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Boyfriend Visits Fake Girl

I did something entirely wrong to my boyfriend, but the results still scare me. I made a fake online profile of a girl I knew he would be attracted to, and he responded by trying to meet up with her. I was wrong, how can I be mad at him?

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Let no one say when he is tempted, "I am being tempted by God",
--Jed 10/9/11
Is it blasphemy to say that God created men and women, including their minds and desires that may work for good or for sin? Is it blasphemy to say the God created the Earth and everything in it, including the things that our desires then want and lust after? The food I need for life also can become the temptation for gluttony. He created a world to give us choice and to test us, similar to what Sandra did with the fake girl. Just look at an infant in the "terrible twos" and you can see the devilish nature we were born with.
---Rocky on 10/10/11


However, that is very different from what Rocky posted, that God himself is purposefully decieving us by creating us a world of deception and temptation.
---Jed on 10/10/11
But he did create a world full of temptation with a plan to test us. He created us with all our desires and he created the world with all its temptations. How can you say otherwise?
---Rocky on 10/10/11


anger? oh my gosh please oh please do not ASSIGN feelings to 125 word post you look FOOLISH!!!
--Rhonda 10/8/11
she is the one who needs therapy!!
this wicked girl
her deception
her lies
her trap to essentially SET HIM UP to fall
a wicked girl is always scheming
I'm sure he dumped her and she is setting traps for her next victim
--Rhonda 9/29
Your repeated attacks, especially the personal ones, on 9/29, prove your anger.
---Rocky on 10/10/11


It's also curious that two of the ad links that appear at the top of this blog are "Make Him Addicted To You" and "Is He Cheating On You?"
---StrongAxe on 10/10/11


StrongAxe, I agree with your post. However, that is very different from what Rocky posted, that God himself is purposefully decieving us by creating us a world of deception and temptation.
---Jed on 10/10/11




Jed:

While that is certainly true, God does apparently give Satan free reign to subject us to deceptions and other torments to test us. The book of Job is a perfect example of this. So even though God isn't doing it, it is done with his implicit concent.
---StrongAxe on 10/10/11


"Our whole world is a deception created by God to test us - a world full of temptations of many kinds - that appear real and desirable but in reality mean nothing and only deceive us."
---Rocky on 10/9/11

Rocky, God does not lie, deceive, or tempt anyone. That is Satan's business, not God's. This is blasphemous to say the least.

Let no one say when he is tempted, "I am being tempted by God", for God cannot be tempted by evil, and He Himself does not tempt anyone. -James 1:13
---Jed on 10/9/11


anybody male or female who must create lies and deception to "insure" someone is trustworthy is mentally unstable and certainly not trustworthy themselves
---Rhonda on 10/8/11
Our whole world is a deception created by God to test us - a world full of temptations of many kinds - that appear real and desirable but in reality mean nothing and only deceive us.
---Rocky on 10/9/11


Bill_willa6989:

It shouldn't matter if she had the attractiveness of Helen of Troy. If he was already in a relationship with somebody else, he should not be trying to make arrangements to hook up with somebody else. And if he is the type of person who is likely to stray in that area, he should stay away from web sites where that kind of temptation is available.


Rhonda:

Which is worse? Using deception to try to discover the truth, or being unfaithful?
---StrongAxe on 10/7/11


Why do you have so much anger towards Sandra? She was concerned, perhaps a little fearful, and wanted to ensure the man would be true to her
******

anger? oh my gosh please oh please do not ASSIGN feelings to 125 word post you look FOOLISH!!!

it is impossible to placate everyone on this blog when so many are DROWNING in emotions of life and their sick syrupy counterfeit "love"

LOVE is NEVER about deception

maybe YOU should look up deception FIRST because to DECEIVE someone is very wicked

anybody male or female who must create lies and deception to "insure" someone is trustworthy is mentally unstable and certainly not trustworthy themselves
---Rhonda on 10/8/11




