going.
---MarkV. on 11/30/09|
Don't try to let go. You will need to grieve.
---alan8566_of_uk on 11/22/09
Alan, what wonderful, excellent advice.
Jody, you cannot let go in a week, or a month or even longer. Time will heal. Our prayers are with you.
---NurseRobert on 11/25/09|
It is true that "letting go" is a process that takes time. I am sorry for your loss. The Lord knows that this is a very difficult time for you and will comfort you. I agree with Alan of UK that you dont need to try to let go. It will happen as part of the grieving process. Many blessings to you. Jody
---jody on 11/24/09|
It will take time. Cry, write, sing, etc.
---amand6348 on 11/24/09|
Dominique, you won't be able to let go until you go through a very long grieving process. Crying is a release of your emotions. Hanging out with friends who will let you talk about what happened and tell stories about your boyfriend will help tremendously.
I have a friend who lost her fiancee two weeks before their wedding was to take place. That was 2 years and 3 months ago and she is still so deeply grieved and cries all the time.
Someday you will weep no more. Thou will turn your mourning into dancing. Hang on God's word. He heals the Brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Weeping may endure for a night, but Joy comes in the morning. I am praying for you (((((big hug))))).
---Donna on 11/23/09|
Hi, Dominique . . . we are so sorry this happened to you. We love you and are praying for you, and we hope and pray God will give you people who can share with you and help you with this. There are people who have been through what you are going through, and they can tell you what helped them and comfort you. And others you know may need you to help them. I'd say not to try to make it go or stay, but maybe most important for our attention is praying and caring for others and for yourself. "For I am hard-pressed between the two, having a desire to depart and be with Christ, which is far better. Nevertheless to remain in the flesh is more needful for you." (Philippians 1:23-24) There are people who need us, here.
---Bill_bila5659 on 11/22/09|
You let go by doing all that Alan suggested, and trusting God for this matter. Grieving does not happen overnight. It takes a lot of time, a lot of tears and a lot of emotion. Grieving includes anger, confusion, sadness, frustration, and lots of questioning. Take all of these things to the Lord on a daily basis, and trust that the Lord is in control when everything else seems out of control.
God loves you no matter what. He loves your boyfriend.
Read and meditate on Psalm 139. Really take one verse out of there and spend time thinking about it, even if it takes a week for each verse. Allow the Lord to use that Psalm to help you understand God's plan for your life and your boyfriend's life while he was here with us.
---Trish9863 on 11/22/09|
Excellent advice from Alan, and I am so sorry honey :(
---Mary on 11/22/09|
Read Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
---Gabby on 11/22/09|
I'm so sorry for your loss Dominique. I pray, in this time of dire need, you'll draw very close & hold tight to God's hand. Trust, have faith in God & He will ultimately lead you thru this extremely difficult time. He will enable you to let go (give you peace, closure & the strength to go on). Trust in the Lord with all your heart... Proverbs. 3:5-6
---Leon on 11/22/09|
Did you actually expect to be able to "let go" in just a week?
That's unreasonable. Love just doesn't turn off with a switch.
Give yourself time to grieve.
---Cluny on 11/22/09|
Don't try to let go. You will need to grieve.
You may feel angry with him ... that's OK
You may feel angry with God ... that's ok
You may feel angry with yourself for not being there ... that's OK
You may feel angry with those who allowed to make that car journey ... that's OK
Remember all the good things about him and all the good times you had together.
---alan8566_of_uk on 11/22/09|
"My boyfriend just died on Sunday nov 15 2009 from a car accident. How do I let go?"
Dominique you will "let go" by accepting that fact that you must. He can never return to you, and you can not bring him back. However you can cherish your memories of Him and give thanks to the Father for allowing your time together.
---Josef on 11/22/09|