Alan of UK: My sister-in-law, a teacher who went back to teaching after a long absence, was shocked and dismayed to learn that she could not be allowed to hug any of her 1st graders (6 yr olds). It's truly a different world today.
In any case, the person being tickled should always set the guidelines. This is true even if the bahavior is not sexual. DON'T take laughing as CONSENT! It is a natural reflex. Be guided by what people tell you.
Though I begged them to stop, my older brothers used to tickle me as a child until I was gasping for breath and too weak to escape. It was not a fun experience for me.
---Donna66 on 1/30/10|
There is no age where tickling is inappropriate, in my opinion.
Growing up, I never imagined that tickling was connected to sexual advances. It was fun to laugh and to make others laugh.
In recent years, I have heard about it being used with sexual overtones, but I never would have imagined this on my own. It saddens me that some have taken an innocent, affectionate, playful gesture and used it in such a way that questions like this even have to be asked. This is in no way meant to be offensive to the original blogger or to anyone who has replied, but just a general statement/observation.
---AlwaysOn on 1/30/10|
Interesting, (maybe), information: At one time tickling was used as a form of torture, and there are situations where people have been, "tickled to death". In the case of of a mother ticking her teenage son, see no problem as long as the son doesn't object, (a teenage son may think it's too childish.) In general, it depends on the age of the ticker and the ticklee, (if there is such a name) and where tickled.
---wivv on 1/29/10|
I see no harm in a mother tickling her teenage son to make him laugh and cheer him up. My parents did not do this type of light-hearted playing around with me, but then my earthly parents were not really involved in my personal feelings, and my earthly father said that he tried every type of birth control and still I was born, along with five other siblings also.
---Eloy on 1/26/10|
I think it depends on where and how the tickling is done. Where on the body, I mean. Anything can be deemed inappropriate if it is not done in the right way. Just as a light form of affection for the son, seem to be ok by me.Why is everything viewed as wrong in this sick society these days? If too much tickling and it gets out of hand then I feel the mom should stop. But we should express love and affection to our sons in appropriate ways.
---Robyn on 1/23/10|
maybe iam strange,when I would tickle someone it was because I wanted to hear them laugh.
---tom2 on 1/20/10|
We know that rough housing, horse play, wrestling or activities that involve high energy physical contact among opposite sexes is an expression of sexual energy and especially near or beyond puberty. Parents need to roll model appropriate boundaries and tickling of a teen age boy by his mother is not appropriate. It could cause sexual urges. If he believes that tickling with teenage girls is "ok" then he may find himself taking the situation into sexual activity. Teach your boy to respect personal space and to engage in activities that do not envolve physical contact. There are many constructive ways to spend quality and fun time with your boy.
---jody on 1/18/10|
M E W ... What twaddle!!
That leads to a teacher not being able to give hug to a child who has fallen over and been hurt, or even to carry the child to a place of safety or to the first aid room.
---alan8566_of_uk on 1/18/10|
Oh brother! My dad and brothers tickled me a lot when I was growing up and now I just miss having a dad and big brother! Nothing abusive or sexual about it in our family--just a form of play. :)
---Mary on 1/18/10|
Traditionally, many mothers would take pictures of their INFANTS (up to 1 year old) while their infant was laying on the stomach completely naked. Aesthetically, the baby was the mother's idea of perfect beauty (the mother's "Mona Lisa").
In these modern times, even with all the war and REAL EVIL that exists, there is a great fear of pedophilia and incest allowing other people to be prudish and accuse others of having sinister intentions.
Tickling often has playful intentions among close relations, but it is better to teach a child today that personal space is sovereign and should be respected as such so that they don't get in the habit of allowing intrusions on their "person" (protective awareness).
---more_excellent_way on 1/18/10|
I just find it kind of weird.
---amand6348 on 1/18/10|
Psychologists have said that tickling is a form of violence, because you are forcefully and physically exercising control over another person's body. A bigger concern for me that just the sexual contact that it could lead to between a young boy and girl, is the violent relationship that may result if this kind of control is allowed over a period of time.
---Jed on 1/18/10|
I think it can be ok if the mother and her teenager have a comfortable and affectionate relationship that is not somehow sexual. There are mothers who are more fun and kidding, etc., in how they relate with their children. But if a teenager objects, then is it wrong to push or impose the tickling. Peter says, "nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3) Lording oneself over someone would include pushing and forcing what someone does not want and is not enjoying. So . . . even if tickling could be ok, you need to respect how your child is growing up. But the reason for objecting could also be an issue, like if the teenager is getting generally alienated about contact with other people.
---Bill_bila5659 on 1/18/10|
This little piggy went to market
This little piggy stayed at home
This little piggy had roast beef
And this little piggy had none
And this little piggy went weeeeeeeeeeeee ... all the way home
Round & Round the garden, like a teddy bear.
One step, two step ... and ...
tickle you under there!
For babies, finishing off with tickle in armpit.
If you are with right person, Cluny's last suggestion sounds fun!
---alan8566_of_uk on 1/18/10|
It depends on the place and context.
I don't think it should be done in private.
Consider that tickling can be a form of humiliation--or even sexual stimulation.
---Cluny on 1/18/10|