There are no guarantees in life, Mr Rocky. I still say what she did was stupid. And when he responded she lost all of the air in her balloon. She could not follow through. That is a silly game. Very insecure on her part,whether you see it or not Rocky. Life is too short for this type of waste in relationships. Use the time she spent on the profile, letting him know how much and what he means to her.
This woman is not only childish and immature but arrogant on top of all that! How can she be mad at the man? What gaul! Both of you need to be in the same pot together.....stewing.
---Robyn on 10/8/11


These type games are childish and plain stupid. You deserve to stew in your own stupidity.
---Robyn on 10/7/11
What she did was neither a game, childish, nor stupid. She was facing one of the most important choices a person makes in their entire life and was perhaps a little fearful, with good reason as it turned out. She chose a course of action to ensure she would not make a mistake that could literally ruin her entire life. Apparently it was very wise that she did. I suggest again that you look inside yourself and find where your anger comes from, because it is badly distorting your judgment.
---Rocky on 10/7/11


But she herself prepared the "fake girl" profile. So, she was the one relating with him through that profile. He was in fact attracted to her, possibly, deeply, and not really to anyone else (c: That deep attraction could have been there for him, deeper than he could understand. Maybe (c:

If he wasn't attracted to her in her disguise, that could be a problem . . . if only her outward show was able to reach him.
---Bill_willa6989 on 10/7/11


This should teach you a very strong lesson. Stop playing games with other people! Especially their emotions. If you are that insecure, perhaps, should not be in a relationship, with anyone. These type games are childish and plain stupid. You deserve to stew in your own stupidity.
---Robyn on 10/7/11


except she is the one who needs therapy!!
this wicked girl should not mean anything to this man
her deception
her lies
---Rhonda on 9/29/11
Why do you have so much anger towards Sandra? She was concerned, perhaps a little fearful, and wanted to ensure the man would be true to her. She didn't want to enter into a holy marriage with someone who wouldn't honor her and respect the vows. She did nothing wrong, let alone "wicked". Our whole world is a deception created by God - a world full of temptations of many kinds - that appear real and desirable but in reality mean nothing and only deceive us. Look to your own anger and search your own heart.
---Rocky on 10/7/11


Rhonda:

Remember, this girl was not unfaithful to her boyfriend, but he was unfaithful to her. She merely suspected that he might be, so she set a trap to catch him red-handed.

God did a similar thing with David by having the prophet Nathan tell him a story, disguising David's part in it, so that David would condemn himself (2 Samuel 12:1-13).

Jesus also similarly often set traps for the Pharisees by asking them questions to which he had no need of an answer (so he had no need to ask them), but by which their own answers would condemn themselves.
---StrongAxe on 10/5/11


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I don't think it's a sin to test someone's love for you, but it is a sin when that person goes for the bait.
---Donna on 12/4/09
I agree. The only qualifier I would add is that this applies during the relationship phase when people are learning about one another, which appears to apply in this case. One should be confident in their trust of a prospective partner before accepting an offer of marriage, and then not question it afterwards, unless provided with extremely strong, reliable evidence to the contrary. .
---Rocky on 10/4/11


Resurrected Jesus revealed himself to women first.
---StrongAxe on 9/27/11

First let me say I love women. All U posted, all that are women. Not women who are men or men who are women.

GOD loves women. GOD called Israel his wife. And referred to her in that category...order. He was the head....she was the body.

Beautiful arrangement. Proper.
Same order followed in New Covenant. Christ is bridegroom "All" Israel is the wife.....again. "New Covenant". Heb 8:8/Jer31:31 supported per thousands of supporting scriptures.
Break order, it's your's to do or learn about.
I'll attempt to honor order. And be uncomfortable when it's not.
---Trav on 9/29/11


Make a date with him. Tell him you will be the pretty girl with the costume mask on....
It will be good therapy for him.
You may find there are many more waiting in the wings and you don't mean that much to him.
****

except she is the one who needs therapy!!

this wicked girl should not mean anything to this man

her deception

her lies

her trap to essentially SET HIM UP to fall ...TRUE Believers do not set others up with temptations - that does not demonstrate LOVE that so many profess without understanding!

a wicked girl is always scheming

I'm sure he dumped her and she is setting traps for her next victim
---Rhonda on 9/29/11


I'm sure you're the TRAVESTY in yours.
---Cluny on 9/27/11

To be sure. Flattering.
Matthew 15:27
And she said, Truth, Lord: yet the dogs eat of the crumbs which fall from their masters' table.

