Husband Plays Video Games
My husband plays video games daily. I commented about it. He feels I was disrespectful. He worked, helped our son, cooked, and I woke up at 11:15pm and made comments about him playing. I think his time is better spent looking for another job or getting prepared to get to his present job on time. Was I wrong?
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---rw on 3/10/10
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I'm not sure it's a matter of being right or wrong. However, maybe unappropriate. If he works, helps your son, and cooks that is a blessing. He deserves his time to do what he enjoys. Maybe by 11:15pm he finally has time for himself. He is his own man and he will do what he must to take care of his family. Whether it's finding a better job or getting prepared for the present job. Relax!
---shary on 4/9/10|
\\ I woke up at 11:15pm and made comments about him playing.\\
Did you wake up to nag him while he was in bed?
Or was he playing a video game at that time?
If so, the question you need to ask yourself is why he'd rather be up playing video games at that hour than be in bed with you.
---Cluny on 4/8/10|
Look for another job? Is he having a problem with the income level from his present job?
Some women are never happy. I am very glad I am not married to one like that. I mean, I met one who told me that she would not be willing or able to live on $80,000 a year.
She was single, in her 40's, working at Wal-Mart for $6 an hour, and in her first semester of community college. The other singles at church warned me that she had some mental health issues and I was inclined to belive them. Needles to say I did not find myself wanting to be with her.
---obewan on 3/12/10|
And what do you do to relax?
---Alan on 3/12/10|
Like any other activity, it depends on how that activity impacts other aspects of his life. If he can't put is aside when he has to, or if it makes him miss work or late for work (as the topic suggets), then he may have a problem that needs to be addressed.
But if he's getting things done and making a valid and vital contribution to home life, what's wrong letting him unwind after a long hard day's work?
---StrongAxe on 3/12/10|
well playing video games not too long, and spend some time with your partner is fine.
---Kris on 3/11/10|
It depends. What kind of comment did you make?
---amand6348 on 3/11/10|
RW, is your husband stupid? I don't think so. Is he a trouble maker with you? I don't think so, since you did not complain about that. You problem is that he is having fun while you are not. Find something you can do with your time, fill it with something rewarding to you. So long as he is not missing work, it should be fine. Of course it would be much better if he studied the bible if he is a christian. You are trying to convert him to what you think he should be. Speak the gospel to him if he is not saved.
---mary on 3/11/10|
Be thankfull that he is not out runing around and cheating on you..Let him play his videos as long as he is doing what else needs to be done.
---a_friend on 3/11/10|
Dittos KarenD. That saids it all.
And in the words a my friends Jewish mom...
"Let that be your biggest problem."
---John on 3/11/10|
I think your time is better spent not nagging your husband.
---KarenD on 3/11/10|
And is his playing of video games affecting his taking care of the house, taking care of your son, or doing his job?
Apparently not, according to your own words.
It seems to me that you simply want him to make more money. In case you've not heard, finding a new job is not easy in the present economic climate.
If he's happy in what he's doing, and he's taking care of you and his other family responsibilities, then leave him alone!
You remind me of a woman who after assuring her pastor that her husband took proper care of her and the family, complained that he smoked. The pastor replied, "Sister, buy him an ash tray."
---Cluny on 3/11/10|
Wrong, right.....in all things give thanks. There are some things we are to think on. It sounds as though he was just enjoying his down time. However, you know better than I do how much he spends playing. Nevertheless, it would be better to just thank him for what he did at home and for what he does on his job, letting him know how much you appreciate the hard work he does do.
---Linda on 3/10/10|