Tastes like a dissing revilation....ha.

If this be your heart.... _____?
Blessings upon u anyway. Of discernment.

P.S. Amazing sometimes isn't it, a name chosen. From a google: meaning of Cluny is Deceitful flattering rogue. Meaning of the name can play a big role in your baby's personality,...
---Trav on 9/29/11


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//A "revilation" [sic] reveals much more about the reviler than about the revilee.//

use of 'revilation' could be revelation to both. if it causes to dig deeper and not try to make a deeper dig.

//However, ANYONE reviling ANYONE diminishes these blogs//

CNet will be fine. the more controversy...the more foot traffic, the more potential revenue.

//I'm sure you're the TRAVESTY in yours...See how it sounds?//

pretty clever, funny (if used in context)...could use it to make a point as aptly you did, for irony...

somebody put an "s" on my aka, to imply that i was an "akas". pretty funny, reviling, and revealing.
---aka on 9/28/11


aka:

It isn't that I especially take offense when people here revile me in particular (I tend to have a fairly thick skin). A "revilation" [sic] reveals much more about the reviler than about the revilee.

However, ANYONE reviling ANYONE diminishes these blogs in general, and the reviler in particular, and neither is a good thing.
---StrongAxe on 9/28/11


\\Well, are you the AxeHead in your family? You want to be?\\

I'm sure you're the TRAVESTY in yours.

See how it sounds?

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 9/27/11


Make a date with him. Tell him you will be the pretty girl with the costume mask on at a special place.
Get him to come up to you and call you the made up name. Take the mask off and pick him off of the floor.
It will be good therapy for him.
You may find there are many more waiting in the wings and you don't mean that much to him.
---Elder on 9/28/11


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i used to take offense to trav's tritts but then, i took a step forward, got under myself, and started seeing them for what they weren't. they were not an attack on me...they were words to make me think. hurtful or no.
---aka on 9/27/11

Aka, love ya man....

GOD put a man in front of me, that provoked me. Provoked to look at, my Bible that hadn't looked at in 25 years.
Setting out to prove my provoker wrong, scriptural witnesses testified his. GOD Bless Mr.Green.
GOD knew I had the same kinda personality. Sandpaper and Pine Cones. Provoke em to their own study blessings.

Or out them for what and who they are.
Yeah,being human have my own struggles with Trav. But,not with Christ, Prophets, Apostles.
---Trav on 9/28/11


Why do you so frequently use mocking names (like "AxeHead")?
---StrongAxe on 9/26/11

i used to take offense to trav's tritts but then, i took a step forward, got under myself, and started seeing them for what they weren't. they were not an attack on me...they were words to make me think. hurtful or no.

continue fowl crying and have your momma kiss your boohoos. or man down and read it for what it's not worth.
---aka on 9/27/11


Trav:

You said: Almost sorry about the name thing.

Almost sorry is like almost pregnant, i.e. NOT.

Just couldn't help it. It just jumped on the keyboard.

If you are not in control of what you type, you should re-examine the sources of your inspiration.

I feel more comfortable with a male pilot...and a female stewardess

Tastes is no basis for doctrine.

Tomorrow, you can torture me as soon as you and your type pass a law.

Who are "my type" and why pass such a law? You may like torture. I don't.

all male.

Judges (Deborah), church leaders (Priscilla), prophetesses (Miriam, Anna, etc.). Resurrected Jesus revealed himself to women first.
---StrongAxe on 9/27/11


Trav:

Why do you so frequently use mocking names (like "AxeHead")?
---StrongAxe on 9/26/11

Almost sorry about the name thing. Was an analogy. Just couldn't help it. It just jumped on the keyboard.
Axe, women can be pilots. GOD could have made women first, then men. It just an order. I feel more comfortable with a male pilot...and a female stewardess. Comfortable. It's still OK today for me to have a preference. Tomorrow, you can torture me as soon as you and your type pass a law.

There were Twelve Apostles, all male. Prophets major/minor....male. It is the order you don't understand. You're not an AxeHead if you're not leading, your the handle.
---Trav on 9/27/11


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Trav:

Why do you so frequently use mocking names (like "AxeHead")? We show you respect by calling you by the name you choose. Why are you incapable of showing the same respect to others?

This has nothing to do with "head of a family" but about occupational gender stereotypes. Nothing "in our genes" trains pilots to be men only, or flight attendants to be women only. In fact nothing in our genes teaches us to fly at all.

As far as "being learned", that is exactly it - children learn bad stereotypes from parents who believe in bad stereotypes. This does not justify the stereotypes themselves. Or can you come up with some biblical justification for male pilots vs. female stewardesses?
---StrongAxe on 9/26/11


Trav:

The fact that we once pigeonholed occupations by gender does not mean that's the way they should always be.
Is there anything intrinsically masculine in flying a plane?
How about other kinds of service, like washing other people's feet (John 13)?

If so, how do you "know" this?
---StrongAxe on 9/24/11

Well, are you the AxeHead in your family? You want to be?

Most of this is a secret....passed on genetically in most cases, but can be learned.

Examples:Isaiah 3:12
As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths.

Washing feet? Ur out of context.
---Trav on 9/25/11


Men are stewardesses,nurses and women are Pilots?

--Trav on 9/23/11

And there is something wrong with this?

If you knew anything about the history of nurses you would know it was a male profession LONG before it was a female one.

But then, you not knowing has never stopped you before..
---NurseRobert on 9/24/11


How true! What amazes me is that having found out what a creep he is, you still are struggling with whether or not to stay with him!
*****


hmmm well in this situation it takes one to know one ...she would ALSO be a "creep" for her web of lies and deceit aside from maliciously TEMPTING someone ...truly a bit vicious I would say when you pander to someone else's temptations

seems many overlook Sandra had to LIE to "get" her answer ...but did her "boyfriend" really do wrong? ...seeing he never met the made-up girl lol
---Rhonda on 9/24/11


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Trav:

Men aren't stewardesses, both men and women are flight attendants. Men aren't waitresses, both men and women are servers. The fact that we once pigeonholed occupations by gender does not mean that's the way they should always be.

Is there anything intrinsically masculine in flying a plane? How about driving a car, or riding a bicycle?

Is there anything intrinsically feminine in serving food on a plane? How about in a restaurant? How about cooking? How about other kinds of service, like washing other people's feet (John 13)?

If so, how do you "know" this?
---StrongAxe on 9/24/11


computer communication and telephone communication can be misused by people impersonating and pretending to be someone they are not. That is why if you don't know the person, don't trust the person. I find that even when I trust some people face-to-face that are nonChristians, I get hurt and damaged very greatly.
---Eloy on 9/24/11


Trav, haha. I was wondering when someone was going to notice that.
---Jed on 9/21/11


I bet they both like Pina Colada's and dancing in the rain. Don't you?

Man, it's a mixed up muddled up world nowaday's. Men are women...women are men. Men are stewardesses,nurses and women are Pilots?

Anything is possible, and everything is promoted as acceptable.

Think I'll go fishing. Fish are always fish.
---Trav on 9/23/11


Those who lead good people along an evil path will fall into their own trap, but the honest will inherit good things. -Proverbs 28:10
---Jed on 9/23/11


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Strongaxe said: "You should never ask a question unless you are prepared for any answer you might get. But sometimes it IS better to ask, even if the answer will not be pleasant."

How true! What amazes me is that having found out what a creep he is, you still are struggling with whether or not to stay with him!

Be thankful you found out now, move on and trust the Lord for someone who will be faithful to you.
---Bruce5656 on 9/23/11


I recently read a similar story someone had cut and pasted from Facebook. A woman said hello to a man, and he said he liked her and they flirted for a while. He said he would like to meet her, and that he had a loser of a girlfriend, and their relationship was almost over anyway.

After several exchanges, and an arrangement to meet, the woman revealed that she was, in fact, his girlfriend, and because he treated her and thie relationship with such contempt, and his willingness to be unfaithful to her, she dumped him then and there, and never wanted to see him again.

You should never ask a question unless you are prepared for any answer you might get. But sometimes it IS better to ask, even if the answer will not be pleasant.
---StrongAxe on 9/23/11


Sandra, I suggest that you take my advice, and learn from this lesson not to ever lead people astray again, and salvage your relationship.
---Eloy on 9/22/11


Eloy,
"bruce, Hmmmmm, have not I asked you politely to not address me until"

Not only will I address you, I will do you the courtesy of using a capital for your first name.

Eloy, I pray that someday your way out of the dark, bitter place you are in.
---Bruce5656 on 9/22/11


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When you spin the web of lies and deceit, be sure your sin will find you out.
---Eloy on 9/22/11


This is basically the plot of Mozart's opera COSI FAN TUTTE, only it's the MEN who pretend to be other people to test their fiancees' faithfulness.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 9/22/11


bruce, Hmmmmm, have not I asked you politely to not address me until you are ready to recieve the truth? Yes, indeed. I did not post only a half a truth as you sinfully twist and say that I have, but instead I posted: "go online and one last time pretending you are that girl you pretended to be, then tell your boyfriend that this girl is a cheater and already has a boyfriend and that you are going back to your boyfriend. If you're not going to repent, then I suggest you stop heaping up more condemnation upon your soul, for now you have even more sin to fess up to God.
---Eloy on 9/22/11


Eloy,

"you have worked deceit, the works of satan,...go online and one last time pretending you are that girl you pretended to be, ..."


Hmmmm..., So the answer for having "worked deciet, the works of satan" is to do it "one last time"?

Assuming that all sin is the same (murder, lying, stealing etc) that is like saying, "So you killed someone and there is only one witness? Kill him too and move on."
---Bruce5656 on 9/22/11


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didn' they make a movie about this some years ago?
---andy3996 on 9/22/11


Trav, haha. I was wondering when someone was going to notice that.
---Jed on 9/21/11


Sandra, you should be castrated for what you did.
---Jed on 9/17/11


Ha. Willing to bet she is.....unless

Castigated....probably still will be.

At least they both know each other now and their other personalitys have met online.
---Trav on 9/21/11


Sandra, you should be castrated for what you did.
---Jed on 9/17/11


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Sandra, I believe the action you took was a bad one, because you tempted him. And by doing that you were not led by the spirit of God. Anyone could have failed if the temptation was strong enough.
On the other hand, what you did, did reveal to you the weakness that guy has, and if he is a believer, he is not strong in the faith, not strongly grounded. Maybe he is just a guy who came to Christ with the wrong gospel. I would say you should move on without him and not do what you did again. It is not from God to tempt anyone to sin. This is an old blog so I suppose she has moved on by now.
---Mark_V. on 9/15/11


His actions only proves that he is not just that into you.Open your eyes that He is not that serious about you and still fishing for someone.Be glad that you have found this as early as this so as not to waste your time hoping and loving a person which do not deserve your attention and love in the first place.
---mj on 9/14/11


Sandra--
You wanted to Know. You found out.
He's not ready for an exclusive relationship.

Why be mad at him for this? He's done nothing wrong unless he led you to believe otherwise. Even then, you lied to find out.
Are two liars a good match?
---Donna66 on 7/8/11


Well, it is good to test and make sure. "Test all things, hold fast what is good." (1 Thessalonians 5:21) But I understand this means to test with God. If you deeply didn't trust him, I'm not sure it is a good idea to be closely involved with someone you do not trust. Why do people keep on with ones they don't trust? I consider it is because they want to use the person to get something. But just using a person isn't really loving the person. With God it is more challenging: you need to learn how to love, and how to make sure with Him about who He has chosen for you to trust. You won't get bored or lonely doing this! (c:
---Bill_willa6989 on 7/1/11


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sandra, you did something just as bad as he did. You lied and he fell for it. If it wasn't so sad I could laugh a little.
---shira3877 on 7/1/11


Sometimes we can't even trust our selves! I can never judge but,my guessit was on a "weem".... the Bible says JER."the heart is despitefully wicked whocan know it?" perhaps,mistrust? my idea would be to ask forgiveness n if it were Me ...I would have to be honest!And tell him the truth... so,much deceive'n we see all around us...JESUS IS FAITHFULL AND JUST TO FORGIVE YOU AND CLEANSE YOU OF ALL SIN! TRUST HIM...HAVE A GOOD TALK WITH JESUS!YOU' BE SURPRIZE HOW BETTER YOU WILL BE FEELIN' AND GOD KNOWS YOU HE IS OUR REAL CONFIDANT & YOU CAN TELL HIM ANYTHING! GIVE YOUR BOY FRIEND SOME QUIET TIME ALSO! I PRAY FOR YOU...LOVE GO OUT TO YOU! ELENA
---ELENA on 6/29/11


Sandra:

Why did you create the profile in the first place? We pray "lead us not into temptation", so it is unwise turn around and deliberately try to lead others into temptation (and then condemn them when they fall into it). On the other hand, when Nathan confronted David over adultery with Bathsheba, he described a situation but hid its true nature to lure David into a trap - that of condemning his own actions himself. So whether the outcome here is a good or bad thing depends a lot on WHY you did it in the first place.


JackB:

You said: One day someone in these blogs will get an answer to a problem they have in their life without being judged.
Yes, but will that happen before the Second Coming? ,)
---StrongAxe on 12/29/09


sorry for the lack of compassion .... people are so hung up on the law they forget its based on LOVE.
*****

so MANY hung-up on sweet watered-down version of "a love" they practice lawlessness (aka lasciviousness) by false ministers of religious christianity TEACHING they have a license to sin IN ESSENSE "doing what seems right in ones own eyes, according to ones own conscience"

which is why Sandra questioned her "do as she pleases motives" they were filled with jealousy and bitterness
---Rhonda on 12/27/09


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Jed ... "Just because your boyfriend responded when you used a fake girl to seduce him does not mean he is out looking to cheat on you"

If the boy friend had not been looking on the web for new girls, he would never have found the fake.
---alan8566_of_uk on 12/27/09


Donna, I do not believe you're statement that God tests our faithfulness to him just as this girl tested her boyfriend. James 1:13 says "Let no many say when he is tempted, I am tempted by God: For God cannot be tempted with evil, neither does he himself tempt any man".

It seems like it is the girl in this relationship who is practicing deceit and manipulation. She needs to repent. Just because your boyfriend responded when you used a fake girl to seduce him does not mean he is out looking to cheat on you. In the legal system this is called "entrapment". Because you can tempt and manipulate anyone into doing things they otherwise would not have done if you left them alone.
---Jed on 12/26/09


Answers like these are the reason why the lost world hates Christ.

Sometimes its better to show love in spite of someones sin.

Have none of you people ever heard of such a thing? You should have. The GOD who saved you from Hell did it for you.

Why does it seem as though those who make their claim as "followers of Christ" and those who "obey Gods laws" seem the lack the very compassion and mercy that Jesus Christ himself had.

Its time to examine your souls. If you have one.

Yes, Im angry

Im very sorry for the lack of compassion and love that you have received here, Sandra. Some people are so hung up on the law they forget its based on LOVE.
---JackB on 12/23/09


One day, indeed, JackB. :)
---AlwaysOn on 12/22/09


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I thought this was a christian site what does this carnal worldly stuff have to do with Godly edification. This looks like a gossip page with a bunch of worldly people commenting.

James 4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.

James calls this kind of stuff spiritual adultery. If Adultery in the flesh brings death I can only image how God will judge this.
---exzucuh on 12/22/09


//Sandra, you lied, pure and simple. Doing what you did shows that your faith/trust in God is weak.//

One day someone in these blogs will get an answer to a problem they have in their life without being judged.

Seems to me like her trust in her boyfriend is the issue not in God. I would've done the same thing, Sandra.

You can't have a long-lasting loving relationship without trust. Its time to find someone else.
---JackB on 12/22/09


you have worked deceit, the works of satan, and now you want to choose to be angry at what you and you yourself have done? If you love your boyfriend, you should end your charade, and do damage control to repair the distance that you yourself have created between you and your boyfriend: go online and one last time pretending you are that girl you pretended to be, then tell your boyfriend that this girl is a cheater and already has a boyfriend and that you are going back to your boyfriend.
---Eloy on 12/22/09


"I was wrong, how can I be mad at him?"

Let me guess... he just got through brain-washing you, and flipping the situation around to make you like the bad guy.

You deceived him. This was wrong, but you found out something from it. Not let him go.
---amand6348 on 12/22/09


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Sandra, you lied, pure and simple. Doing what you did shows that your faith/trust in God is weak.

God tests only the strongest of christians/jews, but we are not allowed to test him. Is God a hypocrite? No, He knows what He is doing, people don't. They will just screw it up. It is the Lord's purpose that prevails. It is His sovereignly that works out His plan. Trust and delight only in the Lord's way, not your way. God is the only one that gives comfort to his people. Trust your heavenly Father to take care of you. Think of how God cares even for the birds and the flowers. You are much more of value than these.
---Steveng on 12/20/09


There was a reason that you did not trust this man in the first place and so made the fake online profile. I would say that since he failed to get your trust and ultimately failed the test you prepared, then take it all as a lesson learned. Dump the notion of marriage if that is the direction that you wanted to go. He is not a good marriage candidate. You can not trust this man.
---jody on 12/6/09


No need to be angry with him. You simply found out what you wanted to know. Now, what will you do with the information? My advice is to drop him. Learn the lessons that have been presented (about yourself, as well as the relationship). And move on. Hopefully, your wisdom has been increased through this experience.
---AlwaysOn on 12/6/09


Hi, Sandra . . . so, you understand your boyfriend well enough to know how to pose as a stranger and attract him. This can be good, that you are able to understand him. And who was he being attracted to, since *you* were behind and designed the "mask" profile that attracted him? It just might be he was attracted to you who were spiritually reaching him through the profile. So . . . why wouldn't he be attracted to . . . *you* (o: But others here have made issues that need to be evaluated . . . about if you trust him, and if this profile was in any way tempting him to desire and seek what is immoral or whatever. Plus, both of you could be wrong, and both of you can do better with God (o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 12/5/09


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\\ sandy, God tests us all the time to see if we Trust Him.\\

Donna, aside from the simple fact that God already knows whether or not we trust Him without running a test, I really doubt that Sandra is on the spiritual level of God.

Sandra threw stumbling blocks and temptations in her boyfriend's path.

I'm glad her nasty deviousness was demonstrated now and not after he married her and it was too late.

BTW--"boy friend" does NOT mean "fiance". Still less does it mean "husband."
---Cluny on 12/4/09


Cluny...It was a "fake" girl, not a real one. Seems like this is a case where she already knew he was not trustworthy. But, she didn't have to go this far to prove it. And, now she still doesn't want to break up with him because she asks "how can I be mad at him?" This girl is destined to have a very unhappy relationship with any man at this rate.
---KarenD on 12/4/09


sandy, God tests us all the time to see if we Trust Him.

You tested your boyfriend and he responded to this girl, what does that tell you? Is his heart steafast towards you? and does he have eyes only for you?

It sounds like the lust of his flesh was drawn to her and he cannot be trusted.

I don't think it's a sin to test someone's love for you, but it is a sin when that person goes for the bait. He didn't sin YET, but what if he was approached by a woman and you weren't around? How would you be able to trust him again?
---Donna on 12/4/09


First did u think he was cheating on u?Second if u don't trust him don't be with him.

Couples who pray together stay together. If u love this young man,tell the Lord about it.Just be honest and don't lie. God will make away for u and him, if it is his will.
---roxane on 12/4/09


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How did he find the girl on-line?

Is he still visiting on-line dating sites?

Why should he do that if he is really your boyfriend?

And why should he respond to her, if he wants you to remin his girlfriend.

You don't either seem to be right for each 0other.
---alan8566_of_uk on 12/4/09


You not only lied to your boy friend, you also lied to the girl in question, and defrauded her of her identity.

You're in no position to claim the moral high ground.
---Cluny on 12/4/09


it's wrong of you to cheat ur boyfriend like that in the first place it shows ur lack of trust in him, n secondly you could have led him into temptations as you remain to lose him.

come clean of it and tell him the whole story ask for forgiveness.
---judy on 12/4/09


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